What is Love?

Deconstructing Love
Deconstructing Love

What is more powerful than a locomotive, can happen faster than a speeding bullet and makes you feel you could leap tall buildings in a single bound...? Why it must be love, love, love...

Be it magical, mysterious..the stuff of poet's dreams or a biological ruse designed to propogate the species, there's no denying the force of romantic love and its impact upon us, the human species.

Telling the World

From the earliest surviving love poem, on a clay tablet, romantically labelled Istanbul#246 and held in a musty museum somehere, to the cheese factory of Stock, Waterman and Aitken, humans have sought to express their thoughts about love and romance. Love has been described as the ”triumph of imagination over the intellect” and as the singers croon of passion gained and lost in triumphant or self-pitying tones, the poets too, ply us with their ecstasies and miseries. Nowhere is the poets compulsion more evident than in John Keats's love letter to Fanny Brawne. Keats expresses something of the obsessional quality with which love can bind itself to the centre of our being:

I have been astonished that men could die martyrs for their religion. I have shudder'd at it.
I shudder no more . I could be marty'd for my religion. Love is my religion. And I could die for that... could die for you. My Creed is Love and you are it's only tenet. You have ravish'd me away by a Power I cannot resist : and yet I could resist till I saw you; and even since I have seen you I have endeavoured often “to reason against the reasons for my Love“. I can do that no more -the pain would be too great . My love is selfish. I cannot breathe without you.

My. Perhaps because love can pierce the furthest into the emotional core we are all a little obsessed with it. To the poet love is no ruse but rather the enigmatic heart of human existence. Only love can carry us to the extremes of emotion -from the thrills of ecstasy to the darkest depths of pain, so it's perhaps it's no surprise it has proven to be one of the most enduring themes of the poet and songwriter.


The fundamental things apply, as time goes by ~ Herman Hupfield

Fritz Eichenberg, Heathcliff Under the Tree, Cover Image from Wuthering Heights, 1943
Fritz Eichenberg, Heathcliff Under the Tree, Cover Image from Wuthering Heights, 1943

Pain and Suffering

What's wrong with you, with us?
What is happening to us?
Ah our love is a harsh cord
That binds us wounding us
And if we want to leave our wound
To separate,
It makes a new knot for us and condemns us
To drain our blood and burn together.

Pablo Neruda (From, The Furies -Love)

Just as love can carry us off to the heavens on the wings of euphoria, so too, can it drop us from a great height to lay crushed and limp upon the hard ground.When the oxytocins begin to drain away, the withdrawal can be as harsh as that from any hard drug addiction.

Love is so rare, so powerful and so all-consuming, that once we we possess it, every fibre in our being resists letting it go. Love can dissipate for a variety of reasons but a couple of big destructive forces in the mix are jealousy and the fear of rejection.

80's Love Kitsch -The World Seems Difficult

Jealousies...Insecurities

It was, apparently, Shakespeare who first associated the human emotion of jealousy with the colour green - a sickly, nauseating shade that overcomes the complexion when reason is subsumed by ugly thoughts.

O, beware, my lord, of jealousy; It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock the meat it feeds on; that cuckold lives in bliss Who, certain of his fate, loves not his wronger; But, O, what damned minutes tells he o'er Who dotes, yet doubts, suspects, ye..

Iago, from Othello

Jealousy is an ugly little seed that, if we allow it, can expand into a heinous beast, wreaking havoc with hearts and minds. Where does it come from...? What causes it...?

Well firstly, it's a normal human emotion and there's no need to beat ourselves up for experiencing it. It's when we fail to realise that we can never, and shouldn't try, to 'possess' the emotions of another, that jealousy can spiral out of control.

From an evolutionary point of view, the purpose of jealousy is not entirely clear but possibly it served some useful purpose in maintaining a mate. Psychologist's define jealousy as:

  • a temporary state
  • a response to a threat
  • a motivated action designed to deal with the threat (Daly and Wilson)

Why do we sometimes flirt tauntingly in front of a partner? Perhaps because a) it can make us seem more desirable and b) It enables us to gauge our partners commitment through their reaction. Moderate jealousy can actually strengthen committment by making one partner feel lucky to have a desirable mate and the other feel valued through a jealous reaction.

