To Compete!!

Isn't it funny how much competition there is in everyday life?? We compete for jobs, for positions, for love, for attention, to be heard, to be noticed... the list just does not end. Life is a unending road of competition. Someitmes it just doesn't seem fair.

Men are the most competitive in my opinion. That's just my opinion now mind you. I raised two sons and I have watched them compete for so much. Who got the most geese in a hunt, who scores the most points when playing games? Who does the better job?  My oldest is the worst about it. He doesn't like to be beat at anything. But then I guess many do not like it. Me I don't care anymore. If I win , Yay!!, if I lose , so be it.

Sometimes it is in the losing that we learn life lessons. There is always going to be someone that is better at something than any of us do.  But it is in the effort that really matters. If we do our very best at whatever we do, it really doesn't matter if we win or lose, what matters is we gave it our all, we put our best foot forward with a sincere heart. If we win, what a victory. But if we lose, we really don't lose, we can walk away knowing in our hearts  we tried to the best of our own individual abilities. When we lose we look to see how we could have done better and we pick ourselves up and try again. Remember the old saying, ' When at first you don't succeed, try and try again.' It is in the trying that we find our strengths. And finding our strengths makes us grow, and growing makes us better inside of ourselves.

The world will always be a competitive playing field. It is the attitude that we enter that field with that matters. Smile and give it your all. Thats what makes us winners.

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strikehappy2003 6 years ago

That was amazing...I am glad that you took the time to share that hub..That was awesome. Do you ever find anyone in your life that is not competing?

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Thank you for stopping in strikehappy, and the answer is no I have never found anyone that is not competing. It is really amazing how stiff the competition is out there in all aspects of life. Thank you for your comment!!

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Zsuzsy Bee 6 years ago from Ontario/Canada

Singlmomat52, thanks for sharing. We definitely live in a society that is filled with competitions at every corner, that's for sure.

hope you're well

regards Zsuzsy

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

You are welcome Zsuzsy! Yes every corner. But you know if we had no one to compete with it would be a mighty boring world!!! Thanks for stopping in, I know you are very busy!! Thank you for your comment!! Oh and I am very well, TY!!!

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Dim Flaxenwick 6 years ago from Great Britain

I loved that. Just had to rate it funny as well as awesome because I´m like you. If someone saysÏ can do that better than you....¨My attitiude is ¨carry on then´So what. I´ll continue to do what I enjoy . I don´t care who´s the best.

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Touche' Dim!!! You worded it better than I did!! Nice to see you and thanks for your comment! God bless!! xxxxxxx

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Specialk3749 6 years ago from Michigan

My two oldest boys are horrible about being competitve! There are times when I want to scream and tell them to stop, but I realize that most of it is normal for boys. I try and use it for their good. My oldest is like yours, he does NOT like to loose. I am afraid he is going to have to learn some hard life lessons if he doesn't get over this kind of attitude. What do you do for boys like that? Any suggestions?

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

That is not a easy question to answer. I just kept repeating, it's not whether you win or lose, it's how you play the game. Or ' Did you do your best??' Yes, then you win!! I think it takes maturity for men to grasp that. It is in the nature of the male species to be competetive. Look at the male animals always competing for top dog position. Thanks for stopping in and for your great comment SpecialK!!

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ahorseback 6 years ago

Hey singlemom , Great writing, and all so true, As a man it's funny I am not the competitive kind , but so many are , I always look for the enjoyment in doing things .

That is the most important part of life . Loving it....

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Hey ahorseback, I am not competitive either! I enjoy a good scrabble game and games I can play alone, but to me winning at those games is not an achievement. Its just a game. I have however played a few games of chess and to me the moves in this game has all the aspects of how we live our lives. I found it very interesting! And yes the most important part of life is loving it. Thanks for stopping in and for your comment!!

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brightforyou 6 years ago from Florida

Oh so true singlemomat52... it seems that the competitive power struggles are responsible for so much grief in our society. If only we could all have this wonderful attitude!

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Yes I agree with you brightforyou!! We are such a melting pot of personalities it is to be expected. If we were all alike I suppose it would be a mighty boring world. Thanks for your comment!

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sligobay 6 years ago from east of the equator

Hey 52- Great topic and great article. Competition for anything and everything because of our American work ethic, I think. We boys are raised to believe that there are rules in every game and we must play by the rules and succeed; in sport; at work; at wealth and in romance.

Every thing is a beauty contest, an approval contest, a reputation contest, etc. Prowess is a word that comes to mind. "To the victor belongs the spoils" is an old belicose expression. "Nice guys finish last" is a mantra of business tycoons. We live in a society of acquisition unfortunately. Materialism has become the "golden calf" in our desert wanderings. Cheers.

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Very well put. Thank you for that description. You put into words what I could not!! All very true. Thanks for your comment and for reading my Hub. So glad you liked it!!

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louisxfourie 6 years ago from Johannesburg, South Africa

Great article, as a man I am not the competitive kind,I know who I am in Christ .. competitive power is used to stop the evil one.

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

It is awesome to know who we are in Christ!! Thank you for stopping in and leaving a wonderful comment!!

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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

I think competition helped make America great. Countless people, from innovative business thinkers to athletes to artists to inventors to scientists to writers have reached heights through having tough competitors that they would not have reached otherwise. In our public schools today they are eliminating competition. I think this a bad move. But I love your Hub. It is very good! :-)

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Well thank you James!! It is very nice to see you here. Care for a cup of coffee? Lol!!!! I agree with you and I did not think of all those competitors as this country began, thank you for reminding me. Thanks for your nice comment and I am glad you enjoy my Hubs!! Take care!!

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Micky Dee 6 years ago

I have competed too much and our society thinks we need it. Thank you Dear!

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RunAbstract 6 years ago from USA

I really enjoyed this article. Loved your observations and insights! Thanks!

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Thanks for stopping in and for your comment. I am sure there are many different opinions about this one! Lol!!

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Micky Dee, I am sure we all compete on some level every single day!! Thank you for your comment!!

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2besure 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

Competition is necessary in lie. I a have always found it very uncomfortable. I do believe I have missed out on many things because I do not like competition.

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Competition can be tough on our spirits and our egos, but I guess it is part of everyday life. I do believe we compete on some level, conciously or not, many times a day. Nice to see a new face, welcome. Thank you for reading and for your comment 2besure!!

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summertime8 6 years ago

Competitiveness can be such a horrible thing - but it can also bring a bit of zing to life. We would be robots if we were at exactly the same level as everyone in everything wouldn't we. Still 99.99999% of people could do with llosing a bit of competitiveness

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singlmomat52 6 years ago Author

Yes summertime8 you are right we would be as robots if we were all on the same level. But there are those out there that are way over the top in competition. Thank you for stopping in and for your comment.

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