Why some Single Women are attracted to Married Men
82Reasons Women prefer Married Men for Love, Marriage or Sex
There are several Women who fall for married men. Bollywood have several examples of the beautiful actresses like Hema Malini, Jayaprada and Sridevi falling for married men and even getting married to them. What is that prompts women to go behind men like that? Is it the shortage of eligible single men or is there any other reason behind the attraction? Even though such affairs could get a women ‘the other women’ or ‘home breaker’ tag it does not stop from pursuing married men.
Here are some reasons why some Women prefer married men for love, marriage or sex.
1) He is a Challenge: Getting a married man signifies a triumph of one woman over another woman. What makes him the ultimate catch to her could be his experience, confidence and authority. He's a trophy catch. To have him, is about making the impossible. Many women like to grab what belongs to another woman. Jealousy or revenge can be some reasons why women go for already married men.
2) A Married Man has all the answers: Many women feel that a married man compared to a bachelor can meet her emotional or material needs in a better manner and have the answers to all her problems as he is more experienced in handling it.
3) Forbidden Fruit: The society is not very supportive of women who grab another woman’s man. A hooked and booked man is like a forbidden temptation which makes him irresistibly attractive to a woman. For many the food on someone else's plate always looks and tastes better than what they are having. It is the normal human tendency to crave for what you can't have. For some women having a married man at their beck and call increases self esteem.
4) No Strings: A Married Man is an ideal candidate for Women who are Career oriented and do not wish to get married but want sex. When you pick someone clearly unavailable, you never have to struggle with real commitment and its risks and vulnerabilities.
5) Married Men are good at Bed: Many women feel that married men with a lot of sexual experience are a better catch than a bachelor who may be inexperienced. For some a married man is someone with whom they can indulge in their fantasies and who could provide a great time.
6) Wild attraction: Some married men are irresistible and full of charm and love playing games. Many women find it difficult to resist the vibes send by such men.
7) Can’t find Eligible Single Men: Eligible single men are becoming scarce. One may be picking married men in order to beat the competition.
8) It may be Love: Love can happen to anyone. As the popular saying goes ‘love is blind’. And when someone is in love the fact that the object of love is already married is not going to matter much.
9) Mate Copying: Many women tend to believe that if another woman is either after a man or with a man, there must be something he possesses that's worthy of pursuit.
10) Addicted to Sex or Paid for: Some women just want it with whoever is providing it. They don’t care if the man is hooked, booked or unavailable for commitment.
This is a special request hub. I think I have covered almost everything. If I have left anything out feel free to add it through your comments.
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Thanks for your visit and valuable inputs.
Anamika - I actually wanted to add something but I discovered that this hub is very comprehensive. You have said it all. But there is really no acceptable reason why a woman would go for another woman's husband. It is a sin. Point blank.
I think you did a very good job of covering the points. I would disagree a bit with point #7 - can't find eligible single men. I would expand the point by saying they are not willing to work at finding eligible single men.
Finding a suitable relationship partner is hard work. And a lot of men and women are simply not willing to do the work necessary to find a suitable partner. So they rationalize the situation and then allow themselves to expand the field of potential partners to married.
The other reason that was not directly covered is the inability to see the reality of dating a married person. A woman (or a man) can easily fool themselves into attributing stellar qualities to the married partner.
Often women will be attracted to a married man of a higher social economic status. The woman believes this is the ticket to raise her economic position - that he will eventually leave his wife and marry her. That she will gain economically. Happens sometimes but there are many, many more horror stories where the woman is left heartbroken.
Another stand up job, Anamika. You definitely did a wonderful and poignant job of breaking down the psychosis of women who are attracted to men which makes me curious;)
Many women that I have an attraction are married and it absolutely is frustrating to me. I won't see their wedding rings until 20 minutes into the conversation in some cases!
Thanks again.
Very good job of answering the question. Without the emotion or judgement, just the reasons. Excellent hub, Thanks!
Philipo : Sin or whatever I do not in anyway support 'the other women' or the home breaker women.
John Chancellor: You have got a point there. Thanks for the visit.
dohn121 : Thanks for the appreciation.
emohealer : Who am i to judge anyone? This is just a special request hub.
Once again, Thanks for the Comments.
the fact that it is forbidden gets these women interested.
Yes, the forbidden fruit is an attraction factor. Thanks for the comment.
The homebreaker is reckless. Raising social status and economic position is usually the target. Ideally every woman needs three men in her life - simultaneously!!!
The first is a carpet - social status
Number two - bulging pockets
The third - An excellent plumber!!! :)
You may be right. Thanks for the visit quicksand.
well its more a lust rather than love!!!!
I believe that until we as women and men began to communicate effectively without judging in our marriages and relationships we will always be at risk for infedelity. Our spouses should be our best friends there should not be a limit as to what we can share or experience with one another.Until this happens we will always have "outsiders" available to be that "ear" risking our marriages placing us in a vunerable position.
I agree with 1beautifulmind.
An engaging (no pun intended!) article - I have never thought of it from the lady's point of view. As you say, and I totally agree, I think the challenge is an important motivation for some women.
1beutifulmind : You have got a point there.
pjdscott : Yes, I have seen several such case too
Thanks hp, Taram, pjdscott, 1beutifulmind for the visit.
another excellent hub. I think it is lust not love
Like they say, best things are taken, I think the women that go for married or men already committed is because they feel that is the man that will keep them happy.
Secondly sometimes women go for the men that have a lot money, at which point it doesn't matter if he is taken or single.
Lastly and most importantly, I think a lot of women fall for a man or get into a relationship without realising that he is taken. Sometimes obviously because the man has decided to play the game and lie, which results in the woman falling in love with man. By the time she finds out, it is too late.
Excellent hub. I have been your reader for a long time but was not able to comment as i was not a member. Your articles are really very good. Do write another article why women are not attracted towards me. Am i not attractive? Ha.. just a joke.
Keep writing. I have joined your fan club :)
Some of my women friends claimed that married men are sweeter. It's really a complicated thing to be attracted to a married man. :)
...where is Bollywood and how do I get there? :}
wink-wink-nudge/nudge.
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Surendra says:
3 months ago
Yet another excellent blog.
Lest your overseas readers have a notion because of reference to celebrity marriages, that bigamy/polygamy is practiced in India, please allow me to clarify.
Personal laws of different religious communities have not been interfered with by the government. Muslims follow their personal law and can have upto four wives. Christians follow their own law and practice monogamy. Hindu Code Bill was passed in 1950 making bigamy among Hindus illegal.
A big lacuna in the Act has not been plugged yet. Suo-moto action cannot be initiated for bigamy. The first wife has to file a written complaint against the husband. In the instances mentioned here, the first wives have chosen not to complain against their law-breaking husbands for whatever reasons. A funny situation developed when Dharmendar while filing his nomination papers for election to the Parliament mentioned only his first wife's name.
There have been instances when people have converted to Islam for the second marriage. Recently Supreme Court has ruled that such conversions are illegal. Detailed guidelines for implementation of this ruling have not been spelled out.