My Description and Definition of a Perfect Woman

Let's be honest

From my title, “My Description and Definition of The Perfect Woman,” you would assume that being a male, that my mouth would water, my heart would pound like a bass drum played by a high school kid named “Norman,” in the high school band, and sweat would pour from every orifice of my body at any of the women to the right for by all standards of American society, these photos are only a sample of the “perfect” woman.

Partly-sad, partly-honest, but emphatically “No.” And seriously-emphatically, I am not attracted to guys. I am proud of my heterosexual make-up. This does not mean that I have a license to commit adultery any time I please. The simple fact is that I appreciate females not in a “sexual object” type of way, but in a adoring of how they were created by our Creator. And to honor Him, “perfect,” in His eyes.

And to certainly not offend God, our Father, I have to be human in “my” view of what a “perfect” woman really is and more importantly, who she is.

Which of these women would you say that "I" tagged as "perfect?"

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So I ask you to bear with me, and yes, humor me, as we take a good, long look at what “I” believe “is” the perfect woman.

The perfect woman is . . .

  • Apt to wear clothing most of the time, even when she is asleep—This is not to insinuate that there are flaws with women who sleep in the nude, but let’s say for argument’s sake, I get lost in a big city and out of sheer desperation, I walk up the sidewalk to a quaint, country-type home. I knock on the front door and the door opens and there stands a beautiful brunette with hardly any make-up and wearing a regular dress that is so becoming I cannot breathe. I am suddenly taken by her eyes and quiet-tone of voice. I think to myself that I have met a perfect woman.
  • Mannerable--she sits, even wearing slacks, lady-like and not like your “Uncle Thad,” who sits spread-legged and the women in his presence can easily see his private area showing through his slick, pleated pants. I am old fashioned. I admit it with no defense. But body posture alone doesn’t define mannerable. The perfect woman says, “pardon me,” if she coughs or sneezes and does not clean her mouth and nose on the sleeve of her blouse.
  • Not a shallow girly-girl—a perfect woman does not use exaggerated, fake shrieks at the sight of a ladybug crawling on the floor or arm of the couch where she is sitting. And when she is called upon to hand a gentleman friend a wrench to fix his car, she does not whine and moan afraid to get her dainty hands dirty. (If I were the gentleman friend, I wouldn’t ask her to get me the wrench. I would get it myself).
  • She is very intelligent—able to talk to me, even in my limited-intelligence, in a genuine, true fashion and not have to “act” as she were interested in the latest changes to my favorite website: HubPages.
  • Being a loud-mouth and boisterous—does not become her. She knows the fragile art of listening to those around her even if they are pure bores. A perfect woman shows respect without speaking. And when she does speak, you can feel the confidence in her voice.
  • She does not flaunt—her inner or outer beauty although she has heard, “You are so gorgeous that it hurts,” over a thousand times, she doesn’t view herself as a “babe,” “doll,” or “sweet thang.” A perfect woman is happy with her ownself and does not depend on you or I to gauge how happy she is in life.
  • She has a razor-sharp, playful sense of humor—that is not mean-spirited, but pure fun and not a harm to anyone, friend or stranger. When she is observed, it is not a small wonder why she is always “the” most-magenetic, most-popular woman in the room if there is just a few or over a thousand.
  • Innocent flirting—becomes her. She knows that she is all female from her girlish smile to her nose that she wrinkles right on cue. She can flirt without sending a “come on” signal to men she knows well without fear of being taken seriously.
  • She isn’t livestock--that comes from an auction with a bill of sale. Nor does she act the part of an object bought by a domineering male who can show her off to his male friends and receive a kiss as a “treat” for being so obedient—much like training a purebred canine.
  • This perfect woman—knows what intelligence really means and although she can match her husband or companion fact-for-fact, she doesn’t not act like a know-it-all. Fact is, she despises people who “think” they know more than anyone.
  • Bragging—is not part of her character. Yes, she is the living, breathing definition of “beauty,” “charm,” and “grace,” but you will never catch her gazing at herself in a mirror in private or public.
  • Self-confidence—and the perfect woman are best friends, first cousins, and total-confidants. She is never intidated by powerful, wealthy men who hide behind these walls to guard their insecurity. She respects these men as human beings, but never “asks” their permission to live her life the way she sees fit.
  • She does not consider—cooking a meal for her family as being categorized as slavery. Or being someone’s indentured servant. She can wear an apron and business suit with equal comfort. Her various talents exceed the kitchen and at the same time she loves this area of her life which does not serve as her prison, but a warm act of compassion she lends to someone else.
  • She need not—ask for respect, but draws it from those around her without being heartless. Her husband or companion loves to show her respect for he realized when he met her, that she was, and is, a “real,” woman and to him, (and males like myself) “perfect” and without mentionable flaws.

