What Turns Men On

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By MaryD



What turns men on about women? I am not referring to sexually, however men are highly sexual beings and are very visual. It is important for women to understand men and not expect them to be mind readers or be interested in the same things that women are. A man may not share outwardly or publicly his desires and likes, but he has them.

A good woman can learn those things about a man by getting to know him and conversing on an equal level. Too many women do most of the talking and do not let a man share his opinions.

What do men want from women? There is no one set answer because not all men are alike, but below are some general ideas of what men basically are attracted to in women.

Appearance

Men desire women who take pride in their appearances. It is not necessary to be ‘dressed to the hilt' all the time, but it is important that a woman knows how to keep herself neat and look good. Not just for him but for herself also.

Part of that appearance factor is women who are healthy and not overweight. Some extra weight is natural, it is not the norm to look like a model and most men actually like more to their women than just skin and bones. The models and actresses look fine in print and on the big screen, but most men realize (or should realize) that average women are NOT size Two's!

Attitude

No man likes a selfish woman, always wanting more and never satisfied. Men desire women who are equal partners in the relationship. Most men will avoid women who have very expensive tastes and only expect the highest priced gifts or things in the home.

Basically men desire women who are practical for the most part. It's not wrong for a woman to want nice and decent gifts and things in her life. And women need to realize that men do not read minds, they need to be shown or taught the things that she likes or dislikes.

Self Respect

Men love women with high self-esteem not doormats that look to him for every single decision. Someone who is firm, decisive and kind is be a great combination to attract men. However, women who are VERY independent and never look to her man for help in making decisions is a turn off. Men are by nature are the ‘hunter / gatherer' and ‘caretaker' of the woman, the protector so to speak. And while a man loves his woman to have high self esteem he also desires her to value his opinions and decisions.

Complaints

No one likes a complainer or whiner, male or female! Positive attitudes are attractive to anyone. Someone who sees the glass half full not half empty is someone that a man can partner with in life and feel he can accomplish much with. Someone who is negative or always complaining is someone he can never satisfy and he will eventually give up on the relationship.

Men love any woman with who they can relate with easily, at an equal level. Confidence, and friendliness, these qualities are appreciated. However they do not typically look for a woman who is ‘one of the guys' so to speak. Those women become a man's friend, buddy or pal, rarely are they their choice for a mate. There are exceptions to that rule however! Men are just as different as women in their preferences and desires.

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Amanda  says:
2 years ago

This is very sound advice. Very true!

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Athlyn Green  says:
2 years ago

You've offered some good insights that have a good practical application for improved relationships.

mysexlifeibad  says:
2 years ago

for a first i cant get my man too even look at me, and the only time he would show affection is when he wants something in the bedroom. i would like it if you know any sites where it would give me tips on men and how they like to treated. thank you and this site is good for me but i need a range of answers. thank you from a woman in need.

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Ellie McHale  says:
2 years ago

Great article! Thank you for posting it.

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elinorrigby9  says:
2 years ago

Great!!!!!

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elinorrigby9  says:
2 years ago

Great!!!!!

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docjim505  says:
2 years ago

And women say that we men are hard to figure out! Looks like you've got us figured out pretty well.

Good article.

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Ananta65  says:
18 months ago

You may want to add intelligence to your list ;)

shera  says:
17 months ago

Hi mysexlifeibad

"ask your partner to stop his affair with that second woman"

dont trust him !

Confused  says:
12 months ago

This article is great except i dont have a problem out of the bedroom our relationship is excellent. We do however want different things in the bedroom and this is where we strongly disagree on things. But if you sit back and think i did all that was in this article i wouldnt have a problem in the bedroom except i would need to be a bit more exciting. So any articles on how to be exciting in bed would be greatly appreciated.

ryan  says:
11 months ago

shera you sound like a confused feminist

Kimberly  says:
9 months ago

I couldn't have said it better myself. Excellent verbal expression.

claire  says:
8 months ago

lol ryan ditto

Jeanette  says:
8 months ago

I love your list. Very reasonable. Could I just add a couple more things? How about making sure you have your own interests, whether it be some form of art, sports, volunteer work, career, etc. Also, how about adding taking a real interest in your husbands life as well (his job, learning about a sport that he loves, etc.). Also, husbands loved to be appreciated in words as well.

goddess  says:
7 months ago

this was really good,i would like to add focus on his good qualities instead of the bad ones. Then he will naturally want to better himself for you.

regina  says:
7 months ago

The list is true. From my recent experience, men love a woman who is herself. She is down to earth, but she holds her own. She is no push over, but she is still a lady and in control of self. When a woman is truely herself, I find that my sexuality comes out naturally. I am very sexy, he says! Ha! Ha! I feel sexy myself because I can be who I am.

Merle  says:
6 months ago

Great tips but I do agree...men need more excitement in the bedroom. Women want more "lovemaking" and men love raunchy sex

bustyblueyes  says:
5 months ago

you know, my relationship is awsome outside the bedroom. its in the bedroom that the problem rises. he is very affectionate and flirty all the time. when in the bedroom i flirt sometimes to get him going, but most of the time we dont have sex. i ask him why its like that and he says he dont know. stressed out or tired he says sometimes. please help me....its been 3 months since ive had sex with him. its weird because he makes me the center of his life and thats the way he likes it. we have been together for over 3 years. what is up?

Andre Leblanc  says:
3 weeks ago

Check out this link if your looking for another interesting article about the mans visual thinking.

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