How to Ask Your Partner to Lose Weight Without Being Hurtful

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Does your partner need to lose weight?
Does your partner need to lose weight? | Source

How to Get Your Partner to Lose Weight

Your partner needs to lose weight, but you don't know how to tell him. The bottom line is that it isn't necessarily a looks thing. You are concerned for his health. The only problem is, this is such a sensitive subject that if you bring it up, you risk hurting his feelings.

It's no secret that weight loss is a hot button issue between husbands and wives. It's so easy to experience hurt feelings in the matter, especially if the subject is broached in the wrong way. The good news is that it is definitely possible to get your partner to lose weight without being hurtful.

Before getting started, keep in mind that it is really helpful to go to the doctor. Commit to your health in the New Year. Schedule an appointment for yourself and for your partner. Compare notes. This gives you a great starting point. Also, the doctor may give your partner the nudge that he or she needs to lose weight which eliminates the need for you to even say anything.

How do you bring this up with your partner?

How do you get your partner to lose weight?

  • We get into a huge argument whenever the topic comes up.
  • I try to lead by example. When I go through a weight loss plan, she joins in as well.
  • I simply tell him that I am concerned for his health and that I want to have a long life together.
  • I don't bring it up. I don't know how without hurting her feelings!
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Lead By Example - Lose Weight With Your Partner

One of the best ways to get your partner to lose weight is to go through a weight loss journey of your own. Once he sees your success, he will likely join in.

Are you already at a healthy weight? You can still make positive health and lifestyle choices that will impact his weight loss. These strategies work whether or not you are both trying to lose weight or if it is just your partner who needs to lose weight. These include

  • Don't buy junk food. If he asks where it went, tell him that you want to be healthier and don't want it around.
  • Cook healthier meals. You have control over what you cook for your family. So, do things like prepare healthier versions of your favorite dishes, eating more fruits and vegetables as a family, and not eating pastries for dessert each night.
  • Minimize snacking. Did you used to snack all the time? Minimize snacking. In addition, prepare healthy snacks for you and your partner. If the healthier choices are readily available it will be easier to encourage weight loss.

As you can see, it is possible to be supportive even if you don't need to lose weight. If you are lucky, you won't even need to have a conversation about how your partner needs to lose weight. If they take the bait, your example will be enough.

Get Fit Together Doing Something Fun

Doing a fun activity together like hiking can really help the pounds come off.
Doing a fun activity together like hiking can really help the pounds come off. | Source

Exercise Together

Another thing you can do to encourage your partner to lose weight is exercise together. There are a few ways you can do this.

  • Do an exercise DVD together. I like Jillian Michaels' DVD's quite a bit because she is motivating and her workouts are efficient.
  • Take walks together. This is an easy thing to do especially since all you need are your legs and feet and a good pair of walking shoes. You can do this virtually anywhere.
  • Active leisure time. Go for bike rides together. Take up a sport together. Learn how to ski. Go on a hike. Being active on a "date" is a fun way to interact while also burning calories.
  • Go to the gym. It can be really fun going to the gym with your partner. Couples that work out together motivate each other. Plus, it is a great way to spend time together.

Do you have any comments about this? Do you and your partner like to exercise together? I would love to hear what you do in the comments.

Tell Her She Looks Good!

She's lost inches. You've noticed, so make her smile by telling her she looks good!
She's lost inches. You've noticed, so make her smile by telling her she looks good! | Source

Give Compliments

Another important thing to do is to make sure to give your partner positive feedback whenever you see her making a positive lifestyle choice or when you notice progress. A simple compliment really does go a long way.

Here are some tips.

  • Great meal. If you noticed that he's been eating healthier, mention it.
  • Noticeable weight loss. Tell him that he looks great, even if he still has a long way to go.
  • Clothes. Does your partner look great in that new pair of jeans? Let her know!
  • Sexy. Tell him that he looks sexy when he exercises!

You get the idea. Give your partner enough compliments, and she'll realize she's onto something.

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Relationshipc 3 years ago from Alberta, Canada

Weight...it's such a touchy subject.

I totally agree that leading by example is a gentle way to lead your partner towards success. My husband has always been a healthy eater, and it is by his example that I try to eat healthier.

And working out together is a really good idea. My husband and I are doing the Supreme 90 Day DVD and we find that doing it together helps us both stay motivated and committed (even if I have a hard time getting down there.)

Basically what I am saying is, "Thank god for my husband!" lol


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kohuether 3 years ago from New Hampshire Author

That is so sweet! I am sure he would be happy to see that his example helps. :-) Working out together and eating right are nice ways to bring a couple together, for sure.


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

Togetherness is the name of the game. If you're both eating the same foods and doing the same exercises, you're sharing yet another part of your lives together. Walking together is the best. Not only do you get the needed exercise but you spend time together and wind up talking about the strangest things.

This is a great hub and should prove to be motivational. Voted up, useful, and interesting.


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kohuether 3 years ago from New Hampshire Author

Thank you for your thoughts Tilsontitan. I hope my hubs is helpful and inspiring. :-) Walking is such a fun activity to do together.

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