Tears For Dire Straits

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When someone you love

Is in dire straits

You want to reach out

With warming comfort.

You know that if you could

Wave a magic wand

To dissolve tears and bring a rose,

You gladly would.


You feel his - or her

Distress and fear

As it awaits

Some resolution

Not yours to give.

If only you could bring roses

And do something more

Than shed a tear.


Yet you must know

That caring so,

Even when apart,

Is helping too.

It reaches out a rose

Across the miles, - a bloom,

To touch, to soothe

The aching heart.


EnCOURAGEment is a gift.

Just knowing someone's there,

Feeling someone's care

Renews the person's spirit

To face the obstacle,

To rise up against it,

To trace it, face it, shear it

Down to size


So dry your eyes

And send some smiles

Wrapped up in courage

That she might seek

And find her strokes

Around, through or over

A sea of trouble that reposes

And gapes before her.


For it is the unknown fear

Which freezes her.

It is not inertia there.

So tweak her hope

And light her fire

Her strength inspire

To dry her every tear.

That will restore her

Hopes and roses.


______© Nellieanna H. Hay

Feb. 9, 2014

Diana Krall - Narrow Daylight



Poetry -

The shortest

Route

From here

To there!


______© Nellieanna H. Hay

fall, 1971

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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas

Beautiful words, Nellieanna. Comforting - just as you are. :) Hugs.


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Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

Oh, Dearest Nellieanna, these are such beautiful words of wisdom to comfort those we love in their times of woe! Superb piece precious heart. Your sketch is amazing and so perfect here.

For one to write a piece such as this, one truly must know how to love deep from within one's heart.

Up and more and sharing.

Hugs and much love,

Faith Reaper


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marcoujor 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Oh sweet Nellieanna,

Knowing that someone like you cares, has to make all the difference to your friend...you are beautiful and so is this.

You have selected the perfect Diana Krall accompaniment. Hugs, Maria


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mylindaelliott 2 years ago from Louisiana

Lovely poetry, encouragement from another person is so wonderful. It's hard to find people that are good at that.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Shan, thank you, m’dear. I’d like to be more able to be comforting at times. It really isn’t always easy to know just what is needed, but we know it’s mostly the caring and the communicating of it, don’t we? Sometimes we have to be reminded that is what is most needed when we want so much to ‘fix’ it, but, of course, we cannot. Thanks for being my first visitor here! Hugs.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear Faith, they are words that I had to write. They woke me up this morning so I grabbed my cell phone and wrote the first draft on it while still in bed. I even visualized the stream of tears then.

It really is a challenge to give someone the right comfort, but, then, we are each other’s earthly comforters, anyway. But I suspect that sometimes that’s how it’s given, through us to each other. Sometimes the comfort is in letting the other know one cares and then just encouraging him or her to work it through; then getting out of the way so they can, but not so far out of the way they can’t call on us again if needed.

Hugs.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Maria, dear, thank you so much for your kind words. You’re always so good at being a comforting friend. It’s the sharing that really speaks volumes.

I love that Diana Krall selection, too. It’s rather ‘off the more traveled road’ for her. I’ve had it saved a long while and it did seem to fit perfectly. Thanks for mentioning it.

Hugs.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear Mylinda, I’m so glad you like my poetry and the thought I wanted to express. It’s heart-felt and seemed to have to be written and shared. I believe that discouragement is the worst enemy, so encouragement is the best help for it. I don’t think one can find people who care. They just come along, often in the most unexpected guises.

I appreciate your visit and comments!


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Jodah 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

Beautiful and touching poetry Nellieanna. Not much more I can add, wonderful as always.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you, dear John. Not much more I can say, either. It's simply heartfelt. Hugs.


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida

Nellieanna, this is so beautiful. I love the teardrops running down the page culminating in a beautiful rose. Very creative!


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you, Shauna. That was a big part of my inspiration for this, thinking how positive can be born of negatives. Even the tears themselves can be beneficial in many ways. They truly can clear out the cobwebs and water the joy! They're good for the eyes, too! In fact, without those more 'down' times, one couldn't visualize and appreciate the 'ups'. Remember when Lucy in 'Peanuts' declared she wanted all ups and no downs? Not realistic! ;-)

It's best to not get stuck in the crying, though. That can be what friends are for: ~ to help remind one to turn them into smiles and roses. A good friend will help one keep in mind that seeing the positives may not necessarily resolve the problem. But it does benefit the perspective so that one is more alert to and aware of solutions and has a happier attitude while working them out. That is a major help in it.

I'm a realistic optimist and an optimistic realist. Accurately recognizing the real problem is the most vital step in resolving it, but negativity is a major block and hindrance. All things are possible!

Hugs, my friend.


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Storytellersrus 2 years ago from Stepping past clutter

Nelleanna, I feel this way about my mom and stepdad- it's tough growing old. So I relate to the sentiment.

I love the second poem- poetry is a tesseract.


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MartieCoetser 2 years ago from South Africa

Knowing that others empathise with us and wishing us only the best, is a powerful source of strength, courage and endurance. It is however an art to stay independent and to not become a parasite feeding on those who have the ability to support and encourage others via the right words at the right time.

Nellieanna, you are one of my pillars of strength, a solid role model, and I hope with all my heart that my love and respect for you, and my best wishes, are also sources of strength and endurance for you.

Beautiful poem! Every word perfectly strung into neclace with mistereous power.


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Monis Mas 2 years ago

As always you drew us a lovely picture :-)


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Genna East 2 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

“EnCOURAGEment is a gift.” This beautiful poem is so like the rose…its sweet fragrance and color linger, silent, between the leaves of both yesterday and tomorrow. Such wisdom and comfort stem from a deeply compassionate heart. Stunning poetry, dear Nellieanna. :-) Hugs.


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AliciaC 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

The poem and the illustrations are beautiful, Nellieanna. What a lovely depiction of helping someone else in trouble! The imagery is wonderful.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hello, Storyteller, - Barbara. I’ve just been visiting your hub site and enjoying it. Sorry to hear your mom and stepdad may be having aging issues. It does happen.

I love your metaphor of a tesseract for poetry’s form. Most original!


