How to be a Good Friend

Qualities of Good Friends

Haven’t we heard the famous saying a friend in need is a friend indeed? But Friendship has much more to it. Friendship is an integral part of human existence. Though true friendships can start instantly it takes time to build and develop.

If you are wondering why you don't seem to have any good friends, you should probably have a look at the below given qualities. Good friends often come with a multitude of qualities. Given are 12 Characteristics of a Good Friend.

12 Characteristics of a Good Friend

A Good Friend...

1. Accepts you as you are: A good friend is someone who does not try to be somebody that he is not and accepts you as you are. They are also patient with you when you make mistakes and forgive you when you hurt them.
2. Is Dependable: A good friend is dependable and you can trust your friend with your secrets and know that he would not let a third person know about it. He sticks with you in good times and bad. When you ask for advice, a good friend points out the right direction.
3. Is Honest: A good friend would be honest and loyal with you. He does not break the promises that he made to you. He makes you feel safe and secure with him. He is your true critic. You will find many who falsely appreciate you and your work to remain in good books. A good friend will tell you the truth even if it's something you don't want to hear. He will point out your mistakes in private and not in front of others and also help overcome it.
4. Listens to you: A good friend always listens to you and cares about your needs and emotions. A good friend would be there always when you need to talk. When you have news to share or grievances he gives you full attention.
5. Would be there for you: A good friend would be there with you through thick and thin. Good friends don’t call up people only to request a favor. But he would be the first person to come to your aid in time of crisis. He also does not allow you to indulge in any addiction or illicit activities.
6. Gives you Space: A good friend respects your privacy. He understands that you have family, other friends and colleagues who are part of your life too and do not cling to you always. He builds trust and confidence which makes you comfortable enough to share your good and bad times with him.
7. Would be Always in touch: Good friends don’t wait for you to call you. He always makes an effort to keep in touch with you even if it is through a quick phone call or an email. He knows what's going on in your life and is interested about it. A good friend also does not avoid even if they are busy and do not ignore your phone call or mails. A good friend makes it clear that they care about you.
8. Do not bad mouth you: A good friend does not bad mouth you or talk behind your back. A good friend is a friend you can trust and won't gossip about you or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you're in trouble. A good friend will also apologizes when he does something wrong. He does not keep grudges.
9. Would be Happy for you: A good friend never gets jealous on your success but would be happy for you. He celebrates your success and his success with you. When you are down and needs support he would be there to support and care about you. An ideal friend has a sensitive side which would make them understand others feelings. They may not be able to read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset. A good friend will likely know how to lift your spirits and make your day.
10. Would be Supportive: A good friend is supportive of you and your goals. He will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable. When you are in a situation where you need to be defended he would be right there beside you.
11. Would have Common Interests: A good friend is someone with whom you have something in common. He is fun to be with and he understands you and respects you.
12. Is Giving: Good friends give more than what is asked. When they see a need they respond before the other has a chance to ask without expecting anything in return and without anyone knowing about it. Good friends are generous with their time, money, possessions and knowledge. Best of all they have a generous spirit.

There is a saying that what you give is what you get back. The qualities you want in a friend should be the same that you are offering to someone else. How else can you expect to have good friends if you aren’t one yourself?

How to be a Good Friend?
How to be a Good Friend?

The A to Z of Friendship

Here is something I found on Friendship.

A Good Friend -
Accepts you as you are
Believes in "you"
Calls you just to say "HI"
Doesn't give up on you
Envisions the whole of you
Forgives your mistakes
Gives unconditionally
Helps you
Invites you over
Just "be" with you
Keeps you close at heart
Loves you for who you are
Makes a difference in your life
Never Judges
Offers support
Picks you up
Quiets your fears
Raises your spirits
Says nice things about you
Tells you the truth when you need hear it
Understands you
Values you
Walks beside you
Xplain things you don't understand
Yells when you won't listen and
Zaps you back to real.

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emi sue 2 years ago from Tennessee

Great hub. Thanks for sharing!

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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

The A-Z of friendship says it all. Nice to read the 12 qualities of a good friend though I feel having something in common between 2 people is very important to develop true friendship.

voted up.

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Ingenira 3 years ago

The A-Z of friendship is cool !

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jainismus 4 years ago from Pune, India

Great information on friendship. Thanks.

dippy 4 years ago

a true friend is like a true sister

brianna 5 years ago

this is wonderful!!!!!

lionelmessi 5 years ago

thank you anamika

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Royalmark 5 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria

Hi! Anamika,

I love the A-Z of friendship and this Hub is great.

I had a friend who I let go of on December 1st this year due to bad mouthing and always wanting to do what I'm doing (from what I see, he sees me as a threat).

I had to gird my loins to let go of him. Now, I feel brand new.

