"Don't Be A Puppet On A String For Anyone"

"Don't Be A Puppet On A String For Anyone"

Don't be a puppet on a string for anyone, learn to handle your own life.
Don't be a puppet on a string for anyone, learn to handle your own life.

Don't Be A Puppet On A String For Anyone"

I got married at eighteen years old, so I was young and very naive and believe a lot of things that wasn't necessarily true. I was content at the time because I was a puppet with my very own puppet master, even though I didn't know it yet. If my husband said jump, I wanted to know how high, if he wanted me to do cartwheels, I did them, I would even stand on my head for him. This is why, I say you can love someone so much that you lose yourself and self respect, because you 're so busy trying to please him that you forget about yourself in the process. Some of us are so busy trying to make him or her happy, that you forgot about what makes you happy. I didn't know it at the time, but I was my own self's worse enemy because of my actions to please. As the years went by and I got a little older and more wiser; I realized that I didn't need a puppet master. All I wanted was a loving and caring husband, unfortunately me, I didn't have that in my husband.

A puppet master is someone that controls you and your actions in a relationship, and will even try and control your mind, if you let them. Puppet masters can be husbands and wives or significant others that try and control your life, if we're stupid enough to let it happen. A puppet master wants to know, where you're going; who you're going to see, when are you coming back home and your life is literally ran by a time clock. In this type of relationship,the puppet master is the only one with freedom to come and go as he or she pleases, without their life being under constant scrunity by you or anyone else. I played this game for some years,and after dancing to the puppet masters music, I got up enough courage to dance to my own music. It's really sad being a puppeteer, because you lose your identity in a relationship you thought was loving and normal; but realize that everything you believe in, was just one big lie.

I know there are still men and women that are being controlled by their mates, and this is not what God wanted for us. God want us to genuinely love and respect one another, and treat each other the way we want to be treated. A marriage and relationship is an equal partnership, with the same advantages for both parties involved. All I do know is, when you're young and foolish, you do a lot of of silly things, like being controlled by someone else, because you don't know any better . They will fight you on every level, even to the point of being physically violent. You have to take a stand; somewhere and stick to your guns. My oldest daughter and child married such a guy, he wanted all control over life, he was a low life man,that uses women for his own gain. She made the biggest mistake of her life by marrying him; now she's paying the price of making a wrong choice.

I think all mothers try to warn their children, if they see danger lurking in the back ground, but most times the children doesn't listen, because they think we're trying to run their lives; which is the farthest thing from the truth, we just want to protect them form harm. We can't protect them; because they're in love or in lust and will end up in a miserable situations, that we can't control. My daughter after ten years and lot of heart break and pain, realizes now for herself, what a mistake she made:This a life style that she no longer wishes to pursue. It took her being free from her puppet master, for her to realize she want more out of life, than just being a puppet on a string. She's her old self again; and she smiles more because her puppet master is no longer there, to tell her what she can or can't do. I even have to tell her sometimes; that he no longer has the control over her life, because he's still in jail: but don't you think, he hasn't tried to tell her what to do, even from his jail cell. Being a puppeteer is a situation; that you wouldn't want to be caught up in, if you're in your right mind. Both men and women deserve love, care, respect and understanding from one another. When looking for a mate be sure you check out the subtle signs of the puppet master. If you bring him into your life; he will want to control you, your life and your coming and goings, who you see or don 't see.

If you encounter anyone at all with these obvious tendencies; let them keep on trucking away from you, because he'll bring more trouble to your life than you will ever need. I have always said; if you can find a man that's truly into God, and know how to treat his mother and sister with love and respect, then he will treat you the same. Also for the men; if you find a godly women who love her father and brother, then it's a safe bet, that she will love and respect you as well. If you find yourself in a puppet master- puppeteer relationship, it's time to cut the strings that bind you to this loser, so you can regain you self respect and start to truly live your life again. Please also remember this; no one can treat you like a prisoner in your own home unles you allow it.

Benny Faye Douglass *(C) copyright 2009

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creativeone59 2 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

^Thank you, Stephanie for your visit and your fantastic advice on the matter of God in relationships. Godspeed, creativeone59


Stephanie 2 years ago

I think was a excellent message for those in marital and other relationships. Much needed relational insight and advise. When we do not make our relationship with God and the Lord first were prone to falling into this type of relational snare. Were not of worship man that is idolatry but we are made to worship God, leave God out and we will worship self or men by default. God is Love something we all need and if we get this divine from Him, taste His Love we will want anything less nor willwe accept or give out such.


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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Ebonny, for your visit and your comment, I appreciate you. when we love someone we have a tendecy to overdo things for the person involved. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Ebonny 4 years ago from UK

I think what you said about people believing their relationship is "normal" is significant. It's often hard to admit that we have let ourselves be manipulated by others. Thanks for a thought provoking hub.


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you sweetie 1, for your visit and comment and I agree with you totally and competely. We should never lose our self respect for anyone. God bless you. creativeone59


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sweetie1 5 years ago from India

hi creative one you are right that you shouldnt give too much power to anyone on you. Yes you should love your love unconditionally and do everything to please him but keep your respect too because if you loose self respect than no one is going to respect you.


