Prose - Screw Valentines Day

Fuck Valentine's Day
That's right
I said it
Fuck New Year's Eve too
And while I'm at it
Fuck Las Vegas
Fuck it all
Why?
Because
I love when I love
I party when I party
I spend my money
When I spend my money
Nobody makes money on me
By brainwashing me
Nobody makes money
On my heart
Nobody tells me when to party
I'm not part of the herd
Fuck that
If I love someone
They'll know it
But I won't try any harder
On the 14th
If I'm happy
You'll know it
But I won't show it
On the 1st
Or in a casino
If I just want to walk
And just look
I will
I'll take their free drinks
But I won't throw no dice
I won't play no slots
I won't say "hit me"
You see
I don't need all that
I look at the crowd
And laugh
Because I don't need it
I don't need what they need
Why?
Because I don't want to be told
What I need
And when I need it
And how I'll do it
People laugh at the crowd
The people who skim from the crowd
And the people who won't run with the crowd
It's ok to buy your girl some flowers
That's not my point
But if one day means everything
Then you have nothing
Because one day won't do
It won't make up for a bad year
Or a bad marriage
Anybody can buy a card
Or open up a bottle
Or blow a wad
Or be trendy
It's not that hard to do
But who are you trying to impress?
Why make it easy for them?
To take your money
To put pressure on you
To make you feel bad
If you don't do it right
By how they define it
By how they want it
Which is by programming you
To reach into your wallet
And pay
Pay the cover charge
To be part of the crowd
Go ahead
Tell her you love her if you do
But don't look at me
Because I'm not going to be doing it for them
I'm going to do it
For me
When I want
And where I want


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Nan Mynatt 5 years ago from Illinois

You are angry at the marketing people who want people to buy,buy,and buy. That's how they stay afloat, and it is getting worst by each holiday. Easter is coning up and we have been brainwashed into spending our money. Keep up the protest it may help!


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Jan Fowler 5 years ago from Valencia, California

This is exactly the way my parents are. They will acknowledge a special day like a birthday or anniversary but it is not important for them to actually go out and celebrate. And forget any of the Hallmark holidays, the do not give a hoot about them! Good for you, besides more days to show the love and celebrate when you do it when you want!


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vrbmft 5 years ago from Yucaipa, California

I love the first line, and the second, and the third. Kind of shocking. I was half a sleep! I wrote a poem myself this evening, sort of about Valentine's Day, but more about love on any day, but the poem is entitled A Valentine's Gift. It is at the end of a satirical hub about men not knowing what to give their love on Valentine's Day and giving the wrong gift!! Fun.

Anywho, I'm glad I'm not making a living on Valentine's Day and living anywhere near you!! LOL.

I also like the part about taking their drinks!!

Great poem.

Vern


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Twilight Lawns 5 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K.

Attaboy!

(And I was worried about a "poem" I wrote that ends with JUST ONE four letter word... maybe I'll risk it)


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Mentalist acer 5 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

...and the horse they rode in on,lol,way to make an urban point,Suburban Poet.;)


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Micky Dee 5 years ago

Yeah! Let's form a club! I will not drive around when everyone else drives around! Money and energy are too hard to come by to throw it away at the whims of popularity. God bless!


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Stigma31 5 years ago from Kingston, ON

Everyday is a Birthday, you can chose to celebrate when you like and with whom you like. Commerciallism is a cult! Don't feed the golden arrow. It is always hungry, and always craves more. Another great hub Suburban Poet!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

To all of you who posted THANK YOU! I was actually laying in bed last night wondering how this would be received. As with Christmas I've been thinking about those who are disenfranchised by artificially, institutionalized and manufactured "happiness." It just bugs the hell out of me as if you couldn't tell.

I'm a romanticist. There is no question about it but I also have develeoped a wildly independent streak and I'm not going to crater to those who wish to profit from the sheep. I'm sure any happy, loving girl (I'm talking to you Acaetnna if you're out there) must be thinking "I'm glad I'm not dating him" and maybe she's right. But I am capable of intensely romantic moments with the woman I love but it is on love's time... not Hallmarks because I don't feel that passion and inspiration can or should be summoned because someone else say's do it.

As for Las Vegas and the drinks... I did that... I drank the free drinks in the Bellagio and refused to gamble much to my fathers and brothers chagrin. They were rolling their eyes at me but I thought "You can't really beat Vegas can you? Or can you?" Then I realized how to do it and my plan went perfectly.