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Martie, dear heart. Of course, keeping one’s independence is vital and I feel it’s also the duty and part of the kindness of a caring, encouraging person to emphasize that the person receiving it isn’t being cast as helpless or dependent. That is the opposite of real help overall. During moments of very tender feelings, it is important to help soothe those, but then to encourage rebuilding of the person’s own power is probably the most essential part of the kindness. Empathy is letting others know one has been there too and understands how it feels. Then to focus on how it is lived through and given more depth and dimension to a person is the light at the end of a tunnel that can be pointed out. So it’s a shared value.

One must be sensitive to where the person is, though. There are moments when it’s painful to be cheered up beyond the capability to feel cheery right then. But positivity has many forms and not just cheerfulness. Tenacity is a part of it, too.

Yes, of course, your love and respect are a great source of my own sense of capability and power over adversities. That’s part of what I was trying to say. It is a shared experience to be friends!

This has been a heart-touching day. My good friend, Val’s husband’s funeral was midday and was a truly beautiful service, full of celebration of his life. He was 93.

So very glad you liked this presentation. Hugs.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hello, dear Aga. Thank you. I’m glad you’ve enjoyed it! It always pleases me to see you’ve dropped by! Hugs.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear Genna, thank you. In the writing, it was a deeply felt poem and hub, and very much of the present, immediate. As I mentioned in a prior comment, it woke me up so I had to grab my cellphone and write the beginning of the poem while still in bed, and was even thinking of the illustrations.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear AliciaC, I appreciate your visit and have enjoyed reading a couple of your hubs this evening.

Helping someone is not always the simple act of satisfying one’s urge to be kind and to express caring, though that is its impetus. To be really helpful, it can need a delicate balance, so as to not only comfort but also to encourage, not to weaken but to strengthen, while still being kind and caring of the person's welfare. Otherwise, one's help could be more damaging to the person than the problems needing it. I’m pleased if that is part of what my poem depicts. Thank you!


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Vellur 2 years ago from Dubai

Beautiful poem, comforting and filled with warmth. A comforting hug, kind words and a big smile will definitely help, great write.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear Vellur (or would you prefer to be called Nithya? It’s a lovely name.) - thank you for those kind comments and a hug for you!


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BlossomSB 2 years ago from Victoria, Australia

From deep sadness to hopes and roses. Beautiful poem.


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York

How beautiful, "a rose across the miles". Hopefully our faith and good wishes can accomplish that lovely act.

Voted up, awesome, and beautiful.


Jane Arden 2 years ago

Awe, that was beautiful and the picture is awesome.


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JayeWisdom 2 years ago from Deep South, USA

Nellieanna - I'm glad the impetus for this beautiful poem came to you upon wakening--to the extent that you felt impelled to write it even before you got out of bed. Every line is filled with your inherent wisdom and kindness.

Sometimes it's difficult to know how to comfort or strengthen a friend during times of trouble, and we may worry that we can't find "just the right words" to say. From personal experience I believe that knowing a friend cares and is there for you if needed is sufficient. It's much better to offer comfort and hope than to timidly hold back for fear of being intrusive. Unhappy times are when we really need true friends...and are so glad to have them to "...strength inspire."

Voted Up, Awesome, Beautiful and shared

Jaye


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Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago

Nellianna, words alone can't express how beautiful this is, I love the tear drops. I love how you did this whole picture, that looks so deeply into the hurt and heart of another, and expresses that pain.

Voted Up, Awesome, Beautiful and shared

Shyron


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AudreyHowitt 2 years ago from California

Beautiful Nellianna--and you are right--poetry is the most direst route to the heart--


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Blond Logic 2 years ago from Brazil

I think we have all known someone who was in dire straits and also possibly we have been.

Sometimes we can feel so helpless to do anything and yet, maybe we are doing more than we know.

Beautiful.

The graphics were perfect for this piece.


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jhamann 2 years ago from Reno NV

We need more supportive loving people to help those in need not only get the help they need but to realize that people are generally good. Jamie


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Gypsy Rose Lee 2 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and awesome. Just wonderful Nell. Enjoyed and passing this on. Wonderful pictures and music.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Blossom, thank you. Yes, that is the message. From the negative can come the positive. From the dark can come the light. I’m glad it comes through.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Mary, you’ve brought a smile to my face. It is hopeful that one can reach out to another and offer something of hope and value. I think we’ve all been on both sides of that situation, and we can understand it from both perspectives. But when it's needed, thinking isn't the main focus. Feeling is, and we just hope it comes across well.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Jane, thank you. I hadn’t met you before, so I’ve visited your very impressive hub site and followed you. I’m glad you found me and am so pleased that you liked what your found!


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Jaye, dear friend. Yes, that was a good experience; - not the first time I’ve grabbed my iPhone from bed to jot down some fleeting thought, but the first time so demanding as to keep me there, writing in that awkward position on that tiny screen with sleepy eyes! haha. It just poured forth; no stopping it.

It is difficult to know what to offer another. One’s own impulse may relate more to one’s own feelings than to those of the other person. So it can easily be best to let the other person set the tone and direction, as one just listens to show caring and willingness to share the person's feelings or even complaints. When it comes right down to it, one can never fully know and share in the specific anguish or challenge another is facing and feeling. But we can know what it is like to face dire conditions ourselves, and so, to offer our care about it for the person.

The tricky part is measuring how & when to offer practical encouragement without setting off other negative effects, if it's not well measured and timely placed.

So when one cares, one must rely on that caring and sensitivity. It certainly isn’t helpful to hold back one’s concern and comfort, as you say, for fear of erring one way or the other.

Thank you for your perceptive comments and votes, too.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Shyron, thank you so much for visiting my hub and appreciating it. The votes are great, too. I’ve visited your hub site and enjoyed one of your hubs, since I hadn’t known you before! So it's a joy to meet!


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Ah, yes, Audrey. Of all verbal connections, surely poetry is the one that goes from heart to heart! I’ve felt that specialness over the years of writing it and sometimes sharing it. Thank you!


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Blond Logic, - oh, yes. We’ve all had the experience of knowing someone or being the someone in need of caring. I’ve been on both sides, for sure; even once when I truly desperately needed a friend and confided in one I mistakenly thought was a friend. At least it taught me to look for the friend within myself. But when someone else feels one’s distress and cares enough to 'be there' it's such a big boost, and even helps to inspire one’s own self-reliance.

Still, it may be harder to give that support than to need it, at times, especially knowing personally how it can feel from both sides.

Humans are connected, though and need that connection. It is always worth reaching out with it - or taking it.

