Warning Signs of a Disastrous Relationship

Webster's Dictionary defines the following:

  • Main Entry: di·sas·trous
  • Pronunciation: \di-ˈzas-trəs also -ˈsas-\
  • Function: adjective
  • Date: 1594

1 : attended by or causing suffering or disaster : calamitous <a disastrous flood>
2 : terrible, horrendous <a disastrous score>

di·sas·trous·ly adverb



Main Entry: re·la·tion·ship

  • Pronunciation: \-shən-ˌship\
  • Function: noun
  • Date: 1741

1 : the state of being related or interrelated <studied the relationship between the variables>
2 : the relation connecting or binding participants in a relationship: as a : kinship b : a specific instance or type of kinship
3 a : a state of affairs existing between those having relations or dealings <had a good relationship with his family> b : a romantic or passionate attachment


We have clearly defined "disastrous relationship," but more specifically, let's devote this Hub to relationships with a romantic or passionate attachment.

Here are a few signs (actually consider it a checklist) to determine if your relationship is on shaky ground. You may already recognize some of these signs, but maybe needed to see them in black and white in order to confirm your feelings about the relationship you are in.

  1. Does the person have active substance abuse issues? Don't make the grave mistake of believing that your part in the relationship can pull them out of this trap.
  2. Does the person make past partners responsible for the failure of their previous relationship? This may be a sign that the person can/will not assume responsibility for their part of the relationship.
  3. Does the person have anger management probelms? - How does the person deal with negative emotions, both in public and when alone with you.
  4. Is the person controlling? - Does the person always have to be right or have their own way? Are they humble enough to admit when they are wrong and make amends?
  5. Are they honest? - Does the person treat you differently when you are around family and friends?
  6. How about commitment? - Do you feel insecure when you are with the person and you are around other people (mainly the opposite sex)  because they are always "checking out" others?

Comments 8 comments

ElElyone profile image

ElElyone 7 years ago

Are you searching for the "perfect person?"

You left out that question sister.

LOL ROF sorry I could not resit !!!

Catlyn profile image

Catlyn 7 years ago from Somewhere in the OC Author

Hmmmm , I gave that "search" up long ago ---- rather put it in the HANDS of the PERFECT PERSON !!!

Universal Laws profile image

Universal Laws 7 years ago from UNIVERSE

Hi, I feel you have summarised perfectly all the conditions which would show that the person was unable to "relate" in a clear, loving aware way so a relationship would be impossible - just a scenario would be possible. One of my own sayings is "live in a scenario free zone" it gets you to sort out what are and are not relationships.


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Catlyn 7 years ago from Somewhere in the OC Author

Thanks for stopping by and commenting, Universal Laws. Scenarios = drama!

God bless!

DeBorrah K. Ogans profile image

DeBorrah K. Ogans 7 years ago


This is really helpful! You have made some very good point here! Thank You for sharing!


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Catlyn 7 years ago from Somewhere in the OC Author

Your comments are appreciated, DeBorrah. Thanks for the feedback!

green tea-cher profile image

green tea-cher 6 years ago

Very good points, Catlyn. I have several acquaintances who thought they could break a prospective partner of a "habit" by forming a relationship with them. In the end, the relationship ended, the habit did not. Good Hub!

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Catlyn 6 years ago from Somewhere in the OC Author

Green tea-cher, Been down that road of thinking I could love someone enough to change their negative behavior. Not going back down that road again. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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