Really? He Wears Lingerie?

For some people the idea of men wearing lingerie is a strange one. However for tens of thousands of men, the idea seems perfectly natural. Well, perhaps the 'perfectly natural' part is an over statement. These men feel the desire to wear lingerie, but often feel guilty about it. People who learn about their lingerie desires may not always be understanding, and if a man discovers his desires at a young age he may even be strongly dissuaded by his parents.

If you're hearing about men who wear women's lingerie for the first time you have the luxury of being simply incredulous. Men who find themselves wanting to wear women's lingerie can experience guilt and even self loathing. Their desire to experience women's lingerie is not a simple one that can simply be expressed. Unlike men who desire to indulge in macho behavior, men who wear women's lingerie don't receive the same levels of acceptance and even encouragement.

Oftentimes the first reaction of people who hear that a man wants to wear lingerie is to assume that a man who wears lingerie must be gay, or at least a little gay. This is sometimes true. Some men even find themselves feeling 'more' gay when they wear women's lingerie. The majority of men who wear women's lingerie do not consider themselves gay. They are attracted to women and often find that it is their attraction to women that undermines their ability to feel secure in women's lingerie.

They fear that women will not understand them. They fear that women will reject them for their desire to wear women's lingerie. Some men are brave enough to tell their partners about their love of lingerie, and some men hide it for the entire duration of the relationship. If you're reading this because you're a woman who has been told of her boyfriend or husband's love of lingerie then you have been entrusted with a secret that is very near and dear to the heart of the one you love.

Some men love lingerie because of the way it looks. Some men love lingerie because of the way it feels. Some men love lingerie because it puts them in touch with their feminine side. Some men wear lingerie because in doing so they break a taboo. There are as many reasons for a man to wear lingerie as there are men who wear lingerie. If you want to know more about this subject you can find a proverbial boat load of such articles here, or, if you're reading this with a certain someone in mind, go ask him.

Yes, he wears lingerie, and it's okay.

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Jenni 7 years ago

"Tens of Thousands of Men" ???? Statistics unavailable...hehe ... but i bet you get that many emails from guys that do wear lingerie.

Realistically the estimates are between 1% to 5% and some estimates run as high as 10% of the male population wearing womens lingerie regularly.

I bet the best people to check with work in the various lingerie departments. I'm sure they sell to many men who have confided in them.


Najee 7 years ago

I just told my mother last night and she asked if I was a "homo". I'm 16 years old and why are all these awesome articles targeted towards adults. Teenagers have the same problem.


phil 7 years ago

Truth be told most salesclerks can pick out a panty boy rather quickly. The sad things is that genetic females take pretty things for granted (as they have always had the complete freedom to wear them) Males like myself more fully appreciate pretty dainty things and the joy they are to wear. I have always wondered how in the animal kingdom ,the males are prettier and the females less so. Yet in humankind the reverse is true. Thank goodness for females like Hope.


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LatexLeah 7 years ago

I do not doubt Hope's numbers. Probably the best known secret on the Internet is the fact that Hope is near the top of the food chain in the marketing dept of a major lingerie retailer.

We're on to you Hope. No use in denying it any longer. :)


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Hope Alexander 7 years ago Author

No Leah, I'm just a lowly freelance writer. If I were near the top of the marketing food chain of a major lingerie retailer there would be dedicated lingerie lines for men already ;)

Najee, these articles aren't targeted specifically to adults really, there's nowhere I say "if you're over 18 ..etc.." However they're not exclusively aimed at teens either as that would be inappropriate. Pretty much all the advice I give to a 60 year old applies to a 16 year old too. It comes down to accepting yourself for who you are and realizing it doesn't matter what you like to wear. The earlier you realize that, the more ahead of the curve you will be. I am sure there are lots of men who would have loved to have dealt with these issues whilst they were still in their teens instead of trying to ignore them. I applaud your search for knowledge and understanding, and I think you'll probably find what you're looking for here as long as you don't get too caught up in looking for something 'aimed' at teens.


pete 7 years ago

i dont see what the big deal is lets face it, it feels fantastic and silky smooth. i wear babydoll nighties and wear panties pratically 24/7 but wife does not care. some women are ok with this men wearing there stuff me i have my own nighties so i dont stretch hers but it seems some women cant look at there husband or boyfriend wearing this stuff he is too manly to do this, or he knows how i stand on this, to me it seems that if some women would let there guard down and see there mate wearing this they might think, hey he looks sexy maybe i will let him wear this. hmmmmmmmmmm maybe guys hang in there

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