What Turns Men On

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By MaryD



What turns men on about women? I am not referring to sexually, however men are highly sexual beings and are very visual. It is important for women to understand men and not expect them to be mind readers or be interested in the same things that women are. A man may not share outwardly or publicly his desires and likes, but he has them.

A good woman can learn those things about a man by getting to know him and conversing on an equal level. Too many women do most of the talking and do not let a man share his opinions.

What do men want from women? There is no one set answer because not all men are alike, but below are some general ideas of what men basically are attracted to in women.

Appearance

Men desire women who take pride in their appearances. It is not necessary to be ‘dressed to the hilt' all the time, but it is important that a woman knows how to keep herself neat and look good. Not just for him but for herself also.

Part of that appearance factor is women who are healthy and not overweight. Some extra weight is natural, it is not the norm to look like a model and most men actually like more to their women than just skin and bones. The models and actresses look fine in print and on the big screen, but most men realize (or should realize) that average women are NOT size Two's!

Attitude

No man likes a selfish woman, always wanting more and never satisfied. Men desire women who are equal partners in the relationship. Most men will avoid women who have very expensive tastes and only expect the highest priced gifts or things in the home.

Basically men desire women who are practical for the most part. It's not wrong for a woman to want nice and decent gifts and things in her life. And women need to realize that men do not read minds, they need to be shown or taught the things that she likes or dislikes.

Self Respect

Men love women with high self-esteem not doormats that look to him for every single decision. Someone who is firm, decisive and kind is be a great combination to attract men. However, women who are VERY independent and never look to her man for help in making decisions is a turn off. Men are by nature are the ‘hunter / gatherer' and ‘caretaker' of the woman, the protector so to speak. And while a man loves his woman to have high self esteem he also desires her to value his opinions and decisions.

Complaints

No one likes a complainer or whiner, male or female! Positive attitudes are attractive to anyone. Someone who sees the glass half full not half empty is someone that a man can partner with in life and feel he can accomplish much with. Someone who is negative or always complaining is someone he can never satisfy and he will eventually give up on the relationship.

Men love any woman with who they can relate with easily, at an equal level. Confidence, and friendliness, these qualities are appreciated. However they do not typically look for a woman who is ‘one of the guys' so to speak. Those women become a man's friend, buddy or pal, rarely are they their choice for a mate. There are exceptions to that rule however! Men are just as different as women in their preferences and desires.

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Amanda  says:
11 months ago

This is very sound advice. Very true!

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Athlyn Green  says:
10 months ago

You've offered some good insights that have a good practical application for improved relationships.

mysexlifeibad  says:
9 months ago

for a first i cant get my man too even look at me, and the only time he would show affection is when he wants something in the bedroom. i would like it if you know any sites where it would give me tips on men and how they like to treated. thank you and this site is good for me but i need a range of answers. thank you from a woman in need.

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Ellie McHale  says:
9 months ago

Great article! Thank you for posting it.

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elinorrigby9  says:
8 months ago

Great!!!!!

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docjim505  says:
7 months ago

And women say that we men are hard to figure out! Looks like you've got us figured out pretty well.

Good article.

Ananta65 profile image

Ananta65  says:
2 months ago

You may want to add intelligence to your list ;)

shera  says:
3 weeks ago

Hi mysexlifeibad

"ask your partner to stop his affair with that second woman"

dont trust him !

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