What to do on First Date -Expectations on First Date

First Date Expectation


First impression usually lasts, they say. Oftentimes you hear your friend tells you, why didn’t she/he calls me anymore after our first date? And they do wonder what’s wrong with them. Did they left bad impression? This could be distressing at time specially for those who really are looking for a date. I will try to give some tips and suggestions on what to do or not to say on your first date.

According to wikipedia, “Dating is a form of courtship and may include any social activity undertaken by, typically, two people with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as their partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity. Traditional dating activities include entertainment or a meal”.

Dating is an opportunity to look at your partner whether they will be suitable for your own needs or goals. It is the first stage in a relationship. It is the time to know whether the two of you will click or will enjoy each others company. You will also start to know the other one better.

Tips on first Date: What to Expect

  • Don’t sleep with him/her on your first date
  • Put off your cell phone. Focus your attention on your date
  • Avoid a wandering eye, keep your eye only to him/her (Often men will reply, I might have you for a date but I am not yet dead)
  • Maintain eye contact when the other one is talking
  • Listen carefully to what the other is saying
  • Don’t ask too personal questions e.g., don’t share your problem immediately (economic or emotional), unless they he/she volunteer to do so
  • Don’t tell him/her how bad your ex is, even though he/she is a jerk etc
  • Don’t bombard him with questions about his/her ex, children etc. During date he/she is the center of attention not you, not your ex or children
  • Don’t ask him/her how many past gf/spouse/bf/partner she/he ever had
  • Don’t ask how much he earns, asking about his work is ok
  • Listen carefully to what the other one is saying paying close attention, As this is a date, you would want to know more about him. Answer his/her questions nicely and honestly
  • Don’t be over too serious and conscious of yourself
  • If you’re a woman let the man pay for the first date
  • If you’re a man ask the lady where she would like to go, i.e, if you are going to a restaurant be sure you both like it, or you want to try something new instead
  • Treat other people whom you met during the first date nicely. I say first impression last, be nice to the waiter etc.
  • Don’t overdress, your dress should be appropriate to the place you are going. Women avoid wearing too saucy clothes, just wear clothes you are comfortable with and shows your best feature
  • Smile, it is your best accessory
  • Groom yourself but avoid overdoing perfume, make up etc.
  • Wait for a period of time before you date him/her again after the first date, say like a three days after.
  • Lastly be yourself, just relax, and everything will be fine

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bearclawmedia 7 years ago from Mining Planet Earth

Good advice, here. I have not been dating for years. This is because I always try to be romantic, and considerate with out being something I am not, like sensitive or new age. I am just a man. I will buy flowers over grocery items every time and I always remind my wife how much I love her. These are simple things that we forget about, but should not. I loved your article and the way you have written it. See you again on the hub pages.

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prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US Author

thanks bearclawmedia for reading this hub, and yes youre a sweet man indeed, and always telling them how much you loved her is a good thing,

hope you have a good weekend, maita

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rebu 6 years ago from Coorg,India

Thnx for sharing the tips..

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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

thank you Mam, Maita

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MFB III 6 years ago from United States

Great advice.....which calls me to leave my impressions of A Date To Remember:

A Date To Remember.

Perhaps a horse drawn carriage,

a white steed with an ivory mane

His big brown eyes reflecting thanks

as we hand feed him carrots.

A carriage with a fringed top

and plush oversized bench,

stocked with a large cooler

of white and red wines,

merlot, chardonnay, peach

cherry, and champagne.

Plus cheeses of provolone,

garlic, cheddar, mozerella,

gouda, pepperoni speckled

and bleu next to some

straw hats and a guitar.

Pulling up to your door

with that clippety-clop,

sound of yesterday

when romance was cherished,

and sweeping you

away from the doldrums

of modern life,

like a fair maiden of old.

Some Fabian style driver

to cart us along,

lest I fail to meet

your full expectations,

then at least you could fantasize,

but most likely you would be lost

in our sweet conversing between

sharing sips of wine and hand feeding

each other succulent cheeses.

Then off to a private beach,

secluded and pristine with

two striped cabanas for changing

into less clothing on

a warm summer day.

We would relax in the tropical sun,

with only the sound of the ocean

intermingled with our sighs,

in two lounge chairs side by side

holding hands and watching time go by.

Soon enough the urge would strike us

to race into the restless surf,

then I would grace your flesh

with a warm massage of sun oils

to protect your lovely complexion,

in a gentlemanly fashion,

and bid you to do my back,

before our refreshing dip.

Then off we would dash

splashing and giggling

like children in the salty froth,

wet bodies embracing

just long enough for a sampling

of how it would feel,

if fate chose to grant us romance.

After we had frolicked to exhaustion,

we would climb together on a raft for two,

and float on our backs side by side,

gazing up at the blue of the sky,

when we were not gazing

into each others eyes.

Later we would paddle back shore,

a team effort, to get us back to

the picnic basket on ice that awaited us.

There we would share King crab salads

abundant with the oceans bounty

and finger sandwiches of thin sliced

prime rib or turkey breast

with lettuce and tomato,

as well as two generous

covered dishes of chilled

crème brulee for our dessert.

sharing smiles between ravenous bites.

Then off for a long stroll down the beach,

hand in hand, collecting sea glass,

just enough to form a heart of

multi-colored gems that we would glue

onto a white square of cardboard,

a souvenir of our summer date.

As dusk set in and sunset dappled

our paradise with oranges and golds,

I would set a driftwood fire ablaze,

and we would enjoy it's heat,

roasting marshmallows, making smores,

and watching the day dissolve before us.

By firelight I would lift my guitar,

and compose love songs for you,

encompassing our day together,

with hopes for other days to come.

Then back to the carriage which

would arrive at 11:00 p.m.

for a starlit ride home,

with the fringe top removed,

so that we could enjoy

our Nyte ride together.

Soft murmured conversation,

accompanied by the gentle

jounce of wagon wheels,

and steaming mugs of cappucino,

till we reached your front door,

where we would tentatively

blend eager lips into

a short farewell kiss,

that would joyously become

a long timeless blending

of two lonely souls.

Pulling away only

with great regret,

gazing deep into

each others eyes

with somewhat sated eyes,

as I slip you another ticket

to your next date in the

paradise of each others arms,

an evening of theater and dancing

on the following weekend.

Then you'd promise your attendance,

giving me one more delicious peck

on my lips and vanishing to

many happy dreams

beyond your door.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Oh My Goodness what a lovely poem, I remember when I was in love, so beautiful poetry, Thank you so much MFB, Maita

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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

Good tips. It's a date - a time to relax, laugh and have a good time. Not to plan the rest of your life. We can certainly use a list of dating tips.

Tips like this I can share and create a topic with my teenage students. They are clueless about social skills. Lots of room here for a fun discussion.

Thanks a million!

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