Thoughts Of Why Couples Separate Or That Divorce
Thoughts Of Why Couples Separate Or That Divorce
Thoughts of why couples separate or that divorce. When we find Mr or Miss Right we don't expect to end up in a separation or a divorce. We expect to live with that person forever and always. You never think that person will be gone. It is heart breaking and we have almost all been there at one point in our life. Have we ever thought why our ex is not with us anymore?
Maybe we got to comfortable in our relationship. Did we take the other for granted? We don't like to think it's our fault. Maybe it was or maybe it wasn't. A relationship needs work, like flowers need sunshine. If we don't work at our relationship then the weeds start to grow. Kinda like tending a garden. You have to pull the weeds out of your garden.In order to see the vegetables growing. We need to still complement each other, like we did when we were dating. Have date nights , its lots of fun and can be quite pleasurable. Girls love flowers and chocolates. If she says she doesn't need flowers, shes only being nice to you. Surprise her, She will love you for it
. Now women this is for you. Men love it when they get a little note from you. It could be simple as ' Meet me for dinner' It works, try it sometimes. Or dress sexy for bed. Even if it is taken off by him. That's what you want him to do. Fix your hair a little different, this always catches there eye. If you are contemplating divorce try to work things out first. Try to remember what brought you to this decision. Try to remember how happy you were in the beginning. Are you miserable?
If the feeling is mutual then maybe it can't be fixed. But before you chunk it all. Try to remember what attracted you to that person in the first place. Think about would you be happier with out them? If the answer is yes. Then maybe this advice isn't for you. If the answer is no? Then maybe your relationship is worth saving. Can you stand to see your ex with another? Statistics show that most people have a new lover in under 3 months. Sometimes faster then that. Have you thought about that? If you haven't maybe you should.
Do you have children? Think about the fact you will hurt your children, in most cases. Now if you fight to kill or argue a lot, this may be for the best. Divorce or separation you may be for the best. If you decide to work it out, then that might be the best thing. Maybe you need to change a little yourself. Always be your self, and don't try to be or act like somebody your not.You can't change your looks to keep someone. It is only temporary if you do. Remember getting back with you ex, or staying in the relationship has to be a 2 way street. If you think you cant survive without them. Then do everything you can to hold to them.
You have to find your own neutral ground to stand on. You have to be comfortable with yourself first. If you decide to leave. Then do it in peace. Don't air your dirty laundry with family or friends. Never say anything bad about the other to your children. This will only back fire against you. If your ex has moved on with their life, then let them go. Absence makes the Heart grow fonder. The old saying is 'If you love someone set them free. If they return to you then their yours to keep.
Good luck to you and yours.
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