9 Ways a Woman Can Tell That Her Husband is Not Interested in Her Hobby
Your Husband May Ask Questions Like These to Make You Believe That He is Very Interested in Your Hobby:
- "So, a camera is to be used in photography?"
- "I would go with you fishing, babe, but do you know where we can find the nearest lake?"
- "Do you want some new shoes to go with your hobby?"
- "Is there any hard work in your wood-working hobby?"
- "Do you have your license to collect stamps?"
Some things never change.
Traditionally speaking, the marriage dynamic was the man made the living while his wife took care of the house. Not so anymore. That is one "lost horizon." Today's women are not your grandmother's neighbors baking pies, sweeping floors and having kids. Hardly. Today's women are empowered, confident--taking their rightful place in society and the workplace just like their husbands. Equal in every way. Sad to say that in some workplaces, men are still paid more than women. I wish this weren't the case, but it is.
Even with the advances of today's woman, she still has the need to expand herself in various ways such as having a hobby that relaxes her and removes the stress she attracts from her high-pressured job as a C.E.O., managing director for a huge law firm or senior partner for a successful law firm. Even if she excels as a secretary, she still needs a safety valve to relieve the deadly stress that can cause heart attacks and melt downs.
A few hobbies that today's woman can enjoy
Ladies: Are you ready to learn?
The choices are limitless for women's hobbies. Painting, writing, photography, shopping, designing new lines of clothing, and on and on. But if these women who are married, sometimes allows her excitement in having a hobby encounters her husband who becomes bored when she tries to share her hobby with him. And that is when things get tense. Real tense.
So, to all of my empowered, confident, and successful lady friends who are newlyweds, I give you this powerful, never-before published . . .
9 Ways That a Woman Can Tell That Her Husband is Not Interested in Her Hobby
1.) The Husband's Face -- is a tell-tale sign "right out of the gate." He will swiftly-grimace and try his best to "look" interested. This is typical of most husbands who had rather act than face an angry, disappointed wife.
2.) Watch His Mouth -- and when you do this, he will grow edgy and nervous, for a huge yawn of boredom is building within his nervous system. He knows he must put in a lot of pure labor to keep this one yawn from materializing, or else get the "cold shoulder" from his gorgeous wife.
3.) Look Into His Eyes -- for they too can tell you if he is supportive of your hobby or not. If his eyes dart back and forth to your camera and equipment if your hobby is photography and then to the NFL Sunday Game between the Seattle Seahawks and The Pittsburgh Steelers. He simply cannot help his eyes. You might catch his wandering eyes and mention it to him later. Just a thought.
4.) Watch His Hands and Fingers -- are they stationary? Or do they drum the tune, "Wipe Out," a 60's hit made famous by The Safari's? Drumming the fingers are a sure-sign that he is both uninterested and bored with your hobby. In this contest, ladies, you hold the winning hand.
5.) Squirming and Crossing and Uncrossing Legs -- are as sure of a sign as drumming fingers to tell you that his mind is on something else besides what you love as a hobby. You might ask innocently, "Honey, do you have fire ants in your briefs?"
6.) Mention a Few Simple -- facts about your hobby. Facts that your fifth-grader can answer in her sleep. Then as you start regaling him again of why you love your hobby, stop and ask him to tell you two of the simple facts you just mentioned about your hobby simply as a test of his memory retention. If you hear him use the words, "Uhhh," or "Huh?" He is busted.
7.) If He Puts The Daily Newspaper -- up to his face as you are talking about how exciting you find scuba diving as your hobby, then stop talking. Do not say another word. When your silence hits him, he will look up and say, "Go ahead. I am listening." Just be very lady-like but firm as you walk away and reply, "I am not a fool. That newspaper is obviously more interesting than what I like."
8.) If The Phone Rings -- during your talk about your new-found hobby, if he answers it instead of letting the call go to voice mail, you do not have to wonder. He is not interested in your hobby.
9.) If You Asking Him to Go With You -- one weekend to help you enjoy your hobby causes him to spit-out more excuses not go than the computers at the C.I.A. Headquarters in Langley, Virginia, then my dear newlywed lady friend, just face facts. You are into your hobby all by yourself.
Note: And for the sweet ladies whose husbands behave like the ones in these tips, I am so sorry. And although this phrase is "old hat," I mean it to be of help to you: "At least you tried."
Ladies, are any of these men your husband?
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