The Completed Dating Profile

A good online profile comes from the heart. It is honest and uninhibited. It's fun, upbeat, and tells all. The more clearly you define your exact wants and needs, the better chance you have of finding the perfect mate. You can also avoid many of the pitfalls involved in all dating - but certainly online dating - by being honest.

Okay, here's the hard part. First you have to be honest with yourself. Decide exactly what you want and don't want, then boldly write it down. Don't be scared! You wouldn’t want to settle for less than "It All" anyway, would you? So shoot for the stars. But from here on in, you're on your own; I can't help you decide what those thing are.

None of us likes rejection and it isn't the best thing for the ego. Avoid a rebuff whenever you can by first and foremost being honest. Listing exact standards will alert potential connections to major conflicts ahead of time. Like "does not want children,” "loves the country life and will never leave," "no extreme religious views" and so on. If those things bother them and they don't write, so what? You won't even know they read your so you won’t feel any rejection.

More important, though, know your own worth. Remember the beauty of having differences is that not everyone wants the same things! There is plenty for all, just make it easy on yourself by going for exactly what you want.

It may seem like this will cut back on prospective dates, but who wants to go on a lousy date anyway?

HAVE FUN! LAUGH! LIGHTEN UP. IT'S JUST A DATING SITE, after all. Your entire existence does not revolve around how many folks write to you. You’ve heard you should smile on the phone because the people on the other end can feel it. Well, this is the same. If you’re happy, they'll feel it. If you’re sad, scared, miserable, they will know. You wouldn't want a grouchy, unhappy, whiny, insecure date would you? You can tell when you read someone’s profile - and they can, too.

GOOD LUCK! YOU'LL DO GREAT!

Here’s my own profile

USER NAME: 1964human

Location: Dog Patch [this is one of the few places you may bend the truth if your town is small]

AGE: 45

PROFESSION: Star Ship Captain (same as above)

I am bored in a tiny town in the middle of nowhere, almost another planet! I actually live in a town outside of Dog Patch (the name is changed to protect the guilty), but with a population of about 42, I’m opting for a tiny bit of anonymity.

Looking for some friends, conversation and fun. Dancing would be great. However, we may have to leave the state for that; I think it must be illegal in Kansas. I've been here four years and haven’t ever actually seen anyone do it.

I am down to earth, I love the simple things in life. I am very honest and generally say what's on my mind (but would never intentionally say anything cruel to ANYONE). The beauty of getting older is the wisdom, patience, maturity, and tolerance that you gain while doing it! I am confident, self reliant, capable, and independent.

I am compassionate almost to the extreme. I love animals, but dogs are my all-time favorites! I am of at least average intelligence (although spelling has never been my strong suit). I have a good sense of humor and don't take myself too seriously. I can easily laugh at myself. Speaking of which, I love to laugh. One of the most important things I’m looking for in you is a great sense of humor. Laughing is my favorite thing to do, I can never get enough.

I would call myself average. I'm tall, weight/height proportionate, brown eyes, brown skin (tan fairly dark in the summer); I have long legs and a long waist, but small chest and my feet are too big. All in all, I clean up pretty good and am in fine shape for my age.

I've never had a relationship that ended on bad terms. I am loyal to a fault and if I cared once, I care forever. My compassion and understanding will always come before some sort of ego-filled, self-serving need or want.

I have a TON of good qualities, but I am a VERY long way from perfect. I’m just alerting you now so don't say I didn't warn you. I have it in writing that you have been fully informed of my imperfect state!

I hate to disappoint you, but if you are looking for sex without love, you won't find it here. I have old-fashioned views about sex.

I love the outdoors, from the mountains to the beach. I like working in my garden and playing with my dogs. I love to travel. I love the water. I like to read, some TV and movies (but I'm selective). I don't like violence, fighting, or anything that promotes them.

I'm the kind of girl who can replace the water pump (or any number of other parts) on the car, cook a good meal, embroider, knit, and crochet. I know how to can food and make jelly. I can put up a fence and chain up my own car in the snow. I can wear jeans or a dress.( I'm pretty sure I can dig up a dress out of the trunk in the attic if you really want me to).

I can run a blender and a chain saw. I can be strong as an oak tree or soft as a kitten.

I'm a low maintenance kind of girl.

Favorites

· My favorite movies are "What the Bleep Do We Know," "Down The Rabbit Hole," and "The Secret". If you have seen them and love them you’ve really got my attention.

· My favorite book is "The Pillars of the Earth." My favorite TV shows are anything on the History Channel, Discovery or Science channel, but I also love shows like Psych, Eureka, and Monk.

· My fascinations are with quantum mechanics and science in general. I consider myself spiritual, not religious.

· My favorite sayings are from Jimmy Hendrix, "When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace,” and an unknown author, “Work like you don't need the money, dance like no one is watching, and love like you’ve never been hurt!"

· My favorite music is classic rock but I like lots of different types of music, usually depending on my mood.

· I really like to dance (did I already mention that?) and to look at the stars through a telescope.

Let's be friends and see what happens!

Thanks for stopping by! Hope to hear from you soon.

FIRST DATE:

I think a first meeting should be very casual, a cup of coffee in an upbeat atmosphere, but I'm easy to get along with and open to suggestions. Dinner? Are you crazy? What if I get food stuck in my teeth, dribble sauce down my shirt, or knock over my glass? If you really want to, I'll carry a pocket mirror and check my teeth regularly. I won't wear white and I'll set my glass way back on the table. I could wear a bib but I wouldn't want to embarrass you. Don't worry - I always use silverware in public and can guess the salad fork by the second try.

PLEASE SPAY AND NEUTER YOUR PETS!

Bo