Steps to Overcome Anger

Make no friendship with an angry man,
      And with a furious man do not go,
(Proverbs 22:24 - NKJ)

What is Anger

Anger is a basic human emotion that is experienced by all people. Typically triggered by an emotional hurt, anger is usually experienced as an unpleasant feeling that occurs when we think we have been injured, mistreated, opposed in our long-held views, or when we are faced with obstacles that keep us from attaining personal goals.

Anger is perhaps the worst emotions which need to be controlled. From time to time we are all face this strong emotion. Some common causes of anger include frustration, hurt, annoyance, disappointment, harassment, and threats. This helps us to realize that anger can be a friend or enemy, depending on how we express it. Knowing how to recognize and express anger appropriately, can help us to achieve these goals, and overcome the anger, solve the problems and even protect our health. Like the Proverbs said, bad emotion (anger) could be transferred. Good emotion will bring good influence to other people and vice versa. When someone living in anger, hatred, and do not want to forgive, then the person could suffer a vulnerable disease. It's hard to explain what is the connection between anger and disease but like many people with hard disease (not all), they seem to keep hatred and anger feeling inside.

People are vary in how easily they get angry and how bad their anger are. How often anger occurs, how intensely it is felt, and how long it lasts are different for each person.

Simple Steps to Overcome Anger

1. Take a deep breath and exhale it slowly.
2. Take some minutes to calm down, close your eyes and pray if you can pray. Or just meditate for few minutes. Give praises to the Lord.
3. Stop thinking things that could make your heart 'boiling'.
4. Put yourself on someone's else shoe. It sometime could make you understand the situation clearly.
5. Keep in your mind that we are all human that still make a mistake.
6. Learn how to laugh at yourself and find a good humor in every situation.
7. Learn how to be more relax.
8. Perhaps you often hear that expressing anger is better than keep it, but out of control anger could be dangerous. It will sooner or later hurt people around you. Out of control anger alienates friends, co-workers and family members.
9. Learn to trust other people. If you learn to trust people, you could reduce your anger to them.
10. Learn to be a good listener. This skill will increase the understanding among people. Anger may caused by lack of communication and miss understanding. Like your spouse is angry with you because you don't understand what he or she means and get more angrier when you demand some explanations.
11. If you are angry with someone, tell him or her what made you angry. Explain to them what bothered you.
12. Learn to forgive. Once you forgive, your anger will vanish and your burden will be released. Life is too short and too beautiful to be filled with anger.

Anger Management Medication

There is no medication that directly deals with anger, so the medication prescribed is usually an anti-depressant to help reduce anxiety and stress. These drugs need to be provided and monitored by your physician. Ask for help, attend the anger management meeting also help to overcome anger. Talk about it.

Domestic abuse, road rage, workplace violence, divorce, and addiction are just a few examples of what happens when anger is mismanaged.

Better to dwell in the wilderness,
      Than with a contentious and angry woman
. (Proverbs 21:19 - NKJ)

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Patty Inglish, MS 7 years ago from North America

Good information in a different view of the problem. Thumbs up!

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DeBorrah K. Ogans 7 years ago

Febriedethan, Very wise insight on anger! One should always seek to obtain self control. Suppressing anger is unhealthy as well, it only turns to resentment and only makes one bitter. Which often leads to depression.

It is so much better to learn how to express anger in a positive manner this way as you say "anger can be a friend" The Word of God says; "To Be angry and sin not..."

There are times when it is necesarry to express anger. There are always those who will try to take advantage of you. It is important to be able to stand up for yourself honorably. Thank you for sharing, Blessings!

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heart4theword 7 years ago from hub

It is a hard thing to live with an angry person. So good that your son, wasn't raised around that:) Really overwhelming when you understand how many people either need help to overcome this problem, or they need help in dealing with a person, who has this problem. What ever our situation is does appear that "People need People!" (We need them to relate to, or to give or receive help.)

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febriedethan 7 years ago from Indonesia Author

Patty Inglish, thank you for nice support, out of control anger is not good for our health. Have a great day!

DeBorrah, I agree with you, expressing anger in a proper and healthy way is good for us. Even Jesus had been angry once but He was not controlled by anger. Thank you for nice comment. God Bless You :)


Yes, it must be hard to live with an angry person, the key is self-control. Thank you for your nice comment. God Bless You :)

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agusfanani 7 years ago from Indonesia

Some people (including me) become more emotional when hungry. So, another tip which works for me, I'll have some food to ease my temper.

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Nemingha 7 years ago

The really sad thing is though that so many people who truly do have serious anger issues either don't realize it or won't admit to it, so getting them to face the fact that they do have a problem is often the hardest part.

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febriedethan 7 years ago from Indonesia Author

Hi Agus, yes it's so true..I become more emotional too when I'm hungry ha..ha, we need to stabilize the blood sugar level first, so fried chicken, rice, lalaban, and sambal are nice to calm down our temper. Thank you for commenting :)

Nemingha, it is true. Do you think it's important to set a CCTV on the angry person living room or house and show the records to them when they're angry ? I think, when they saw their own recording, they could learn something.

Have a nice day!

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tonymac04 7 years ago from South Africa

Thanks for a wise Hub on anger.

Love and peace


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febriedethan 7 years ago from Indonesia Author

tonymac04, thank you for visiting! Have a wonderful day!

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iqbal88 7 years ago

great advice

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febriedethan 7 years ago from Indonesia Author

Health Tip, thank you for visiting.

iqbal88, thank you and welcome to Hubpages!

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lgministries 6 years ago from Nueva Ecija

Nice! Thanks

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febriedethan 6 years ago from Indonesia Author

igministries, hi! you're welcome! Thank you for visiting!

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Lita C. Malicdem 6 years ago from Philippines

Don't let anger pull you down, pull yourself up. If we can overcome our anger, it's likely that we can prevent stress.

Depression can render you to become a neurotic or psychotic. Great tips to overcome our anger. Thanks!

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febriedethan 6 years ago from Indonesia Author

Hi Lita, thank you for visiting! Have a great day!

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carrie450 6 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

Very good advice on anger, thanks for sharing.

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febriedethan 6 years ago from Indonesia Author

Carrie450 hi! You're most welcome and have a great day!

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