An Interest's Guide to Lesbian Sororities Pt. 1

It's the most common question I've faced as a member of a lesbian sorority. Non-Greeks can't quite understand why we exist.

As a member of Kappa Theta Epsilon Sorority, I've experienced a lot of LGBT Greek Life. I'm going to share the reason LGBT organizations exists, some common misconceptions, and what to look for if you'd like to join.

Here's a little background...

For decades, lesbian and bi-sexual women who wanted to enjoy the sorority experience had to hide their sexuality in order to be accepted. Those with partners and families could usually be open in every area of their lives - except their sorority. The fear of ostracism was common among LGBT women, often because of past negative experiences.

In order to feel accepted by their sisters, they would hide...Ever heard the phrase "You go along to get along?"

Exactly.

Eventually, some decided that being partially accepted wasn't enough. They began creating organizations that not only tolerated lesbianism, but celebrated every member for being out and proud.

That's what lesbian sororities are all about. We work to make a difference in the community, while providing a support network for lesbians and bi-sexual women.

Even though LGBT Greek-letter sororities and fraternities have existed for over a decade, they're still relatively unknown in the mainstream community.

Many organizations have not yet garnered national attention, lots of potential members have no idea that they exist! Let's address some of the common myths and assumptions associated with being a part of a "lesbian" organization.

Misconceptions about LGBT Sororities: Don't Believe Everything You Hear!

For those who have heard of lesbian sororities and fraternities, there are some commonly held misconceptions about what purpose our organizations serve. Here are the top 3:

1. A lesbian sorority is a group designed for "hooking up."
For most organizations, this isn't true at all. Lesbian sororities and fraternities are designed to build long-lasting friendships and encourage lesbian women to support each other- not for dating. Even though it does happen in some groups, most LGBT Greek organizations strongly discourage this type of behavior.

2. These orgs are all about wearing letters & partying.
Again, not true. Many lesbian organizations focus primarily on community service and rarely hold parties - public or private.

The basis of any Greek-lettered sorority or fraternity is a bond between members - and that means having fun! Wen it comes to serious business and making a community impact, these groups are usually just as committed as "traditional" Greek organizations.

3. They're all rejects from traditional orgs; anyone can join.
I personally know several LGBT Greeks who are members of Pan-Hellenic, NPHC, and multicultural organizations. Membership in a lesbian sorority offers them a chance to fellowship with women that share many of their life experiences. Joining an LGBT sorority is not about rejection - it's about embracing all of who we are.

Speaking for Kappa Theta Epsilon, membership is a invitation only process. You must be selected to join. There are other organizations that operate in the same way.

In the second part of this hub, I'll share some links to different Sororities for those interested in joining. BUT before you turn in that Interest Application, be sure to read my tips on making the right choice!

See you soon for part 2!