Men are schauvinists and dorks

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... but please no funny comments about my hairdo or appearance..

Curious about what women in general think of men...

Is it a myth or a fact that women in general think men are ecotistical, know-it-all, can-do-better, schauvanists, un-trustworthy, sexist, only want to have sex...

I know because I was one of them men. I've grown up since I got divorced and have a whole new perspective of what women are like. (Or at least I think I have)

I would like to hear from all the females, shemales, gay's and... ok... you guys too, what your thoughts and opinions are. Be it constructive or desturctive, I dont care, as long as you post replies, I'll be happy...

Please respond with as much detail as possible regarding your thoghts or opinions, and give a reason that compliments your view...

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Yes, men are schauvanistic dorks...

Do yo think that men are schauvanists, and, and, and...

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jxb7076 7 years ago from United States of America

I believe unreasonable expectations on both sides and an unwillingness to give and take results in 'dork' lablels. THere are lot of women who have no problems with men and I believe these are women who know and appreciate their own sexuality and understand that a man is just another human being with a unique purpose just as she has a unique purpose.

Regarding the sex issue, women need to understand that sex for men goes deeper than simply sex. It provides comfort, security, and acceptance, and a sense of being needed. Men's emotions are in sexual intercourse.

I believe women's sense of comfort and acceptance is in emotional relationship.


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

I apreciate your comment and thats excatly what I meant with the sex issue.

How ever, my argument is, women in general, I want to find out if it is true that most women think that bad of us men. God Bless


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izettl 7 years ago from The Great Northwest

Good thoughts- men are dorks~

Women who are not confident in their own life and with themselves will give men these labels.

My personal (and some professional counseling) experience is that men who act like this are covering up for a very sensitive nature within themselves. They are hurting someone before they get hurt. These men have a lot of emotional baggage, maybe from past relationships or parents, etc.

I wouldn't label all men, but I know a lot of women who do. It's like some women deem men as the enemy and they have to trick them, play games, or come up with a magic formula or something complicated to get a man interested or in love with them. These labels suggest men are the enemies and I don't believe that at all, but like I was saying, many women think this.

 Pre-marriage, I had great dating success. I am ok looking, but never the hottest chick in a room. While dating, I came across many "players" who deep down were very sensitive and emotionally damaged. THey are the ones that hurt deeply when somebody breaks their heart. Most women get defensive and uppity when they think a man is playing them, I just realized I needed to be extra sensitive with these guys and then they realized they didn't need to play games with me.  


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

did you vote swty...


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izettl 7 years ago from The Great Northwest

I voted I love them and I don't agree with the statement. But most women I know think men are schauvanist dorks. Maybe I had better luck with them than most women, but most men are softies.


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

Softies, softies.... you are scratching where you're not supposed to. Haha... I agree, we just pretend to be this big hooha macho species, but deep down... Oh, thats what I think though. I'll probbabl get a lot of posts with abusive or treatening comments.. Dont care...


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blondepoet 7 years ago from australia

I voted for 50% LMAO I think you spell chauvinists chauvinists hahah. Aye English was my fav subject.


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

Tx swty, English never was my forte, it's my 3rd language and currently learning Portuguese.

50%, wow, why... give me something to work on here, a reason...

U r a bit crazy, but cute....


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SearingMarketing 7 years ago from United Kingdom

Wow. Can of worms. I don't usually comment on relationship stuff but was interested to read the comments here. Could it be that everyone just wants the same things?

A few observations from experience throughout my (long) life. People behave in different ways depending on what they are looking for. Sometimes we can misread signals or be attracted to certain types of people. This might be for any number of reasons but most of us don't know why we do what we do or pick the people we have relationships with.

However, the battle of the sexes isn't about sex really as relationships are about what we give and get from each other. Our relationships with our parents and our children are just as complex. I don't agree that men are chauvinists as it seems to me that whatever our relationships end up being whether good, bad or ugly both sexes are capable of equally silly behaviours.

Being able to take a step back once in a while and trying to be better people certainly helps.

There are some great comments here and I agree that ultimately we are all human beings and that is how we should treat one another. If someone we meet along the way has a problem and doesn't behave so nice then we move on and leave them to learn their own lessons in life. The issues regarding physical relationships and emotional ones can overlap. I don't believe men are dorks at all and we should all understand that women and men do think differently particularly when it comes to sexual attraction. I've seen some of my friends use this to their advantage.

By the way I'm a woman and married. The down to earth explanation is: we don't know what the other person is thinking nor should we want to. How boring would that be. Relationships are about risking our feelings and trusting someone. Even the people that 'play the field' who run from this want to be loved even if they substitute it with physical short term relationships.