Thank you for your visit and comments.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Jamie - that is such a valuable observation! I'm glad you brought it up. Demonstrating and knowing that people are good-hearted is a major part of giving and receiving help when the situation needs it, either physically or more spiritually, or as often happens, some of both. Thank you!


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hi, Rasma! Love seeing you here. Hugs! Glad you like it! Thank you!


Vincent Moore 2 years ago

What greater gift than to give of ourselves to another human being in need. I've often felt encouraged by others and more often than not total strangers, family seem to be the last to encourage, why is that? Like my 3 books of published poetry, I receive many compliments and accolades from friends and strangers, yet not a word gifted to me from family who have them. I believe in helping and encouraging others as you do dear poet. You said it all in your wonderful poetry laid before us here. Hugs


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear sweet Vincent ~ I suppose there is no blood-relationship qualifier in the thing called empathy or the thing called encouragement. I seems to come in all shapes, sizes, ages, genders, and even species. A pet’s look of total acceptance and understanding is something many humans could do well to try to absorb and develop.

Another fine-tuned aspect is knowing that one need not be either perfect or in total agreement with another person in order to give and receive, - to share in each other's joy or anguish, success or defeat & to offer it without restraint as needed. That crystalline moment of unconditional acceptance and giving of one’s support for whatever has befallen and also the sharing of one’s hopes for more of the good stuff and less of bad for another person is kind of universal, needs no explanation or introduction, especially if it’s like that of a pet who just ‘knows’ we need it and gives it without restraint, no questions asked or checklist required.

My own conviction is that one must learn to give oneself that kind of empathy, caring, understanding and support before one can fully offer it to anyone else in an unreserved, almost effortless way that really cuts through the clouds and doubts that sometime can block incoming caring and support when the giver’s center is not in balance. Like kids and pets, people sense when it’s genuine and uncontrived. An effort to care can still be helpful and appreciated, but fully effective caring is that which is without self-consciousness or concern with anything but the present need or hope of the person. It’s a bit hard to learn when and what is ‘enough’ — as Confucius say, “Wise person know when it is enough.” It’s easy to start ‘meddling’ rather than helping, but a good heart learns when it is enough and a recipient’s good heart is forgiving.

Thank you for this visit - wow - two at one time! I’ve hit the jackpot! :-)


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Anna Haven 2 years ago from Scotland

Beautifully presented as always. Your words are so true, you would give anything to ease their pain, but there is nothing you can do, except to be there through the hurt.

Poignant and beautiful.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you, Anna, both for your visit and you lovely comments.

Yes, sadly, for the most part, the sadness and pain others feel are their own inner states of mind and of being, which only they have the prerogative and ability to change. One might encourage them to seek a sensible remedy for physical pain & to develop happier feelings about what hurts, but the doing of any of that must initiate and happen in the person himself or herself because he/she believes it will change the pain and hurt. In they are alone in the midst of experiencing those, it's not so easy to lift up the spirits enough to start to do what will actually help change things for them.

But thankfully, when someone else feels our sincere caring and genuine desire to try to help, it can give hope & help uplift their focus and encourage their own resetting of inner shadows & gloom.

There is a reality in transference of feelings between people, I think. It's such a privilege when one can transfer some positive ones where needed! Being there itself through someone's hurt and anguish says so much about the positive feelings and empathy which prompt us to offer and the other person to receive!!


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aviannovice 2 years ago from Stillwater, OK

This is so well said, and surely would ease the concern for a dear friend.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hello, Deb -

Thank you. Your words say it - ‘easing the concern’ is what can try to do for friend.

By the way, I thought of you when someone sent me this u-tube link for Birds of Paradise. It’s really amazing. If you’ve not already seen it, you might enjoy it. http://youtu.be/REP4S0uqEOc


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jozo matic 2 years ago from Split

awesome,awesome and awesome.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you, Jozo, and I'm pleased that your hub is back in place! I was a bit concerned! :-)


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Jai Warren 2 years ago from Dallas, Deep Ellum, Texas

Knowing that someone's there who cares makes the dire straits not so dire. Even though sometime we feel we're fighting the battle alone, you have to realize, there are always loving people in your life... Thank goodness.


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ahorseback 2 years ago

Well dear , here I am late to the party , but not too late to pass out free hugs I hope , want yours Nellieanna ?.............Please accept it and you'll never be sorry !........Ed


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hello,Jai! (Do you pronounce it with the “J” or the “H” sound? It’s pleasant either way.

It’s been awhile since I’ve seen you, so I took a peek at your Hubsite (and even one of your answers to a hubber question - hope you're staying warm enough in this frigid weather that keeps us bundling up and peeling off) - to refresh my memory of you.

I’ll have been on HP 4 years later in March. So we go back here a similar duration and both are Dallasites. I enjoyed reading your profile & I see some hubs I must read, as well. I think we share some interests!

Thank you for the visit to this one of mine. I can’t agree more that knowing there is someone who cares makes a difference in one’s experience of dire straits. Also I have to add (& agree) that one is never alone, especially if one has made friends with him/herself. It's sort of like a 'starter seed' which seems to open the entryway to one’s heart for others to want to care & share.

We all have our life challenges for good reasons, I think: to balance our pleasures, keep our feet on the ground even as our delights soar, & to keep us thankful for all of life, pleasures, challenges & all, especially for friends!

I like your positive attitude! Thank you for sharing it!


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hello, dear Ed. Let me assure you, I don’t abide by a schedule for timing of visits and I’m not a bit fussy about late arrivals. ANYtime you come by my little hubstablishment is a happy time! It is NEVER too late for hugs, so bring ‘em on! I know I shan’t be sorry! Hugs back, my friend and thank you!

I’m looking forward to getting back in the swing of things better myself. It’s been a year so far rather crowded with other demands. But I feel deprived when I miss out on your writings and thoughts, and those of many others. But I've learned to forgive - or at least to tolerate - my limitations. hehe. ;-)


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ahorseback 2 years ago

Nellieanna , You my dear are soo lovable !........Ed


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you, dear Ed! I know a consensus would join with me in saying, "Look who talks!" You are beloved!


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mckbirdbks 2 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

I sensed this work was getting lonely and rushed right over. Beautiful Nellianna


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Oh, Mike, you’re so good. Thank you! Hugs!