Hey... enjoy Valentines Day if you wish. It's supposed to be a happy day but don't feel like a loser if you aren't buried in roses because you're not a loser.... YOU HEAR ME?

And Twilight - far be it from me to encourage the use of profanity but I've decided that at times, it's the only thing that will make the impact that is needed... you know how I really wanted to title this thing but I toned it down....


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Genna East 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

"But if one day means everything

Then you have nothing

Because one day won't do..."

Well said. A vote up and awesome.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Genna - thank you... love on demand... it doesn't seem real does it?


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Tammy L 5 years ago from Jacksonville, Texas

Great poem. I'm not a big fan of flowers either. That's the biggest waste of money there is. It's stupid to pay $50 or %75 for something that's gonna be dead in three days and make the house smell like the cat did something in a bed of roses.


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Erin LeFey 5 years ago from Maryland

I totally see your point, but I am a romantic at heart. I don't look at V-day that way. If I am in love, its just an extra day to show something special that is already there - like a birthday you celebrate for someone who is already special to you. I don't need Hallmark or anyone else to tell me that. Also I go to Vegas when I want to because of what it is and I know what its there for. But its a vacation and I only go every 5 years or so but its fun. What the hell, ya only live once - I say celebrate everything and love the way you want to - live the way you want to - we're all grown up. I'm not a sheep - I make my own choices. Loved your poem even if I dont agree - I agree with your right to say it! You are awesome SP - you know I love ya!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Tammy - thank you for commenting... unfortunately cut flowers can be a metaphor for fleeting love... beautiful at first but then a quick death... the garden is real and long lasting and is with us long after the holiday has passed...

@Erin - that's cool... I appreciate you understanding where I'm coming from and I hope you have a happy day for sure....


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saddlerider1 5 years ago

I totally agree with ErinLeFey and I to am a romantic although I often write dark compelling scribes on the Hubs. I see your point, however I to choose to share my feelings without being pressured by the likes of Hallmark or any other peddler of romance.

Although there is a need to expound Cupid to the market place just like any other retail net profit establishment. We on the other hand can choose not to go with the flow and show our romance in our own ways.

I to have been in business owning a few retail stores in my time and the bottom line is all that really mattered no matter what we were selling, how disgusting, I agree.

There will always be sheep to receive the opium of the masses, look at politics and religion, they also peddle their wares of enticement. I walk tall and am my own man and always have been and always will be to my last breath. Thank you for your RANT amigo I stand with you.

All we need is LOVE....Peace


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Saddlerider - thank you and certainly it is better to be light-hearted about these things. I'm not walking around with "Valentines rage" but I speak for those who will be unhappy tomorrow. I'm sure you've been there as I have or know of those who have felt the sting of watching those roses walk past their desk at work.

I certainly don't want to cost anyone their livelihood with this rant....

And yes love is the answer my friend....


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azure_sky 5 years ago from Somewhere on the Beach, if I am lucky :)

Awesome poem TSP! Your anger shines through...lol

Yes...Valentine's Day is way over-rated! Keep your diamond earrings and your flowers...I'd be happy with a walk on the beach...just talking and laughing.

Of course, I'm a simple woman who just enjoys the FINER things in life......

Simple pleasures are the best :)

Voted UP, along with 3 more clicks!

Thanks for getting this poem "out there"....it may actually save some poor saps a lot of $$$$.


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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Well, I am glad you got that out of your system.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Azure - thank you for your support on this one... like I said earlier, I wasn't sure how it was going to be received...

@mckbridbks - thank you and yes I did get it out of my system... carry on....


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

My response to this very passionate declaration (which I respect) - is, well, ok. Just do your thing and enjoy it. Why "let them" get to you even to resist and let it dilute the good feelings you do have - any day that you have them. If it offends to allow "them" to control you to buy a card - then -just don't. If you want to express your caring sometimes in a special way - make your own card - write some of your lovely poetry and seal it with a kiss for her. It seems such a waste of even an hour's worth of YOUR moments to allow "their" greed to affect YOUR good feelings about YOUR good things. THEY win just as much doing that as they do if you buy their stuff and subscribe to their agenda. This is another phase of it. The only way to win is to let it roll off. If people did that - they'd have to shut down eventually.

Anyway - that's my view and at my perspective, my life and time are too precious to waste on very much indignation, unless it really merits it in tangible ways.

You're too good to waste!