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annart 2 years ago from SW England

I hope I live up to some of those! I certainly agree with your criteria but then I think those qualities apply to men and women alike, just being natural, kind, courteous and fun.

Great hub.

Ann


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MizBejabbers 2 years ago

I’m not sure I would have tagged any of those women as your perfect woman from your description. They were all too made up and stylized.

Some of your descriptions of the perfect woman sound a little storybook. The perfect woman pleases herself first, and then she thinks of pleasing other people. Have you ever heard the old saying, “when mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy”?

Re: one of your observations. I was watching an interview type show between two lovely, very intelligent women on CNN recently, and observed that both women were wearing dresses cut above the knees. Nothing wrong with that because they weren’t miniskirts, however, they were sitting in an open setting (no table to hide what God created) with their legs crossed above their knees, which pulled up the short dresses and showed more thigh than was hidden. Now, my Southern-belle mama would roll over in her grave if she saw that. We were taught to cross our legs at our ankles, never at our knees.

P.S. Like you, I’m a Southerner. Most of us Southern gals don’t mind being called “sweet thang” and accept it as a compliment from a gentleman, just as we might call our kitten “sweet thang”.


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greeneyedblondie 2 years ago

I feel like this is a lot like the "old fashioned" woman sense. All the feminists of the world might hate me for saying this, but it's not a bad thing either.


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Rhonda Lytle 2 years ago from Deep in the heart of Dixie

I like the under current of independence I see running through this discourse on the perfect women. I think our society has many but we don't see them on the media. They work two full time jobs then go home to cook dinner and be with the kids, maybe snatching three hours sleep a night yet never missing a Sunday service.


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no body 2 years ago from Rochester, New York

Perfectness is so subjective. Each person's "perfect" is as unique as they are. Perfection is not something readily seen by the eye. It is in the quality of the compatibility of souls. It is in the love/forgiveness/acceptance factors in a relationship. The perfect woman has flaws, but those flaws are part of what makes her perfect for her man.

As a man or woman is paired by God, the evidence of each being perfectly suited for one another becomes manifest. In my eyes, she is perfectly suited to me in every way. I would not give up one of the things about her that irk me, not one of the pet peeves that I have with her. She is perfect just the way she is. As she lives her life inter-dependently with mine, I know that her personal growth will happen. I will take those things, those changes, in stride as they happen because she is perfect just the way she is, and always will be.


sheilamyers 2 years ago

I agree with almost all of those. I know these are your standards and I accept that, but as a woman I'd have to make two corrections in my definition of perfect.

Perfect women aren't always the most magnetic or most popular woman in the room. Most of the time it seems women who attract men like flies attracted to ... well, I won't say the word ... it's only because they're the most beautiful when using the false and shallow standards of beauty set forth by the media. The most perfect woman in that room may just be the one sitting in a chair in the corner talking to one or two other people.

And they don't have to know how to cook. Not all women are talented in the kitchen and I don't think that makes them any less perfect. Most make up for a lack of one talent with something else. I guess it just depends on the man and what he's looking for in a friend or lifelong companion.


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clivewilliams 2 years ago from Nibiru

My perfect woman, should be self-aware, good morals, ambitious.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

clivewilliams,

Great response. I loved your comment. And agree with them. Come back and see me again.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Dear sheilamyers,

I appreciate so much how you commented on this hub.

I did do my very best, using tedious re-editing as I went, for each point. These are (mostly) my views on a perfect woman, if any exist and they do.

