Easy Give-Aways to Let You Know That He is Cheating on You

Some cold hard facts about men cheating

Before I get to the "meat" of my story, we need to look at some staggering facts. About 17 percent of divorces can be blamed on infidelity. An amazing percentage, considering there are so many other reasons for divorce . Now get this fact: 70 percent of married men admitted to cheating on their wives while another study found that two thirds of women are blind to their husband's cheating.

Imagine finding your husband's photo along with a photo of another woman. Shocking is not the word.
Imagine finding your husband's photo along with a photo of another woman. Shocking is not the word. | Source
He calls out other girls' names in his sleep.
He calls out other girls' names in his sleep. | Source
Do not let this be how your wedding cake looks.
Do not let this be how your wedding cake looks. | Source
He sends and receives texts from a woman that he will not tell you about.
He sends and receives texts from a woman that he will not tell you about. | Source
"She" is always at his weekly poker game with the guys.
"She" is always at his weekly poker game with the guys. | Source
Ladies, this is what a cheating husband really dreams about.
Ladies, this is what a cheating husband really dreams about. | Source

This is real life in print

I will not pull punches. And I will certainly not sugar coat the topic of today's topic. This is probably the saddest of all the hubs that have came from my imagination through my fingers onto my keyboard.

Cheating husbands are all alike in one way: They all have a loyal, loving wife who cooks, cleans, runs errands, takes care of the kids, so they will not tell their trusting wives of their infidelity because they do not want to lose the good thing they have going--at home and with their girlfriends.

Time for the truth to reveal itself

I have a rather odd opinion of "these" cheating husbands without backbones. I think that if they are truly drawn to another woman and serious about a relationship with her, they should have the nerve to sit the wife down and although it will not be a pleasant scene, it will be an honest confession by the straying husband. If the honest cheating husband and trusting wife divorce, at least they can part and not have a nasty memory of name-calling and sometimes violence hanging over them for life.

I have put it off long enough. So please brace yourself as I present for the ladies who are dating a possible "Mr. Right," or have said "I do," to who they believe is "Mr. Right."

Easy Give-Aways to Let You Know That He is Cheating on You

Your husband . . .

  • Is many times restless even while he is supposed to be relaxing at home with you and the kids. You, out of curiosity, ask him why he is so restless. He offers a quick, believable reason: Work-related tensions. That is the most-used excuse used by cheating husbands.
  • Is suddenly not interested in accompanying you to the parks, museums and other places you frequented while you were dating. Now it's, "Naaah, dear. I have worked like a dog this week and I just want to kick-back and watch National Geographic." You reply, "But dear, you were off all last week." He grins and snaps, "Just kidding," but you know that while you were away, he was either going to call his new girlfriend or even go to a secret rendezvous with her.
    Is always finding reasons to go into work on weekends. You are suspicious because he is not the workaholic type.
  • Is always using more of his cologne and pays extra attention to his appearance even when he says he "has" to work one of his weekend gigs. You grow worried when you ask who else is working and he replies, "just me." But you being the trusting wife, do not want to start an ugly fight with him.
  • Is growing later and later for dinner. For the first ten years of your marriage, he was "Johnny-on-the-spot," and sometimes even home earlier than usual.
  • Is tossing and turning while sleeping. To make things more suspicious, he mumbles a girl's name more than once. But you, the diplomatic wife, remain cool and at breakfast the next morning, you do not ask him who the girl was he was calling in his sleep.
  • Is now taking you to places where you know he could see his mistress even while having dinner with him. This is a brave move even for a cheating husband.
  • Is very careful to not put motel or gift receipts in his pockets so you will find them. But you can carefully inspect the ashtray in the car. If you spot a cigarette butt with lipstick, then you have the first plank in your "foundation of suspicion."
  • Is first to answer the phone before you or the kids. No matter if he is in another part of the house, he yells, "I will get it!" You remember not too long ago he said that he was around phones so much at his job that he hates hearing the phone at home ring. Funny now he is the best operator on the block. Telephone operator, that is.
  • Is getting sloppy in his vocabulary. More than once when you and your husband are having a conversation, he uses another girl's name then catches himself and apologizes. But explains that the girl's name is one of the girls at his job. Now you are really getting ready to ask what is going on because you know for a fact that there are NO women at his job site.
  • Is going out of his way to hide a lavish gift wrapped for a woman. You accidentally find the gift under the car seat, but it does not have a name tag. Still, it is not anywhere near your birthday or anniversary.

Ladies, no thanks necessary. I was glad to help.

Ladies only: How would you handle it if your husband were cheating?

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Your husband buys lavish gifts that are not for you. Watch out for this sign.
Your husband buys lavish gifts that are not for you. Watch out for this sign. | Source

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LisaRoppolo 9 months ago from Joliet, IL

You forgot about the guy who is such a good liar and actor, no one in your entire circle knew about the cheating or even had an inkling. True story. Happened to me. We had just gotten back from a long-overdue vacation and a week later on a Friday, I came home to find a "dear John" letter and all his stuff gone like a coward. He never even admitted it was because it was another woman, but I was able to confirm it about 2 days later. He moved right in with her and then two months after his disappearing act, they went to city hall and got married. LOL


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kenneth avery 9 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

LisaRoppolo:

You are right. Thanks for the catch. I also forgot an incident I witnessed on Facebook involving two friends of mine, the man was a minister and his wife was the perfect minister's wife as she supported him completely. According to his wife, they both reached out to this woman who was homeless and said that she could live with them until she was on her feet.

But it backfired on the wife for he was showing the visiting woman too much attention--in front of her!