Hugs. . . .Nellieanna

ps - getting it out of your system has value - but better to not get it into it in the first place! Save your system for its own destiny!!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Nellieanna - it's funny but when I saw your name in the comment section for this poem I thought "oh no!" Ha... see... I'm scared of you! Ha.... obviously you are correct but for some reason I felt like getting this out so I did... but then I wrote the one for my daughter "My True Valentine" so I'm not a lost cause... sorry for the profanity... I respect you greatly and do not wish to offend... I guess I have a very edgy side that I indulge at times....


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b. Malin 5 years ago

Ok, Ok, I get it...A big Wow for releasing it all...Do your own thing and make no excuse for it, which obviously you don't. Anyway, I wish you, however you do, or do not celebrate it, Happy, Healthy, Valentine's Day!...Have A "Heart" On...maybe it will help!


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More Than Words 5 years ago from Oak Ridge, NJ

You really did it I think you have another evergreen going on.

Just for the record, I totally agree with you. If a man, or woman can't step up to the plate when the urge moves them than maybe they better take a more in depth look at their relationship and do something about it to make a difference. You are right. That's what I'm talking about.

A relationship is giving 100%/100% of yourself all day every day. Give it up out there. We ought to be ashamed of ourselves letting society control our lives like this. Father's Day, Mother's Day, Valentines Day... What about the down and out people out there that are on a guilt trip because they cannot keep up with the Jones's, they survive? I'll bet better than allot of other relationships out there do. It seems the less we have the better off we are. I'll let you guys in on a little secret. The more you give woman, the more they walk all over you. What they need is passion, a gentle smile a warm touch, to be noticed. and to all you woman out there, your man, believe it or not needs pretty much the same thing, support, uplifting noticing their accomplishments with true sincere to the heart words that matter. That's what it's all about. If we bring each other down we choose flowers to make it all better. Not.

It's time we all step up to the plate when and where it counts on our terms. You go boy. But, shshsh, don't tell my husband what I just said just yet, after all tomorrow's Valentines Day and all, may as well make hey while the son's shining. lololololol


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

I said nothing about the profanity - it was part of your fury. I wasn't offended - what I said wasn't about me at all. And I do understand that you felt the way you felt with great authenticity. i'm in favor of expressing honest feelings as one sees fit. My only concern is what I actually said, that when "they" get you to spend YOU on THEIR agenda, that is what is happening. It's something we all do at times in various ways. There is no judgment on the way we do it or even that we do it, it's just that somehow they win more if they make us waste ourselves getting all up in knot about the foolishness.

Please do not be worried about me. I'm on your side! I need no excuse or explanation! Just think about how much of a bite we give of ourselves when we are involved in all that stuff - whether we fall in line with it or oppose it. I guess I'm not making my point clear. Anyway - not to worry. At all. Hugs.


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More Than Words 5 years ago from Oak Ridge, NJ

I believe the point the suburban poet was trying to make (suburban poet, please correct me if I'm wrong) is that he feels obligated to give a card and/or flowers or whatever and wants not to feel this way but can't because "them" won't stop laying it all out their for purchase, for others to want and envy others if they don't get. I get it. The only way he felt for him to make his point was in this vulgar manner. And, maybe that is what "we the people" need a good vulgar wake up call to get on board and help end this madness.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

It's good that we all support Suburban Poet in expressing himself.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Well this one had the impact I was looking for... yes I am "bugged" by the pressure. Definitely. And Nellieanna is correct in that I shouldn't let it get to me. That's definitely a goal. But I felt like saying it and it is a good point that was made concerning those who feel left out on a day such as this. Not everyone has a love life showered in roses and sweets. All it does is heighten their misery. But everyone truly needs to develop a balance in life and not let these things get to them.

I just don't think it's right for someone to see this day coming up as a benchmark for their relationship. It is unfair and creates unnecessary problems all for the sake of money. I'm happy for those who are able to enjoy the day... but there are quite a few folks who are unable to partake and it is for them that I speak...

Thank you for the support Nelliana regardles of what I say or how I say it....

You too More Than Words and b. Malin....


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

Most certainly love should not be featured only one day a year if one has love, any more than faith should be stirred one day a week - or a year, if one has faith - or patriotism one day a year - - etc. My mantra might well be to BE what one feels each day as it arrives, including the negative feelings - though it is wise to let go of the feelings which hurt the body, mind and spirit and welcome those which support those vital parts of one's being.

