'Man Cave"

I know you have heard of them. Men having their own little get away rooms. All decked out in he latest electronics and comforts. I think there is even a show about designing them now. But when does it become to much? Sometimes it can be taken to the extreme.

My ex had one. It was our Den and it was a room that no one had to go through to get to anywhere else, so it was all his own. There was even  a door leading outside. He came home from work went straight to his man cave and that is where he stayed til supper was ready, he even took his supper there at times. That room was the place he smoked, watched tv and for several years he slept there.

I have seen these rooms on several sitcoms lately. Even back when Home Improvement was on one of the episodes had a man cave bathroom with all the amenities. I have seen some of them with a Microwave, TV, Stereo systems, plush chairs, Refrigerator and I am sure there are more extensive ones as well.

As I sit here thinking, I ask myself, 'Are you jealous?'  But I can honestly say 'No'. I would want someone to share a room like that with me and not of the same sex either. But then I am not a man, Thank goodness for that. I enjoy being a woman.

I had a friend that actually built a room in his back yard that was only his. I truly do not understand this. If it's to watch sports, or just party with your friends I find that kind of sad. Now if it a place to work, or write, yes I find that useful as you need the solitude for these tasks. But myself personally I would want to enjoy a ball game with my man as I love sports and too I would want to party with him as well. I admit we all need time to ourselves to refill and clear our minds, but I would not want a room all to myself with all that tech, it seems a kind of lonely thing to me.

So tell me, do you vote yes or no on 'Man Caves'? I am interested in your take on this: both men and women.

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Joni Douglas 6 years ago

I have to smile as read this. When we moved into this house, with 3 kids, there weren't enough rooms available for him to have his own room. So he got the garage. But as he stated when we bought the house........

'We bought a heated 2 stall garage and a house came with it.'

He hasn't slept out there yet, but, he's happy with it and I know right where to find him.

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

So True Joni!! Yes we know where to find them, good point!! So glad it works for you. Thanks for reading my hub and for your great comment!!

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Specialk3749 6 years ago from Michigan

When we only had 1 child and lived in a different house, my husband spent a lot of time in the garage. He needed that time and I wish he had a garage now...I could send him to it. LOL On the other hand, some of this is way too selfish! We all need a place where we can go for a quiet time, but there is a fine line. When these men spend all their time in that place, I think something is wrong! Just my 2 cents!

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

I like your 2 cents Specilk and I agree with you. Why get married if you strive to spend time away from your spouse. Yes we all need time to ourselves, but to me this has become an obsession with some. We all need time away from each other but on a smaller scale. Thank you for stopping in and for your sincere comment.

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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

I never had nor did I ever desire a man cave. Perhaps I am more social than most fellas. Thank you for this expose. :D

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Thank you for stopping in and reading my Hub!! It is nice to know that there are some men who are not interested in such a room. Good for you!! I have a question for ya, I wrote a poem just before I published this Hub, did you get notice of it? I am just curious as I have not had one comment on it!! Thank you again, I always look forward to your comments.

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sheila b. 6 years ago

As I was reading about man caves, I thought about the sewing rooms women used to have. So my idea is that everyone in a household needs a personal space. And, if a man isn't inclined to work in his garage, and does prefer TV or his computer or such, then having such a space doesn't seem unreasonable. Only when he decides to spend all of his time in his 'cave' is it a problem.

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

I agree with you and I too remember those sewing those sewing rooms. but those rooms were where women sewed for the family. It wasn't a personal entertainment room. Yes we all need our personal space, good points Sheila B. Thank you for your comment and for taking the time to read my Hub!!!

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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

I had not yet seen the poem but I did read it just now. Thank you and you are welcome. :)

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_cheryl_ 6 years ago from California

I have to say that I'm all for a guy having his "man cave". I admit I've eyed some pretty sweet set ups in basements especially that I would love to have myself. But- if he's gonna have his man cave, then there should be room for my own "cave" as well! LOL! To be honest, knowing my husband the man cave wouldn't stay a man cave for long and he'd end up sharing time with us in it eventually. =)

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

cheryl you are lucky to have a man that would share!!! I sometimes think men assume that our 'caves' are in the kitchen, not my idea of relaxing or entertainment. I agree, a 'man cave 'is allowed, but some nights it needs to be 'our cave' lol!!!! Thanks for your comment and taking the time to read my Hub. Your comments are always welcomed!!

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Dim Flaxenwick 6 years ago from Great Britain

I´m lucky enough to have a husband who love cooking, so we call the kithsen ´his laboratary´where he experiments with all kinds of googies.

He loves óur office´too where we both spend time on the computer, but I would have to agree with you about a ´ccomplete isolation type man-cave´. I don´t think that sounds good for anyone. take care

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Thank you for your comment, it is always welcomed!!

Thanks Dim!!! xxxxxxx

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RunAbstract 6 years ago from USA

Actually, I think it's ok for a guy to have a "man cave", as long as he doesn't hide in it all the time like your ex.

If it is strictly his, he can make his messes, AND clean them up. He won't need to leave home to enjoy "man" things us woman just don't "get". And we all need a place that we can retreat to. Some people garden, some people have a nook they write or read in, some people have a craft room, sewing room, or studio. So yeah... I think a man cave is fine, as long as he doesn't constantly "hibernate" in there and exclude himself from his loved ones.

Great read! Thought provoking.

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Thank you Runabsract!! I agree with all you said. But some men take it to the extreme unfortunately. But I guess to each his own or her own, Lol!!! Thanks for your comment and for stopping in!!

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DREAM ON 6 years ago

I find my man cave more a place to tinker with things that are broken.More like a workshop for things I am not ready to part with.If I can't fix it I take a hammer to it until my next project comes in.My wife would of been done with those things long before I was.I had to give it one more try.I look at it like my fun alone time.I keep the house clean and don't leave any project left undone for too long.Nice topic lots of interesting ideas.

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Thank you Dream On!! It is always nice to have a man comment on a subject such as this. Sounds like your man cave is useful. Thank you for taking the time to read my hub and for your input!!

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ahorseback 6 years ago

We all need privacy. I do at least, and women too. I find that women like to shop or dine ,spending time with friends , I like going off alone but thats me. A place to tinker and work is a good one too. This is an informative hub though , nohing like dialog huh? To get to know the opposite sex.

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

I agree a space to tinkier but not a space to just hang with your buddies all the time away from your family. I like my quiet time but I do not need a 'Woman cave ' to do so, Thanks for stopping in and for your comment. And yes you are right about dialog.

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epigramman 6 years ago

..gee I dunno - I think I could make a 'man-cave' out of your hubs because they're exciting and fun and full of wit and information and passion and sincerity - how about we call it a 'people-cave' ....

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Hey I will go for that!!! I like your comment, thanks for stopping in and reading my Hub and for your great comment!!

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Micky Dee 6 years ago

Yep! We do need that cave somewhere. Thank you for another great hub!

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

I guess we all do in one way or another. Thanks for stopping in!!

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