16 "The 'Y's' in the Road of Life"

"Do I go left or do I go right?"
"Do I go left or do I go right?"

Left or Right, which way?

The “Y’s” In The Road Of Life?

Have you ever looked back on your life and realized that certain things that you chose to do could have actually been a “Y” choice in your past? When there was something that happened where, if you stop and think about it, you would have turned left instead of right, you can see there would have more than likely been a different way of life for you and those around you? Sometimes it could have made your life better, maybe sometimes worse, but you can see there would have more than likely been a big difference. I know there have been stories and movies based on this, but I am just giving my point of view on the subject and some of the ways it could have affected my life.

I know that when I was in school, I never had good guidance and I feel that was only part of the reason I didn’t do very well. I was always changing schools when I was young. My sisters were changing schools too, but the difference was that my oldest sister actually liked school. My other sister didn’t like school. But she did like to go so she would be able to get out of the house. I never did, plus they were older. I never had a goal or career to aim for. I actually had no one to point me in any direction, right or wrong. I remember that when I was in the 7th grade I had Geometry. I was getting a D- in the class and about 2 weeks before the end of the semester I was called into the counselor’s office. My counselor, the first time I remember seeing one, asked me why I was having such a hard time in that class. I just answered that I didn’t know. He then asked me what kind of grade I received in Algebra the previous year. I simply replied with a question, “What is Algebra?” I never had Algebra. I didn’t know you were supposed to have Algebra before Geometry. I guess I was very ignorant when I was in school. That’s a sign of lack of guidance. I can’t blame that on anyone either. I just really lacked initiative. I always took life as it was handed to me.

I’m not blaming anyone for my life turning out the way it did. It really wasn’t that bad. I’m just pointing out that if I would have had some guidance my life may have turned out different. That was a “Y” in the road. Without guidance I went one way and with guidance my life may have gone a completely different direction.

Once I finished school and enlisted in the Air Force you would think things would go better for me. When I look back, that’s when I can really see that this is where the “right turn or left turn” questions really started. In other words the “Y” in the road that went the wrong way.

I took my aptitude test for placement in the Air Force and I was supposed to be placed according to the results of the test scores. The two scores I actually remember were the highest score and the lowest. The low score was 55 in General. The high score was 80 in Electronics. With those two scores, where do you think they placed me? I was placed in General as a baker. I found out at the end of my 4 year tour of duty that if I would have questioned it, I could have been transferred into a tech. school and been trained in radar or something to do with electronics. With that kind of training, it’s un-imaginable as to where I may have been able to make it to today.

But then again, being placed in a field like that they may have sent me to Viet Nam and what might have happened there? Being a baker, I never had to serve a tour of duty in Viet Nam. I spent 1 year in Alaska as my “overseas” duty. I have to think that I was made a baker because I wasn’t meant to die in Viet Nam. There’s another “Y” in the road that went the wrong way, and then again, maybe it went the right way. I’m still here.

Then there was the time when I was working for a company, about 27 years ago, installing and repairing graphic arts equipment. I had learned how to repair the horizontal cameras and film processors that newspapers and graphic arts companies used. The main office for the company was in New York. They sent me there for hands on training a couple of times. This was a time when the newspapers were just getting into laser printing and technology. They wanted to start training me on the new laser printing system that USA Today was just starting to use. That would have meant I would have to go back to New York for three weeks of training. My wife at the time all of a sudden became very ill. I didn’t get to go for the training. Then the company requested me to go for some training again and again my wife became ill. I ended up losing my job because I was unable to attend any training classes. Come to find out the wife was getting sick because she didn’t want me to leave for any period of time. Needless to say, our marriage didn’t last long after that. I wish I would have stood up to her at the time.

Anyway, the point is, where would I be today if I could have gotten in on the ground floor of the laser printing technology? That was another “Y” in the road. I can’t blame just her for pulling that stunt. I could have gone anyway, but I was thinking of my three kids and grandson she would have to be taking care of if she was sick.

After that I separated and later divorced my wife and met someone else that I fell in love with and I am with her still today.

That’s another “Y” in the road and that time I seemed to have taken the right direction. She is the love of my life and will be for the rest of my life.

I never did get rich, but I will be happy ‘till the end of my time. Maybe that tells me that I actually took the right turns at all of the “Y’s” and everything turned out the way it was supposed.

Greg

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Sneha Sunny 5 years ago from India

everyone have to face such 'y' in the road at every point of life and especially after passing out from the school.....when actually a person faces life....

well written article..... keep it up..........


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Sunny, That's true, everyone has to face those "T's", but not everyone realizes it. Thank you for the commen. Greg


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Beege215e 5 years ago

very well written article. You pointed out something I think kids today need to know. I have been just about where you have, and making decisions based on faulty or insufficient information can change everything. Mostly I went with my brain instead of my heart, but when the brain isn't operating at full knowledge load it can make things difficult.


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Greg-great hub expressing your experiences. It is so true. There are so many choices if one knows that there are. Otherwise we float along the waters with no particular land direction to sail to. (sorry, forgot you were an air force man, not navy, LOL) Any how, guidance is important and when we don't get it from our parents or teachers or guidance counselors we can miss out in life. I'm glad to know you are content with how your life turned out. :)


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FloraBreenRobison 5 years ago

This is a fascinating subject. I have always thjought about the "Y" events in my life and that of family members. I'm only 35 so I have a lot of them ahead of me.

