create your own

How to be a Good Friend

77
rate or flag this page

By Anamika S


Qualities of Good Friends

Haven’t we heard the famous saying a friend in need is a friend indeed? But Friendship has much more to it. Friendship is an integral part of human existence. Though true friendships can start instantly it takes time to build and develop. If you are wondering why you don't seem to have any good friends, you should probably have a look at the below given qualities. Good friends often come with a multitude of qualities. Given are 12 Characteristics of a Good Friend.
1. Accepts you as you are: A good friend is someone who does not try to be somebody that he is not and accepts you as you are. They are also patient with you when you make mistakes and forgive you when you hurt them.  
2. Dependable: A good friend is dependable and you can trust your friend with your secrets and know that he would not let a third person know about it. He sticks with you in good times and bad. When you ask for advice, a good friend points out the right direction.
3. Honest: A good friend would be honest and loyal with you. He does not break the promises that he made to you. He makes you feel safe and secure with him. He is your true critic. You will find many who falsely appreciate you and your work to remain in good books. A good friend will tell you the truth even if it's something you don't want to hear. He will point out your mistakes in private and not in front of others and also help overcome it. 
4. Listen to you: A good friend always listens to you and cares about your needs and emotions. A good friend would be there always when you need to talk. When you have news to share or grievances he gives you full attention.
5. Be there for you: A good friend would be there with you through thick and thin. Good friends don’t call up people only to request a favor. But he would be the first person to come to your aid in time of crisis. He also does not allow you to indulge in any addiction or illicit activities.  
6. Give you Space: A good friend respects your privacy. He understands that you have family, other friends and colleagues who are part of your life too and do not cling to you always. He builds trust and confidence which makes you comfortable enough to share your good and bad times with him. 
7. Always in touch: Good friends don’t wait for you to call you. He always makes an effort to keep in touch with you even if it is through a quick phone call or an email. He knows what's going on in your life and is interested about it. A good friend also does not avoid even if they are busy and do not ignore your phone call or mails. A good friend makes it clear that they care about you. 
8. Do not bad mouth you: A good friend does not bad mouth you or talk behind your back. A good friend is a friend you can trust and won't gossip about you or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you're in trouble. A good friend will also apologizes when he does something wrong. He does not keep grudges.  
9. Happy for you: A good friend never gets jealous on your success but would be happy for you. He celebrates your success and his success with you. When you are down and needs support he would be there to support and care about you. An ideal friend has a sensitive side which would make them understand others feelings. They may not be able to read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset. A good friend will likely know how to lift your spirits and make your day.
10. Supportive: A good friend is supportive of you and your goals. He will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable. When you are in a situation where you need to be defended he would be right there beside you. 
11. Common Interests: A good friend is someone with whom you have something in common. He is fun to be with and he understands you and respects you. 
12. Giving: Good friends give more than what is asked. When they see a need they respond before the other has a chance to ask without expecting anything in return and without anyone knowing about it. Good friends are generous with their time, money, possessions and knowledge. Best of all they have a generous spirit.
There is a saying that what you give is what you get back. The qualities you want in a friend should be the same that you are offering to someone else. How else can you expect to have good friends if you aren’t one yourself? 

Good Friends
Good Friends

A to Z of Friendship

Here is something I found on Friendship. 

A Good Friend -
Accepts you as you are
Believes in "you"
Calls you just to say "HI"
Doesn't give up on you
Envisions the whole of you
Forgives your mistakes
Gives unconditionally
Helps you
Invites you over
Just "be" with you
Keeps you close at heart
Loves you for who you are
Makes a difference in your life
Never Judges
Offers support
Picks you up
Quiets your fears
Raises your spirits
Says nice things about you
Tells you the truth when you need hear it
Understands you
Values you
Walks beside you
Xplain things you don't understand
Yells when you won't listen and
Zaps you back to real.


  • How to be a good Husband to your Wife

    In India many women keep fasts to get a good husband. Even parents of the girl won’t have a peaceful sleep till they feel that their daughter is in the hands of a good man. After I have written... - 4 months ago

  • Dragon Turtle Feng Shui Symbol of Good Luck, Longevity,Harmony and Money

    Dragon Turtle sitting on bed of coins and ingots is a symbol of good luck, longevity, protection, harmony and money in Feng Shui. Dragon Turtle is a Chinese legendary symbol with the head of dragon... - 2 months ago

  • How to know that a Marriage is in Trouble

    A marriage in order to be a happy one takes a considerable amount of work. There are many signs which points to an unhappy marriage.Given are some of those signs. If either or any of the partners is... - 4 months ago

  • Why some Single Women are attracted to Married Men

    There are several Women who fall for married men. Bollywood have several examples of the beautiful actresses like Hema Malini, Jayaprada and Sridevi falling for married men and even getting married... - 4 months ago

