Once a thing of Beauty...Photo by Stephan
Once a thing of Beauty...Photo by Stephan


Many Died...Many Cried...Lives were changed Forever...The Scars of Life run Deep. They "Edge" our very Souls. They can make the Young seem Old...While the very Old look towards their own Death, as a Release...And the Promise of "Heaven", something they did not have here among the Living. Most of Us, are somewhere in the middle, trying to grab the Enjoyments of Life...As we Silently vow, that No Person, Place, or Thing, or Government, can interfere... Certainly, We can be forgiven for such Nieve Thoughts.

I hadn't realized that even in "Friendships" we wear "Labels"...Many years ago as a young couple, we were invited to an affair...I didn't notice, and probably wouldn't have, that the Hostess had sat us with HIS friends and not HER friends. What we were later to learn, was that SHE had asked him for a Divorce...And so, SHE was in the process of Divorcing US, { HIS Friends,} as well. Silly Us, We thought we were BOTH their friends... This incident, left a slight Scar in our Hearts.

What happened to the Children of the Woodstock Generation, who danced Naked and Free? They put their clothes on... Grew up, and got Married. Some had Careers, Children, and some also Divorced, mourned their Lost Youth, and paid their Taxes...Some went to "Class Reunions"...and vowed NEVER to go AGAIN...While some Married Again, and felt Happy, thinking maybe this time they'd gotten it Right... As the Ugly Divorce Scars, ever so Slowly, began to fade away.

The "Off- Spring" made some of us Grandparents...With such names as Mimi, or Granny, and of course there were Poppa's as well as numerous other names. These Grandchildren were of course, the Brightest, Most Beautiful, or Handsome, and oh Sooo Clever...Every one of them, A Genius...Wow, this is what LOVE is all about!

Of course in between all this Happiness, a lot of People were losing their jobs...It affected the young, as well as the not so Young... Who were being Pushed into Early Retirement. But still paying Taxes, and trying hard NOT to lose their Home, or Savings, which was becoming a Sad reality...Scars, once again, were Forming.

Some prayed, some Never gave up, and became, Survivors... This is America! We still live in the land of Opportunity...Another Song could still be written, and Sung...another History Chapter on Success, could still be written, another "Job" was out there, waiting to be filled, and above all, another Scar, would eventually heal, and Fade away. Amen.


Don't let Someone Else use up your Today... Or, Interfere with your Tomorrows.

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Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

wow a very deep thought put down in words Malin.. a wonderful hub have to vote up and awesome!!!

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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Wow, you have been reading my thoughts! Scary stuff. Or great minds? Either way...awesome!!!

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writer20 4 years ago from Southern Nevada

Brilliant touching poem . Voted up, beautiful and interesting, Joyce.

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Curiad 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

An awesome statement with a true message.

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Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

Very sad but so true. It is life, no way out alive. So make the best of what we have left.

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Barbara, I don't recall ever seeing you write like this...I was getting ready for another hilarious treat and instead I got a very real, very passionate, very reflective piece.

This is excellent writing my friend. It is raw, it is painful, and in the end it is hopeful with a solid message. I'm jealous that I didn't write this. :)

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Dexter Yarbrough 4 years ago from United States

Thanks so much for giving me something to reflect upon and think about as we move forward. I am destined to not let anyone use up my today or interfere with my tomorrows - anymore.

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xstatic 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

Very nice insight and inspirational as well. A good thing for a fairly frustrating day. Thanks!

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mckbirdbks 4 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Reflective, thought provoking and sprinkled with universal truths. Time speeds on ahead whether we are keeping pace or not. Oh, and all those grandchildren are completely adorable.

cleaner3 4 years ago

very nice write, you have let your thought s flow so free with emotions that many of the same age and generation would truly understand. the younger generation will not understand this until they reach a certain age and it is staring them in the face . memories of the way we were, the times the events that shape our dreams , bring up the many "if's". great write ,

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josh3418 4 years ago from Pennsylvania


Very thought provoking hub here! Emotional, but a powerful message as well! Thanks for this share Barbara!

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Mhatter99 4 years ago from San Francisco

Interesting perspective. I respect your opinion. Ask 12 people about 1 picture you get 12 answers. I like to ask.

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vespawoolf 4 years ago from Peru, South America

I love this message this conveys. We all have scars, but we must be survivors and with time the scars will mostly heal and fade. Thank you! Voted up.

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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

Barbara, a thoughtful stream of consciousness - very interesting. The divorce story you mention earlier happened to a friend of mine too - except she caught a hubby from one couple out at dinner with the wife of another's - this wrecked all of their relationships with one another forever.

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rjbatty 4 years ago from Irvine

I had high hopes for the "Woodstock generation," though I was too young to join it. I thought real freedom was finally being spread across the country. And yet the generation turned out to be one of the most self-centered and greedy that the nation ever encountered. I cannot understand the transformation. It remains one of the biggest disappointments in my life. The potential for meaningful change was just on the cusp, but the generation gave in to selfishness in every shape and form.

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breakfastpop 4 years ago

I suppose it all comes down to "that's life." Beautiful writing and voted that way.

