ONLINE DATING RANT
Online Dating After 50
I've been back on the online dating screen for less than two months. Nothing has changed with the behaviors of the men on these sites. I recently spoke with several on the phone; and within less than 10 minutes, they began talking about needing their sexual desires satisfied.
Over a month ago, I gave a 70-y.o. man a chance to meet me in person. During our telephone conversations, he spoke like a true gentleman, stating he was marriage minded. When we finally met in person, he changed the script. He stated that he was wealthy and only wanted to have sex with me; but would take care of all my material needs. I left him right there.
I recently met another guy and was introduced to his family. They welcomed me and were very nice. Again, this guy talked as if he was marriage minded. However, within a few minutes of private conversation he began commenting on my luscious lips and how he loved my 'behind'. He even asked me what types of panties I liked.
He realized I wasn't too happy with his questions. He went on to tell me that he would love to marry me; but he didn't know me well enough.
What was my response? Here it is:
"So, you won't marry me because you don't know me well enough; but you will have sex with me even though you don't know me well enough. Ummm . . . okay."
I have been giving this online dating scene too many chances to eke out a quality man. In its infancy, the online dating world was filled with genuine people seeking genuine relationships. Now, it’s chockfull of adulterers, philanderers (Those relationship statuses that state, “It’s complicated!”), scammers, and sexual deviants (Men who want to discuss BDSM or Bestiality. Yes, I’ve been contacted by those types, too!).
Only those who are afraid of human contact will rely solely on online dating to meet their mate. However, that AIN'T about to happen in MY world.
I'm aware of many who have met their spouses online and I know a few personally. That's beautiful and great, leaving with some hope that there are genuine men out there. I'm not a quitter. However, I am a realist. I will not spend another second of my valuable time communicating or conversing with grown-ass men who believe they are ENTITLED to my body. The saddest reality of my experiences is that ALL these men are over 50!
As I stated, I'm not a quitter. I'm out doing my thing. However, the digital age has RUINED it for those of us seeking genuine relationships! The SADDEST part of the online dating scene is the majority of the men who have contacted me are old enough to know better.
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