Why Men Love Bitches

"Why Men Love Bitches" is a self help dating book written by an author named Sherry Argov. For those of you who haven't heard of this book, it basically gives advice to women about what they should and shouldn't do when they start dating a guy, and even what they should and shouldn't do while in the relationship. She uses the term "bitch" sarcastically, as she is not referring to a woman who is mean, but a woman who doesn't give up for her life for a man.

The rules are simple that most of us know, but sometimes forget when we get caught up in a new love interest. They range from the basic dating concept of "don't sit by phone waiting for him to call" to the more advanced relationship concept of "don't give up your social life to be with him 24/7".

Basically what I took out of it is this: anything you chase in life runs away. You can keep a man interested if he feels like he never completely has you. It doesn't mean playing a game of hard to get all the time, but more so that you shouldn't make a man the center of your universe. Don't give up plans or doing things you like to be with him. Keep your life exactly as it was before, only add him to it. Don't stop going to the gym or start seeing your friends less, because then the guy will lose respect for you thinking your giving up things to be with him. See him when it's convenient for you. Don't be needy and clingy because then you become more a burden than a reward. Be confident in yourself and your good qualities and know that any guy would be lucky to have you and should treat you that way. If someone doesn't treat you well, then find someone who does. It's as simple as that.

Book Summary:

Book Description

Do you feel like you are too nice?

Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask:

-Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change?

-Why do men take nice girls for granted?

-Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself?

Full of much-needed advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author's unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you've discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry in the relationship-you'll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort.

Chapter list:

Chapter One: From Doormat to Dreamgirl

Act like a Prize and You Turn Him into a Believer

Chapter Two: Why Men Prefer Bitches

Cracking the Code: What Every Nice Girl Needs to Know

Chapter Three: The Candy Store

How to Make the Most of Your Feminine and Sexual Powers

Chapter Four: Dumb Like a Fox

How To Convince Him He's In Control While You Run the Show

Chapter Five: Jumping Through Hoops Like a Circus Poodle

When Women Give Themselves Up and Become Needy

Chapter Six: Nagging No More

What to Do When He Takes You For Granted and Nagging Hasn't Worked

Chapter Seven: The Other Team's Secret Play Book

Things You Suspected But Never Heard Him Say

Chapter Eight: Keeping Your Pink Slip

The Reasons That Holding Your Own Financially Gives You Power

Chapter Nine: How to Renew the Mental Challenge

How to Regain That "Spark"

Chapter Ten: 90% Nice Girl and 10% Bitch

A Travel Guide

Reviews:

Don't be a doormat -- read this book!

By

Avalon Daughter

This is such a great book that I've been recommending it to all of my female friends and family. It illustrates to you why your relationships current and past have failed miserably and lets you know what you're doing wrong as well as how to approach it from a better standpoint.

Basically, the author explains that women have been taught to be nurturers; A woman finds a man worth loving, showers everything and anything on them and *surprise!* they're abandoned. Why does this happen? Because women expect men to give back what they're giving them and it just doesn't work that way -- at least not in the beginning of any relationship -- it has to be built to that point (my parents were like this after years of marriage.) This extreme generosity on womens' parts comes across as if they're strictly living for their man's happiness (sometimes that's true, too, unfortunately) and unfortunately that tells the man that they're doormats. Plain and simple.

The book explains that men want an independent woman. They don't want a mother, a babysitter or a slave -- they lose interest in them way too fast and the mystery is gone. Sounds easy enough to understand but if you read the examples and follow a few tips you'll be very surprised with the results.

For example, the old telephone bit. DON'T wait by the telephone for the guy you're seeing. Go out, have a life outside of him and call back when it fits YOUR schedule, not his. Don't rearrange your plans around him and most of all don't leave all decisions up to him. I've had friends I'm with that when the phone rings, they ignore all their guests to go suck up to the guy they're after on the phone. Wrong. You make time for your man when you have the time -- not stopping your life.

The two things I was surprised to discover is: 1.) Women have been taught in the past that appearance is everything they need to find a man -- and nothing else matters. No wonder women have been treated like doormats! If personality and ambition are ignored there's nothing left but appearance and 2.) Women need to be taught to have a life outside of their boyfriends/mates/husbands. Women have been taught by society that they need a man to complete their lives SO MUCH that they end up desperate and it shows to the man they're dating. Plus, it's the reason you feel that emptiness in a relationship -- you've lived so much for him that you forgot about yourself. It's really sad when you realize how passive society has made women unconsciously or consciously and you need to take that back.

