Marriage Quotes - The Keys To A Successful Marriage

So in love but how to make it last?
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Many marriages end up on the rocks because one or both parties are not prepared for the reality that is married life. A successful courtship and romance does not in any way equal a successful marriage. A successful marriage involves far more than courtship rituals and whispered promises.

The following quotes about marriage and married life emphasizes facets and perspectives that is important in a successful marriage. I have included some personal perspectives which I hope can add to and enhance the underlying message.

A man in love is incomplete until he has married. Then he's finished. - Zsa Zsa Gabor
This is a very clever play of words using the two possible meanings for the word “finished”. It can mean that he will be perfect after he is married, or it can mean that he is done for. Zsa Zsa Gabor probably meant the latter meaning.

But I would like to take it to mean that a man has a choice when he marries. A man is definitely finished when he gets married. But he gets to choose if he is completed, or if he is done for. I think, the difference between one or the other is commitment, a sincere desire to really try to make it work and a change of perspective.


Almost no one is foolish enough to imagine that he automatically deserves great success in any field of activity; yet almost everyone believes that he automatically deserves success in marriage. - Sydney J. Harris
You gave her roses, bought her chocolates, whispered sweet nothings in her ear and catered to her every whim and fancy. And then you married her. What in the world possessed you to think that you can stop doing all that and still expect her to run to you and treat you like you are the last man on Earth? So, what are you doing still reading this? Get out there and do whatever it takes to make her happy, and keep doing it. And that goes for you too, ladies.


A journey is like marriage. The certain way to be wrong is to think you control it. - John Steinbeck
And why would you want to control it? Look at marriage as a journey into the unknown, because, just like life, that’s what it really is. Look at each twist and turn, each setback, each obstacle as a door into a new and unknown room. A room that is full of possibilities for learning, for change, and for new experiences. Look at marriage as an adventure. And it won’t be much of an adventure if there isn’t anything new, unknown or exciting in it, would it?


A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. - Mignon McLaughlin
A marriage is no different from life itself. The twists and turns in life are many. I’m sure that if you were to look back at yourself just five years ago, the person that you were would have been surprised at how life has turned out for you just five years hence.

Over time, a marriage will change in character. You will change, just as your partner will also change. And even your love towards each other will change. The key is to know, expect and accept the changes that will come. What cannot change is your commitment towards each other. If that does not change, then a successful marriage, and a marriage that lasts a lifetime is a very real possibility.


Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. - Simone Signoret
When two people are madly in love with each other, it is a chain that binds them together. In many cases, the chain holds - through engagement, marriage, kids, and eventually, old age. But in other cases, the chain breaks, and when it does, the two people that were madly in love suddenly find that without their love for each other, they are no better than strangers.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that it takes more than love to make a marriage and to hold the marriage together. It is those shared memories, shared goals, and even shared miseries that forms the tiny threads that eventually make two people inseparable. It is these threads,perhaps much more than love itself, that you want to have when you enter a marriage together. And it is these threads that make a marriage last.


A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time. ~ Anne Taylor Fleming
When two people are in the throes of romantic love, it is as if they have become one person. The character flaws and weaknesses of one person does not matter to the other. The likes and dislikes of one become the likes and dislikes of the other. They will laugh at the same jokes and get mad at the same things. And they expect it to continue into marriage.

And of course it doesn’t. It is important to realize that a marriage is two different people with two completely different life experiences coming together to live under one roof and to share a life together. While they will have things in common, they will have other interests in which the other party will have a complete disinterest in.

The trick would be not to “force” a complete integration of their lives, but to accept that there will be differences. Rather than two lives integrating into one, it would be better to have their lives together along with a life that each party has that does not include the other party.

Think of it this way. I’m sure many wives would be glad not to tag along with their husbands when they do boring stuff like watch sports or go fishing. And I don’t know of any husband who enjoys their wife’s shopping trips.


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richtwf 6 years ago

A very useful hub my friend and thanks for sharing these quotes. I love quotes and these are excellent ones on marriage so cheers for sharing them.

Marriage is a tough undertaking and requires a lot of effort, patience and compromise to ensure that a marriage has every chance of being a success. The advice here I am sure can help many a married couple.

Cheers for sharing and God bless!

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wandererh 6 years ago from Singapore Author

richtwf - Thanks! I was preparing these in the hopes that one day, perhaps in the not too distant future, I would have the courage to take the plunge. And I certainly hope that many couples, and other soon to be married couples, find these quotes useful too. :)

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anglnwu 6 years ago

Great selection of quotes but I like Zsa Zsa Gabor best. Like you pointed out, this quote carries double meaning.

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wandererh 6 years ago from Singapore Author

anglnwu - I'm thinking of her husbands' reaction if she were to tell them the quote immediately after they were married. :)

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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

Very interestingly written and great quotes

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wandererh 6 years ago from Singapore Author

Hello, hello, - Nice of you to say so. :)

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2besure 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

Well said! Marriage is a partnership that has to be worked at constantly by both parties.

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wandererh 6 years ago from Singapore Author

2besure - True. Too many people go into marriage thinking that love is all that is needed, and they come away with divorce. :(

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bettybarnesb 6 years ago from Bartlett, TN

Hey wandererh: Very useful hub. Had some sound advice.

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wandererh 6 years ago from Singapore Author

bettybarnesb - Thanks! :)

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Better Yourself 6 years ago from North Carolina

Beautiful quotes. I enjoyed reading this hub.

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wandererh 6 years ago from Singapore Author

Better Yourself - Thanks! :)

Marak 6 years ago

It's very interesting to read. I have enjoyed reading ii and I want to know more in this topic. But it is very helpful to me to choose for future life.