My love died over two years ago and for 7 years before that, he was dwindling, I didn't need a day to avoid feeling left out, nor to be showered with roses and sweets. While he lived, just seeing him in his chair - often smiling at the flowers I brought and arranged to cheer us both and enjoying the healthy meals I made to help him sustain his dwindling physical life were ample joy for me. To talk and laugh together - listen to music and compare our memories of the lyrics, to see him rally and go to the yard to practice his golf swing or fishing cast - were wonderful rewards. Every day was good. And yes - since he is gone, the days lack that.

But since his death I don't feel deprived, so long as I can choose to be all I am and choose to enjoy all that is inside and outside to enjoy - even the challenges. To use much of the time on negativity just makes no sense. It is not an emotional thing - it is common sense, I think. So we have to learn to choose our moments and enjoy all of them - even when alone (which I am) and even when it is obvious that much is wrong with this old world. It needs us to contribute to its better instincts, is what I confess I think. That little candle one lights in the dark really does matter. Doesn't mean that if one is feeling the dark that one is at fault. But the candle has to try to shine when it is lit.

Hugs and love to you and your wonderfully faithful and supportive followers on this day - just another day - but a day to be enjoyed!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Nellieanna - You are that light Nellieanna and I'm very happy that you have been able to maintain your positive perspective in a world full of sadness and evil-doing. We need positive thinkers because that is where hope remains alive... I just get all macho sometimes and kick butt on things that I don't like or appreciate. But if I was there I'd give you a rose because you are a rose except that you have somehow made the thorns fall off the vine as they realize they are not worthy of your being....


El Gringo Loco 5 years ago

Sub, you the man!

Bet my Roadrunners Coach is proud of his #1 Son!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Ha! I know who you is loco! Right on! Nobody tells us when or what to do!


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

Hey - thank you, dear SP. Hugs. Before we get too unrealistic - here is one I just ran across which I wrote in Jan, 1987 and that wasn't even a bad year for me! We all have our moments!

Friggin' -

Fraggin' -

What?

Who cares?

Willow -

Wallow -

Why?

Who dares?

___© Nellieanna H. Hay


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Well Nellieanna, you just blew my entire image of you! Go wash your mouth out with soap young lady! Boy you must have been offended to break out all those "F" and "W" words!


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LaurieDawn 5 years ago

I have to say Poet, I am right therre with you, I do not like the holiday not one bit. I agree that people make mad dashes out at the last minute and pay an unreal price on things like roses, flowers, diamonds, and just another way to get people to spend money to declare their love. I would rather have a small gift on a day that was out of the blue, just because.

I voted it up because of it's poetic nature of the holiday and the expressions you penned.

Blessings and hugs,

Laurie


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Laurie - I'm glad you're with me on this one... like I said earlier I was wondering if I was going to be seen as some sort of Valentine's Day scrooge but I still feel the same way on the day after. Thank you for posting and this one is for the books!


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

stop that - it's not nice to tease old ladies. LOL. I definitely have had my "limits" blown to bits, though - that part is right!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Nellieanna - no... you are a saint in my book... let me believe... let me believe... let me believe....


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attemptedhumour 5 years ago from Australia

There are over 100 million Christmas cards sent each day, or some such ridiculous number. Charities would thrive if the money went there instead. Someone needed to point out the bleeding obvious and you are just the man. Fantastico!


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Debarshi Dutta 5 years ago from Calcutta

Happy valentine's Day to You..You need not do a thing about the day and sleep the whole day out..but even then if you have a Valentine ...she thinks fondly of you on 14th Feb..no matter whoever else says what and does what.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@attemptedhumour - that is so true. It's amazing the huge industry that is built around frivolity when so many are in need.

@Debarshi - thank you for commenting. I was talking to my son (14 years old) this morning about V-Day and he said he didn't like it. Of course he doesn't have a girl friend so maybe that's why but he thought it was a waste of time. I told him when he gets a girl friend that it would be wise not to fight that battle and go ahead and make a fuss over her.

My real point if you didn't have time to read through the comments is that I don't appreciate anything that can create bad feelings which is highly ironic given the holiday is based around love. But it is disenfranchising just as Christmas can be for many folks. In the end it's just a rant but I'm not coming from a position of weakness as I've had more than my share of love in my life... but no matter how strong my relationship was I always had a silent dread for this day... just weird I guess..... but at the same time I write love poems on other days on a whim so what does it mean?