I'll give you an example I used: A guy who asked me out called me up and said: "Well, you can drive over here since I'm closer to where we're going." The passive/old me who was desperate would say: "Okay! Anything to make you happy because God forbid, I don't want to lose you -- that's how desperate I am." What I said instead was: "No, you asked me out so come pick me up." Lo and behold what did he do? He picked me up. Don't be afraid to put your foot down -- of course, be cool about it, not nasty and it ALWAYS works.

Making plans? Don't drop them because he asked you out, plan around him. I have a friend who lives for her boyfriend and really could use this book but she's so far gone that I've given up hope. I can't tell you how many times she's cancelled on me at the last second because he decided he wanted to go out at that time. Wrong. You hate when your friends do that to you and you're disgusted with them for their attitudes -- so why on earth would you do it? Besides, he's more likely to call back when you don't offer everything on a platter at once -- including your heart; You lose mystery with him when you do that and he loses interest.

Then we come to a very important chapter: If he knows you're not putting him in a cage -- he'll try and put you in one. This is where the mother/babysitter aspect comes in. He calls the shots -- with everything. What movies you watch, where you go, how you live your life and quite frankly this is where women get into relationships and suddenly realize they're unhappy -- but don't know why. It's because they've made themselves become little slaves to their men's happiness and they're not getting it back. In my opinion, if you're in this kind of a relationship it's hardly fixable but there are ways around that. Another example in the book was one woman let a man do his wash at her place and he ended up expecting her to do it all the time. He would just bring it over and not even ask. So, one time she dropped a pair of red panties in with his whites and when everything came out pink she said: "Oh, I'm just not good at this kind of thing." What was the result? He said: "You are NEVER doing my wash again." Problem solved.

In fact, I gave this to my mother (who is a widow dating) and she was very surprised to realize how much advantage her boyfriend was taking over her. He would plan parties at HER HOUSE and she would do all the cooking and he never helped her pay for any of it. When she began to protest, he fought her on it. What ended up happening is she booted him out the door. In some instances, like I said, it's not fixable. But, was he worth keeping? She decided "No" and she has told me she is much happier.

Have a guy tell you that he wants to see you and other people? Don't get on the floor and beg for him -- tell him: "Don't let the door hit you on the ***. I had one guy do that to me. We went out and he told me that he was going to see this girl he knew at work. So, when we were driving back to my place I said: "I understand about your needs to see other people," and he nodded and got this smile on his face. Then I said: "So since you're going to see someone else on Saturday I just wanted you to know that I have a date, too." That smile melted off his face so fast I could have died laughing. What ended up happening? He was so distracted by the fact that I was going out on a date that he didn't enjoy his at all. The VERY next morning he called immediately and asked if I wanted to go out. I hemmed and hawed and said: "Well, I'm pretty tired from last night, so no, but I can go out Monday evening." I was showered with attention Monday. Trust me - it works.

Now, in defense of some of the male postings here (which make me laugh of course) NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS. But unfortunately, there are guys out there who are. Think of this book as a great guideline to weed those out. If guys like this are playing games, the best thing to do is to play YOUR WAY. You may not end up with the right guy if you have to but your self esteem won't be shot in the end when it's over and that little player will have learned something. Real men DON'T play these games, but do love independence in women.

The only chapter I don't agree with would be the one on faking an orgasm once you get to an intimate point in the relationship. If you can't be honest with your lover and are more worried about his ego then you're setting a trap for yourself. Healthy, sexual relationships are all about honesty -- each of you telling each other what you want. Neither one of you are going to figure it out eventually. That never happens. I got this info from "Mars and Venus in the Bedroom" which you can find on Amazon.com. Explain what works, what doesn't, don't be harsh about it and it will all fall into place. Trust me on this one.

So get this book if you've had your heart broken too many times. Remember, not all guys are like this but you can figure out which ones are (and... have a little fun with them in the meantime *devil grin here*) Real men don't play games with women and you'll figure out the real men from the weasels with this book. A MUST READ for you women out there sick of the games -- play them your own way! And trust me, it works!

I've been awakened!

First and foremost, this book is a must for EVERY female to have! I usually sell my books once I read them, but I'm keeping this one! The title doesn't explain fully what the author means by "bitch." We all have the ability to get the men we want but have been going about it the WRONG way!

In this book, Sherry describes the mistakes women make when trying to win over a man. We're so hung up on "making them happy" that we forget men are primal and they have a desire to "fight" for what they want. In other words, we need to keep ourselves a challenge. Cooking dinners, buying cards, sending gifts and proclaiming our strong feelings from the beginning are many of the mistakes we make. We feel we're doing the nice thing...but "nice" girls, finish last unfortunately.

A man wants a challenge, not a "nice" girl. A "nice" girl seems clingy. Sherry teaches us in very simple terms how to become the "bitch" that every man desires. It's definitely a MUST read. It's the best advice book I've read and I've read a LOT lately on dating etc. You wont be disappointed!