Into The Friend Zone

The Friend Zone is a situation where one falls in love with a friend but cannot be loved in return as the other sees the other as a friend only. It's one of the bittersweet things one could experience. Wikipedia also described it sometimes as "the ninth circle of Hell" but is removed sometimes. But being in that situation always hopeless since things could change but it less likely happens. This situation happens usually when a long time friend like a childhood friend falls for the other after some time or it could be someone tries to make friends with someone he/she thinking to gain the person (in an incompetent way rather) which ends up difficult for the other to feel the same since that person made a friend zone out of it.

when I got into the friend zone

So much for an introduction so yeah I had an experience on that some years ago. So here's my story and it doesn't bother me whenever I remember it since it happened a long time ago and I'm alright now.

This happened in 2006 when I was on my first year in college and I was 16 that time. I had a crush on a girl who happened to be my classmate who we will named Xandra. She was the type of girl I liked during that time--you know, smart, nice, friendly... So, I wasn't that competent when it comes to courting so I just made friends with her. For the next months we spent time together--as friends. We helped each other in some academic subjects we had a hard time, shared some assignments, shared some stories, walked home as the day ended. Just like friends.

Maybe I was taken to much for the steps I learned from what I learned from relationship in highschool. The friendship, dating, courting, marriage thing (oh I can't remember much now), but I remained somehow in friendship since I wasn't that confident to move to the next level that time probably due to I wasn't that mature enough that time.

So back to our story, after a few months I couldn't keep the feelings and I started to express some of them to her. Then one day, she confronted me and told me that her feelings on me couldn't be more than just friends...

I remember that it was a week before Valentines day and I was so sad that time. I even managed to write a poem that time. I was so sad I think it took me a month or two to recover from the sadness.

But I guess somehow that that's how things were meant to be. And we still remained to be friends even after that crisis (haha :P). I remember during those sad days I was jealous with the guys she dated, thinking they all looked like jerks (actually the really looked like one.. haha I'm bad). But that was just silly hahaha..

Sometimes when I think of this I would just remember how funny I was during that time.. Well that's just part of growing up. Nothing to regret from that since I also learned from that.

Here's the silly poem I wrote on my sad time.

Even though I know there is no hope,

For being with the girl I love most.

Why is it difficult to cut the rope,

Not accepting that I had lost.

Why do I keep on holding on,

And keep on bearing the pain.

Now that everything is gone,

I am starting to feel insane.

Please, Oh Love another chance will you give me,

Stop the pain of this bleeding heart.

Help me set the girl I love free,

That I may move on and start.

I want to love again,

After this pain of letting go.

Like the way I loved Xandra,

That I may do so.

Need help? Just because you've been friend zoned it doesn't mean it's impossible to get out of it. There are lots of ways that might let that person notice you as someone more than a friend. You'll probably just need to bring out your more romantic side

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