Our Love Ones Are Not The Possessions That They Own

Not So Easy To Understand

When we love someone

We love that person for who they are

Then unfortunately one day they may pass away

If we are close to that person we may soon have the things that they loved the most

Then we have to decide what is best

Do we keep that lamp because we need a lamp or just because it was a lamp of someone we cared about so deeply

The list doesn't stop there

It could be a favorite chair they always sat in

That cute picture on their wall

Their bureau or a mirror

Favorite nick nacks or blankets and books

From jewelry to clothes

Decorations to ornaments

Curtains to towels

Glasses to her favorite dishes

As much as we loved that person

Having all that persons things will never be enough

We really seek something we can't have

A closeness of that person that we loved so much

That person was such a big part of our life

How will we ever survive

Then we realize we do what all people do

We carry on and live out our life

Sharing our sweetest memories and our tall tales

So here I go and hopes I can do my mom justice

I look around and what do I see

A world that you made beautiful

I would come over to your house which was my house for many years

And see all the things I loved

You had lovely colored curtains in the kitchen to match to the little rug and the place mats on the kitchen table right down to the plastic table cloth

A candle would be burning leaving a fresh scent

There was always candy in the candy dish

If there was any special occasion not far away

You would see anything from banners to streamers for the 4th of July

Colored Easter eggs or just a cute Easter basket fixed so nice

Don't forget the Pilgrims on Thanksgiving and a spiral turkey hanging from the ceiling

Then of course Halloween she had noisy little ghosts and witches that moved

Inbetween the flying bats

Christmas decorations on the radiator because you had little room

The talking christmas tree and lights in all the front windows

Then who could forget all those plastic stick ons that would fall off in the cold

She had a door knob cover for the bathroom that said guest room

She had her oldie radio station playing all afternoon

Numerous little night lights she constantly changed

The famous cookie jar she would pull out if someone came for tea

Always filled with so many different kinds

You started with one then you ended eating three

In the afternoon she would have her glasses on and be doing the crosswords or reading the paper

Later at night she would ask you if you wanted jello she just made with fruit on the bottom

or a bowl of icecream

She had a small home only four rooms filled with so much love

In the kitchen it was not long before the tea kettle was whisting

I have so many memories and I can see your house fixed so nice

The same books on each shelf that I had when I was growing up

The t.v. that worked fine until the cable box was mistakenly changed to a different channel

Then the clicker became your worst nightmare

Your throw pillows and scatter rugs

Your need to sweep the floor and clean the bathroom every day

Don't forget vacuming and the famous dust mop

Their wasn't a sink that didn't shine and mirrors that didn't sparkle

From windex to glass plus

A suet bird feeder that the squirrels would eat hanging on the fence

A porch light on just incase someone decided to drop by

Mom I loved you and all your wonderful memories

That was so much more than all your fun stuff

I have no room and I can't keep it all

So I have to let your things go

In hopes somebody will enjoy them like you did

Loving you like I always do

I love you mom




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Michael-Milec 3 years ago

Hi dream-on

Appreciatory. Reminding us how memories are being treasured.

Even after mom and dad moved away from this planet , the place they occupied in my heart never been vacated. In my memories we are together in our love , and one day we will continue to live forever.

Voted up, beautiful and interesting .


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DREAM ON 3 years ago Author

Michael-Milec To be able to share and let go a combination that I am learning over time.Five months and it seems like yesterday.Still in shock,disbelief and understanding grief is a way of life.The love that was enjoyed never has to go away.If we think about and treasure all we know we carry on their memories and love.We will always be together.My heart goes out to everyone who loses someone they love.That they may share the good times of their life so others can enjoy and understand so we all can move on in such difficult times.Thanx so much for reading and sharing.Have a great night.


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kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

Very nice tribute to your Mom, Dream-On! Memories of our loved one are precious gems that we can keep forever and as you said, we can't keep all the physical objects even we find a sentimental value to a lot of them.


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Accepting the one you love and suddenly they no longer are with you can be a great loss. The times shared will remain with you as memories it is time for you find other interests to make your life simpler or to feel better.


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DREAM ON 3 years ago Author

kidscrafts In our society we grow up and our lives are interwined with material things and love.When the love is lossed we seek something to fill our pain.I don't remember ever learning in school or from my family ways of dealing with loss,sadness,pain and all sorts of feelings associated with death of a loved one.It was a subject nobody talked about and and each person dealt with privately.It wasn't till now I had to feel the loss of both parents.The loss of my father in 1991 was hard but it wasn't until both parents are gone you realize and it hits home.DDE You are so right to turn my energies to positive and constructive projects and to so many interests I love so much.Thanx to everyone for all your important comments and suggestions.Enjoy your day.


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kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

You are right that we don't learn about those things. Personnaly, I had to learn to let go for other reasons. So I hold on to old memories of good time and it's precious because it's about the only thing I have. The good thing is I have a good family of my own with my husband and my kids :-)


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Nellieanna 3 years ago from TEXAS

As you often do, dear Dream On, you've touched my heart-strings. It's a simply lovely tribute to and remembrance of your Mother, one I'm sure she is enjoying.

I was thinking of my beloved Mother especially lately. So many of her things I have & treasure. Perhaps those I most treasure are those with her own 'hand' on them, - her paintings, manuscripts, notes & letters, so meaningful, though written in what Dad called "the squiggly line". He would smile & ask, "Do you read the squiggly line?"