The real issue is why does anyone trust someone who is chauvinist, self-centred or whatever. This is the trick of physical attraction. The outer appearance doesn't tell us what is on the inside regardless of gender. It is really tough being single and the rules that previously defined genders are becoming blurred. The point I'm trying to make is that each person has a sub-conscious attraction list and we use this instead of common sense when we build relationships based on sexual attraction.

So is it just men that are dorks? I don't think so!


LM De Castro 7 years ago

Yes men are dorks and, and, and, those that don't seem like that are just covering their tracks. Give them a while and soon you'll see their true colours shining.

Hope this helps sweetie


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

Thats what a true democratic world should be like... Fiesty..


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Maylinda Arons 7 years ago from India

Culture plays a big role. Men behave how they saw their fathers behave, women their mothers. Hence gender roles, hence female oppression handed down to us since ancient times.

Most men, if taught to think for themselves, would not be dorks. Nor women doormats. Yet, in certain countries, this is what they are, because this is the only way they know how to be.

Disregarding that, I think you will find both male and female dorks. And wonderful people from both genders, too.


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

You are right maylinda, Every where there are &*# holes.

I like what you said "Most men, if taught for themselves" You are stirring waves.

But do you believe that MOST men are like that...


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Tatjana-Mihaela 7 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA

A lot of men to whom we like to give negative labels, have been spoiled by their own mothers (not only fathers) so whom we can blame then?

The fact is that men were "in charge" for many centuries, even now, in 21.st century in Europe they are men who think that is just enough - to be a man, to be ultimately more important then woman. But - this behaviour is not chauvinism as such - actually it shows deep emotional insecurity. 

Male-female relationships are so often painful because opposite genders were so often raised with different expectations towards life. People so often have children when they are not completely fulfill themselves, nothing strange that that children become one day confused young men or women who do not know what to do in the life and how to fulfill themselves and how to behave towards other people.

I recently wrote the hub "My bf became a women" where I described problem which I had in sharing the household duties while living with my bf,  and there were (thanks God only 2) men who were trying to convince me that housework was for women only. OMG, if this was not chauvinism I do not know what is? Hm... maybe not chauvinism - I would say "lazyness". 

World is changing, there are so many great men and women everywhere around. We all need to learn so much about our own gender and about the opposite. 

Thumbs up. 


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

I agree 100% with you, and I think the lazyness and the wmmotional insecurity boils down to chauvinism. I could be wrong coz I'm no trained phsycologist.


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Bard of Ely 7 years ago from Lisbon, Portugal

I just voted 50% because that was the best answer out of the choices as I see it but I would wish to point out that it isn't the men's fault they are like that but how they have been conditioned and brought up to be! They do not HAVE to be like that!


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Raven King 7 years ago from Cabin Fever

What languages do you speak?


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feeweewv 7 years ago from Between A Dream And Reality

It is hard for me to say for sure what I really think about men. I find one I really like and I make them out to be wayyy better than they usually are, overlooking most of the bad, conceited things that they do. It usually comes back to bite me in the ass but I like to look for the good in all men... sometimes it is hard to do


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

Raven: 3 languages - Afrikaans, my mother tounge, german and english. I'm currently learnng portuguese...

Fee: just say it. MEN ARE DORKS, easy...


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feeweewv 7 years ago from Between A Dream And Reality

Men are dorks... but i have a special place in my heart for the special creatures :)


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

Me too fee, me too... but go check these guys out, you'l love

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Iphigenia 7 years ago

I voted 'I love them and I don't agree with the statement' because even if I voted 50/50 - my first thought - then the 50% who are/might be dorks would probably just deby it anyway.

Not sure what a dork is exactly. I don't think we have in France - we probably have 'deurks' hee hee

BTW - you hair's just fine.


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

Tx frenchi. lov u 2


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Charia Samher 7 years ago

I have been hearing a lot about it & yes I think a lot of men have all of that negative things in them...although maybe it has been just a part of their lives and maybe just maybe they will learn their lessons and change for the better in the next half of their lives...but I'm not so sure as well..the only thing I am sure about is that my man is an exemption..no need to elaborate. LOL!


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

you are fortunate charia, i dont think the latter half of their lives they will change... once a cheater/dork/abuser, always one...

Except me of course, lol, haha


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trimar7 7 years ago from New York

I had to be honest. I love men inspite of their flaws. Men bring an energy to the table, a playfulness of sorts that most women do not cannot due to the way that we are socialized. Or, at least the way it used to be.


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men are dorks 7 years ago from Namibia Author

Oh Trimar7, i'm begining to like them too


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FirstStepsFitness 7 years ago

IMO Men can be . I voted 80% ...was there a 100% ? LOL

I have noticed something interesting men tend to be worse around either 1 other male or a group of them . Now ...why is that ???? hmmmmm is there a male perspective?


geekgirl 7 years ago

When men think that everything that a woman does is to please them; THAT IS WHEN MAJOR DORK STATUS BEGINS TO APPLY!

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