Great Advice From a Divorced Man After Twenty Years of Marriage

Her heart must be taken care of or else someone else would take care of her heart for you.

1. Make sure to keep that love forever, don't let anyone steal that special one for you.
2. Focus on the good in your partner, and on what makes you two good together.
3. Love is what makes you sparkle from both inside and out to hold your marriage together no matter the hardship.
4. No need to make her a different person than she can do on her very own.
5. Control your feelings, you don't expect him/her to control your feelings.
6. No woman can make their husband the happiest. It is up to the woman and the man to create their own happiness.
7. It is up to the man and the woman to control their emotions, from sadness to happiness.
8. He/she is responsible for what and how they feel.
9. To blame a partner for any issue is the wrong attitude.
10. You made your feel at their best when you first met keep it that way.
11. Think about what makes you feel at your best. It is not about her more about yourself.
12. A woman is responsible for her own thoughts.
13. To be able to think for herself and not for anyone else thinking for herself in making her decisions.
14. She needs to know you are there for her if needed.
15. There is no need for pressuring her into an upset moment.
16. Never leave her alone if she feels sad, or disappointed.
17. Show her you are there for her and that she has a shoulder to cry on if ever needed.
18. You must pay attention to her conversations.
19. Laughing makes it feel great.
20. Instead of taking every moment seriously use a bit of laughter to get things right in your relationship.
21. In this way, you can feel very much at ease with each other.
22. Make her feel good about herself.
23. In your partner, you shouldn't be a helper or the one who puts your food on time at the table.
24. Rather, make her feel cherished and most worthwhile to you.
25. At times men just look at their wives to provide for their basic needs and fail to see them as real women the ones whom they first dated.
26. Do what makes her feel loved, and what boosts her confidence in return making her feel on a pedestal.
27. Marriage after a while becomes boring and stale this is, especially when partners stop noticing each other.

• A man divorced after twenty years of marriage and was blamed for the divorce by his ex-wife for the breaking up of their marriage.

He thinks and feels after the divorce in the following ways:

• Marriage is such a gift for many happy couples.
• Those who divorce because their partners have changed over time, and for misunderstood reasons are failures.
• The many different aspects of their lives have changed, and they fail to cope with each other.
• Some partners are too foolish to see their partners for who they have become, most of the time is seen for whom they have wanted them to be.
• You only realize how much your ex-partner is missed once the divorce is final.
• Many couples wish they hadn't ignored their partners or wish they didn't stop courting their partners.
• You shouldn't stop taking notice of your partner at any given time.
• The woman you vowed to take care of love and cherish throughout your years needs you by her side.
• Protect the one you love, and don't take your marriage for granted.
• Give affection continuously, if you don't, somebody else will do that for you.
• Appreciate your partner.
• Don't let love slip away.
• You have committed to her now be there and keep the spark alive.
• The heart tells it all, and should only have a place for her, that special part should be kept in the only one you want to enter and stay there.
• The place in your heart should be for your wife.
• Don't allow any other person to enter her heart but you.

• Keep love alive always, off-course you change all the time, but then who doesn't change?

• You will never be the same as when you first met your partner.
• The change allows for that different person.
• She seeks your attention and focus that you shouldn't ignore and give her that much to live for in her marriage.
• Treat her with love, and care, YOUR love won't disappear easily.
• Learn from mistakes and experiences
• Intimately show her how much she means to you and allow her to feel your strength.
• Every woman needs her time and you should give that to her.
• Allow her to take time out to pamper her soul, her space to know herself again.
• After having kids’ life can get pretty bundled up, but that does not mean she must not live and enjoy her own life too.
• Share your emotions and remember, whatever you do, it won't be all at once, patience is required to learn more about each other.
• Trust is about sharing your lives.
• It is about falling for each other and giving all, you got in a marriage.
• Never keep her out of your heart, and it takes a courageous man to admit his faults.
• Allow her to see you from every side not just your masked side of life.
• Nobody is perfect.
• You live and grow old together and understand each other even better after many years.
• Regrets in a marriage often show signs of a divorce.
• The moment you stop showing interest in a marriage gradually, it breaks up.
• As when you stop exercising, your muscles, it begin to feel tight.
• You then need to work on your muscles to feel relaxed and good again.
• The same goes for your marriage or other relationships.
• Teamwork works wonders as well as acceptance is important for every individual.
• Don't let past traumatic issues hold you from going forward.
• Often one can feel stuck in one position from their past traits.
• If you forgive your partner right away, moving on is often simple and is much easier on you.
• Love is always a choice of not holding onto previous mistakes.
• Always show love as your first choice in marriage.
• Marriage is about commitment and growing together, marriage is not a bed of roses.
• You have many obstacles to overcome to keep a marriage alive.
• Try to be that rock that holds everything together and be the strength that never weakens.
• Lessons in a marriage are learned the hard way.
• In many cases, after a divorce one analyzes the situation and comes up with many unnecessary issues.
• You won't believe how your marriage can come together with proper communication.
• With love, marriage can work itself through.
• Staying in a loveless marriage is a waste of energy.
• Having children and love plays a big part in a marriage.
• Young husbands need to read this hub to find out more about what a marriage entails.
• Some couples forget how to love, and you don't want to be in that way of not knowing how to love your partner.
• Never look for perfection you won't find the kind of perfection you want from the other person.
• Be the lover you want to be and challenge your marriage, and your partner should feel courageous to show you off to others.
• People grow and change all the time, but the heart never changes.