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Why should you listen to me?
Who the hell am i to give you advice about life? right? You don't even know me, I'm just some twenty two year old girl you googled and found online. However, bear with me, and it may be worth it.
I've lived a life of mistakes, whenever there was a choice to be made, i always made the wrong one. I always say the wrong thing, i always do the wrong thing. I've messed up more times than George Bush and that's saying something. But somehow, through this wasteland of a life, i've learnt a number of rules, guidelines by which to live, and i believe i have discovered the key to becoming a happier, more beautiful person.
Beauty Comes in All Forms
Have Faith in Yourself!
As we have seen, beauty comes in many forms.
We are all born with what we are born with, the key is making the very most of what you have got. Present yourself as a well wrapped package, attend to yourself, and enjoy it. Pay attention to your hair, and pay out for a professional colour job rather than an out-of-the-bottle home attempt. Save up to buy expensive makeup rather than cheaper imitations, which end up smudging all over your face and wearing off within an hour anyway, Get that pedicure or indian head massage.
And do you know what will happen? You will slowly start to feel more beautiful, and will begin to portray yourself that way. When you have self belief, others begin to have it in you too. By will power alone, you can transform your vision or yourself, and in turn, others visions of you.
I am a perfect example of this, by will power alone i have managed to convince many people that i am much prettier than i actually am. When i act as though i am a 'hot catch' people begin to believe that i am, and the more they believe in me, the more i believe in myself, until the 'act' becomes a reality.
Pretty, Beautiful and Gorgeous
They all mean the same thing right?
Well no, actually i don't think they do. There are qualitative differences between these particular adjectives.
Pretty is a sweet, cuteness, it's easy on the eye, but can seem rather 'generic'. Some examples of celebrities who i would consider to be 'pretty' are Kirsten Dunst, Julia Roberts and Reese witherspoon. Whilst being pretty and attractive, there is not the same fierceness and uniqueness that accompanies true beauty.
To be considered a beauty, one must be in possession of at least one dramatic feature. Wether it be Angelina Jolie's lips, Debbie Harry's cheekbones, or Audrey Hepburn's eyes, one feature is enough to set you aside. Beauty is often unique and lacks the generic quality that can accompany pretty. It is mysterious and dark, often making the subject of this quality disproportionatly unhappy.
Now, here is where we all get a slice of the pie. Everyone is capable of pulling off gorgeous. For this, the secret is making the best of what you have. If you are slim, show off your figure, if you have long lushious hair, make it your feature. Maximise on your best asset. I attempt to make the most of my eyes, as they are most often reported to be my best feature. This means i use heavy dark eye makeup, but use little else, keeping the rest of my face natural. People are then drawn to my eyes, whilst attention to drawn away from my nose, which i feel is my worst feature.
Pretty and Beyond
The key is Confidence! (and what i've learnt)
The key to having a positive self image is confidence.
I have never had any confidence in myself, self esteem sounds more like an energy drink to me. My cup isn't half empty, it fell off the table and smashed...
But you know, the girls out there who have confidence in themselves shine out like beacons of light, and draw the attention and admiration of all. I have been witness to many girls, of average physical looks draw in lots of guys and attention through their own self confidence and belief in themselves. You can go from average to gorgeous in one move, all it takes is your belief in yourself.
In all this talk of physicality, a word of warning:
I always mistakenly believed i needed to be supremly beautiful to keep a man, and that the second anyone came along who was prettier than me, then i would be abandoned. I held this belief as gospel for years. I have since discovered that many of my ex's have since gone out with girls much less attractive than me. So what is it that they have that i don't? I believe it's confidence. Self esteem and self belief. I could never and have never been able to keep a man by looks alone. Personality plays a huge part, and it shouldn't be forgotten.
Find yourself, your style and make your own rules
There is nothing more attractive than someone who knows who they are, and has their own style to show for it.
There are hundreds of different styles and looks out there, it's about finding out what is right for you. Now, i believe the way we dress is an extension of our personality, it is a way for us to decorate our bodies and show other people who we are, and where we belong. It serves a sociological and psychological purpose. First you need to discover yourself, and who you are, that is the hardest part. When you find the right style you will know.
Stick with what works for you. I had an identity crisis throughout my teenage years, i didn't fit in with the normal 'popular' girls at school, it took a while before i developed a style of my own, which i'm comfortable with. Once this look is established, you will grow together over the years, and it will become comepletly your own.
While we are on the subject of fashion, my advice is to forget the rules. Anything goes. You can wear whatever you like, so long as you feel comfortable. What other people think is their problem, not yours. You have the right to express yourself and wear whatever you like.
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