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wandererh 6 years ago from Singapore Author

Marak - Success in anything, marriage included, requires effort. The fact that two people are madly in love with each other is not enough to ensure success. If more people know and realise that I'm sure that there will be less divorces. Good luck on your future life. :)

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gajanis786 5 years ago

Very nice quotes.....yes it is correct that success in marriage only comes with sincerity on both sides. In fact these are actually three C's ....commitment, compromise and contribution which will make any marriage a successful marriage.Thanks.

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wandererh 5 years ago from Singapore Author

gajanis786 - I wish that people will realize that in most cases, love itself is just not enough. Thanks for dropping by. :)

reyna 5 years ago

nice quotes,, but sometimes love is temporary we don't know if our partner loves us truly coz they can find someone elsewhere

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wandererh 5 years ago from Singapore Author

reyna - Very true. Sometimes, we ourselves don't know our own heart. Or perhaps we can look at all love as temporary. I mean, separation is inevitable, whether it is through death, or falling out of love, or circumstances.

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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

The way to a long lasting and successful marriage is to fall in love with your partner over and over again. Great hub - voting up and pressing your buttons!

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wandererh 5 years ago from Singapore Author

acaetnna - Falling in love over and over again? Sounds like a good idea. :)

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TheMonk 5 years ago from Brazil

Mignon McLaughlin summarizes my view of marriage. I keep falling in love and always will. With the same wonderful person that my wife is.

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wandererh 5 years ago from Singapore Author

TheMonk - Looks like you have a good thing going there. :)

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4tune 5 years ago from Michigan

wandererh I could not agree with you more on the being in love as not being enough and therefore being the cause of so many divorces.

A FEELING is not enough though it may may seem like that when they are fresh at their peek,It is a starting point only and people fail to realize that.

I hope you take the plunge : ) I do believe some people are meant to be together.

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wandererh 5 years ago from Singapore Author

4tune - To put it another way, I think that two people can fall in love just like that. And they could just as easily fall out of love. And I believe that that happens to most couples at some point in their marriage. Those that still stay together are those that have more than just love holding them together.

And I definitely will take the plunge if I find the right girl. The trick is finding the right girl. :)

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4tune 5 years ago from Michigan

wandererh it is scary for everyone, there is always some risk factor of course there is, But then so is crossing the road or just leaving your house.

1/2 can only be faith based when you get into a marriage really. But I think if you meet the right girl faith will takeover your doubts strong enough to take that plunge.

I have seen and met happily married old people that yes have challenges in life mainly physical at their ages yet really do act respectfully and considerately in love still... RESPECT and FRIENSHIP .. those are the ones that make it the best, they don't do things in the first place that would make it easy to just stop loving each other, It really is a maturity and talent they have so to speak, and sure there is always a chance someone will do something that's hard to forgive or forget, But there is always a chance that wont happen as well.

And then you have to look at this fact: Not everyone is falling madly in love either really, much of that is infatuation,attraction,neediness, what have you and not nowhere near falling in love at a very mature level, most people I know who are miserable were young and dumb and one was more wanting of the marriage than the other.

I mean we could go on forever finding reasons to Up it or down it, to fear it or embrace it.

You want it or you don't want it, you want to trust it or you don't want to trust it. ( If you meet her and like her and trust her then take the plunge, If not then don't ) But to be in the middle.. nobody will know anything.

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wandererh 5 years ago from Singapore Author

4tune - What you said about many people falling in love are actually more of "infatuation, attraction, neediness, what have you" rather than "falling in love at a very mature level" stands out for me right now. I know personally of a few examples in which two people just met, and one of them would be talking about having fallen in love and wanting to get married! Needless to say, the other party is thinking about hightailing it to the hills.

As I understand, the pursuer is saying, "I love you. Is there any way that you can love me back?" Given time, the answer might be yes, and a rocky marriage might be on the cards.

In my opinion, if the pursuer says, "I love you but I know you don't love me back. But can we explore the possibility of us getting married in such a way so that both of us can happily live together?" I think, in this case, there might be a chance that they would live happily ever after if they do get married even if the other party never falls in love.

Anyway, if I do meet the right girl, I'm quite sure I would take the plunge. :)

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4tune 5 years ago from Michigan

Good point, that is acceptance and agreeing to disagree, I guess that does happen sometimes a situation like that.

I think the most typical thing that happens is a sort of dance between the two parties though.

Personally I wouldn't go for anyone never haven felt in love with me period, That person from my perspective won't care anything about my welfare and be a user to boot, but that has been just my opinion.

Hope you meet her and your both in love to some degree, lol! Hugs : )

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wandererh 5 years ago from Singapore Author

4tune - I'm sure the right girl for me is out there. The problem is whether I would get to meet her, since both of us would be leading busy lives. Or maybe I already know her, but we have not really found the time to get to know each other. Anyway, time will tell. :)

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jeevansathi 4 years ago from Noida

Some really nice quotes on marriage! thanks for sharing them with your readers.

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wandererh 4 years ago from Singapore Author

jeevansathi - Thanks!

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aryasamajtemple 4 years ago from Delhi

really very nice page

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wandererh 4 years ago from Singapore Author

Thank you, aryasamajtemple.

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dariusvjones 3 years ago from Colorado

My favorite quote here is in relation to people thinking that they automatically deserve a successful marriage. My wife and I are motivational speakers on marriage and one of the things we try to emphasize most is that if both parties aren't giving 100% to their marriage, more than likely they will fail or have a tremendous amount of adversity to overcome. Thank you for your post.

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wandererh 3 years ago from Singapore Author

You're right. We all have to work at being successful at what we do, and marriage is no different. Thanks for dropping by. :)

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