Sure-Fire Ways For You to Know That He is Cheating on You

Busted!
Busted!
L.A. Lakers', star, Kobe Bryant cheated on his wife
L.A. Lakers', star, Kobe Bryant cheated on his wife
Some guys will even cheat with their wife's best girlfriend right under her nose.
Some guys will even cheat with their wife's best girlfriend right under her nose.

SADLY, CHEATING HAS BEEN WITH US A LONG TIME

To be completely frank with you, this hub shouldn’t come as a surprise to you. For me, it was seeing all of those ads placed on internet ads and I even scanned past one on YouTube, those “Is He Cheating on You?” ads. Yes, they get your attention. Yes, they might make a valid point with “their” information system that can predict, without error, that a husband is cheating on his wife.

Cheating, or committing adultery, has been around before Jesus walked the earth, so I am not going to devote inches of space delving into the “why’s?” and “who’s” about cheating. There is just not enough space to do that. But this does not mean that I am going to provide a less-than-quality piece. No. You can “bet the farm” on this being a story with punch, power and usefulness.

For me, sleeping with another woman is a sin. I won’t make any bones about it. Nor will you taste sweet sugar granules sliding off of these paragraphs. I stood before God and witnesses and took a solemn wedding vow to, as you know, stay with my wife “through thick and thin, sickness and health,” and my parents raised me to know that the word “vow” means just what it means: A serious agreement made to be kept.

Kim Kardashian cheats with Ryan Ryan
Kim Kardashian cheats with Ryan Ryan

AND I WANT TO BE HONEST

And truth be told, for me to sneak-around and see another woman is one of the scariest, most-frightening events that can occur in a man’s life, but he arouses it to life by committing himself to be at a certain place to meet a certain beauty at a certain time. So why would I scream that I am being treated unfair when my wife finds me out and leaves—taking most of our possessions? I wouldn’t for I would be guilty. Case closed.

This list, which I call . . .

Sure-Fire Ways for You to Know if He is Cheating on You

Jesse James, left, cheated on his lovely wife, actress/superstar, Sandra Bullock
Jesse James, left, cheated on his lovely wife, actress/superstar, Sandra Bullock
LeeAnn Rimes cheated with Eddy Cabriaro as if it were a way of life
LeeAnn Rimes cheated with Eddy Cabriaro as if it were a way of life
Men take on the personna of Pinocchio when asked if they are unfaithful
Men take on the personna of Pinocchio when asked if they are unfaithful
Some angry wife got even with her adulterous husband by allegedly vandalizing his car
Some angry wife got even with her adulterous husband by allegedly vandalizing his car
A married man about to cheat will ultimately remove his wedding ring
A married man about to cheat will ultimately remove his wedding ring
Busted couples will always resort to running to protect their names and lives
Busted couples will always resort to running to protect their names and lives
Way to go, cheated on lady!
Way to go, cheated on lady!
"We were, uhhh, just reading."
"We were, uhhh, just reading."
"Honey, you weren't supposed to be home early!"
"Honey, you weren't supposed to be home early!"
Guy sleeping with another man's wife is caught by angry husband. Now he cleaves to a ledge to save his life
Guy sleeping with another man's wife is caught by angry husband. Now he cleaves to a ledge to save his life

NOTE: This hub is strictly for the married ladies in my readership. Some tips are a bit comical, but it all depends on how you view them.----KENNETH

