How to Know if it is Love, Lust or Infatuation

How do you know what you are feeling is love, and not lust or infatuation? How can you be sure? asked by CJ Sledgehammer

I have read similar questions and I have wanted to answer but I have stepped back because this question seem very personal. Today as I log into my account this question knocked on the door of my heart and I welcomed it, to share my experiences and dreams.

Love, lust and infatuation is what has many people confused. To me it is the cause of brokenhearted human beings, anxious and deceptive feelings. Some couples will just walk away from each other. Another will stay in the relation like a tragic roller coaster. Many lovers will try to find out a solution to amend the decision that brought them together.

The importance of this question strives, in that Love is the base of our lives; 1 John 4:9 says: "By this the love of God was manifested in us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world so that we might live through Him."

Could our hearts blind us?

The Bible is my guide and I can not answer without leaning on it. I have found that all the answers rest in it's words, and for those that will not find the answer it says in Luke 8:17 "For nothing is hidden that will not become evident, nor anything secret that will not be known and come to light ."

Every time love is mentioned, the part of the body that we recall is the heart. Is it possible that our heart could blind us? Jeremiah 17:9 says "The heart is more deceitful than all else And is desperately sick; Who can understand it ?" and in Matthew 15:19 "For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders ."

The best of all the things I have experienced in life is that there is hope; even more when you have faith; Proverbs 10:12 says: "Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all transgressions. " Wonderful! If you have love you will become free knowing the difference between...Love, lust and infatuation.

How can we be sure?

In 1 Corinthians 13 God gives us the best and only definition of what love is and how we can distinguish other feelings or actions in behalf of the assurance of true love.

Infatuation is defined as:the state of being infatuated or the act of infatuating; which will be foolishness or all absorbing passion or an instance of this: a mere unreasoning passion that will not last. This in my opinion is stated in the first verse of 1 Corinthians 13 that reads: "If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal ." Here is where a wolf disguised itself to fool and break hearts gaining advantage in a relation. This kind of fool will tear hearts apart, but you know what...it happens so rapidly that it will be known soon enough to be chased out; before a life gets unnecessarily hurt.

Lust is defined as: an intense sexual desire or appetite, an uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire, and lecherousness. The second verse of 1 Corinthians 13 says: "If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. " How wonderful to be loved...we all want to be loved and show love. The thirst in us makes us fall many times for an intense feeling.

Search your heart

Source

Love is...

...1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 has the guide that our Lord has given us; write this in your heart so it will be able to know when to open the door when the knock is heard.

  • Love is patient
  • Love is kind
  • Love is not jealous
  • Love does not brag
  • Love is not arrogant
  • Love does not act unbecomingly
  • Love does not seek its own
  • Love is not provoked
  • Love does not take into account a wrong suffered
  • Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness
  • Love rejoices with the truth
  • Love bears all things
  • Love believes all things
  • Love hopes all things
  • Love endures all things

Conclusion

Proverbs 4:23 "Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life." How can we be sure of love? Love can not be sought out...it finds us. We will be able to welcome it if we have true love in our own heart.

Thanks CJ Sledgehammerfor heart provoking questioned.

Blessings to all!

© Maria Magdalena Ruiz Ofarrill

Love is

© 2012 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill

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kumar24894 4 years ago from Fuck of HUBPAGES

Great hub !

We can feel it if someone loves us by the way she will care for us, she will fought against anyone for us and if she is ready to do anything for our happiness.

If she will cry while telling how much she love me and what she will be if I will be not with her, understand that she is madly in love.

Voted up ! Sharing :)


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Froggy213 4 years ago from On A Mountain In Puerto Rico

Another great hub--Have I told you I love you?

Voted up!


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

kumar24894, I am happy for you because your words seem to appreciate what love is.


kumar24894 4 years ago from Fuck of HUBPAGES

Thanks :)


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Thanks Froggy213, yes you do it every single moment.