It just occurred to me. Emerald Wells is very similar to a real Texas town’s name, one in which my brother used to live. Have you ever heard of S-Tec? He was one of its original founders. (This will have meaning for you only if I'm right about the town. )


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mckbirdbks 2 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Hello Nellieanna, I am afraid every word of Emerald Wells was fiction. O looked up S-Tec, so know now of Mineral Wells. Glad you are well and see that your followers are growing.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hi, Mike. I’ve always accepted Emerald Wells as your fictional location. But it just occurred to me from your profile description, “Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas”, - how well that fits Mineral Wells, which certainly is just off the crossroads in NW Texas. haha.

My brother died in 1990, well before Google, almost before popular internet use. I hadn’t looked up the company for a number of years, so after you mentioned looking up S-Tec, so went and looked for it, too, to see what you may have found. I discovered that there are several uses of that corporate name. The S-Tex Corporation one from Mineral Wells designs/manufactures retrofit autopilots & parts. My brother and the other 4 original founders had worked at Edo-Aire-Mitchell, where my brother had been a designer of autopilots and the others were in other administrative departments. With a better idea, they left that company to set about founding S-Tec in post-war abandoned Ft. Wolters Helicopter Base buildings & grounds at Mineral Wells in the late 1960s or early 70s. My brother designed & built their original prototype autopilot and served as the company’s treasurer. The company rose to being a leader in the autopilot field Now I see that S-Tec was sold to a British company for $38 million, so the original five obviously came up with a good thing. How my brother would have liked that!


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mckbirdbks 2 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Nellieanna, without trying to sound factitious it sounds like your brother had a wonderful life. It sounds like it was full of wonder and accomplishments. The era and location offer a world of imagination and opportunity. I certainly hope he reaped some of the rewards for his inventiveness and labors. Your family is so rich in history.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you for that comment, Mike. Yes, he did have a most interesting life. He was 10 when I was born, and was my champion 'bruvver', carrying me piggy-back; bringing me dessert when I'd been banished without any; yelling at me when I interfered with his teenage affairs, his prize marble collection or his model airplanes and homemade radio in the basement; even trying to take me with him when he set out to run away from the ranch on foot when I was an infant, pulling me along in his red wagon, with a stack of diapers and bottles of formula. That curtailed the escape effort, as Mother knew it would when she suggested he'd miss me if he ran off, and brought him back even quicker than it might otherwise have been curtailed. He published a newspaper in high school (and did it again in college) criticizing the school officials which earned him in very 'dire straits' and got him thrown out for a time, each incident. It was an impressive newspaper, too!

He was the youngest of my three siblings, and the only boy among us, so much was expected of him, and it was not necessarily in the direction of his main interests and talents, but he gave it a 'college try' and then some. He was expected to become a rancher and take over where Dad left off in that pursuit. After he returned from the South Pacific in WWII service, he tried to be a rancher as expected for 10 years (during a major 7-year record drought). It had never been his first choice, and was an especially difficult time for it. So, though he had a degree in agriculture from Texas A&M. he packed up his family and left the ranch (breaking Dad's heart) to go back to A&M to earn both a BS and a MS in Mechanical Engineering and then, to set out on a whole 'other' career path. Yes, he did reap major rewards in the paths he followed.

Yes, it is a family of rich history, including some frictions. But that 'goes -with' family, perhaps. There are no perfect families. After all is said and done, we love 'em, are proud of them and miss them enormously! ;-)


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brakel2 2 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

Hi Nelllieanna I decided to pop by for a visit and found this wonderful poem. I know what you mean about wanting someone to know you care. You have found a way through your poetry to express your love and compassion. The face with the tears impressed me. They express everything. When I have had a bad day, helping someone takes away all my troubles. You have helped so many people with your poetry, you are blessed in return. Sharing this poem of compassion. Blessings Audrey


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hello, Audrey. Thank you for popping by for a visit! Yes, it can be almost excruciating to want to demonstrate one’s caring and sometimes, finding it nearly impossible, especially when it comes to being able to DO much to help, other than simply caring.

You’ve pointed out one of the benefits in helping someone with his or her problems or pressures: - being that it seems to minimize one’s own in the process.

Sometimes I do think that my poetry may be my better effort to help, probably because it’s so from my heart and expresses in simple heart-felt terms the kinds of things which confront many others.

Thank you for your lovely comments.


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas

I'm glad the notifications just alerted me to activity on this hub. It sort of fits with the one I just published. But mostly - I don't think I ever told you how much this poem truly moves me. It causes me to empathize with your empathizing. You are beautiful with a heart even more so, but don't let the pain of others overwhelm you, at least not for very long. Hugs.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you, Shan. Nice of you to comfort me. Hugs.


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas

If it comforts at all, I'm glad, especially when the real urge is to hug or squeeze a hand and simply sit in silence.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Silence is golden.


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas

In situations of comfort, it is. Other times it is more of a punishment.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

What is a situation of experiencing comfort or punishment for one involved person may be the reverse for the other. Punishment may not even be part of a person's repertoire, while it is for the other person. Numerous subjective interpretations play key roles. Kindness and respect involve granting others 'benefit of doubt' and realizing that different perspectives prompt each person, oneself and the other.

There may be countless other unrelated, unknown factors at work on each person’s environment and responses, as well.


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas

True, which is why I meant to say it can be like punishment. Though children (and I suppose some adults) do enjoy playing "the silent game" as a means of inflicting pain upon friends they feel have wronged them. I watch it unfold that way often and have since learned one of the possible reasons is that the parents of the children doing it the most are teaching their children that sometimes it is too late for apologies. While this may be true, instilling lessons like that make it harder to learn when to quickly forgive and harder to learn any part of the "benefit of the doubt" concept of which I feel empathy is a big part. At least in my opinion it makes it harder. Plus, I think that not accepting or acknowledging sincere apologies is pointless. It's a sign of holding grudges that hurt the person holding it more than the one it is against. Anger and resentment are poison to a soul. So I'd rather teach forgiveness first even if there are possible instances in which an apology is too little too late. A child is not likely to experience situations such as those among their friends. Besides, I think it is rarely necessary not to accept one. A child being punished, for instance, may still apologize for whatever the offense was and to have it acknowledged and accepted yet still have to accept the consequence of the action.


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas

Anyway. . . the point I really want to make has nothing to do with the children that prompted me to make that comment. This poem just speaks to me is all and makes me feel enough to write a reply to it.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Glad my poem could arouse your feelings, Shan.

Yes, some people use withholding themselves in various ways as punishment or to ‘teach lessons’.