Violent, excessive feelings of jealousy can arise when we feel we are losing control or power over another, especially when a third party is on the scene....yet this kind of panic is futile, as whether the loss is real or imagined, we have no more control over someone else's feelings than we do over our own. The less secure we feel about ourselves and our own worth and desirability the more apt we are to feel threatened and jealous.

On a rational level we might recognize this, but continue to indulge in desperate, pathetic, controlling behaviour. Thus we end up hating ourselves just a little more, because we ourselves feel powerless against the force of our own waves of negative emotion. It's tough.


Rejection

I suppose there may be some lucky individuals who have never felt the dagger to the heart a rejection in love can bring, but for many of us it's an experience that slices right through our sense of self. You can feel as though you are walking around with a big R for reject on your forehead.

Depending on the depth of the hurt, rejection can be like a grieving process you are compelled to to go and then recover through the cliched healing of time. Most people do, although sometimes with scars. A few light rejections from near strangers may not be so big a deal but when it happens after you have invested all your emotion in someone, It is a kind of profound loss; of self-worth and of aspirations crushed and dreams shattered.

Edvard Munch...Two People
Edvard Munch...Two People

In the Russian novel by Turgenev, Fathers and Sons, the central character Bazarov is a nihilist who steadfastly refuses to believe in anything. Yet when he falls in love with the beautiful young widow, Anna Odintsova, he is unable to cope when she brutally rejects him. The conflict between his philosophical views and his uncontrollable passions make him one of the most romantic figures in literature. The confidence and arrogance his nihilism had provided him with does nothing to prepare him for the pain of rejection and a broken heart.

Bazarov ia a charismatic character, yet his eternal appeal lies not merely in what appears as a courageous nihilism but rather in the passion and the subsequent pain that engulfs him. It's this capacity for love and the shattering rejection he is able to feel that make him so poignantly and powerfully attractive. Perhaps those who have suffered rejection can take some slight comfort from the notion that to feel rejected is to be human....nothing more, nothing less.


Love as a Neurological Process

Did you know it takes a mere fifth of a second to fall in love? Or that it can ellicit the same euphoric feeling as using cocaine? These are the findings of a new study at Syracuse University,led by Professor Stephanie Ortigue.

The study revealed that when someone falls in love, twelve areas of the brain work together to release euphoria-inducing chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, adrenaline and vasopression. The 'love feeling' also affects intellectual areas of the brain and sophisticated cognitive functions, such as mental representation, metaphors and body image.

When the pheremones click, the human laboratory starts up and we could be forgiven for thinking there's a mad scientist in there somewhere. Love is an ancient drive - the primal force behind the continuation of the species.

But let's have a closer look at some of these chemicals, to discover what love does to us:

  • The Monoamines -Dopamine, Norepinephrine and Serotonin - Responsible for excitement, euphoria, craving and addiction
  • Adrenaline -A stress response, causes sweating, racing heart and increased pulse
  • Oxytocin -The hormone released during sexual orgasm as well as childbirth. Probably connected to bonding, physical attachment and intimacy.
  • Vasopression-Released after sex and has a similar structure to oxytocin. A diruretic hormone connecting kidneys to the control of thirst, but studies on prarie voles have revealed it's an important chemical in forming monogamous relationships. Experiments have revealed that when post-coital release of this chemical is suppressed, the prairie voles are less likely to form an attachment.

What hope do we have? This biological machine we call the human body is geared to push us into the deep waters of sexual passion and love. Sink or swim, who we love and how forcefully we do it, is seemingly beyond our conscious control. Ah well, might as well go with it...



