Disowning Your Child Due to Religion Issues

Would you disown your child if they married someone from a different religion?

• Children can decide for themselves when older.
• Have an open heart and see the situation from all options.
• Do not be the one to choose for your child.
• You are there to guide your child along the growing-up years.
• Once older there is only that much that you can do to protect your child.
• It may sound tricky but think about it carefully.
• You cannot live in the past and raise your child in the same way that you were raised.
• Too much has changed and sometimes you just got to let go and be with whatever the choices are.
• Children create their own lives and want to explore new avenues for you to intervene is not the right gesture.
• You as the parent will threaten your child's needs and that you should not do to your child.
• In many cultures’ children are still marrying the individual chosen by their parents.
• It is sad to see such problematic issues, and nobody helps such families.
• The chosen one must be married and that is usually the final decision.

· Take for example the following story:

• The incident of the Pakistani woman aged twenty-five.
• She was stoned to death and people watched over her and did not stop the violence.
• The person was chosen by the family and she did not want to marry him.
• He was not her choice and was her cousin.
• Over eight hundred girls have been killed in that way over a year ago.
• In many families, children are disowned for such decisions.
• Your child makes their own choices.
• If your child wants to marry that person irrespective of religion or colour, avoid getting into a conversation that would only destroy your family relationships.
• Most cultures will not approve of or even try to accept other religions into their families.

Who you marry is up to you.

Love is more important to one another than the purpose of religion. I respect the traditions of other cultures, but I do not approve of a decision to disown your child for not marrying someone of the same religion.

You are what you are, and you practice a religion that is brought on to you from the day of birth.

Most children are taught about religion from an early age.

Children should know the meaning of their beliefs. It is not always the case to marry someone from the same background.

Sometimes approaching parents about the one to marry can be very stressful.

Disowning Your Child Due to religious issues is so unfair to any family with kids.

You may feel it is easier to approach the parent you are closest to or converse with the most reasonable one.

It can be very difficult to discuss your plans for marriage. Marrying someone from another religion is a tough decision.

A traditional lifestyle can make the situation different from the modern way of life.

· If the person you choose to marry is worthy to you and you know what you found in that person, what has religion got to do with it?

· Can you not open and allow what your child needs in life?

· Do you think religion is everything in a relationship?

The lifetime commitment affects you, not you as the parents.

· If your child is willing to make sacrifices, are you to comment on what your child wants from their relationship?

There are differences and you need to accept each other. You can overcome issues with great understanding which brought your child into the relationship in the first place.

Family members are also affected by the choices of their children, and it becomes a problem when parents intervene. It is not the choice of parents only the choice of the children.

Parents do want to be part of what goes on in their children's lives but instead of telling their children ''how to do'' and ''what to do.''

Parents should be guiding their children in their experiences. Children eventually learn from their mistakes and realize what their parents have been trying to tell them in all the years of growing up.

Life shows you just about all you need to know.

At some point in your life, you will see that your parenting time is over and there is not much for you to do.

I read of how a Jewish father disowned his son for marrying into another religion.

I felt bad for the son and thought how cruel of the dad to think that way.

The dad was very upset with the situation.

He refused to meet his son's girlfriend and did not want to be involved in his life.

It was unreasonable to expect Judaism to be important to the son when it was never important to the family. The family had no explanation for why their son should not marry his fiancé.

Parents learn subconsciously from their parents and that is how you become an adult.

The practice of your customs makes you who you are and religion in this way affects many people from all parts of the world.

When you marry, the person becomes part of who you are.

Marriage is no hobby. The person becomes part of your identity and marriage is something you do, and something that makes two people see life from different aspects.

· It is normal to have different opinions about religion but disowning your child is a bit harsh don't you think?

There is often something in your marriage that will not be shared equally. Religion is one of those parts of your life.

· Should your child learn which religion to follow from a young age?

· Would you see it as a problem if your child married to a different religion?

If you love the person, enough to marry them then religion should not be a problem. I am married to a Croatian (Catholic), I am Indian and a Hindu, but have not converted to Catholicism.

My parents did not intervene with religious concerns since it was my choice.

Children need to be properly taught about religion.

When adults can choose their religion in that way, they understand the true meaning of religion. Parents should not misguide children about religion.

· Do you think it is a good thought to let your child grow up and decide for themselves about religion?

Then again, if your religion and beliefs are a major factor in your life, marrying someone whose beliefs and religion contradict yours should not be.

The totally different perspectives on life in trying to be together would be on a different wavelength.

· Did you marry someone of a different religion?

Religion comes between many relationships and traditionally you cannot change the many issues.

· Does that mean you should disown your child?

How one chooses to cope with the other’s choices is a greater part of any couple's life in such situations.

What lies within is very important.

· How do you feel about religion?

I know that I am happy as I am and enjoy learning about a new culture. It broadens my thoughts and life experiences.

I understand the different opinions of religion and I know that I cannot change the way people think but I can change the way I think and do for myself.