  • Why do Men cheat in Relationships

    Like it or not men cheat in relationships. Whatever the reason may be men are less forgiving of their wife cheating than wives are about their cheating husbands. Overall, only about a third of... - 7 months ago

  • How to Feng Shui your Bedroom for Romance and improve Love luck and Relationships

    It would not be wrong to say that a Bedroom can make or break a couple. By following the Feng Shui principles it is possible to attract great romance luck and bring your personal romance to a higher... - 6 weeks ago

Comments

RSS for comments on this Hub

shamelabboush profile image

shamelabboush  says:
4 months ago

Right, you are right. True friend is a big achievement in life.

Anamika S profile image

Anamika S  says:
4 months ago

Thanks for the visit shamelabboush.

cindyvine profile image

cindyvine  says:
4 months ago

Hahaha, I can't believe how great minds think alike! I started doing a hub on this very topic yesterday!

Jodi Hoeksel profile image

Jodi Hoeksel  says:
4 months ago

Awesome hub! Cheers to good friends.

attractnmarketing profile image

attractnmarketing  says:
4 months ago

I enjoyed your hub and reading all the good points in a friend.Yes a good friend is priceless and to be cherished as well. Thank you for sharing

Rosemary

advisor4qb profile image

advisor4qb  says:
4 months ago

"To Have a Friend, You Must First BE a Friend."

"If You Have Only One Good Friend, You Have All You Need."

Philipo profile image

Philipo  says:
4 months ago

There is very elaborate. A friend in need is a friend indeed. It is not difficult to make friends but to get a true friend is difficult; a friend that will stand by you in all circumstances.

Rahul Rajput  says:
4 months ago

This is very true. A friend is really a big asset and friendship is beyond is all relations.

Rahul

John Chancellor profile image

John Chancellor  says:
4 months ago

There is a Bible verse I really love, "A faithful friend is a strong defense: And he that hath found one hath found a treasure." Ecclesiastes 6:14.

I suspect one reason we don't have more friends is we are too wrapped up in ourselves that we don't/won't take the time and energy to be a friend.

Life would be much easier and more enjoyable if we would take the time and effort to develop more faithful friends.

emohealer profile image

emohealer  says:
4 months ago

This is beautiful and well written, Love the ABC's! Giving is receiving, and accepting the gifts that are offered. Thanks You!

dohn121 profile image

dohn121  says:
4 months ago

These are all amazing traits a good friend will have. It is my belief that no one on this planet is ever lucky enough to have more than three! Thanks, Anamika S.

Anamika S profile image

Anamika S  says:
4 months ago

Cindyvine : Some hubbers only have written on this Topic and more people may write about this topic too. So do not worry. Go ahead and publish it. You may have something different to say afterall.

Jodi Hoeksel,attractnmarketing, advisor4qb, Philipo, Rahul Rajput, John Chancellor, emohealer and dohn121 : Thanks for the nice comments.

Jenny30 profile image

Jenny30  says:
4 months ago

Great hub! All the above you mentioned is so true!!!!

Simran M.  says:
3 months ago

I Loved this site. I have experienced it. Its excellent. It impressed me. Its amazing. U wonna try it.

Anamika S profile image

Anamika S  says:
4 weeks ago

Jenny30 and Simran M : thanks for the visit and encouragement.

Cheeky Girl profile image

Cheeky Girl  says:
2 weeks ago

Aw, these are lovely! Accepting of who you are, and supporting each other are pretty big ones with me! This is touching and thoughtful! Really like this Hub!

Submit a Comment

Members and Guests

Sign in or sign up and post using a hubpages account.


optional


  • No HTML is allowed in comments, but URLs will be hyperlinked
  • Comments are not for promoting your hubs or other sites

  • 7 Things You Should Know Before Starting a BusinessInc Magazine13 hours ago

    Drop the rose-colored glasses. Tired of hearing would-be entrepreneurs speak about how smoothly their startup is going to go, seasoned tech vet and blogger Neil Patel deals out some tough love with a post titled, the 7 Harsh Realities of Starting a Business . Patel lets business novices in on such secrets as "Owning a business isn't easier than working a 9 to 5 job," and "You have to give a lot ...

  • Goldman Sachs Bankers Ready to Open Fire on MobGothamist13 hours ago

    Senior bankers at Goldman Sachs are arming themselves with handguns to fend off any forthcoming populist uprising against the bank. A friend of one of the bankers tells a Bloomberg News columnist , "I just wrote my first reference for a gun permit," swearing to the good character of a Goldman Sachs Group Inc. banker. This unidentified banker says he's not the only one stocking up on guns, and ...

working