No, perfect women do not HAVE to know how to cook, but if they do, they are not puffed-up and whiny about "Me? Cook?" the very attitude is very cold.

As for the rest of the hub, I tried to not straddle the invisible fence that sometimes seperates men and women.

I am ALL FOR women being promoted, given equal pay, respected as persons, NOT sex objecs or livestock.

I hate to be this harsh, but if every pimp were to come down with VD or some other inconvenience for how they have used women to get rich, I would not shed a tear.

Women ARE NOT second-class citizens and shouldn't be treated as such.

Sorry, but not that sorry for being riled up.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Greeneyedblondie,

I respect your opinions in this hub. I might have let a tad of my subsconscious nature seep through my fingers on the keyboard when I wrote this, but it was not my intention to make this a hub of Old Fashioned, "Woman, Know Your Place," type of propaganda.

I worked with a self-proclaimed feminist once and I felt awkward when we were going to eat and going to my raising, let her to first, but she said later that she didn't mind being respected as a woman and it was nice. The part she hated was being though of as a person who didn't have a mind or not being respected for thinking.

She was interesting to listen to, as I am sure that you are as well.

I appreciate ALL of my Great followers.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Ann,

Thanks so very humbly for your kind and profound comment. I am in agreement with you. Do the simplest of things that are nice, courteous and respectable for each other and to each other and things would be fine.

Or as a man who marries, the key for a great relationship, if he would wake each day with God on his lips first, then his wife for the rest of the day . . . all of his work and sacrifices for God and wife. To learn how to keep his own needs at a minimal amount and to give God and his wife the most of his waking hours.

I know that out of the gate, I am a failure already, but I can try.

Ann, I appreciate you so much.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear MizBejabbers,

Firstly, thank you, for the sweet and intelligent commnet that I agree with 100%.

Now onto my rebuttle. LOL. Some might have been stylized, but I wanted to project from the heart, not the mind, at how I look at a perfect woman and I did not want "her" to be a storybook woman.

I would easily say that YOU and all of the females on here CAN and DO fit my description and I am not about to change my thought.

Now. Were you watching Fox? Rupert Murdock, the billionaire owner once said, I had rather hire showgirl-types to do the news so my ratings will be high by men who love legs and women who hate them than spend money and lose it.

He is not a very respectful guy.

But the women you watched had to be raised by a Southern Mama who did sternly-teach proper manners and postures for young ladies.

Adn I say this without apology: There is NOTHING wrong with a woman who wants to be lady or visa versa.

Thank you all for your super-great comment.

I love your responses.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Rhonda,

You are so perceptive. And correct. There IS a common thread of independence running through my text. Thank you for noticing.

And yes, YOU could live up to these conditions.

Perfection is a scar word for some. I see true perfection entwined with one twine: Humbleness.

Thanks so much for being in my world.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

no body,

I couldn't agree with yiour comment more. You offer some very deep and philosophical thoughts that I appreciate too.

The thought hit me as I read your comment, that when two are paired by God, that you said, perfection is only evident when the two partners are blinded everyday with a deep, abiding love for each other and the more they love this way, the less they see of themselves.

Why don't you team with or why don't all of you delve into romantic novels but with a theme of reality?

You could all do books. I know this.

I wish everyone a peaceful night.


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MizBejabbers 2 years ago

Kenneth, I appreciate your long, involved comment to mine, but I didn’t understand part of your comment. Did you leave out the word “not”? I was speaking of a couple of very unladylike women I saw on CNN. I don’t watch Fox News, and this sentence didn’t fit what I said:

"But the women you watched had to be raised by a Southern Mama who did sternly-teach proper manners and postures for young ladies."

BTW, I worked in radio and television many years ago. I think the attire of that day was too stiff, but today it has nearly degenerated into a T & A show.

I didn't get the impression that you were a MCP at all. I think you were being realistic, and that some women misunderstand what a lady is and how one should be treated. I could write a hub about my ex-husband's expectations of the perfect woman. Now that would be interesting.


sheilamyers 2 years ago

kenneth: I know you were stating your idea of a perfect woman and I think I know you well enough to know you'd judge each woman as you met her and you'd adjust some of the things on your list because you do understand that every woman is different in some way. You are a true gentleman and I'll bet you treat every woman (and man) with the respect they deserve.