The wife was fed up and mentioned to him if he wanted a divorce. He said he had counted the times she had mentioned divorce and twice was his que to leave with his things and move in with the other woman.

He announced on Facebook that he is no longer a minister.

He did show "some" integrity.

Thank you for your comment. Write me anytime.


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Kiss andTales 9 months ago

Interesting Kenneth, as always you are such a good and detailed writer,

When I think of people cheating on a mate, it reminds me of Judas who betrayed Jesus , for 30 pieces of silver, Jesus Value is so high there is no value you can imagine or say in numbers, he paid for generations of people even down to us, yes Judas traded money for Jesus who was his savior as well , a bad outcome,

A wife's value is high price as well and you cover a good list of them ,

So a sleezie one night stand would be a stupid move to intertain.

A wife has proven her love and loyalty by being by her mates side in sickness and health

In the good times and bad, true any couple can have tribulation as written in the bible which says

1Co 7:28 But even if you did marry, you would commit no sin. And if a virgin married, such a person would commit no sin. However, those who do will have tribulation in their flesh. But I am trying to spare you.

Yes tribulation in the flesh will happen as written

But what is, also written

Eph 5:33 Nevertheless, each one of you must love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband.

Also it did not say a husband has to earn this respect from his wife ,but she is to give it .

Also for the outsider of this couple it strictly says

Mt 19:6 So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has yoked together, let no man put apart.”

Notice God yoked this arrangement , so when people violate this arrangement, they not only violate the innocent spouse , but they sin against God the Father who created this beautiful union.

So the bottom line is people are to be faithful to each other, outsiders stay out.

No blessings come from doing wrong.

Good hub Kenneth thanks for sharing.


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kenneth avery 9 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Kiss and Tales,

Hello, my Special and Dear Friend. How are you? I have missed hearing from you a LOT.

I savored your comment(s) which are all the truth. Thank you for really nailing the importance of being faithful and the consequences of adultery.

Thanks again for your compliment. I am doing my best to get back to my old style of hubbing and take it from me, if writing hubs is like riding a bicycle, you never forget, then explain why I am falling so much. LOL.

Love You Lots,

Kenneth


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LisaRoppolo 9 months ago from Joliet, IL

I knew someone like the Minister's wife. An all too common story.


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Kiss andTales 9 months ago

Just took a little break , My Son Is Getting married, So I have been busy arranging some options, it a joyous occasion for us all, I certainly miss many here , some times, I look in , many things said lately I find interesting, but many things also repeated, as answers .

I am so happy your writing continues and is very informative. I look forward to your hubs Kenneth

My friend as you say for life. Thanks


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grand old lady 9 months ago from Philippines

Very interesting article. My hubby doesn't match the list, but I may print it out and hang it in the bathroom mirror so he'll know I will know if ever he does, hahaha.


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Suhail and my dog 9 months ago from Mississauga, ON

Hi Kenneth,

I loved this article in your characteristic style full of humor ha-ha!


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kenneth avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

LisaRoppolo,

Hello, sweet friend.

A sincere thanks for the comment. Yep. A minister's wife.

Hey, I noticed that you live in Joliet, Ill., which just happens to be one of my all-time favorite towns in the USA.

If I were to visit your town, would you have coffee with me?

Seriously.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Suhail and my dog,

Thanks, my friend.

Love me some of your comments.

Thanks for the support over the past months. I desperately need it.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Grand Old Lady (who is NOT old),

You, my dear, are a very wise lady in doing the hanging of this hub on your bathroom mirror.

Nothing like "being forewarned is being forearmed."

Thanks for coming by.


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kenneth avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Sweet Kiss and Tales,

I always love your comments which in my opinion, would make a great hub if you would do it. I mean it.

I looked at my text and maybe my eyes are strained at looking at my screen so long, but I didn't see where I repeated myself. But if you say I did, then I did. My bad.

I am continuing my writing for now. But you have not read my Community News/Post about having to drain most of my PayPal account to pay the IRS a bill on some insurance my wife had last year.

Makes no sense.

The reason I hate doing is is NOT that I love money, it is the fact that I worked very hard over 5 years to get what I have in this account and the IRS should not take it.

Sorry for not being in a happy mood.

Not your fault.

Please pray for me.

Write anytime you want.

And yes, sweet Kiss and Tales, WE ARE "Friends for LIFE!"

God bless you!

Kenneth


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Kiss andTales 8 months ago

Kenneth I did not mean you repeated yourself, because you certainly are unique in every way, your hubs prove that, my statement was about me personally repeating my question and answers posted here. Sorry I confused you my friend. You and your wonderful wife have been through so much , I appreciate every time I see you post a hub, you are sharing a wonder part of yourself , thank you my friend.


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kenneth avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

My Sweet Kiss and Tales,

"Thank you so Very Much, for being so nice and understanding with me during this time of turmoil and transition in my life which now I may not leave HP, but stay around, maybe work on some older hubs and republish them. I do not know right now.

But this I DO know: You and I are Always Going to Write each other and You will Always be a Special Part of My Heart and Life.

xoxoxoxoxo

Kenneth


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Kiss andTales 8 months ago

That's what best friends do , I 'm, here for you, I have been quiet awhile because I have been busy with some new additions to family , but I must check on everyone here , I am glad you are sticking around , your talent is most appreciated and would be missed. And I love you are part of HP,

Thanks for staying and we will keep in contact my friend.


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kenneth avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

My Sweet Kiss and Tales,

"Thank you sincerely for this and all of your sweet comments. You can take this statement to the bank: I feel a lot of sincere care in your words and phrases."

"And they are of great help to this old guy. May God bless you my DEAR, DEAR Friend."

Your Friend for Life,

Kenneth

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