Bob Coy's Sin-More Than A Moral Failure.

Bob Coy
Bob Coy

As most of you probably already know, last Sunday, Bob Coy the head pastor of one the largest churches in the US, resigned his position amidst scandal. According to news sources, he had cheated on his wife Diane.

No details regarding the affair have been released. Church leaders at Calvary Chapel Ft. Lauderdale are wisely remaining silent. A statement taken from the church’s website surprisingly down plays the spiritual seriousness of his adulterous affair by calling it a moral failing.

Adultery is not something you simply fall into. For someone in Bob Coy’s position, it is a cataclysmic undertaking requiring forethought and purpose. It does not happen by accident, nor does it force you into submission. The man who cheats on his wife doesn’t accidentally find himself in the arms of another woman. Adultery is warmed up to and then purposefully embraced. Sexual affairs require deception at the highest levels. Forgive me for being obstinate, but this was a bit more then a moral failing. It was a deliberate act of rebellion against the Spirit of God and His Word.

Over the last several days I have heard my local church leaders at Calvary Chapel rightly caution against harshly judging Bob. I am touched by their compassion and their mercy. There is no doubt that he has done a great deal for the kingdom of God. He was a strong leader and a voice of reason. Bob Coy is not a kook like so many other pastors who have gained national attention for their “moral failings”. I agree with his doctrines and I found his teachings sound and inspiring. He was not given to extremes and he did not appear to be after people’s money. Those who know him speak well of him. Yet despite his many virtues, He broke his sacred covenant with his wife and sinned against God in way that should have been beneath someone of his maturity and position.

I understand the need to show mercy and forgiveness. But let us not diminish the seriousness of his sin. Indeed Bob is only human; indeed we should look to Christ and not him. OK, but in reality, people do see him as an example and rightly so, he was a very influential teacher, a man of God. It must be said that Bob Coy’s sin reflects poorly on all Christianity. It dishonors God’s reputation and calls into question every verse in the bible that speaks of our power over sin via the Grace of God.

I can't look at Bob without pausing to look inward. Considering the times in my life that I to have sinned. Bob Coy's sin is a wake up call to all of us who serve God openly and publicly. Whom much is given, much is expected. Beware pastor and teacher of God’s Word. Fear God and be doers of His Word and not hearers only. Bob did not Fear God and as a result, his sin was made known.

I am glad to hear that Bob has submitted himself to the church’s leadership for discipline, accountability, and counseling. He has fallen into the arms of folks that love him. I pray that he is able to reconcile with his wife and family. I hope he sees his sin as more then a moral failing, and that he will begin to walk in the fear of God.

Your Brother in Christ

ABR

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PlanksandNails 2 years ago from among the called out of the ekklesia of Christ

Unfortunately, in the "churches" of men this is a common. Bob Coy's sin is the typical headline maker. Many have gone down the same road as he has. When "church" is run by the same system as the world, the results are the same.


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lambservant 2 years ago from Pacific Northwest

I was disheartened about Bob Coy's sin is indeed serious, but he resigned and submitting to the church's counsel and seems to be desire to work on his marital relationship and his relationship with God. He is on the right track. So many times, the pastor rebels. We do need to forgive, but in no way do I, or many people, take what he did lightly. But my desire and responsibility is to pray for his wife and children, his church, and he himself. David was restored after his repentance, and his sin included murder as well. God is in the business of restoration, transformation, and reconciliation.


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sradie 2 years ago from Palm Coast FL

It is good to get a reasoned perspective on Coy's situation Aaron. And lambservant's comment shows a proper perspective on what our response to it should be. I think the church maybe had no better choice than to label his sin a 'moral failure'. There are many things in play here that the church must consider. Among them, diffusing a media that dearly loves to make hay out of such events. Another would be to soften the blow to the body of Christ that worships there in Ft. Lauderdale to protect the flock from scattering as much as possible and allow at least a little time to put things back in order for that fellowship. Where Bob Coy's life goes from here is a matter of God's work in his life. There is only so much the institutional church, that is the leadership of his particular church, can do in this situation to bring about resolution. Redemption is Jesus work and whatever becomes of Mr. Coy and his family, needs to be a deep prayer concern of ours and ultimately the work of the Holy Spirit.


