My Ideal Partner


At the risk of sounding like Crazy Cat-Lady, I have to confess that my cat is almost precisely what I look for in a man ... I know, I know - I can hear my mother weeping in the background. I’ve already been lectured by my brother about holding onto unrealistic expectations of men. I just know what I want in a man:

Do you have a list of qualities you look for in a partner?

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The Special Qualities I Admire

  • When he wants my attention, he will meow politely or tap me on the butt;
  • He takes a sincere interest in what I do;
  • When he sees that I need a break, he draws my attention away from work so we can play or snuggle;
  • Doesn't play too rough;
  • He is not embarrassed to ask for affection and will climb into my arms when he needs to be held;
  • When he wants to play, he brings me a toy;
  • He cleans up after himself, whether it's covering up in the litter box or putting his toys away when he's done playing;
  • He keeps me company in the bath or shower;
  • Even though he likes to be active, he also enjoys snuggling up with me to enjoy a good book or movie;
  • He never holds a grudge, never questions my love, and loves me unconditionally;

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  • He is social and friendly;
  • He bravely confronts things that scare him;
  • He is conscious of his appearance and takes the time to make sure he is well groomed;
  • Instead of going out and "tom-catting" around all night, he comes to bed a reasonable time;
  • He is genuinely happy to see me when I come home;
  • He is faithful;
  • He listens without interruption (most of the time);
  • He doesn't mind dancing around the living room He comforts me when I cry;
  • He isn't embarrassed to make a fool of himself to make me laugh.

Is that too much to ask of a partner? Is my brother right? Are there any men who can meet the same standards I hold my cat to? According to the success I’ve had on all the dating sites I tried, I may be doomed to live a lonely life as my cat has been the only well-adjusted male within reasonable driving distance to my home.

I haven’t given up hope, but my mother is becoming desperate. Please, ignore any frantic emails you may receive from her during her next bout of Husband Hunting for me … unless you actually fit the above criteria …

Update: Since I first wrote this, I’ve actually found a wonderful man who fits the above criteria and more. Whoever said that it doesn’t pay to hang onto high standards when it comes to men just gave up too soon!

© 2012 Rosa Marchisella

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nybride710 4 years ago from Minnesota

I am fortunate enough to have a good man and the best cat in the world.

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I Am Rosa 4 years ago from Canada Author

Congratulations!! LOL

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Green Lotus 4 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Congrats on our win! Fun Hub. My husband fits you criteria too, but thank goodness I'm not allergic to men. Cheers.

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donnaisabella 4 years ago from Fort Myers

Hahaha! Can you hear me laughing all the way from Florida? I had to, because my husband meets all the qualities you so admire in your cat, the only difference? He is human and sometimes he turns into a lion! Did you hear that roar? I think He is waiting for me right now. Thanks for writing, had a good laugh. Now I can go and relax...

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I Am Rosa 4 years ago from Canada Author

Green Lotus - YAY! lol I never thought about allergies ... maybe that's why my mom's been acting weird since we stayed with her .... hmmmm :-D

Donna - so *that* is who's laughing so hard! Whew! I thought eht neighbours wee going to file a complaint ;-) As long as your hubby doesn't "mark his territory" roaring is allowed :-p lol

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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA

Well done! I never thought about our cats having the qualities we admire in a partner, but it's perfectly ture -- though I did wonder how you got your cat to put away his toys? Neither my cat nor my husband has learned to do that yet! Voted up and funny!

P.S. Beautiful photograph of your cat!

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Purple Perl 4 years ago from Bangalore,India

Hey congrats on the win and on finding your man too! Enjoy!Beautiful cat too!

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I Am Rosa 4 years ago from Canada Author

@ Stephanie - LOL I cannot take credit for him putting his toys away. He does that all by himself. He picks them up and carries them to his box so they're all in one place. How lucky am I ??? I hope he'll teach that trick my daughter when she's old enough to play with toys on the floor :-P

@ Purple Perl - Thank you!

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CR Rookwood 4 years ago from Moonlight Maine

Awesome hub, made me laugh! Somebody should hand this out to men looking for women--it couldn't hurt!

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I Am Rosa 4 years ago from Canada Author

Thank you :-D

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Linda Bliss 4 years ago from San Francisco

Sounds like the perfect kind of guy to me! Congrats on the win, very well deserved! Votes up ad shared :o)

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KatrineDalMonte 4 years ago

Hi Rosa, a great hub. We all have our own dreams and ideals, surely it's worth pursuing anything one desires. Well done :-)

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Claudia Tello 4 years ago from Mexico

I love the way you wrote this humor hub. I am with you, it has always been good to know what one wants in life, and that works for partners, career goals or ordering food in a restaurant. I am very happy you hung in there and found your ideal partner! Good for you!

By the way… I am having my first date with a guy I met through a dating site next Friday. Up until now he seems quite "ideal" to me, let us hope he is the one. I am very excited. Wish me luck!

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I Am Rosa 4 years ago from Canada Author

Linda, Katrine & Claudia - Thank you!

Best of luck to you, Claudia!!

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Ruby H Rose 4 years ago from Northwest Washington on an Island

Oh my gosh, that is just the best formula ever! I love your ending about finding a guy, that is just so exciting. Put it down in writing what we want, and walla, there ya go. Have fun! Keep writing fantastic hubs and congratulations on the contest!

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I Am Rosa 4 years ago from Canada Author

Thanks so much, Ruby!

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anglnwu 4 years ago

High standards and I'm glad you found a man that fits all the criteria. He's a keeper. Thanks for sharing.

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I Am Rosa 4 years ago from Canada Author

Thank you Angeline for reading and becoming a follower!

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Efficient Admin 4 years ago from Charlotte, NC

This is too hilarious but so true at the same time! I bet your mother is breathing a sigh of relief now LOL!! Congratulations that you found your Mr. Right. Thanks for sharing. Voted up and all that.

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I Am Rosa 4 years ago from Canada Author

LOL - glad you enjoyed it and thanks so much for your support!

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chefmancave 4 years ago from Michigan

...but can he cook? LOL I am embarrassed to say that I meet about half of your standards. Check out my "Black Friday" article for my perfect mate. How did Solomon react to the New Man?

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I Am Rosa 4 years ago from Canada Author

LOL @ chefmancave. They fell in love with each other :-) As for cooking - Solomon, no. The New Man - oh yes!

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