Relationship Quiz

Here is a set of questions to help you evaluate your relationship.

** This is not a scientific questionnaire, but merely a guide based on observations about what is important in a relationship.

When doing this as a couple, take this questionnaire individually, and do not discuss your responses until both of you have completed them. A discussion of how you rated things and why could be very enlightening.

Rate each statement as follows:

5=extremely satisfied




1=extremely dissatisfied

1. We confide our personal feelings to each other.

2. We have similar interests and activities.

3. We respect each other.

4. We're attracted to and pleased by each other's appearance.

5. We are understanding of each other.

6. We are romantic and nurturing of each other.

7. We express affection for each other.

8. He/she is compassionate and empathetic toward me.

9. I am satisfied with how we spend money, and what we spend it on.

10. We are both monogamous.

11. We are sexually compatible and comfortable with each other.

12. We like each other.

13. Our attitudes about having children.

14. The raising of children.

15. We communicate well.

16. Our moral, religious and/or spiritual practices and beliefs.

17. Our social life.

18. How the house is kept

19. I have influence over the decisions we make.

20. I am satisfied with the division of roles we have worked out.

21. We are able to talk about what is troubling our relationship when tension starts to build between us.

22. We give compliments and do favors for each other.

23. We both feel the other does his/her fair share.

24. We are compatible about our in-laws and respective families.

25. Time spent together.

26. Play/fun we have together.

27. I am generally happy with our relationship.

28. I am generally comfortable with the way anger is expressed in our relationship.

29. I am generally comfortable with the way conflicts and disagreements are handled.

30. I love him/her.

31. I feel loved by him/her.

32. I am generally happy with the friends we have in common and how much time we spend socially together.

33. I look forward to seeing him/her.

34. I feel valued in a serious conversation with my mate.

35. When we're together, I rarely feel lonely.

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Scoring: Add up your points based on the scale at the top of the list.

141-175: Your relationship is positive and is going well. You are responsive to each other, and you usually like being around him/her.

106-140: There are problems that have developed in your relationship. Don't delay working through these things.

105 or below: Your relationship is not that happy, and it could be in jeopardy.

It is very important to answer these statements honestly. This evaluation is meant for you to help to improve your relationship, should you find that the answers trigger that there are some very serious issues in your relationship, I recommend that you seek professional therapy.

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Pam Farley 9 years ago from Greater St. Louis, MO

This is a very helpful quiz. Thanks for sharing!

baby_c 9 years ago

cute quizz, i enjoyed, it was helpful!! thanksss

Jea 9 years ago

What a quiz!simply amazin

Blizzard Gaming Forum 8 years ago

i got a 153 on this, awsome quiz :D

Izzy 8 years ago

Wow - guess I might be in a whole lot of trouble with my 22 year marriage.

kalikame2u 8 years ago

This is a great quiz, got a low score but it made me and my mate talk, discuss, and argue over some of the things that should have been brought up a while ago. thnx....

casuallovebaby 8 years ago

This is a very interesting quiz. Thanks for sharing! It's very usefull to share with my friends on

Rob 8 years ago

Wow , my score 86, and you know i am not shoked,done deal!

Lisa 8 years ago

I got a 70! Doesn't surprise me. Just another finger pointing to- time to move on. Great quiz though!

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Michee's Mix 8 years ago from Sacramento

Thanks for sharing this realationship quiz. It was a difficult year for me and my mate, and the results were a surprise to us both, with only a 5 point difference between he and I 129/124. We found we have both made great efforts to get us back on the right road for us. Thanks again, what a great hub.

antonia 7 years ago

thanks for helping me refresh my thinking about my relationship

HeavyHearted 7 years ago

Score-76. I knew that. I just have a hard time putting the peices where they fit.

anonymous 6 years ago

worringly low :(

Bill 6 years ago

I scored a 46, I dont know why I stay, it's not kids or money. Could I be comfortable somehow. She's there but I live by myself.

serenissima 6 years ago

93. i know im not happy, but i dont know how to leave. im with Bill up there... why do i let myself get treated badly? recently i gave an ultimatum, either treat me better or lets just be friends. my significant other opted to be friends... i cried and begged them to stay, so they stayed. this has happened numerous times, them just ready to walk away from me... two years and what does that say about me? :(

LaDeeDah 5 years ago

no one deserves your tears.. to the above few. my score...103.. uh we need to talk :)..

think about it though.. if u were searching for a quiz like this then u must have had doubts so u already knew your answer...

Bobbi 5 years ago

I got a 53... I know I should leave him... but I love him so much. I just wish I could make him feel the same way about me :,-(

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