Even if that were to be their motivations, though, it’s rather absurd to dwell on them, which is one sure way of giving them what they seek, which you name as 'enjoying it'.

But since one person can never know someone else’s motives (except by their own response to them) it’s all the more absurd to dwell on one’s subjective interpretation of whatever they may be, thereby adding power & momentum to them, whether or not they are what someone else hoped to accomplish.

I think of someone I knew who actually boasted that she disciplined her cat by ignoring it. The wise old cat paid no attention. Any effects were all harbored within the person trying to do it and wasted on the cat. People would be wise to do the same if someone is attempting to manipulate them. We bring a lot of ‘punishment’ on ourselves by receiving it as such.

“Whatever happens around you, don't take it personally... Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.” ― Miguel Ruiz, "The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom"


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shanmarie 2 years ago from Texas

Any tips on how to get an extremely sensitive 7-year-old to understand that concept? She comes inside in tears every time they do that to her. They always end up making up, but I wish she didn't take it so personally to begin with.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

It probably takes a lot of one-on-one, close, sensitive work with her. It is encouraging that the kids make up later, but she eventually will need to figure it out that what “they” do and say is not a reflection of her and they are neither her burden nor responsibility, and that who she IS will be demonstrated by herself, not others, whose opinions are as fickle as the wind and only describe who they are, not who she is. Asuure her that she will have more fun finding her own self and not wasting time fretting over stuff she can’t control and which would not help her a whit, even if she could. Of course, it has to be brought to her level of understanding. That’s where you as a parent can get creative - while teaching her to be creative and original! And I realize that is what you asked about, not just more of the principles. haha.

Perhaps lightening it by turning it into something of a little fun game which relieves it of some of the seriousness while putting her in the driver's seat, - maybe something such as asking her (and telling her to ask herself), - “Who is /was it saying and doing these unkind things? Do they fit you? NO? --Then who do they fit? Don't they fit the kids saying them? YES! -- Are you saying or doing them? NO! -- Then is it someone else? YES? -- Then what does it have to do with me? NOTHING! -- It is about that person talking and acting mean. It’s not about me. It has nothing to do with me. I just feel sorry for them being like that. I'll be kind to them.”

Also, I saw this very good article about this subject which has good background food-for-thought for any parent wanting to help a child in dealing with bullying and other unkind behavior from others, children or grownups. Seems worth looking at, since it's written by someone who works more closely than I with such incidences and has first-hand knowledge and experience with it.

http://toltecparenting.blogspot.com/2011/05/breaki...

Finally, you'll have many years to help her with it, and it's not too likely to be fatal for her meantime, especially if you're working with her all along.


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

I am impressed by your work Nellieanna and what even fascinates me more is your ability to keep writing and being strong and courageous. Knowing how to use technology at your age is awesome. In my culture many folks from in their 50's or so can hardly use a smart phone or computer well they think the techy stuff is for the youths. That's so wrong but i can understand they are from a different era..... but you did not let that stop you :)

GREAT WORK , love how you did the tears pic.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Dear LadyFiddler ~ Thank you! I like you so much!

You’ve figured me right. I am strong and courageous. At 82, I’m independent and completely my own ‘caregiver’. Of course I appreciate & welcome ‘help’ in areas in which it’s needed, but, honestly, my day-to-day living seldom has need of it. I drive, am active, take no meds and see my doctors only annually for checkups. In my larger life - a distant, remote ranch I own 500 miles away from where I live, I do have help for which I'm eternally grateful. But I'm involved it it, too, which is another dimension keeping my life from growing stale! My late husband & I literally built a cabin on it when I was in my 60s and he was in his 70s.

To be honest, I’ve never understood why anyone has to give up on life just because a certain amount of more years have passed and are passing. If illnesses do beset, still one can go on with joy and optimism. So much is one’s attitude. And one’s countenance doesn’t have to frown. The best facelift is a smile! I'm sure that one's internal faith contributes.

Of course, staying healthy involves living healthily all along, or at least starting whenever one realizes its importance. I’ve been blessed most of my life to have had good parents with keen senses of nutrition, as it was then understood, and I’ve a keen personal sense of taking care of the ‘temple’ in which I was born. Of course, at times I’ve done better at it than at others and I’ve never been obsessed about it. It’s been just the way to live which suits me. Applying one's mind and being to living helps.

I wish I could encourage young folks to think about what they do to themselves or neglect to do for themselves in all departments, which will either benefit their whole beings or else will be found to need upgraded improvement for the ‘long haul’. When young, though, people tend to feel unassailable. It’s hoped that habits being developed will better support that sense of confidence, rather than justifiably assailing it, after all!

I do have a keen mind, though a bit timid about ‘performing’, so I might have started sooner with computer technology. (I didn't learn to drive tll I was 40!) But always being creative and skillful using equipment helped when I decided to give a computer a try in 1988, at age 55, when it soon became a love affair. Still, I wasn’t at all into the internet for a number of years more - didn’t think I’d want to be. Even in late 1996, when I obtained a laptop with internal capability, I didn’t intend to connect, and did so only in order to rush getting the PC registered before taking it on a trip. haha.

But then in early 1997, curiosity had me looking around in the net where I found much of interest. By that summer, I‘d decided I should try building a website, knowing 0 - zip - nada about it - nor even why it had value, except that a friend had made one to display his father’s art. Once I’d reserved a site address, I still didn’t feel a need to rush into it, until finding if I didn’t put something on my site, I’d lose the addy. haha. No way!

Not being good at giving up, I quickly looked into HTML. There were no ‘ready-made’ options. I wouldn’t have considered making a site using others’ creativity & so I launched into tentatively starting my site, which grew like topsy & is still in operation at http://nellieanna.com/directory.html. Being a private person, I’ve kept my Oasis rather non-public, even deliberately avoiding trying to get on search engines unless they just picked up on it, which of course, Google, then in its own infancy, did. So, age age 65, qualifying for Social Security, I also qualified myself as an active internet user & contributor. It was exhilarating! I didn't like the way clerks at computer stores assumed I knew little about it, either, so I've learned a lot about the actual technology. I seldom need help with my computer issues.

I joined Hubpages a little over 4 years ago, rather hesitantly, to please a friend who’d joined and thought I would benefit. I intended not to ‘do’ much here and definitely was NOT planning to share my huge collection of unpublished and almost unshared poetry of a lifetime.