theolderbro 2 years ago from Winnemucca Nevada

It's easy for us to cast stones and difficult for us to refrain from doing so. I guess we are so sure we could never fail in this way or that way that we are confident in our right to cast judgement on the sin and the man. Was Bob's sin great? Yes. But as Jesus said of the woman caught in adultery; "let him without sin cast the first stone". I can't cast anything nor do I need to. Bob lost much. A God blessed ministry, family peace, integrity, self respect, and income among other things. Life will never be the same no matter how much he wants it to be. He will never be able to roll back the clock on his choices, they are now burned into the landscape of Bob Coy's life. His family will forever be altered and it will take years for them to overcome the bitter disappointment and mistrust. I'd say the price was steep but the price for sin always is.

If Bob repents as I'm sure he will, may we all love and forgive him. How sweet it would be for us to hear " neither do I condemn you, go and sin no more."

My the Lord comfort and bring peace and grace to his family. May he heal their broken hearts.

1Co 10:12

" Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall."


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lambservant 2 years ago from Pacific Northwest

The olderbro, that made me tear up. You hit right on the head. Lord bless you.


scumbag 2 years ago

Why is it as soon as someone goes out and betrays their spouse, breaks a holy covenant made with God, actually several but the marriage covenant is the one I am thinking of, betrays the trust of 'the other woman(s)' who was likely looking to him for counsel and example, betrays the people who have been financing his life and his families and brings a reproach upon the name of Jesus, why after all that is everyone is so concerned with his restoration back to ministry? He's disqualified himself, why would you want him teaching you something he didn't live himself after so many years of spending time in the presence of God and by his life choices prove it was really not what captivated his heart at all. Love and forgiveness is one thing but dude go sit in the back of the church and be still.


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Chasing Words 2 years ago from Texas

Christ came for all. If Christ only came for those who deserve it then none would be saved.

It is hard to explain, but I will try. Let me begin by saying that I am an ordained chaplain.

When you are a minister, people look up to you, and sometimes it almost comes to the point of worship. Consider for a moment that while people adore you every one of them has an expectation for you to fill this role, and to fill that role.

Let us add another dimension. On top of all the expectations and adoration, you hear all about people's problems, their struggles and challenges day in and day out. Add the regular 3 am emergency calls and the fact that people will not understand that you need some time with your family, and get angry when you take a vacation and do self care. Ministry is always there. It is a 24 hour, 7 day a week calling. It is a position where you are surrounded by people all of the time, but you are often alone. And people believe you can handle it because, as a minister, you have special training and extra special connection with God.

Add to this that no minister has a perfect life, with a perfect home, with a perfect family. The dog still poops on the carpet, children fight and spouse's do not always get along.

People need to remember that the pastor, chaplain and minister are representatives of Christ. They are not Christ himself.

You talk to the minister for help, so, who does the minister talk to?


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Abrushing1968 2 years ago from USA- Florida Author

PlanksandNails how is his church run by a worldly system. Please elaborate for me? Calvary Chapels use a governing system modeled after Moses's leadership style. It has its problems for sure but it is biblical.

Thanks for chiming in. The problem is far to common. Oh that all Pastors feared God as Joseph did. Consider his words to Potiphars wife,"How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?”(Gen 39:9)

Peace

ABR


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Abrushing1968 2 years ago from USA- Florida Author

LambServant I do most heartily agree. Thank you for most gracious response to a terrible situation. Indeed God is in the business of restoration. He is also in the business of helping us overcome temptation. I don't blame God, I am disappointed in Bob Coy but not devastated or overly surprised. I was more shocked that the leadership at FT Lauderdale chose to down play the seriousness of his sin by calling it a moral failing; empowering others to minimize their sin as well.

Thanks again

Peace to you.

ABR


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Abrushing1968 2 years ago from USA- Florida Author

Stott:

I wonder how a church the size of Calvary Chapel Ft. Lauderdale can keep from looking at sin through political eyes. Your points are well taken, I can appreciate their need to protect their people.

As always thanks for chiming in.

God Bless

ABR


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Abrushing1968 2 years ago from USA- Florida Author

Ah, my Olderbro:

Indeed you words are as wise as they are gentle. Hmmm?

I don't think I am throwing stones at Bob Coy. I am questioning the wisdom behind minimizing the seriousness of this sin.