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

It possibly means that you don't like to be "expected" to express your love, your generosity, your admiration or respect on a certain day set up by others, and then it is irritating to also find that that day is padding someone's pocket at your and others' expense, as well as making some folks feel better loved than others based on the kind of gift given or even whether or not one is given. I'm with you on that. Love is not a contest. And some folks ARE better loved than others but the box of chocolates, the flowers or diamonds don't define it. People need a better understanding of that and then the money-makers might have to change their business goals. But it's up to choice on the part of folks, not the money-grabbers' power.

I don't like to be expected to express my feelings just because it's a certain day - or just because I'm a wife, a daughter, a friend, a lover. I am still an individual and my feelings are mine, first of all and then, more - if I actually FEEL I W ANT TO express them for someone, I want to be able to just do it, day or no day. So that's what I do. I don't want others to feel EXPECTED to express their for me except as they really FEEL them as they arise either.

I honestly prefer to get none than to get anything out of obligation or expectations. If it's a matter of earning it or deserving it as a matter of fact, that's another matter. But feelings must be spontaneous and genuine to have value for me. I go out of my way to emphasize to those who love me that I'm delighted with what they WANT to do, when they want to do it and they also see that I do that too.

It just doesn't seem to merit the attention to object to those who set up the Day, when it is up to each person to decide and act accordingly. We are not forced to comply, though there is much pressure. We have to take charge of what WE do and let others do the same. We are patsies if we comply - and in a way we are patsies if we get our knickers in a knot objecting. "They" are controlling our feelings and thoughts either way. That was my point, not that I support Valentine's Day - though it is as good a day as any to express one's love. It's mine to decide and so - just deciding is the vote that counts.

Hugs. I am no saint, but you can believe I'm a fairly decent human being. As you are, too. You can express yourself well, as you do, about anything that bugs you. You have reasons and must do as you feel you must. I respect that! Hugs.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

ps - Not that you need permission! LOL. I'm just expressing my view, of course!!


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Nellieanna - thank you for such a thoughtful response. I'm glad I wrote this thing just for that reason alone. I think you are a saint and I don't care what everybody around here say's about you! Ha...

You're right that we shouldn't feel the pressure but when you are sorta, maybe involved with someone the day does stick out like a sore thumb on the calendar. Also it takes a strong mind to not be affected by the apparent happiness all around you if you are not a participant.

I don't need your permission? Awesome! Please continue to express yourself anytime you wish because we're all learning a lot from you.


Marina Lester 5 years ago

I've always understood this take on holidays but never gone with it. I love holidays and festivities, it has probably a lot to do with my mother, she always made fun memories around them for us as children. I understand and for the most part agree with what you are saying, it certainly is not about the money and spending. To me that is not what it means, though sad and yet it is honestly natural for the market to try and take advantage. It is up to us to remember and teach our children. Mostly I am sad as to where Christmas is heading... we are losing the whole point. But I keep the real meaning in my heart and celebrate it because I want to. Because I feel a warmth as the whole country celebrates love and a kind spirit. And granted, hopefully we keep this in our hearts each day of the year, but here's a day to celebrate and to remind us the gifts we do in fact have each day. Because valentines is not about how many dollars you spend but how many laughs and kisses exchanged. It is the celebration of a year full of love.. :)

I love Hub so much for the exchange of minds so keep writing Poet I love it. And anyway that's how I myself feel about holidays in a jiff. Love her every day of the year Poet, the days in which you should choose to celebrate it don't matter, just be sure to make some awesome memories to be cherished. I love and respect that you don't drink the kool aid as it were, but valentines day doesn't have to be what the commercials are reading, like the diamond adds say 'get her what she really wants' hehe :P Because that is NOT what it is about, at least not to me. :) Stay well friend and keep sharing your mind with us.


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Joshua Kell 5 years ago from Arizona

I feel ya brother!


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BenWritings 5 years ago from Save me from, Tennessee

mark, we are so alike lol

seriously...it blows my mind how i agree with everything you write


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Marina - yeah I'm just bitching... I'm sure your boy friend takes care of business... If you read some of my comments it was really written for those who watch as the pretty girl gets the roses delivered to her desk. That's when the claws come out! But I'm glad you take the more long-term view...

@Joshua - Thanks man!

@Ben - Oh no! Don't be like me! Don't do it! You know what they say: "Great minds think alike!"


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BenWritings 5 years ago from Save me from, Tennessee

i know we both have great minds. no doubt


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Ben - We're cocky too!


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Truckstop Sally 4 years ago

What's really on your mind? Ha! Never one to mince words!


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Hi Sally.... just don't like the referendum on my feelings I guess.....

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