I don't mind if you get riled up. I always enjoy reading your hubs, comments, and responses to comments.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Dear sheilamyers,

You are right. I suppose that I DO subconsciously draw a mental judgment about women I meet, but I mean no harm to them. I would hope that in the first ten minutes of our meeting, I can have sense enough to offer my respect and not say stupid things that would embarrass them and me.

Thanks for your sweet ideas.

I am not riled up right now. I feel way too good at reading your words.

:)


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hey, MizBejabbers,

I am so sorry. You are right. I was the one who misunderstood your remark. Before I forget, I watched a few minutes of early Fox news and there were FOUR girls who looked just starlets and in a good way, but I instantly remembered what you said about being taught that ladies do NOT cross legs at the knee, but the ankle. These four girls did not get that memo and there was ONE guy who they ignored and chatted with themselves.

What made me turn away was none of the four girls showed any Southern female self-respect.

And what I want to clear up is that I DID Mean that YOU and all of the women who commented here ARE fantastic women, intelligent, respectful and charming ladies.

That is the truth.

Thanks for being such a special friend. This is to all of the Dear Female friends I have been blessed with on HP.


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vkwok 2 years ago from Hawaii

I hope I can find someone like that.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

vkwok,

Trust God and follow Him. Thank you so much for your comment.

Bless you.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 2 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Interesting hub. Mostly I agree but I always also say that the perfect woman can wear no make-up and sloppy clothes and still come off like a queen.


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Margaret Schindel 2 years ago from Massachusetts

Kenneth, I really enjoyed reading your perspective on the perfect woman. We share many of the same fundamental value. I agree completely that people of either gender who are confident enough to assume and accept that they won't always know the right answer to everything and who are genuinely interested in other people's knowledge, perspectives and passions are by far the most attractive, and much more so than men or women who lack those qualities but enjoy striking physical beauty.

Obviously you've discovered that being a feminist and being ladylike are not mutually exclusive. :) It is possible for women to advocate for female equality in the workplace, kitchen, bedroom, and everywhere else without having to be abrasive and hard-edged in order to make themselves heard or the intensity of their convictions felt. I consider myself a feminist, but I don't fit the stereotype. I speak the truth as I see it, from the heart and the head. I assume the best in people unless or until there is compelling evidence to the contrary. I enjoy my femininity and consider it part of what makes me me. I try to be kind to friends and strangers alike. Actually, other than the femininity, I try to be the same kind of person and partner as the amazing man I married . :)

This POV says as much about who you are as it does about your idea of the perfect woman, and who you are is pretty darn special.


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lyns 2 years ago from USA

Excellent description of a perfect woman, sometimes hard to live up to the description though in some areas but awesome, yes voted up. 10162014 lyns


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, lyns,

Did you get my comment on your hub last night, Oct. 16? I am so sorry that I took so long to get back to you. I explained that all in my comment--physical ailments have hindered me and I have to do as I can do.

I am and will always be grateful for you being my freind and follower.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Gypsy Rose Lee,

You nailed it. The woman who can show up in public without makeup or fashion clothes and still look drop-dead gorgeous, inside and out, IS the PERFECT woman. Thank you for saying what I should have said.

You, my dear, ARE a Perfect Woman and Friend.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear sweet Margaret,

Thank you for your enjoyable comment. And it was a very truthful comment too. You presented a lot of valid points about my views on the Perfect Woman.

May I share this with you? I was in a public place not long ago and there were these two women, about the same age, and one was THE consumate beauty--wardrobe, makeup, etc. but her attitude was lofty, she was a bit higher than others and the other woman, she was just a bit hefty, but oh her face. Wow. She had the deepest brown eyes you ever saw and her overall attitude--soft spoken, humble and knew how to act a lady and look like one too.

Of the two, the second one captured and held my attention. Plus she had more people around her than the other one.

So the moral is: Being what and whom you are counts.

Come back to see me.

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