  • Each time he wears a white shirt, you swear that you mixed the “red’s” in with the “white’s” when you washed for his collar is always blood-red, but not with red from red socks, but from red lipstick and it is NOT yours.
  • At bedtime, you find it curious why he is wearing is underwear backwards. You ask him why? He answers with quivering voice, “Uhhh, got in a hurry today in the men’s room.” Hurry was right. He was almost caught with his lover on the side who met him in the men’s room at lunch.
  • He has recently got this burning-obcession for going to the shopping mall every opportunity that arises. Even when you made a birthday cake for his mom and you two were going to his parents’ house to help her celebrate when suddenly he had a need to hit the mall for some batteries for his flashlight. When he left for work the next morning you checked where he keeps his flashlight and he has over 100 new batteries never taken from their package.
  • When the phone rings, he is a bundle of nerves. Could be he is afraid that “she” might call him because she forgot what night he would be home.
  • You have always had a good time sharing your feelings and thoughts with him, but lately, you try to talk to him and he is always distant and even distracted. Out of frustration, you ask him what is on his mind? He quickly laughs and replies, “Errr, I was thinking about work, hunee.” At least he told the truth. At work is where he met “her,” and it has been a hot-as-fire affair ever since.
  • One Saturday he takes you to breakfast in town. Then he takes you to the shopping mall and gives you three-hundred dollars cash and his American Express to do some shopping. You are shocked. He says he will wait on you on a bench. Two hours later you return to find a livid husband—angry enough to hurt someone with his fists. You take him home, but on the way, you find out that he saw his best buddy, “Frank Hubbart,” in a mall restaurant with “her,” but he curses “Frank” all the way home and you are so blown away that you know without any cue that something is definitely going on with your husband.
  • He finds it necessary to spend hours in his workshop when you two are at home. The funny thing is: Your husband is not talented enough to work with wood or models and he just has to take his phone with him. Once you needed him and walked into his shop and caught him talking low and whispering to “her” on his phone which he quickly put away when you walked in. “Who was that?” you ask. “Uhhh, my dad. He needed advice on what rod and reel to buy.” And there it is. His dad was a “Nine-time, All-State Bass Fisherman of The Year,” and he “needs” rod and reel advice?
  • You and your husband are watching a romantic movie one night at home and for fun you ask, “if you were seeing another woman, would you respect me enough to tell me?” He jerks his head around so quick that he almost pulls a muscle. “Yes, I would do that, hunee. Why do you ask such a question?” You just giggle.
  • He comes to you one night and confesses some rather touching feelings. You think that finally he is becoming a sensitive man, but what he confesses is that he needs you to allow him to call you, “Susie,” when being very romantic late at night.
  • One night you thought he would go through the roof when “Frank,” the best buddy he saw with “her” in the mall restaurant, stops by to see him about borrowing his lantern for a camping trip with . . . “her,” the woman your husband is seeing and good ol’ “Frank,” brings her in to meet you and your husband. You cannot help but notice the smirk on her evil face without “Frank” seeing her. Your husband paces like a nervous tiger at feeding time. When they leave, he all but gets into the car with them. “I had to tell ‘Frank’ something about work,” he says when he returns.

And then one day, the capper . . .

He gives you a birthday card that was meant for “her.”

As they say in the world of video gaming, “Game over.”

Ladies, make sure this is not you

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JamaGenee 2 years ago from Central Oklahoma

Good list, Kenneth, but of course you know you only scratched the surface, right? And a round of applause for understanding the meaning of "vow".

However, sometimes it's not the wife who gets upset about a cheating spouse, but the townspeople who knew it was happening and turned a blind eye. "Not our business", etc. That is, until Hubby started cheating on his long-time girlfriend, too! Then things got ugly.

The guy had some silly notion that if the locals would put up with his having one girlfriend on the side, they wouldn't mind if he had two. WRONG!

The first time he brought his new sweetie into the local watering hole (without bothering to tell GF#1 his eye was wandering - again), he was escorted out back by several regulars and given a thorough "attitude adjustment". The future GF#2 was new in town, and until that night, had NO idea the guy was married with three kids, let alone that she wouldn't be his only "thing on the side".

Naturally, that was the end of THAT short-lived relationship, and life went back to "normal". No one ever told the wife OR the original GF what happened that night or why. Somehow a wife and ONE girlfriend was "acceptable", but two GFs wasn't. Go figure. ;D


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Kiss andTales 2 years ago

Good Hub ! Sad truth! More people are dishonoring the morals of God . Anything goes , more people are becoming like Judas who betrayed Jesus for 30 pieces of silver. Jesus being the Son of the supreme being of the universe.

People treat their mates the same way .throwing a good relationship down the toilet because of sexual desires . Rather not that they do not have what they need ,but they become greedy . Sad!

Great hub of reminders , also people need to do more background checks

Love at first sight can be pain in the end if not checked


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dashingscorpio 2 years ago

In the end if you don't (trust) someone it really doesn't matter whether you can "prove" they are cheating or not. Unless you have a history of being "paranoid" then I say trust your instincts and move on!

If something doesn't feel right to you then it's probably not right for you!

Playing cat & mouse games is an exercise in ego validation. You want to show him or her that you're smarter than them. However it doesn't change the end result. If cheating is a "deal breaker" for you then you leave. If you don't trust someone you leave. If you're unhappy in a relationship and (choose) to stay you are choosing to be unhappy.