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Rod Marsden 5 years ago from Wollongong, NSW, Australia

Love is one four letter word that has caused a lot of trouble for those who have said it at the wrong time and those who have not said it enough. In the 1990 movie, Ghost, Sam, Patrick Swayze's character, prefers ditto to 'I love you' which doesn't please Molly (Demi Moore). His reason? When it is said too much, according to Sam, it loses its meaning.

To me? Well I can see Sam's point. I would rather do than say and it is a very dangerous word to use around some member of the opposite sex you don't know very well or well enough. (And when do you know her well enough is a good question!)

As for rejections, all I ask for if someone doesn't want to go out with me is a simple 'No thank you' or 'I already have a boyfriend'. Anything else and I feel hard done by. I don't need a whole string of excuses and I don't need some woman with an ax chasing me out of the neighborhood. I am eternally perplexed why some women can't manage a simple 'no thank you' when nothing has really happened or is likely to happen.

You could be right about Shakespeare and the green monster.

Good read.


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Austinstar 5 years ago from Somewhere in the universe

Oh Rod, now I have an image of you being chased out of the neighborhood by some woman with an ax!

Great hub, Jane! Love is a hard thing to understand.


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A.A. Zavala 5 years ago from Texas

Thorough, interesting, and concise. Thank you for sharing.


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secularist10 5 years ago from New York City

Darn, I was sort of hoping for a sappy, adolescent screed complete with pictures of your former boyfriends in pink heart-shaped frames. "And this is Johnny... and this is Bruce (he was sooooo cute, tee hee!)"

Instead I get the usual Bovary--stimulating, fascinating, well-written, thought-provoking and fun to read.

I must say, the notion of love as a religion is something this secularist could stand to see more of in the world (it is naturalistically-based, so therefore inherently superior to other religions).

Regarding rejection, it is possible for a man to render himself more or less immune. To wit (you're going to love this story): once I decided, in an attempt to reduce my inhibitions of approaching women, to walk around and approach every attractive woman I saw, say I thought she was beautiful and immediately ask her out. I rarely felt so alive. It was nerve-wracking and enthralling all at once.

Most of them played the boyfriend card as expected, but enjoyed the attention and left with a smile on their face. When you can control your feelings like that, suddenly rejection becomes kind of fun!

The neuroscience of love is fascinating stuff. Many think that taking the mystery out of this kind of thing leads to a reduction in humanity. To the contrary, the more we understand and can control ourselves and our world, the more humanity thrives.

So how long until we can purchase an over-the-counter love potion from Pfeizer?


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Micky Dee 5 years ago

Love is the absence of loneliness and the distinctive unforgettable knowledge that if it leaves, all is lost. Love is an uncontrollable automatic investment of all of your heart.


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Micky Dee 5 years ago

Love is never hiring a lawyer.


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Rod Marsden 5 years ago from Wollongong, NSW, Australia

secularist10, I was of the view you have expressed concerning rejection. Or to put it in the words of a Jacobean bard: If she be not for me what care I for whom she be? But when you are expecting a simple yes thank you or no thank you or I have a boyfriend and get a tongue lashing or hostility a week later you have to wonder what goes on in the heads of some people.

People including family have said hey ask her out what have you got to lose? Nowadays I know it could range from peace of mind to your job to who knows what.

And I do agree you should only ask once. The men who ask the same woman more than one are being a nuisance and if they get it in the neck that is okay with me.

Asking once however is actually supported by the United Nations. Don't forget life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

Of course going after happiness doesn't mean you eventually get happiness but it seems to me asking once isn't too much and anyone who thinks so is really going against the UN and also democracy and quite possibly free enterprise. So there!

Love is finding a safe haven from which you can launch your ideas on how to make the world a better place.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Rod, I agree with you..love is really a cheap two-dollar word, bandied about far too recklessly. I'd only say it if I meant it.

I suspect women make excuses because they're conscious of hurting someone's feelings...but yes, a simple no thank you is probably the least painful. Rejection can be a terrible spectre and stop us from jumping in there but really...what the hell? Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

The most painful rejection is when you've actually invested emotionally in that person..even believed they felt the same. Then it's both a disillusionment and a severe blow to the ego. Still, I do believe in the old adage...*better to have loved and lost etc..*

What's that about an axe..? Lol


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Austin...I love seeing your face in my hubs. Thanks for coming!

