"Being Selfish In The Bedroom Is Not an Option"

"Being Selfish In The Bedroom Is Not An Option"

This is a very touchy subject, but I'm writing it in truth and honesty and I hope this is the way you take it. In some relationships, we have the I and Me factor; that causes destruction to our relationships. This happens also in some marriages; in all caring relationships, the I and Me suppose to be replaced with the We and Us factor. I'm sure you know exactly what I'm talking about; what it comes down to is the selfishness of a mate in a sexual relationship. Sometimes, we're selfish when we think only of ourselves in the bedroom, meaning to get our self satisfaction and the leave other partner hanging.

Men and women, we are adults so the truth is, we all should strive for equal satisfaction for each other. I'm very fortunate that I have a husband that put me first in all things; including the bedroom. He make sure that , I'm satisfied first, before he goes to next level of satisfying himself. I appreciate him for his gentle care. I want say all, but most women need a certain amount of foreplay to get the fires burning; and if her mate is to selfish to give her what she needs and want in the bedroom, the relationship will soon come to an abrupt end. Making love to each other takes time and patience; because it's not a slam bam thank you mamer situation.

It's making sure your mate or partner is feeling the love and care that goes into satisfying each other. Normally men never have a problem with achieving an orgasm, unless it's a medical reason, on the other hand, most women have to be touched, kissed and sometimes, some other things to tease and please her. If they're not satisfied, I'm sure some day, they will look for it in someone else. Everyone's needs, must be met, so if you're with someone you love and care about, you will find a way to satisfy and please whom ever you're with.

So, if you're one that only think of yourself; then you had better rethink your actions before you find yourself lonely and all alone. There isn't anyone in this life that doesn't want to be appreciated; including you, so take sometime and always show your love, for him or her and the same will be reciprocated back to you, with great dividends. love making is loving and enjoyable, only if both parties are satisfied. Remember to please her first and she will you love and appreciate you for it, also remember the old saying: ladies first, that means in the bedroom too.

There want be hardly anything she or he want do for you, if you keep her satisfied and happy, and that's a promise. None of us want to be viewed as a selfish so, and so, so let's give equal time to each other in the bedroom, and there want be any problems or complaints.

Benny Faye Douglass


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

You're correct mortagestar1, everyone sippose to give creativoen59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Veronica, and you Know you're correct. Thank you for your comment and feedback. God bless. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Hp, for your comment and feeedback. I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Hello, for your comment,and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Micky Dee, we all go through, our changes, Thank you for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you sweetie 1, I appreciate you stopping by and leaving your comment. Godspeed. creativeone59


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sweetie1 6 years ago from India

Thanks for the nice hub..would keep in mind once i get married.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

I agree, thanks for your comment and input. blessings to you. creativeone59


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Mortgagestar1 6 years ago from Weirton,West Virginia

If both are selfish in the bedroom, then what? The movies

and romance writers demonstrates the complete inhibitions as a norm. However, how many of us have actually climax simultaneously as in the chick flicks? The parties involve should understand each other well enough to give and take as well as sacrifice ones desires to satisfy the others.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Philipo, but there are selfish men as well. Thank you for the comments and feedback. Godspeed. creativoen59


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Philipo 6 years ago from Nigeria

Very nice hub. It is a must read for all the selfish women out there.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much for stopping by my hub and thank you for your comment and feedback, they are always welcome. God bless. creativeone59


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TimeHealsAll 6 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada

Giving attention to eachothers desires and making the bedroom a place for experimentation is rewarding. Great hub creativeone!!!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Hey ivori,nice hearing form you. Thanks for the comment. I appreciate you and your comments and feedback. Gods blessings to you.


ivori 6 years ago

Great hub, Faye. Caring and satisfaction is definitely a two-way street.


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

I so agree with the fact that selfishness should be left outside the bedroom. When both partner is striving to please the other, than it's a win-win situation. We need reminders like this on occassion.


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H P Roychoudhury 6 years ago from Guwahati, India

Great hub with great outlook. Thanks.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

You're right. I can only speak for me. I, now at this age of a thousand years old, would rather abstain than disappoint. I love and I'm in love yet my desire wanes. My soul has whiplash.


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

Great hub with many good advices. Thank you very much for sharing. It is little things which add up and make or break a marriage.

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