About the military-my father is the right age to have been in Vietnam but he failed the medical. A lot of friends that were sent overseas died and he has always felt guilty about that. But as I was born in 1976 I have a biased opinion. I like being alive.

As far as my life is concerned, I don't know what I would have done if there wasn't a University near where I live. I paid my way through scholarships, but I don't see how I would have been able to afford living on campus, and trying to drive out to Vancouver during the bad weather would have been foolhardy.

I've just stepped away from a Y when I joined Hubpages, because I had been putting off writing online. This site specically is very productive and helpful, but imagine I was writing for a site where you simply send in articles and get a response back to either revise or thanks, accepted. no interaction there. I'm afraid of being isolated on the internet. I don't trust it and wish print media weren't dying out, but that's what is happening. So I have to go with the times.


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ubanichijioke 5 years ago from Lagos

Great story about the decisions you made to reach were you are today. Just be happy you re alive today and happy cos what you may have wanted to have surely would not have brought you happiness.


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Uba, thank you for the visit and the comment. I look at it as obviously I made the right choices, because I am still alive today and I am very with my life. Greg


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anndavis25 4 years ago from Clearwater, Fl.

I am reminded of a Robert Frost poem. "Two roads diverged in the woods and I, I took the one less traveled by.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Ann, Thank you for the follow, the visit and the comment. Yes, I have heard that. Greg


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UnnamedHarald 4 years ago from Cedar Rapids, Iowa

Nicely done, gregas. I am reminded of people who, when asked what, if anything, they would have done differently in their lives or do they have any regrets, say they wouldn't change a thing. I know I would have. Personally, I think they are in denial-- no matter how happy they might be at the moment, there's always hurts that could be healed, adventures that could have been taken. But, the important thing is to examine the past and change the future. Voted up.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Harald, Thank you. I can't say that I regret anything in my life, but I will say that when I think back, there are several things I would have done differently. Greg


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neeleshkulkarni 4 years ago from new delhi

May i recommend a lovely book by Richard Bach, It's called "nothing by chance" .The title says it all and i offer it up as my comment.

In the grand order of things there is nothing by chance, it WAS as it was meant to be, it IS as it is meant to be and it SHALL be as it is meant to be.

Yes that is the reason why you are sure to be happy.

all the best friend


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Marion Elodie 4 years ago from London

That is a very interesting story, thanks for sharing. I don't believe in coincidences and those choices that seemingly lead to "bad" situations were probably meant to eventually enable the encounter with the love of your life.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Neele, thank you.I agree that there has always been a reason for the choices I made, whether they were on purpose or by chance. And yes, my life may not have tirned out with the happy ending I am getting now. Greg

Hi Marion, Thank you. I agree that the choices I made were for a reason and I am with the love of my life because of the choices made because it is where I am meant to be. Greg


erickcb 4 years ago

This story is a piece of truth. Choices are precious things and we all need some guidance sometimes. The human condition..*sigh*

I share similarities with you. I was a foster kid always changing schools. Oddly though, I got good grades, but I enjoyed school kind of like your older sister.

Your story connected with me. I like that people can always share SOMETHING that resonates with another person. I prize that Human connection. Its rare these days (Thank you computers)

Thank you for your thoughts.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Erick, Thank you. It is good to be able to connect with someone once in awhile, just so you realize you aren't the only one with your situations. Greg


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

Hey Greg, we all have the Ys; I'm facing mine right now. :-) Let's just say that as long as we find our purpose, it will make us happy!


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Midget, Thank you. It's when you look back and see that you took the wrong fork that makes you really think about future "Y". The real problem is, you don't think about those choices at the time unless you think about past choices and decissions. Greg


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savvydating 3 years ago

Good food for thought. (Love the picture, by the way). Anyway, I have felt that way many times. Thinking back, I definitely failed to take advantage of some great job opportunities. Some of us need more direction than others, I guess. That's where having faith (later in life) has come in handy for me. Finally, I am learning to take the correct turns in the road.


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gregas 3 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Savvy, thank you for the visit and comment. In a lot of the cases when I look back, I could have gone a different way, but I also could have had even more problems. Some of us just have to learn to choose and hope it's the right choice and be strong enough to live with it or smart enough to learn from it. Greg


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Silva Hayes 2 years ago from Spicewood, Texas

Your story is similar to my husband's (and mine). We did not have much guidance at school or at home. He too was tested in the Air Force to determine what he was best suited for and then was assigned the opposite. They must have had obscure psychological reasons for this? Weird. We went through life making random, impulsive decisions and here we are. You made the right choice at another "Y" when you decided to write for Hubpages.


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gregas 2 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Silva, thank you for the visit and the comment. I do believe that the Air Force, because they were accepting anyone at the time, just placed people where they were needed at the time regardless of the scores on the apptitude tests. But I found out later I could have asked to be placed in electronics. But I do always say that things turn out the way they do for a reason. I never ended up in Viet Nam. Greg

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