A.A. Zavala...thank you too, for the encouraging comment. Much appreciated.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Haha secularist..you made me laugh! Why does everyone think Australian men are called Bruce?! Why, I only know five or six with that name.

I'm impressed with your experiment. Gutsy! I know many women take the initiative in these enlightened times but still, the onus is often more on men to put themselves on the line and risk rejection in the intiial stages of the love game. Supposedly, women give out the signals and men act on them. Immunity from ego deflation? I don't believe it!

I'm with you...knowing more about how these thing work doesn't destroy the mystique for me. It's no less amazing.

A love potion would be a dangerous thing...(I might be tempted to put some in your dog bowl, heh) but it'd be a big seller I'm sure.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Micky Dee, love your comment. So true. Ah, love, as wonderful as it is, has a tendency to go pear-shaped, as thoe lawyers well know. Thanks for stopping by.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

"Nowadays I know it could range from peace of mind to your job to who knows what."

Rod, you have a point there..it's dangerous to flirt in the workplace. There seems to be a delicate line between harmless flirtation and sexual harrassment. Of course I can see the need for sexual harrassment laws (scores of women who have suffered at the groping hands of office sleaze-bags will attest to that) but on the other hand is there too much of a tendency to make us overly sensitive victims who can't handle the odd unwanted advance? Dunno.


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PieterTheProphet 5 years ago

It's all about the chems! No wonder we've taught ourselves how to make so many of them. That love is about survival of the species I have no doubt. We are truly wonderful creatures. I LOVE that about us!


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Pieter, we are wonderful creatures...sometimes. Thanks very much for the comment.


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secularist10 5 years ago from New York City

Jane, I didn't know about the Australian Bruce thing actually! I just made it up, really. "Bruce" just came to me. Maybe I have psychic powers.

Oh, I'm not 100% immune from fear of rejection (I don't think one ever can be or should be), but I have made a lot of progress from where I was, I'm proud to say. That's another whole story.

I definitely think women should be more assertive and proactive when it comes to these things. It's one of my pet peeves. But they like to "feel like a lady" so what are you going to do... :)

Rod, gosh, maybe that particular woman had experienced some kind of personal trauma. Maybe she was a man-hating fanatical feminist lesbian, who knows? I think asking a girl out in a small-knit office environment where everybody knows everybody else's business is really dangerous.

Especially if you've been working together as colleagues for 3 years then suddenly you get up the courage and ask her out... she'll think "whoa! where did that come from?" And from then on it's just awkward at best.

On the other hand, you only live once. What's a lost job in the pursuit of love?

There is a wrinkle in your UN argument: the UN has no jurisdiction over any country! Drat!


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

You psychic? haha.. that would turn reality upside down for me. It is a coincidence though, as Bruce is a classic jokey Australian name. Maybe you picked it up unconsciously.

Speaking of man-hating, feminist, lesbian seperatists - in my English tute a couple of years back, we invented a new term..*femino-sadist*...which applied to women in film and literature who were horrible to men. eg; think of that film Misery (you know, where the demented nurse holds the writer captive in a torturous situation). I'd written a short story about a woman who lives on an isolated rural property and when her husband breaks his legs in a tractor accident ...she refuses to call the flying doctor, etc. Oh, it was cruel...femino-sadism at its best.


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Rod Marsden 5 years ago from Wollongong, NSW, Australia

Yep! There are some crazy man-hating women out there. Definitely femino-sadists. Funny thing is many of them are not lesbians. Lesbians simply don't buy into the male/female intimate relationship biz and actually tend to be upfront about it. Most lesbians will say no thank you when approached by a guy. They don't see the problem unless the guy continues asking and then he really Is fair game anyway.

No. The femino-sadists hide among the heterosexual woman where they can do real damage.