But, though I felt a bit hindered by being unable to do my own html, instead having to conform to the HP pre-set templates, it was a challenge to give it a try. You know how HP is! I was embraced and encouraged by the wonderful Hubbers who came to me even before I’d published a word! I was amazed and soon ventured to write some hubs and before too long, was sharing poetry and enjoying the challenges of creating and designing my hubs somewhat 'my way' within the limits allowed by HP. It is so satisfying! The sharing and mutual exposure to each others’ writings and comments more than compensates for any little creative limitations.

Currently I’m a little less active on HP, - other things demanding more attention & time and a bit of carpal tunnel limited my hand-work, but I’ve published 244 hubs, 179 of which are mostly poetry. I love the interaction and am so happy to be here! It truly is a blessing.

Having read your profile, I feel sure you have a lot of similar impetus to stay involved and ever-seeking. That you’re learning violin is a real achievement!

Thanks again for visiting my hubs!


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Very interesting story a little bit of everything i am delighted to know so much an again is encouraged by your zeal and endurance. I am happy to know that you still keep active in other things, that God has given you long life , health and strength many people do not live to see half of what you have and if they do.

Bet your butt a dollar they will get some sort of sickness, isn't it sad. Hmm look at that when you started off on the computer in 1988 i was a baby that's the year i was born January 4th 1988. It's amazing to read your work and Hubpages is certainly a wonderful place to be its the best writing site that I've came across.

I am 26 yrs old but a different breed from most young people, I am reserved i do not party, drink etc . I am a christian striving to become a better person though i have my faults and mistakes. We should never get to lazy on our.... scratching it must always try to get out there and do something. The world is not waiting on us and people seldom share pity so we got to do things that will live on. Let people say he/she was a nice person etc. I am into a lot of things. God has blessed me with numerous talents i myself am amazed at some of the things i can do.

You keep taking care of yourself above all remembering your creator everyday and thanks so much for sharing so many of your lovely work here with us, we can sure learn something from a wise head.

For keeping in touch purposes you can save my email I will be delighted to hear from you. I always seem to be attached to older folks, i recently did an online course with an 82 yr old Ohio Lecturer. I like to see what my old people got :)

Email address : absonlinework@live.com be sure to indicate who you are

Thanks so much dearest


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

I came back, not expecting you'd have read my reply, which, I discovered has my website addy wrong, it seems. It takes one to my error page. I returned to delete it in the reply and fix it. But deleting now would mean deletion of the whole reply, so it will have to stay as is. Though my web site link is not essential, I'll try reposting it here, and hope it will not falter again. If it does, I can still delete it here. Still don't know why it faltered before. It looks right. http://nellieanna.com/directory.html (Ah- it works now.)

Anyway, that is trivial compared to hearing more about you! I have a great grandchild who is 19! haha. My 2 children are each approaching 60 and my eldest grandchild just turned 38! These are undeniable clues of age! I thought about that one day recently while doing my dishes.: "Hey, you - your kids are getting old. They're grandparents! What does that make YOU?" Not that I hadn't thought about it before but it 'hit' me, y'know?

It is sad to see so many young folks nearly throwing their lives away just when they could be setting them on a great voyage of life. That many of them will, indeed, succumb to bad illnesses which will further limit their access to a good life, is doubly sad. And habits of their lifetimes may prevent them from rallying.

But illness is no excuse to give up on living fully. What is sad is when the will and spirit to live fully get ‘ill’ or succumb to damages done by bad choices along the way. Even bad choices needn’t stop one, if one learns from them and switches gears. To me, ‘sin’ is all the things that damage oneself and others which could be avoided. Going back to early starts in one’s choices, they can usually be traced to making bad choices and then piling more bad choices on top of them. Forgiveness is mostly to help us erase our tendencies, dependencies and patterns of choices so we can set better ones in motion. We feel the ability in ouselves to change when we feel we can be forgiven - including forgiven by ourselves - to make the needed changes in how we respond to the challenges which will always beset us, as long as we breathe. Just breathing can even become a choice. I believe we are created to learn to make the best choices, as we’re created to do, unless we slip from our real natures into ‘the other ways’. The fact that those other ways are here and open to us suggests to me that we’re here to learn and to become all we’re meant to be.

Every time I feel strong in something and find myself capable, I give thanks. My prayers are mostly for those I care about, just knowing I don’t have to list all they may need, but remembering them. My prayers for myself involve telling myself “I can” and being thankful that I can! I needn’t try to remember my creator because - heck, it’s just how it is.

My parents were older, in their 40s when I was born. They died in the mid 1970s. My 3 siblings were considerably older than I, so I grew up among a houseful of adults, in which I was so much the ‘baby’ as to be relegated to the virtual silent corner. I tried to participate in discussions but couldn't compete with their enthusiastic grown voices. I found it more rewarding just to listen and then think it through for myself. haha. It gave me both a chance to listen and learn and to develop a kind of independent mind. I also had affinity for older folks when I was a kid, as you did and do. We lived far from most of my parents' kin, since they came to Texas from 'up north' to seek their fortune.

My eldest sister & all her family died in a horrible accident in 1953 when she was 35. My brother, also perished in an accident in 1990 when he was still only 68, and my other sister died at 92 in a rest home in 2010.

So now I’m the oldest folk I know, almost, with all my natal family members & my darling 10-year-older husband gone 6 years, there are only a couple of my friends a bit older than I, but not by much, and they’re not as active as I & aren’t into technology. Most folks my age are not very active nor very aware, actually. If I visited an old-folks home, sadly, most of those there who are still living would be younger than I am! I’m not too aware of age in people, but more in LIFE in them. Even many youngsters have only a shred of real life about them.

Speaking of Ohio, my son and his family live there. My daughter and her family are in Indiana. Since I’m in Texas, it’s a good thing for the internet so we can keep up with each other. Most of them are on FB, where I am, mostly because of them and my step kids on it.

Thank you for your email. I love emailing, but have to warn you that my time on it gets rather limited, with all my other involvements. I do tend to write on and on wherever I am, including ‘real life’, - obviously, and sometimes find that I just must limit it. My silly (carpal) wrist is no help. I type extremely fast, but it tires quickly, as well. My best treatment for the carpal proves to be to rest it a lot, which is not easy for me to discipline myself to do. But the repercussions otherwise keep me reminded!


