That Book - Little Black Book - Queer in the 21st Century

Great Exclamations Over This Little Black Book

I have read a number of warnings about looking into the little black book entitled, "Little Black Book Queer in the 21st Century."

Here's the most wide-spread warning: (Caution: extremely gross and disgusting. We debated posting this in unedited form; we did so because it was given to schoolchildren in a public school, written with public money. Unfortunately, it's necessary that the public see it.)

Strangely enough, when I got an electronic copy of the book so I could find out what all the negative talk was about, I found nothing more than a supportive little book - a pamphlet - for gay youth which is quite mild and filled with reasonable information.

That this book has caused an outcry is unacceptable because it's not the BOOK that is the problem... it's the behaviors, voices and actions of people who refuse to see Little Black Book - Queer in the 21st Century for what it really is...

It's simply a gay youth support pamphlet...sheesh!

Have a look and see for yourself...nothing is extremely gross or disgusting about this pamphlet at all.

If you need a PDF reader in order to read the file, here are some choices:

I found the Little Black Book - Queer in the 21st Century by doing a simple Google search and ended up finding the actual download link at a site called, Article8 .org.

Page advertising/offering the book download link:

http://www.article8.org/docs/news_events/glsen_043005/conference.htm

Homophobia Shown Here

Genophobia and Erotophobia in North America

Genophobia: Fear of Sex...Heterophobia or Sexophobia: Fear of Sex, sometimes fear of the opposite sex...Agraphobia or Contreltophobia: Fear of sexual abuse...Coitophobia: Fear of sexual intercourse...Erotophobia: Fear of sexual love or sexual questions...Homophobia: fear of same-sex relationships/fear of gay people...Paraphobia: Fear of sexual perversion.

As a North American, myself, I'm certainly not trying to point fingers and ridicule North Americans about ess eee ehks phobias but I am intensely concerned about the two polar opposites that seem to be present in my region:

Sex and gender-related phobias on one side

Sexual addictions and pee oh are ehn engagement on the other side

What's up North Americans?

I'm not sure the wonderful idea of censorship has helped keep sexual discussions, topics and products out of the hands of the general public at all. Perhaps censorship just creates IGNORANCE and fear - phobias - or maybe censorship is creating scarcity of some "reasonable topics, discussions and products" related to ess eee ehks so that some people are flipping off into grasping onto unhealthy discussions and products like pornographic items.

Again, what's up North Americans?

More so - what's up with the censorship? Is censorship based on reasonable things or based on phobic reactions to the ess eee ehks topic?


Maybe Homophobes Are Gay

What is "Fear of Homophobic People" called?

I think I have a phobia but am not sure what name to put to it. It's the fear of homophobic people.

Fear of an irrational belief (and people who hold this to be "truth") that says people who do not choose to remain in a socially constructed hetero-based relationship - are perverted.

It is interesting that, for those who choose same-gender relationships, The Little Black Book is around but irrational societal taboos and actions stemming from such will oppress that helpful literature. Censorship and irrational public opinion about sexuality will actually take a reasonably healthy bit of text (it's a SMALL PAMPHLET for goshsakes, people!) away from a youngster who might need it.

Is it not rational to be wary of and reject this sort of irrational societal power? Or is it supposed to be HEALTHY to trust in this kind of irrational censorship?


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IzzyM 6 years ago from UK

Each to their own I suppose, but I found the pamphlet you talk about to be one of the most disgusting pamphlets I have ever read. The author's choice of words left a lot to be desired, and the whole subject could have been handled a lot more tastefully with less 'street slang'. I don't see this teaching youngsters anything except to say its OK to use such language. Plus how many schoolkids really know if they are homosexual or not? They might suspect they are, but it is also normal for heterosexual teenagers to wonder about same sex relationships.

Anyone gave my kids a book like this would have their head in their hands to play with.


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HappyHer 6 years ago from Cleveland, OH

It's a great book. It talks to teens in a way that they will listen to and not feel like it's "authority" preaching at them. Regardless of your feelings about teens and sexuality, education is a critical part of raising healthy teens. Good job, and great hub about this!


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mythbuster 6 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide Author

IzzyM, I understand you find the material graphic but I don't believe for one moment that most high school (the targetted audience for the pamphlet - not "schoolkids" but HIGH SCHOOL kids - nearly adult ages) people are unaware of most of the "street slang" used in the pamphlet. Also, you picked out the things that offended you but placed absolutely no focus on the fact that there are adamant and plentiful warnings about STDs, avoiding HIV, directions for the proper use of condoms, etc, in a language that is easy for teens to understand, isn't "talking down" or "dumbing down" to them and that isn't full of complicated medical terminology.


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mythbuster 6 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide Author

HappyHer - I'm glad you weren't offended by the material in the pamphlet and that you think it's a beneficial resource for teens. I admit, at first I thought some of the language was a bit graphic, too - like IzzyM did - but I had to remember that I've heard teens using some of this language and that if they're not, teens can be pretty assertive on their own - they'll often SAY SO if they think language should be toned down. I think we don't give teens enough credit for having near-to-adult emotions, feelings of responsibility, wants, desires. At the same time - if information is presented to teens openly, I think many of them make good decisions and display reasonable behaviors and attitudes.


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blake4d 6 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

Hi MB, loving the hub, so I thought I would try to help you with your search for a word to define your 'fear' of the Homophobic.

First let us be clear, that all phobias are technically defined as an irrational fear, it may be justified, it may be honestly felt...but if you had the ability to control the fear then it would not be a phobia. Problem is since you cannot control the fear, the phobia is only truly real to the fearful person. Okay?