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drbj 5 years ago from south Florida

What a lovely, loving hub about love, Jane. There is so much here to read and digest I will have to make several trips beack to re-read. In the meantime, I have to share with you a quote I remember about rejection from Brigitte Bardot - a movie sex kitten long ago. Quote: "I always reject before being rejected."

I guess it must have worked for her - she always seemed to have an assortment of lovers hanging around.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Rod, femino-sadists are not usually lesbians, that's true...I was being tongue-in-cheek there. I dont think there are vast numbers of femino-sadists existing in r/life, though I guess Billy Bobbit's wife could be called one. Remember that? Ouch!


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Drbj, lovely to see you and thanks for the nice comment. It's comforting to know even icons like Brigitte Bardot had their fears of rejection. Thanks!


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Rod Marsden 5 years ago from Wollongong, NSW, Australia

Yes I do Jane. And you are right. They are not out there in vast numbers but you only have to meet one for things to go pear shaped.

I remember that Brigitte Bardot was an animal liberationist. She was totally against cruelty to animals in a big way and this definitely extended to sea life. I always thought of her as a bit of a mermaid when I learned that. Her youngest bow on the screen was Bill Mummy, the kid who played Will Robinson in Lost in Space. Of course he hasn't been a kid for some time now.


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Maggie-May 5 years ago from the Island of Cape Breton to the Eastern Shores near Halifax, NS

Love? Love this topic, thanks for sharing, you've shed light on many things!!


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Rod, thanks for that info about BB...that combination is hard to imagine, although Billy Mumy was pretty cute. I watched the very first episode of Lost in Space just recently and it caused much hilarity in the room. Dr. Smith was such a ham!


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Hi Maggie-May, thankyou for visiting and dropping that nice comment on me.


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Rod Marsden 5 years ago from Wollongong, NSW, Australia

Jane, Billy Mummy played the role of a very young mathematical genius with a tin ear growing up on a house boat where everyone else was a musical genius. The romantic moment in the film between BB and Billy involved Billy's character getting a pet kitten to keep. The young mathematical genius simply thought that BB was well proportioned - in a mathematical way of course.

The role of Dr. smith softened somewhat as the series of Lost in Space progressed. Even so, Dr. Smith was supposed to be killed off in the first season. Jonathan Harris was only a guest star. Well the fan mail came in and it appeared that Will, the Robot and Dr. Smith were big hits and so they had to keep the not-so-good doctor. If you think Dr. smith was a ham in season one then you should check out the final season of the show. As Doctor Smith continued to be a burden on the Robinsons he got sillier and sillier.

Billy Mummy has been involved in the music industry since his departure from Lost in Space. He has also written for the comics and has done marvelous work on Babylon 5 which is great SF in its own right.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

You're a mine of information Rod...I love hearing these titbits. I'd never heard of that BB film...sounds whacky, lol. I wondered what happened to Billy Mumy.

I have seen Lost in Space before and I agree, Will, the robot and Dr. Smith were a good combo, and if we're talking favourites, I'll vote for the robot. Lets face it, the others were pretty boring...especially Judy and what's his name...Don, the obligatory *hothead*. Penny was ok though.

Cheers


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Rod Marsden 5 years ago from Wollongong, NSW, Australia

There are a couple of episodes of Lost in Space featuring Penny that stand out in my memory. One is The Golden Man. Two aliens come to the planet the Robinsons are on to fight a war. Each alien represents their race in this war. The golden man comes to the Robinsons seeking their friendship and also to talk them into providing weapons so that the war will be unequal and the other alien will definitely lose. Only Penny doesn't like the Golden Man. He's too smooth for her tastes. The ugly frog like alien is more her cup of tea. As it turns out the Golden Man is a fraud and the ugly frog like alien turns out to be the better, more nobler creature. Mind you I have never thought of frogs as ugly so I really couldn't see the ugliness.