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Faithful Daughter 4 years ago from Sunny Florida

I tell myself all the time life goes on no matter what. We can stop and reflect on better times long past but we must keep moving on and make new memories as we take life's path. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and emotions.

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drbj 4 years ago from south Florida

Ernest Hemingway and his sometimes stream of consciousness style of writing had nothing on you, b. Way to go and a great big Up as well!

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teaches12345 4 years ago

We all wear battle scars as reminders of what life has taught us. Loved your thoughts and reflections on this truth.

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Genna East 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

Very well said B!

“Another Song could still be written, and Sung...

…and above all, another Scar, would eventually heal, and Fade away.”

This candid and inspirational hub speaks to one of my very favorite words: Possibilities. :-)


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BobbiRant 4 years ago from New York

Unfortunately, with life, come all the scars. I'm not sure I'd have it any other way though. Delightful read, loved it.

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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

You usually write such clever and witty hubs, I was getting ready to have a good laugh, instead, I found myself engulfed in your words. It made me realize that we all went through a phase, we all survived, we all want the same things in life happiness, love, family, a home. Oh the scars are there but over time, they fade away. I loved your look back in time. Thank you for a meaningful read..Cheers

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Frank, It's funny how the mind of us Writers work...I was in a Good Mood when I wrote this Hub, and yet when I did my Humorous one, "Shopping Anyone"? I was kinda down...go figure... I guess the words just needed to be said by me.

Thanks for your Comment, and of course your Vote.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Sunshine, I'm sure at times as Writers, You and I and definitely on the Same wavy lengths...Ah, even as Women. Yes, We do have very "Creative Minds"! Thanks so much for your Comments.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Joyce, Thank You! MY mind was coming from such a different place as I wrote this Hub...and of course a Humble Thank YOU for your Votes.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Curiad, Thank You. My Thoughts were running Wild...

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Jackie, Wow, very Profound Thoughts, Girlfriend, Thank You.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Billy, a lot of my Earlier Hubs had Messages...My mood was mixed, when I wrote this...But lately with all that's going on in our Country, I needed to Express my Thoughts. I'll be back to Humor, it's the Best Medicine.

Thanks so much for your Wonderful Comments and your Thoughts, and Compliments. Always Appreciated.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hey Dexter, Good...Too many people can Interfere,and Clog our Minds, and Writers don't need that. Thanks for your Comments.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Xstatic, Thank You. Ah, a New Day is Tomorrow, so let the old day go...and Enjoy Tomorrow!

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Mckb. Loved your Comments. So Let's Enjoy each Day and NOT worry about Tomorrow... or even NEXT WEEK!

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Cleaner, It's really made US what We are today...I'd like to think, a Better, as well as a Good Person, most of the time! You've left some Wonderful Comments and Thoughts, for the rest to appreciate! Thank You!

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Josh, Thanks for your Thoughts and Comments, Always appreciated.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

I Mhatter, Those 12 people are what makes LIFE so Interesting! Thanks for your Thoughts!

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Vespawoolf, My Writers Mind needed to Express my Thoughts on "Scars"...and how they affect one's life.

Thanks for your Comments and of course your Vote.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Jools, About the Divorce, it hurt that she had already divorced us, why we couldn't remain Both their Friends, I didn't understand then...But now I do, to a degree...Your Story was Interesting too, and all too Common...Such is LIFE! Thanks for all you had to say!

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Ribatty, Interesting Comments. Actually each Generation has it's Flaws...and they had theirs...For along the way they produced, the "ME" Generation...Instant Gratification Group... But what we, as a Country are going through now will Test History.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Breakfastpops, That certainly sums it all up nicely..."That's Life"...and along the way we Scar, Heal, and Learn.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Faithful Daughter, I like your thoughts, "We, must keep moving on, and make New Memories, as we take life's path." Thanks for bringing them into the Comments to share.

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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

What a stream of thoughts about life in general! Few people get out of this life alive without some battle scars of one sort or another but if worn correctly, they make us stronger, more understanding, more empathetic and hopefully more caring towards our fellow man. Oh...and those kids DO seem cuter, smarter...and the rest. :)) Well stated. Voted up and interesting.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Wow, Drbj, Thank YOU! And I Love Hemingway. Someday, I want to stand in front of his home in the Keys, and just say a silent prayer of Thanks, for his Contributions, to the World...and US Writers!

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Teacher, How True, how true. Thanks for your Thoughts, and Compliments.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Genna, Thank You! Great Thought too...Possibilities...Make they Always Exists!

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Bobbi, True...but some I could have done without! Life is definitely a Learning Experience...We Fall down, we Scar, it Fades, and We go on! Thanks for Enjoying and Commenting.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Ruby, next time I'll leave you Smiling...But I am touched by your Wonderful Comments, as another Lady who has Healed from her "Scars" to become a Wonderful Writer, and Hub Friend!

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Peggy, Lot of Good Comments there. Thanks for all your Thoughts, especially Scars make us Stronger... They are quite a Learning Experience, one we can pass on to the next Generation, who of course, will still have their own Scars to deal with...and so the Beat goes on!

Thanks for your Votes as well!