Your use of 1 Co 10:12 makes me shiver in my boots. For the record, I have never said, nor do I believe, I am above or better then Bob Coy. I have my own sin to deal with. But is has to be said, that if a church minimizes the seriousness of sin, you have to wonder about their commitment to holiness and walking in the fear of God.

As all ways I am touched that you chimed in and read my stuff.

May we be as merciful and gracious in all things as you have been toward Bob Coy.

Your bro in Christ and in life

ABR


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Abrushing1968 2 years ago from USA- Florida Author

scumbag:

I am not aware of any one looking to restore him back to ministry. Indeed his teaching days in Calvary Chapel are over.

Peace to you, my you find a better name by which you can represent yourself.

ABR


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Abrushing1968 2 years ago from USA- Florida Author

Chasing Words:

Thank you for your service in the kingdom of God. I think Chaplains are unsung heroes. I did not realize how diverse your position must be. Diversity must be you middle name. God Bless you.

While I am not familiar with the role you play as a chaplain. I am very familiar with the Pastoral role. You have made it clear that people come to you for advice or counsel. In this both pastors and Chaplains are united. You have asked the question, who do chaplains go to for counsel? Forgive me, but this statement seems a bit elitist

Did you know that this is the same exact thing Jimmy Swaggart said in the 80's when he got caught photographing pornographic images of Prostitutes. He felt he was better than everyone around him. His pride kept him seeking help and accountability. Dear sister in Christ, who do Chaplains go to? Anyone that loves them. Other Chaplains, Pastors. Any mature believer that can help bear their burdens. Don't let pride keep you isolated and alone.

Peace to you

ABR


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Chasing Words 2 years ago from Texas

What I encountered when I sought help was that many of the counselors and therapists I attempted to work with viewed me as colleague versus a client. It took me well over a year and a half to finally meet a therapist who would treat me as a client in need of help. I was struggling with PTSD following my deployment to Afghanistan where I lost a lot of people. While there I was the mental health, spiritual health and spiritual provider for all my troops. There was no one for me to turn to. I had to be strong when everyone else was crying and Soldiers were dying. After I returned, I discovered some devastating truths about my now ex-husband. And divorce among clergy is not regarded highly among clergy. It was not easy, and even the VA moved incredibly slow.

The counselor I finally found was a 70 year-old woman who had been in the business well over 30 years, but it took a lot of money, a lot of time and a lot of prayer before I finally met her.

Pride has nothing to do with it. I accept that I am a human being, with flaws just like anyone else. I was begging for help. The problem is that many others, including therapist and counselors, have preconceived expectations that makes seeking help difficult.

Blessings.


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PlanksandNails 2 years ago from among the called out of the ekklesia of Christ

Abrushing1968,

Your statement presents two problems.

Firstly, there is only one true Church, which is not owned by any man. When you say it was "his church," you are right in the sense that it was. That is the way the world system of "church" is represented by hired men rather than Jesus Christ.

Secondly, everything from the Bible is biblical, but that does not mean that everything applies to the Church. The governing system modeled after Moses makes men mediators between the people and God. The OT prophet, priest and king's are no longer required as all believers have direct access to Jesus Christ by what He did on the cross.

Any man who claims that they have a mantle of Moses over the people from the teaching of Chuck Smith are delusional. The OT government that applied to Israel does not apply to the Church today.

Leaders who believe they have the authority of Moses are in essence just like the papacy. Even the Mormons use the same justification where someone with a special "mantle" becomes the modern day religious leader over the people.

Do you believe this verse applies to the Church today,

The LORD thy God will raise up unto thee a Prophet from the midst of thee, of thy brethren, like unto me; unto him ye shall hearken - Deuteronomy 18:15

Here are the words of Jesus Christ,

But Jesus called them [to him], and saith unto them, Ye know that they which are accounted to rule over the Gentiles exercise lordship over them; and their great ones exercise authority upon them. But so shall it not be among you: but whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all. For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.

Bob Coy was a hireling in the system of men and who acquired wealth and real estate. Just like Chuck Smith, Bob Coy's "church" was run like a business.

The empires of celebrity status creates men who are tempted by money, power, woman and the accolades of men. This is nothing new in the word system that is promoted in the modern "churches." That is why this common problem is in the latest headlines.

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