The actor who played John Robinson did his best work in the Disney television series Zorro. He was the best swordsman in Hollywood at the time and there is a great episode of Lost in Space where he gets to use a sword and there is this smile on his face and gleam in his eye that probably has nothing to do with acting. Years after Zorro he took his family on holiday to Mexico and he was swamped by kids and adults wanting his autograph and to see him handle a sword. In an interview his daughter said he never let his family forget.

Yes, cheers, Jane.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Rod,

That's interesting, that Zorro and John Robinson where the same guy. I don't think I've seen much of the Disney Zorro series.

Penny was always the 'sensitive one' so I'm not surprised she had it sussed. I too am a frog fancier and take umbrage that a hideous alien should be portrayed as a dear frog. A few years ago, I ancountered the green tree frogs in the Northern Territory. They are just so beautiful..exquisite. It was the first time I'd ever really got up close and personal with one.

Continuing the frog theme, did you ever see that old film "The Maze" where an inbred English aristocrat had some terrible genetic mutation that made him look like a frog? He had to be hidden away and would be secrectly taken out at night for a dip in the pond...yet more frogism.


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Rod Marsden 5 years ago from Wollongong, NSW, Australia

Yes, Jane I remember the movie you are talking about. It was on Creature Features on television. The frog-like aristocrat had lived for many generations and had been looked after by generations of the family.

I also liked the Lost in Space episode Mr Nobody in which an alien presence in a cave turns out to be a power to be reckoned with. It was taught humanity by Penny.

Some scientists create frog maps to keep track of how the environment is doing. Where there are happy healthy frogs where frogs should be then the environment is doing well. Where there is a lack of frogs where frogs should be or no frogs at all then there's definitely something wrong.

I have seen the tree frogs you get up in northern NSW and they are beautiful. I haven't been to the Northern Territory so I can't comment on their frogs though I imagine they are just as beautiful.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Rod,

Ah Penny...what a gal!

What if frogs appear where they don't normally? I've seen three frogs in my backyard over the last few days, which is great but unusual. I only have a cat water-bowl so I can't really see the attraction for them. Must be the weird weather conditions.

I'm inspired now to write a hub about tree frogs.


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Rod Marsden 5 years ago from Wollongong, NSW, Australia

Well, Jane sounds like you can start a frog map from your backyard. Not sure what frogs appearing where they don't normally means. Certainly there has been a lot of rain about lately and the weather has been weird.

Good luck with a tree frog hub. It should be a big hit.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Thanks Rod!


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SweetMarie83 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

What a great hub! I always enjoy hearing people's take on love - it really is an obsessive, addictive emotion. It means something different to everyone but at the core, it's the same.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Thanks SM and I think you're right...at the core it IS all the same.


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Golfgal 5 years ago from McKinney, Texas

Ahhh yes...and who needs drugs when we can get dopamine, serotonin, and my personal fav...the adrenaline rush all within a glance. Love is hypnotic, dramatic, crazy. Impossible to live without, impossible to live with. Love Love Love I want your love. Hey.. Lady GAGA must have got hold of your hub. All kiddin aside....fine job.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Thanks GG. We all love love eh? It is without doubt, the best drug. When I wrote the title I was really thinking of this song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XftXrk32TUE&feature...


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KewlWriter 5 years ago from United States

Appreciative hub, which discusses love from poetic angle to scientific angle.!!


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Thanks KewIwriter


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Painter Penfield 5 years ago from Tampa Bay area Florida

Wow Jane! I had no idea I was going to spend so much time on this hub that I would use up my remaining laptop charge! I am definitely doing the Stumbleupon share and thumbs up for you. The comments as well as the body of work have been a delightful read. I have a snickering remark I like to share with my girlfriends after one of my typical head-slapping moments; when I bemoan another bad choice in partners made: "Blame it on the oxytocin!" *sigh*...thank you for a lovely read. Off for a recharge.


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Jane Bovary 5 years ago from The Fatal Shore Author

Painter..thanks for that generous comment. Blame it on the oxytocin indeed! It's true.

Cheers

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