Yes, her handwriting really was almost no more than a line with a few bumps, hills & valleys in it, because she did most things with astonishing quickness, so as to do them all, but not to spend 'all day' doing any one thing.

Her days were full, to say the least! She particularly liked to get "the tiresome details of living" done & out of the way, to leave time for things she so loved doing, like painting & writing, sewing & teaching. She never neglected any of the "TDLs", but her methods surely were the precursors of those of modern 'efficiency experts'! She even walked quickly! When I was little, I almost had to run to keep up with her! At the end of the day, she would quietly slip off to bed about 9PM, so she could be up at 4AM to claim her very own time, briefly free for her very own projects.

Thank you for introducing me to your mother, Dream On - and for the reminder of mine! As you express so beautifully, it's our memories of them - and their lasting influences on our lives, which are so much more than the possessions they owned!!


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Kathryn Stratford 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

It is amazing how attached we can get to things that remind us of someone. But sometimes we have to let go, and just enjoy the memories. Thank you for sharing this with us. It's beautiful.


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DREAM ON 3 years ago Author

kidscrafts Sharing old memories and making new memories with your husband and your kids is where life turns to be more exciting and incredible.Keeping your love fresh and real.Nellieanna you always bring a smile to my face.Thinking of the things your mother did and you enjoying her lovely letters. My mother was not a big writer but I did get to talk to her and tape her as we joked and laughed on occasion.I remember her saying what do you want that for.Why wouldn't I love listening to you so when that day comes and you are grumpy I can laugh and say that's not you.You are sweet and lovable and my mom.Listening to her voice brings such peace. My mother and father still influence me every day.Everything from holding the door open for the next person to saying excuse me after hiccupping.The littlest things mean the most and don't foget it..Kathryn Stratford Giving and sharing is always part of my mother and father. I will carry on to the end of my days.Thanx so much for helping me move ahead and enjoy life even more.Have a good day.


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Nellieanna 3 years ago from TEXAS

Ah - I wish I had recordings of my parents' voices. I think one of my elder sisters made one but I didn't have a copy of it. I can still 'hear' them in my mind, though. Dad would read poetry with a moral to it aloud to me when I was little. He had a very distinctive voice. He was also patient with listening to me. Mother was more about doing & showing-how, than reciting, though. I learned from her by watching her doing all the many things she did. Courtesy was just how things were done!


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DREAM ON 3 years ago Author

Nellieanna It was my dad who was the soft spoken one.He often said things that had great truth and lots of underlining meaning but he hardly ever explained himself.He left it up to you to ask questions and research and think even further.If you were interested enough you would be resourceful enough to find answers.He would say things and then smile.You knew he was the teacher and you were the student.He wanted you to listen and watch and learn.He made things look simple enough.He often said things boiled down to the main ingredients(what insight)I still am learning from things he told me over twenty two years ago.His words echo in my head.I love all your wonderful interesting advice and shared knowledge.Thanx for being you.God Bless .


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Gypsy Rose Lee 3 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and beautiful. Real nice tribute to your mom. I miss mine so much and even more as the years go by. There are so many things around which remind me of her. Thanks for the wonderful memories.


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DREAM ON 3 years ago Author

Gypsy Rose Lee I feel sorry about your mom too.I know it's Gods plan and we will one day understand.Until that day I can say with all my heart Moms are here for us all the time helping us find our way.Thanx so much for reading and sharing.


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Nellieanna 3 years ago from TEXAS

That could be the start of a lovely hub honoring your dad! He sounds very wise, indeed!


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DREAM ON 3 years ago Author

Nellieanna I love the way you think.I will give it a try in the near future.I had a different thought for now.If you get the time you might Find my hub Fountain Of Love interesting and don't forget to tell me why?Life is bright and cheery.So don't miss out.It can make you mad as hell and then in the very next breath make you as happy as frog in the sun.That's when you know life has just begun.


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shiningirisheyes 3 years ago from Upstate, New York

Wonderful heartwarming reminiscing occurred while I read this touching ode. I am surrounded by items holding no monetary value but are more priceless to me than gold. Great Hub.


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DREAM ON 3 years ago Author

shiningirisheyes I also feel so touched to have a few of moms things that bring back memories I love so much.Most of all I close my eyes and I can see my mom still talking to me.She had just a sweet way about her.She was a no frills kind of gal.The best thing I loved about her was her energy to go and go and go.My wife and I always joked she was the real live energizer bunny.I love when people share stories about their loved ones.Thanx for reading and spending the time to get to know my mom.May your night be so peaceful and beautiful.


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kj force 3 years ago from Florida

DREAM ON....Beautiful poem (letter ) to your Mom...I'm sure if you sat down in deep thought, there would be a certain item that you could relate to your Mom...and each time you wish to "chat " with her, you can hold this object...and yes material possessions are NOT who they were..but..how we can remain connected to them....loved the poem...you did your Mother proud !!!


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DREAM ON 3 years ago Author

kj force I go to my think tank and will have to get back to you as I put my thoughts to the test.Having friends who see what we miss makes my life more special.Hope your day is fillled with new adventures and lots of love.Thanx so much.

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