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arb 4 years ago from oregon

A wonderful hub b. Scars are our badges of honor. Somewhat like a battled veteran returning home. His ribbons whisper "I survived and I am here to meet another day". Of course, if we wore our scars on the outside, we wouldn't be much to look at.

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AliciaC 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

This is a very interesting piece of writing, Barbara. I'll be reading it several times and thinking about all your thoughts. Thank you very much for sharing them, and for the "small thought" at the end.

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Becky Katz 4 years ago from Hereford, AZ

Beautifully expressed thought about life. I always say that the rough times are the learning periods. We learn so much about life and how to cope when we are having problems. We also learn what is really important to us instead of the superficial garbage that we think is important when times are good. Very nice hub.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Loved your Thoughts Arb, so true, so true. I so glad you Enjoyed my words as well. Thanks for all your Comments, always, appreciated.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Alicia, Why Thank You. I know I usually write things to make Everyone Smile, but Sometimes, I need to Express other feelings that dance around in my head, needing to be said.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Becky, I think, no matter how OLD we get, we are still learning about Life...And maybe that's a Good thing, minus the "Scars" of course! Age also helps us define what's Important. Loved your Comments...and thanks for reading!

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toknowinfo 4 years ago

This was a very thought provoking read. As the years pile on, our naiveness fades. Yet we continue to seek happiness, in between the things that happen to us, the things that people do to us, and the things we bear witness to. Well done hub.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Thank God for Happiness...Hi Toknowinfo, I Loved your Comments, Thought Provoking as well...Great Comments. Thanks for the Compliment as well.

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Rosemay50 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

It is not often we see your serious side and this reminds us that although some may appear to be happy and content this is not always so. Most of us are carrying scars and are very good at hiding them. But we do survive, we are strong and scars fade and we learn to live life and to laugh again.

A wonderful message of hope Barbara.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

How strange is this thing we call life...the changes we see in our own lifetime among family and friends has such a direct impact on us. You have written a thought provoking piece that strikes a bit of fear in the heart for the times we lose those we love through no fault of our own and live through changes we can't control.

Voted up and interesting.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Tillsontitan, I liked your Thoughts and Comments on Life...which is so unpredictable...But what choice have we? And so we become Survivors, of all it's pit falls, and Hopefully, Happiness as well.

Thanks so much for your Votes.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Rosemay, you are very Preceptive...I usually Hide my "Scar" side, through my Humor, but yes, it's there...and I deal with it. I Enjoy making others Happy, and if I Succeed, I'm Glad. Thanks for all your Wonderful, and Heartfelt Comments.

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thelyricwriter 4 years ago from West Virginia

Voted this up, useful, and awesome! This was genius B Malin. I would think that once the emotions came, the words just began to flow. It really is an emotional piece, especially for one that has such a strong personality and always sees the humor in the worst. I loved it. Shows a different aspect of you B. Just remined me of how awesome your writing is. Great job and inspirational! When someone says this was "deep", this is the exact definition of deep. Brilliant!

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Lyric, Thanks, I didn't want to come across too Heavy, but yes, you are so Right...I Loved your Thoughts and Comments, you are truly a Wonderful Hub, Writer, Friend. I am truly touched.

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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

b. Malin,

I loved alternative narrative in this piece of writing. Your writing reminds me of Gabriel Garcia Marquez.

This is so beautiful.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Thank You so much for the Compliment Vinaya. I am truly Touched, and I feel so Honored by your Comments.

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eddy4me 4 years ago from Wales.

Sad but true and so beautifully written.

Take care and enjoy your weekend.


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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Thanks Eddy, I'm so Glad You're Back...Missed you, and will be by to once again, read, and Enjoy your Hubs!

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epigramman 4 years ago

...a very evocative title here my friend followed by more of that personal unique style of writing which truly makes you one of the greats here during my time at the Hub - and destined to be a future hall of famer - sending you warm wishes and good energy from lake erie time ontario canada at 1:01am and just where the heck did summer go - it's September again and thinking of you heading down south for another winter ........always so wonderful to connect with you and send these good thoughts

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Colin, Always Wonderful to hear from you. Actually I haven't been Hubbing for awhile because we are down in Florida taking care of Business. The condo looks Great, lots of Love, Sweat & Tears into making it our own. Going back to NJ after Sept. 10th and will come back to Florida after Thanksgiving. Hopefully, inbetween I'll get some Hub Writing done!

Thanks for all your Heartwarming Comments.

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Happyboomernurse 4 years ago from South Carolina

This was quite different from your witty, entertaining hubs, but I really liked it.

Sad, but held universal truths and was very reflective of what's going on in our generation and in America today.

I've missed you on HP but I see from your comment to Colin that you're back down in FL and headed back to NJ next week. Hope you do get some hub writing done while you're in Jersey.

Voted up, awesome and interesting.

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b. Malin 4 years ago Author

Hi Gail, I haven't been able to write ANYTHING while down in Florida. We have been working in the "Condo with the View"...and now, weeks later, it is beginning to look like HOME. Heading back to NJ next Tues. Hopefully, I will start writing again.

Thanks for stopping by, and of course your Comments.

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