My House My Home

"There is no place like home"
"There is no place like home"

No matter how dreary and gray our homes are, we people of flesh and blood would rather live there than in any other country, be it ever so beautiful. There is no place like home.

L. Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard Of Oz

I love the above quote, because my house is my home. It is not about possessing something material, it is about the place where you cover from rain, listen to your own music, walk around dressed the way you feel. It is the place you have created a habitat; the smell, the decoration, every single thing that talks of your inside is right there.

What happens when moving is not a decision but a "must"?

Divorces are a big fat pain when it comes to issues of children and the transition of not being together again; but distribution of property is what really makes it difficult because one has to move. Moving implies trouble, stress, seeking...seeking implies investing time and money.

I will share my experience hoping it could benefit somebody out there.

You have to like it if you will live it

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Yours, mine and ours

I have a very good friend who tries to remind me that freedom is not being totally free; to this I add that life is about yours, mine and ours. When you have a family this is more obvious. If you do not know your family and you are a human living in this world you probably have a neighbor. That is why we need to have present that rights end where the others rights begin. For that we need to have wisdom if a separation comes by any means.

When a house is being searched to become a home, every opinion counts.

Changes

Seeking where to live

Changes are not totally bad; "We seek not rest but transformation. We are dancing through each other as doorways" (Marge Piercy). Moving to a new house gives the opportunity to a new beginning.

I was not rich so the houses I had to seek were low cost with some personal family specifications. None met our needs; that took me to seek a piece of land and contracted to build a house.

Everybody thought it was a bad idea. I went for it anyways...and today after so many years, I look back and breath in my home looking out from the porch. I love my home! I am not stuck to it either; if for any reason I need to go...I will change that page once again.

Steps finding a home

These are some of the steps I made seeking where to live:

  1. Deciding that owning a house is a lot more expensive than renting because I would be paying for all the repairs; money invested was for my family also.
  2. Finding a piece of land with schools for my three kids with different ages and that could be near my work.
  3. Visiting the place different hours and different days.
  4. Getting a mortgage approved to build the house.
  5. Finding a descent, trustworthy constructor.
  6. Getting a place while the construction was done.
  7. Stretching money for rent, constructions needs and... my oh my... things that just came up because we live a life.
  8. Running from office to office getting every paper that is needed in constructing and than to live in the house.

Maintenance is required every day once you live it.

Live!

Philippians 4:13 says:"I can do everything through Him who gives me strength". The course of our life is a sum of personal choices...life is short...try to be happy and make your house your home. Live the length and the width of your life, we only have one.

Blessings to all!

@ Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill

Home is where your heart is!

© 2011 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill

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Fiddleman 5 years ago from Zirconia, North Carolina

Great hub home is where you're loved the most and treated the best.


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Da Filkman 5 years ago

Having lost everything but God and needing to start all over twice in the last 15 years, I could feel the simultaneous stress AND excitement that are involved in living changes. But, through it all, "Home is where GOD'S heart is"...thanks, M :)


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Betty Ruiz 5 years ago from Guaynabo, Puerto Rico

Tell me about it, sis!!! Contract builders... can't trust them, even if they're family or people you know. It's a chance one must take... unless you decide to learn to build a house, strong and safe enough to call it a home.

Building a house yourself or hiring contract builders is really a stressful, long journey with many ups and downs, sudden turns, unexpected surprises and last minute changes. After it's "finished", there's always some house project waiting to begin... plus dealing with construction faults, maintenance and keeping up with what's "IN". Building, owning and maintaining a house is something very complicated and never-ending... like the children's rhyme in elementary school: "The House That Jack Built".


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Lastheart 5 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Yes, home is where God's heart is...that is why your loved the most and treated your best; no matter how dreary and gray our homes are.


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Froggy213 5 years ago from On A Mountain In Puerto Rico

Filk, I totally know what you are saying about losing it all. My home burnt and had to start anew, but God is so good. As for not trusting any contractors Betty, there are many good ones out there that are trustworthy; As a person who used to contract out construction skills, I do know that many times bad architectural drawings are blamed on the contractor. Last minute changes by the owner that don't work out are blamed on the contractor and natures courses can sometimes be blamed on the contractor. I am not saying there are not crooks out there, but some contractors really do their best and still get the blame when little things happen.; Houses, like cars need regular maintenance and if not things do happen.

I am happy to be part of Lasthearts home; may God bless it.


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mylindaelliott 3 years ago from Louisiana

Thanks for the insight and information.


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Lastheart 3 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

mylindaelliott thanks to you for your time and comment.

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