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

LOL look at that you also type fast, what other hidden secrets you are capable of. Great stuff isn't it :) ~~ Smile. Sure i will indeed check out your link. Yes i remembered reading about your sisters death with her husband and kids etc on a train line or so i think yes it was indeed very sad. Sorry to hear about the death of your other siblings but that's how life is . We never know when we are gonna leave this world so we got to be ready to meet our God.

I have family living in Texas "Huston to be precise. Noel and Gloria Chandler with some of their children grands and great grands. I guess courage keeps us going from day to day we need it in this world that we are living in.

Yes i understand that you're a busy lady i am bearing that in mind my sweet new friend. I have church this evening so tomorrow please God i will engage in some of your writings :) Of course i have already rated you up on my smart phone .

Shalom and Peace be unto you now and forever

~~Love~~


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Of course, no one knows when and where death may take them. If we've lived well, we'll be ready to graduate into what awaits us. I don't claim to know exactly what or how that is. We're given clues but mostly we're given spiritual guidance for living here, so we don't have to 'know' all the details of 'then'. I feel that what of those details are given are pretty much as parents explain things to their own small children, in keeping with their ability to comprehend. Our mortal senses and awarenesses are insufficient to fathom all that IS in God's realm. Our job here and now is to fathom this and do it as well as we can, more than to dwell on unknowns as though we could comprehend them by effort when we aren't equipped to fully do so.

There's no harm in having a mental picture of how it may be, or we wouldn't have been provided clues, but I feel it is wise to leave a lot to be discovered when the time comes if our senses have matured enough to comprehend. We must not live now in limbo waiting for 'when', but must develop and show our spiritual stuff by how we live here, using the guidelines given us.

If we did even half of what the Sermon on the Mount taught, we'd not need to worry a moment about the hereafter! Few do apply those guidelines, I'm afraid. We all fall short, but what a magnificent goal it is to reach for! The world seems amiss, but it is composed of individuals, of which oneself is one that counts. Doing that 'job' well is how it can change, one individual at a time. If that seems impossible, it doesn't mean oneself can let up on doing one's own part, and lifting one's own light in the darkness.

Actually the world is a neutral place. "IT" doesn't DO either mischief or good. "It" just operates as it's designed to do, orbiting the sun and trying to keep going in spite of damage done to it, much of it by its inhabitants.

What people think of as "The World" has always seemed amiss to people, surely, as they just look out upon it, judging others' actions & behaviors. What each of us must learn to do is to look IN at 'it' as being of ourselves, in our parts of it. We are the only persons occupying it whom we can judge, change or make right. We sometimes tend to dwell on what we cannot do about others and neglect what we might do about ourselves. If 'they' don't or won't do any better, it is for us perhaps to set an example, but not to think we can fix them. Love is the key, of course. And that seems to be the hardest thing to put into action for most of us. Much easier to judge and write 'them' off as hopeless.

I was a mediocre typist when I started online. It speeded me up! My first delve into the net was in the old MSN chat, which was then a "comic chat" which was literally like a comic strip. People chose a comic character who would 'speak' one's typed words into a 'talk bubble' above the character in the strip. So you not only had to keep up with your own comic character, but keep all the others sorted out and replied to, as well. Trust me, it was a workout - and so much fun. These characters positioned themselves appropriately for the conversations in progress to be looking at the one speaking, appearing to laugh when LOL was said, etc. One could even guide one's character to move a bit. It was hilariously fun. People chose characters that reflected how they were or wished to be. But when a choice to just do chat in ongoing text was offered, most of the folks chose the easier way out and soon it was no fun in comic when the others whose words still appeared there in talk bubbles were no longer looking at the comic strip. So I finally gave it up, reluctantly, too. But it was great training and I was into it almost as soon as I was on the net! MSN was my first Internet Provider, in fact.

Wow, you have family in Houston! Quite a spread of family it sounds like! I'd love to know where you are located, if and when you care to tell me. Perhaps in an email.

Hugs - enjoy your church tonight.


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Lol well when you email me sure i can tell you lol its in Trinidad lol. Not in the USA ;) . AGAIN i see you had quite an experience with the net. I started viewing your hub will finish tomorrow plz God and give feed back. Blessings and thanks going to get ready ;)


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

I didn’t intend you to rush to tell me where you are. But what a fascinating place! It's quite a distance from the USA, actually. I knew it was in the Caribbean, but didn't realize how close it is to South America! I was led to Google it to learn more, which I very much enjoyed. Looks like a festive and charming place. Isn't it amazing to be in such easy touch via the internet with folks from all over the world? It's such a privilege. It's a small world, really.

Please tell me more about it.


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

LOL sure right about that, it isn't it smarter to have a smart phone lol all my emails comes to the phone so i am always around even though i am not near a computer. I can reply via my phone thanks to Scientist and their inventions it has its good and its bad.

Well Nelli i use to complain about Trinidad a lot because the crime rate is high but when i went to VENEZUELA in 2010 i realized despite the crimes in T&T we do have a little paradise here and since then i have lessened my complains. Venezuela sewer system sucks, water shortage, smelly fresh streets and the transport is ridiculous. However it is a nice place once you wear a nose mass , the shopping, electric trains, malls, awesome mountains and lovely people etc are

Even when i went to Barbados in 2012 i mean its really beautiful there our beaches cannot ask theirs for nothing etc but i rather Trinidad in a sense we are more upgraded with buses, roads etc. Barbados public transportation is just a hot pile of mess.

Its truly a beautiful place to be i did a hub on it just last week you can check it out when you get time. I am going back to your site now :)


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you for telling me more. Sounds lovely and of course, no place is perfect, for sure. But I'd agree that your Trinidad seems like a lovely paradise. We don't always fully appreciate what a miraculous planet we have to live on and where we live on it.

I live in a rather large city, Dallas, along which with Ft. Worth and all the suburbs in between the 30 miles that separate us, comprise what is called "The Metroplex". So it's a very large population and also spread out. Texas has room to spread out.

But my roots are in Del Rio, a smallish town on the Mexican border and the ranch is about 100 miles on west up up the Rio Grande from there, where it's remote and there are few people anywhere near. There is no surface water there, but must be pumped from very deep wells and piped around the ranch for the animals. But Del Rio, while also in the semi-desert, is watered by a huge natural spring and a large lake, Amistad. But I grew up far from any large bodies of water or beaches. I've been to the Gulf of Mexico briefly at New Orleans and at Corpus Christi and Padre Island and worked in Houston 6 months but never went to Galveston. Have been to the Atlantic in New England and in Florida twice and the Pacific in California once. Of all those large bodies of water, I find that I prefer the Pacific, though none are really my habitat. The Pacific seems more calm in general. The others seem to be churning up and wild when I've been near them.