Know yourself, love yourself, and trust yourself.


sheilamyers 2 years ago

Yes, these are all good ways to know if the guy is cheating on you. I do have to say I've never had to worry about it because I've never been married. I also want to say that you're a REAL man because you take your wedding vows seriously.


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CatherineGiordano 2 years ago from Orlando Florida

I'm a single lady and I read and enjoyed this anyway. You never know what the future may hold. The whole part about the mall and "her" was hysterical.


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Mel Carriere 2 years ago from San Diego California

In spite of many temptations, I have managed to keep it in my pants for the last 23 years, so I don't have any sympathy for the cheaters. I think what it boils down to is that a sudden change in a man's demeanor toward his wife is a pretty good indicator that something funny is going on. Very entertaining hub.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

MelCarriere,

Amen, my brother. How poignant. I have to admit that many times it is the wife who just senses that her man is "on the prowl," and all she has to do is be cool for the man will eventually hang himself.

Thank you for coming by. Stop by anytime.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, JamaGenee,

Loved your input. Truthfully, your comment is similar to a classic Perry Mason episode. Loved how the town regulars handled a wayward man.

Did the new GF ever know?

Now I think it was The Twilight Zone.

At any rate, terrific comment. Thank you so much.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

KissandTales,

Bravo, for your response to this hub. You are absolutely right. Our values and morals have almost crumbled and marriage is just a good excuse to spend money to look fancy one day out of the the year.

For I know of people where I live who did swear their love for each other, then within the first year of their marriage, pow! Divorce.

Hey! Marriage is not buying a used car. So what if you are tired of being married. Didn't you bother to think this through?

Thanks for your nice comment. Stop in again.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dashingscorpio,

Loved your comment. Love yourself. Know yourself. Trust yourself, said it all and said it very well.

Couldn't agree with you more.

Come back and see me anytime.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, sheilamyers,

Thank you, dear friend for your sweet comment.

I am probably the most old-fashioned male on HP. I cannot change. Some things were taught to me when I was small. And besides, me fooling around would literally kill my wife who has endured so much for she has lived with me and honestly, this is not an easy task.

Thank you, Dear Friend and please stay in touch.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Catherine,

Thanks so much for your nice comment.

You are right. You never know what lies in the future. I admire you for wanting to be prepared.

I appreciate you so much. Come back and see me.


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Kiss andTales 2 years ago

Thank you ,you explained it much better then me , So true how people look at the marriage vows ,these vows are not just to each other but you also are making the vow before the supreme being of the universe! That is why the words say what God has joined togather let no man pull apart.


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Ericdierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Are you sure you are not teaching men how to cover it up well ;-) I have just never though about it, but my wife is a hotty.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Eric,

You are a blessed homosaphiens. If you do not mind, tell her that I said that "you" have EXCELLENT taste in woman.

Deal?


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

KissandTales,

You are welcome. No, I just went at the topic wide-open and hoping my old-fashioned upbringing would not overshadow the topic of Vows and Keeping them. The part, "What God has joined together," is TRUE. And God is someone whom I DO NOT want to upset.

Seriously. I mean I come short each day, but with breaking a marriage vow, there is no such event as "accidentally" breaking that vow unless you are sleep-walking or under heavy sedation, but what are the odds?


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Ericdierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

I am writing her a poem as I write this and will be sure to include something about Avery and Slavery at least they rhyme.


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Kiss andTales 2 years ago

lol! you are so funny! Sleep walking! Thanks again.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Eric,

Nice touch, writing your pretty wife a poem.

Be sure to mention how you shed tears when she is away from you;

And you would love to be her for one day--this is dynamite stuff, an EX-Playboy told me years ago.

I was so skeptical I never used it.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

KissandTales,

No, thank you sincerely for stopping by and commenting. I appreciate YOU and ALL of my Wonderful Followers so much.


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Gypsy Rose Lee 2 years ago from Riga, Latvia

All of these and many more reasons to be thankful I can trust my soul mate totally twenty years and counting.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Gypsy Rose Lee,

Thank you, DEAR friend and special lady. I do appreciate you reading my materials and leaving such gracious comments.

You are one blessed girl. I can tell you that.

Please come back and see me anytime.


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vkwok 2 years ago from Hawaii

You should publish a book of advice!


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

My friend, vkwok,

You are so kind. Thank you. I would, believe me, if I could find myself an editor and an agent to shop my material around.

Why don't you think about writing a book about the untold beauty of your homeland?

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