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much Justic, for your visit and comment,and I'm glad I could be of service to you in a time of need. If you look around my hubs, you might find something else that might help lift you up, remember to keep your head to the sky, because that's where you get your strength is. Godspeed. creativeone59


justice 5 years ago

Loved it...thanks I really needed it:)


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you charm, for that blessed compliment, I missed you too. It's good to see you're back in action.Thank you for your comment and feedabck. Godspeed.creativeone59


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charm_baker 6 years ago from Los Angeles, California

Greetings Creativeone59 - I've been away from HubPages and have surely missed the uplifting comments and hubs found here. Hubbers like you make me happy to have returned. Thanks.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you sophs, for stopping by my hub and for leaving your positive comment and feedback. please back again. Gods Blessings to you. creativeone59


sophs 6 years ago

Great wise words Creativeone, I have been there also. Puppet Master is a great way to describe them, spot on. Brilliant writing :)


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Jisblessed for your words of praise and blessing, I try to write the truth about my life experiences, in hope of helping someone else. You were a blessing to me today.Thank you for your comment and feedback. God bless you and yours. creativeone59


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Jisblessed 6 years ago

Wow! Praise God! and Thank God for you sharing your experience. I'm sure all who reads will be blessed and encouraged by it. I hear the wisdom more precious than rubies. I pray God blesses you for your open heart.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Kenny Wordsmith for your kind word, they true because I lived them. Thank you so much for stopping by my hubs, I appreciate you, your comment and feedback. please come back. blesiings to you and yours. creativeone59


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Kenny Wordsmith 6 years ago from Chennai

Words of truth, O Creative One! Most of us are not aware of the strings. Thank you.


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Kulsum Mehmood 6 years ago from Nagpur, India

Very well written hub creativeone. I used to be a puppet to someone. I cut my strings and mind you I am very happy now being my own master now.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Lady D, I appreciate your comment, support, feedback and precious input. I hope you know what it means to me. May God continue to bless you and your efforts. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Blessings to you donotfear, I appreciate you stopping by my hub, and I also appreciate your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Teresa L, thank you for stopping by and giving me your valuable comment and feedback. Women have to stand up for their rights and not be treated like a puppet, when someone pull her string. God bless you. creativeone59


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago

Creativeone, You have made some great points! This is unfortunate! I have counseled with many that have been abused in this way... I am so glad that the Lord FREED you and NOW your daughter; NOW you walk in VICTORY! You are a strong woman!

You CAN TRUST GOD! He has promised to WORK ALL THINGS together for GOOD for those who LOVE HIM and are called according to HIS purpose!" That means even the bad things! HE IS BLESSING you in SO many WAYS! Keep pressing forward and looking ahead! Love & Blessings!


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donotfear 6 years ago from The Boondocks

You have just desribed in detail all the traits of an abuser. I've talked to many women who've been a victim of this very thing, including myself. Once you live throught this, it's never the same. I still catch myself cringing to this day. Words can manipulate, too. We're survivors!


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Teresa Laurente 6 years ago from San Antonio, Texas, U.S.A.

Oh, yes my friend. Definitely we have to take care of ourselves well and not allow anyone to push us around and us surrendering to be doormats. That is not what God wants us to be.

Thank you for sharing this reflection. Indeed a great reminder.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you eslir for stopping by my hub, I apreciate you anbd your comments and feedback. May God bless you and yours for the up coming year. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you ivori for your words of wisdom, your comments and feedback. Godspeed. creativone59


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esllr 6 years ago

Amen! Have a properous and Blessed New Years Creativeone.

Be Blessed.

Keep this good food coming!


ivori 6 years ago

True words, Faye. Puppet masters are plentiful, and unfortunately, usually likeable (in the beginning). If you notice a caution sign, pay attention and take a detour!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Micky Dee, I honestly try to tell the truth at all cost, because I don't want be the one that lead someone down the wrong path, I don't think my God would like that. thank you friend for your comment and feedback. Blessin gs to you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you RevLady for your precious comment and feedback, I appreciate you and your efforts. Godspeed creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thanks BK, I think it is time for women to claim their worth and start putting what they mwant first, instead of always put the man first. I agree with you on all counts. Thank you for your comment and feedback. blessings to you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you stricklydating stopping by my hub and thank you for comments and feedback. godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thanks Hello, but I;m sure quite a few of us would say it reads like your like story, be just have to be strong and courageous enough, that it doesn't have to us again. Thank you for your comment and feedback. I appreciate you so much. have a blessed day dear. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Veronica, but my words of wisdom is 99% experience and it's and it's not all good. I try to live for the moment and and leave the past behind, because it could be depressing if I dwelled 0n it. Thank you for your comments and feedback. Gods blessings to you. creativeone59


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

Thanks Creativeone. I love the truth and you're full of the truth!


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RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

A wonderful hub creativeone and a wake up call for others in controlling situations. Control issues exist not only between husband and wife, but between companions, friends, parent and child and so forth. The power advice:

Don't Be A Puppet On A String For Anyone"

Forever His,


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

It's amazing how much women bring into a relationship - only to be told forever by these control freaks that it is not enough - it is never enough.

I wish more women would spend time investing in themselves (e.g. education, travel experience, investments, dating for the sake of dating, job skills, etc.) before they invested their all in a relationship.

Thanks for the hub!


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stricktlydating 6 years ago from Australia

Great advice creativeone59, and Happy Holidays!


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

This reads like my lifestory. These characters have a knack of controlling and without realizing they cut you off from anyone who wants to be closed. The reason is that they would loose control and they know it. Thank you for reading this enjoyable and well written hub. I wish ....


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

Great words of wisdom. I think this may have happen to all of us at least once in our lifetimes. Sometimes we love the fact of just being in love, that we can't see what's really going on.

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