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HattieMattieMae 4 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

Very good hub, and very true. This is where I learned what real love is or recognizing it by what I read, but experiencing it is a whole other story. lol You can read it, memorize it, learn it, but when it actually is there it's a lot rougher to maintain, and issues from the past with other people need to be resolved. Interesting to say that the heart is all evil. lol I don't know if I agree with that quote. I think in our minds more so than our hearts we create evilness and darkness. Or confusion, strife, etc by our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. The mind is very powerful. Out of my heart at least only love comes from. I guess it's just one of those quotes I'll question all though it is God's word. Just studying a lot of social work, and etc, I would say more it comes from the way our minds process things, and story's we create about other people. lol


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

I love the picture of you two on the beach...now that is love!

Great topic and you covered it well. In my case I had to experience the wrong kinds of relationships before I finally was able to recognize true love....and I had to learn to love myself.


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Angela Blair 4 years ago from Central Texas

Beautiful and right on target. I didn't have the bible references to support my beliefs but thanks to you -- now I do! Best/Sis


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Patty Kenyon 4 years ago from Ledyard, Connecticut

Great hub and Beautiful Picture!!!


CJ Sledgehammer 4 years ago

"Thanks CJ Sledgehammer for your heart provoking question." - Lastheart

No. THANK YOU, Lastheart, for your most excellent answer!!!

May God bless you abundantly - C.J. Sledgehammer

Voted up, beautiful, interesting, useful, and downright awesome!!!


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

HattieMattieMae thanks for sharing your thoughts, I wish you the deepest love for ever in your life.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

billybuc , your comments are an honor. I think many of us go through different kind of relation until we get closer to what could be true.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Angela Blair, thanks, actually the story of your brother is one of the best love story I have read.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Patty Kenyon, thanks and I recommend to take many pictures as possible; they will be what will keep you fighting through life. Stopping moments has a mystery.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

CJ Sledgehammer , thanks again...wow...now this time you have provoke in me pride.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

I like "Love Is" from 1 Corinthians. That pretty much sums it all up. The photo brings it all together. Very nice! Thank you.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

vocalcoach very nice of you, thanks!


CJ Sledgehammer 4 years ago

"CJ Sledgehammer , thanks again...wow...now this time you have provoked in me pride." - Lastheart

Please don't blame me...all I did was tell you the truth. What you did with the truth, after I left, is all your doing. :0)


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

CJ Sledgehammer , this world needs love and as we can spread even words. The difference is that there are words and there are words. Some words are alive like "Love".


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shiningirisheyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

Very powerful words and truthful ones at that. Shooting straight from the hip is your style and I so appreciate that.

Wonderful write my friend.


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Kathryn L Hill 4 years ago from LA

It seems that Love is the antidote to Evil: Desire for power, Blind Ambition, Greed, Envy, Pride and Lust.

LOVE /EVOL EVIL /LIVE LOVE/LIVE Its is funny how these words are so close. LOVE /EVOL Obviously to love is to live. So if you care about someone else you want them to live. To me that is love.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Thanks shiningirisheyes and Kathryn L Hill your comments are really important!


kathrynlhill@gmail.com 4 years ago

I also appreciate your style of "shooting straight from the hip!"


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

kathrynlhill@gmail.com you made me google "shooting straight from the hip". Thanks again for your appreciation.


workupafuss 3 years ago

Great article Maria!

With my children coming of age and naturally wanting to find their own special someone, I always suggest that they pray for discernment from God to be able to choose the right partner as I could only give my version and not theirs. God has it ordained for each of us. We must learn to be patient and attentive to the answers He {God} gives.

Thanks again.


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Lastheart 3 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

workupafuss how wonderful to see you around. Thanks for your time and your appreciated comment.


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

You definitely enlightened me on love, infatuation and lust sometimes it can be confusing.


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Lastheart 3 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

DDE nice to read your comment. Real love is known when you have peace in the worst situation, and no matter how the conditions are is always there ... in my experience.


Maha Naeem Khan 3 years ago

Bingo!

wonderful one.

Please take a few minutes out to read it as well.

Love Lust or infatuation

http://makingworldbeautiful.blogspot.com/2013/02/l...


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Lastheart 3 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Maha Naeem Khan thanks you wrote something kind of the same.


phatface 2 years ago

Beautiful!


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Lastheart 2 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Thanks phatface!

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