I've lived near large rivers and lakes, but not oceans. I guess I'm more a desert rat. haha. I'm just not at all adapted to a lot of sun exposure, but the sun is prevalent in Texas nearly everywhere, especially down there near the border. So I just wear long sleeves and pants and a big sun hat when out in it. I'd love to take a cruise some day but am limited by sun sensitivity in the places of most of their destinations.

Still, I can admire lovely oceanside locations! I will check out your hub about your country!

Now I'm preparing to go to lunch with a friend so won't be online much.


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Okay nice enjoy your meal.... eat for two.lol . The sun is super hot out here feels like you will faint sometimes it so hot that you just have to step outside for 5 mins and get back in your complexion changes. White people enjoy it to get tans i think they are nuts how could you lay down on the beach in that scorching sun and get burn up. We just have rain and sun here no snow, our snow is the AC and when the US have snow we feel the chill in Trinidad the nights and breeze are usually very chilly in the latter part of the year. I myself looking to warm some food granny cooked "pelau"


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

The meal was lovely. Thank you. Had a Mexican shrimp cocktail and a piece of key-lime pie, though I seldom eat desserts. It was so good, with whipped cream on it.

Ah yes - Texas can be plenty hot but surely nothing to compare with really tropical climes. This part of Texas is more humid than my ranch country which is very hot but dry. Dry really is a more bearable heat, as they say. If one can find any shade, it's not bad and nights are always cool. But shade is sparse down there.

Oh, yes. I totally agree that it is insane to expose skin - of any color, really, because the sun's rays will damage any overly expose skin. But fair skin has even less tolerance for it and mine tends to be quite fair. I tried when young to get a tan, because - you know - 'everyone wanted one and was doing it'. Silly! I raised blisters the size of half-dollars all over from one day at the swimming pool and then went out and did it again two weeks later, when I was in early teens. I did learn to be a little more sensible but it wasn't till later when I literally became allergic to it that I always took adequate precautions, covering up and shading my face. If I didn't, I'd probably look like your granny's pelau! But I had a lot of fun boating on the lakes during my 40s, usually under a canopy, but the sun rays still get under.

I was just telling a neighbor here - I'm already looking forward to Fall when the temperatures become milder. Our hot summers last far into September, though.

I just stay out of the sun as much as possible. I regulate the A/C so it's not running all the time, though. Mid-summer nights can be quite warm, but there is almost always a slight cooling off in the early morning hours. I turn off the A/C for sleeping and open some windows, then leave it off with the windows shut in the morning when the temperature starts to climb till it starts to feel uncomfortable in the 80s. We're expecting plenty of 100s and over though.

Anyway - - life's always a challenge!


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Hey nelli glad to hear you enjoyed your meal and even had a tasty dessert hmmmm which i can hav some shrimp now. After having a tooth surgery i got this craving for shrimps. Since then i have been eating it too much its getting me sick lol. Its not cheap either strangely i did not buy this week.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

It was the first shrimp I've had in quite awhile. I like them but just don't seem to eat them often. I eat much more fruit and vegetables than meat of any kind, but fish and seafood is normally a healthy choice.

Hope you get over bing sick. Have you tried not eating the shrimp to see if it makes a difference?


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Lol i am obsess with it so i does get d cravings i just feel a little upset from eating it to often. Its like $40.00 for 8 fried shrimps with a portion of fries. Ridiculous eh . I love fish its really more healthy though the sea is heavily polluted . I just vomitted after swallowing some aloes yuck that thing is naaaasssstttyyy my 83yr old aunt keep insisting i have some. Was she trying to kill me ? LOL.


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Hope all is well with you and your diet!


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Hi good morning Grandma Nelli :) sure i am fantastic today i at my great aunty's house i spend the weekend here. I visited another one yesterday they are all in their 80's . I am enjoying a little breeze i am looking to leave here in a few hours to go to church for 5pm. So how are you today ?


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

I have stayed offline all day to rest my wrist. I am just checking in briefly before heading for bed.


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Okay dear no problem i understand :) well i know pain i am not well since 2013 January but it is well with my soul, so i just take painkillers to suppress the pain and do more praising than complaining. I have been to the doctor too many time and yet no results so i have to trust God now for my healing . Currently my feet are acting up i get arthritis pains a lot very painful in my back, knees, feet etc.

I hope you had a wonderful night's rest and all is well with you today :)


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Nellieanna 2 years ago from TEXAS Author

Thank you. I'm wishing you the best.


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LadyFiddler 2 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Thanks dear


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aesta1 22 months ago from Ontario, Canada

Your poem touches me deeply. I have lived my life on the surface for some years now and I know it. I have to go and be home one more so I can express my depth and not just babble meaningless words. Thank you for speaking from deep inside.


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Nellieanna 22 months ago from TEXAS Author

It's a pleasure to meet you, Aesta1 and to welcome you to the Hubpage family of writers. I've been here quite awhile and have found some of the most incredible people and friends imaginable. You surely will do so, too.

By the way, I can hardly wait to get back to your hub site and read, especially about the raccoons! I have some in my attic and walls, as well as squirrels. Pesky creatures, but cute. And, yes, humans did usurp their habitat. I'm looking forward to your hub about them!

Being 'home' within oneself is vital to full being, I think. We may meet others on the surface, in fact, most usually we do meet there, with little depth established yet. Sometimes it's the best place even to continue to interact, unless or until a depth happens. Not every person and association 'out there' can or should become part of one's most inner place, but when someone becomes a part of it, it is a special thing. The thing is, though, oneself must always be 'in there' and able to commune with oneself on the deepest levels. Words which come forth from 'in there' express one's depth and are not dependent on others' being attuned, though when they are attuned, then communication happens.


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Nellieanna 22 months ago from TEXAS Author

Dear sweet friend, LadyFiddler! How great to see you returning here to acknowledge my reply, which was my pleasure. Hugs and my best to you and yours.


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shanmarie 7 weeks ago from Texas

I'm in tears tonight for someone else. And this poem of yours comes to mind. . .You really impacted my life hard, you know.

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