With that in mind here is my conclusions and research into it for you.

The closest starting term is obviously the opposing word to Homophobic, which is Hetrophobic....

From Wikipedia , "Heterophobia is a term used to describe irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against heterosexuals. Heterophobic is the adjective form of this term used to describe the qualities of these characteristics while heterophobe is the noun form given as a title to individuals with heterophobic characteristics. Heterophobia is used in the same manner as homophobia - that being, one who has a fear of something. In the case of homophobes, they are alleged to fear homosexuals. Heterophobes are alleged to fear heterosexuals. The argument of Heterophobia as a reversal of Homophobia is used in the same sense that reverse racism is said to correspond to racism."

I like the comparison to racism, you are not afraid of the homophobic person, but rather what that kind of person might do...particularly to the homosexual themselves.

Now then, there are a couple terms that refer to just fear of others, despite any prejudice on onside or the other...

Xenophobia – fear/dislike of foreigners. ( more commonly used as fear of 'others' in the big picture sense...anyone not you is them, kind of see what I mean? )

Or

Sociophobia – fear of people or social situations.

Scopophobia – fear of being looked at or stared at.

( I think this heading is more appropriate, because the homosexual is more in fear usually of harm that will come from being seen with prejudice based on whom they are thought to be. Homosexuals know homophobic people don't understand them or see them as humans and normal, other wise it would not be prejudice. Not everyone who picks a fight with you does it due to prejudice...some are just assholes, noone fears assholes, at least in this sense, Okay?)

So in the end I would say the term is one of two possibles...

Best Choice :

SocioHetrophobic - the fear of people and social situations that are afraid of homosexuals

Second Best :

XenoHetrophobic - the fear of others that are afraid of homosexuals.

The Reason i do not like the Second one. Is I have yet to meet any homosexual or lesbian who thinks that we should eliminate all homophobic people in order to eliminate prejudice. I have met a few who think we should turn homophobic people to the other team, kill em with sex or love ( which is secretly what they want anyway is often the joke from this angle). But noone has ever proposed a Homosexual Final Solution, or a Homoerotic Nazi Anti-Hertroseuxal goal. Worse usually Hetrosexuals are called is 'Breeders' which is more in jest than prejudice. (Hey that last line sounded kinda cool ).

Here also is a list of alternative phobias that could be used in conjunction of substitution for pure homophobia.

Biphobia – fear/dislike of bisexuals.

Heterophobia – fear/dislike of heterosexuals.

Lesbophobia – fear/dislike of lesbian women.

Pedophobia, Pediophobia – fear/dislike of children.( I only throw this in because there is a distinction between sexual orientations and pedophiles, but the homophobic person usually does not see it as anything different)

Psychophobia – fear/dislike of mental illness or the mentally ill. ( Some view sexual orientation as a mental defect)

Transphobia – fear/dislike of transgender or transsexual people.

So normal yet irrational fear of homophobic prejudice...

SocioHetrophobic ( or XenoHetrophobic - but only if you are talking about extremely paranoid irrational fear of homophobic prejudice, coupled with some seriously disturbing matryrdom issues, or a Homoerotic Christ Complex/ or maybe a person whose homosexuality or bisexuality is a sociopathological fixation that is covering up something much more disturbing, like Buffalo Bill in Silenceof the Lambs..)

Yep, I would go with SocioHetrophobic

Keep on Hubbing.

Blake4d


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mythbuster 6 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide Author

Knew you'd come through soon after I published this, Blake! With some additional definitions, explanations and comments. Thanks so much for adding to the hub.

*hugs* keep on hubbing.


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susanlang 6 years ago

@mythbuster: I'm thankful for the detailed and complete crash courses which were so enlightening here. You and your friend Blake4d have done a bang up job in explaining these things. Very tastefully done! Rated up!


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mythbuster 6 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide Author

Thanks for the support, Susan! Thanks for rating, too!


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blake4d 6 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

Thanx for the props susan!!!

Keep on Hubbing.

Blake4d


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mythbuster 6 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide Author

Yeah blake - we are rated UP!!

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jpwriter 6 years ago

I'm torn here. I think the step by step for putting on a condom right is super. To many guys think it's the other person's responsibility for safety.

I understand talking to youth in their language. Seeing this is definitely not going to "turn them" gay or anything or the sort, but I don't think it has to be so verbally graphic. That's one thing I've personally had a struggle with in community.

I can definitely see why kids' parent were pissed or how this is fuel for the anti-homo fire, and because of that it's our responsibility to clean up the appearance. I have too many friends w/HIV to know that it's safe. I'm really disappointed there was nothing mentioned specifically about crystal meth.

Anyhow, great Hub.


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mythbuster 6 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide Author

jpwriter, I had some of the same thoughts as you've expressed concerning the pamphlet. I decided not to judge something too harshly that I felt had many more pros than cons... plus - I have to admit - I'm kinda OLD now lol I can't say exactly if the language in the pamphlet is just slightly shocking for people my age but not for the age the booklet is targetted toward.

On the other hand, I've heard some teens talking when I'm at the bus stop or train stations and some of them do use graphic language - most don't, to my pleasant surprise - but if those who use graphic language are going to be comfortable with the pamphlet, then the messages intended are getting across, in my opinion.

Maybe we old folks need to learn to "chill." lol

Thanks for commenting and sharing your points of view. Much appreciated!


ray 4 years ago

Are you serious? This is rediculous. They're kids not addicts in a treatment center.


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mythbuster 4 years ago from Utopia, Oz, You Decide Author

Which part do you think is ridiculous, ray?

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