Thanks for writing on this to re-instate the necessity of good friendship(s).



merky 5 years ago

great advice.luv the ABC friendship poem.i will try 2 b that good pal.YUP.

still love to meet 5 years ago

i love to have a good and kind friend whom we can share idears together? nice to meet all, this is my number if anybady who is intrested in me you are welcome?

maryam 5 years ago

i am very happy because i have good friend

laura 5 years ago

that's so beautifu;l :)

Sisay 5 years ago

You Guys!

Friendship is so wonderful. more than you understand it, esp, Christian friends!

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Abie Taylor 5 years ago from Wakefield, United Kingdom

Really cool hub!

That's something Sophie, my friend, clearly is not. She calls me a waste of time and space and says I'm rubbish at singing and wants to stab me to death. She's not actually a friend. I hate her.

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Army Infantry Mom 5 years ago

Awesome hub - I stumbled upon it when I was updating my hubs and adding the suggested links tool. You mentioned all the great qualities everyone wishes to have in a friend,.. there fore I got to come to the conclusion, you'd make a good friend to have !!! :)

div-ya............. 5 years ago

i really like it very much i am impressed by it very much

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she_online83 6 years ago

Yes, I agree. These are the qualities of a good friend. So if we already found this person, we have to value her since a real friend is hard to find.

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johnyoung 6 years ago

There is a day dedicated for "A friend in need and is a friend indeed" - a good friend will remember that day and wish his/ her friend.

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Serendipity88 6 years ago from California

Dear Anamika,

I wanted to tell you how I was extremely impressed by your writings on friendship. I think that it is very admirable to write honestly and so poignantly about such an important topic. I just wrote my about my first piece on how it baffles me that women can treat other women so negatively. I really enjoyed your writing and I look to reading more. Thank you for sharing.

Sincerely, Raina

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gajendran1975 6 years ago

Thank you Anamika

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cupid51 7 years ago from INDIA

A great hub. I really appreciate the way you have described it! I think if somebody don't have a friend he should dig into himself. To get a good friend someone should first see whether he has the quality of being a good friend.

Thanks a lot for the good staff.

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Silver Poet 7 years ago from the computer of a midwestern American writer

I like your hub. Good work. I was going to write one on the same topic, but having found that one taken, I came and read yours. Glad I did.

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Cheeky Girl 7 years ago from UK and Nerujenia

Aw, these are lovely! Accepting of who you are, and supporting each other are pretty big ones with me! This is touching and thoughtful! Really like this Hub!

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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

Jenny30 and Simran M : thanks for the visit and encouragement.

Simran M. 7 years ago

I Loved this site. I have experienced it. Its excellent. It impressed me. Its amazing. U wonna try it.

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Jenny30 7 years ago from Canada

Great hub! All the above you mentioned is so true!!!!

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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

Cindyvine : Some hubbers only have written on this Topic and more people may write about this topic too. So do not worry. Go ahead and publish it. You may have something different to say afterall.

Jodi Hoeksel,attractnmarketing, advisor4qb, Philipo, Rahul Rajput, John Chancellor, emohealer and dohn121 : Thanks for the nice comments.

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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

These are all amazing traits a good friend will have. It is my belief that no one on this planet is ever lucky enough to have more than three! Thanks, Anamika S.

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emohealer 7 years ago from South Carolina

This is beautiful and well written, Love the ABC's! Giving is receiving, and accepting the gifts that are offered. Thanks You!

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John Chancellor 7 years ago from Tennessee

There is a Bible verse I really love, "A faithful friend is a strong defense: And he that hath found one hath found a treasure." Ecclesiastes 6:14.

I suspect one reason we don't have more friends is we are too wrapped up in ourselves that we don't/won't take the time and energy to be a friend.

Life would be much easier and more enjoyable if we would take the time and effort to develop more faithful friends.

Rahul Rajput 7 years ago

This is very true. A friend is really a big asset and friendship is beyond is all relations.


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Philipo 7 years ago from Nigeria

There is very elaborate. A friend in need is a friend indeed. It is not difficult to make friends but to get a true friend is difficult; a friend that will stand by you in all circumstances.

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advisor4qb 7 years ago from On New Footing

"To Have a Friend, You Must First BE a Friend."

"If You Have Only One Good Friend, You Have All You Need."

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attractnmarketing 7 years ago from New Zealand

I enjoyed your hub and reading all the good points in a friend.Yes a good friend is priceless and to be cherished as well. Thank you for sharing


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Jodi Hoeksel 7 years ago

Awesome hub! Cheers to good friends.

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cindyvine 7 years ago from Cape Town

Hahaha, I can't believe how great minds think alike! I started doing a hub on this very topic yesterday!

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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India Author

Thanks for the visit shamelabboush.

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shamelabboush 7 years ago

Right, you are right. True friend is a big achievement in life.

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