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Rocky II, Like You've Never Seen Before!
Don’t you just love God’s creative ways of talking to us? He talks to me through movies. One that comes to mind is Rocky II.
I was watching the movie one night and it came to the scenes where Rocky proposes to Adrian, they get married, and then walk home. I loved that Rocky carried Adrian the entire way home. Whata guy! The next scene was their marriage bed and Rocky was kissing Adrian's lips so tenderly. Men, hang in there. It gets better. I promise!
It was at this point God began speaking to me with thoughts in the form of a conversation. He asked, “Child, what do you see?“ I responded, “Father, I see Rocky treating Adrian like a beautiful, tender flower that he treasures more than life itself. His eyes reveal the special place in his heart where she is safe and protected from harm. Rocky wouldn't change a hair on her head. He loves her unconditionally. Adrian knows she is free to express herself just as You made her, Father. She can trust Rocky with every area of her life. I could tell at that moment, they believed they were the only two people on earth. I also see that under Rocky’s beautiful tenderness lies a fierce contender ready to strike out at the slightest threat against her.” Then God said, “Child, what does this tell you?’’ I said, “Father, it’s clear that I’m describing our love affair - Yours and mine. You make me feel like Your one-and-only, yet I know there are many, many others who have this beautiful relationship with You.” He said, “Continue watching, child.”
It came to the scene where Rocky and Adrian were having a disagreement. Remember? Rocky tells Adrian that he was meant to be a fighter, not a television personality doing commercials. She objects, yet his tenderness remained, even when they disagreed. I loved the line, “Adrian, I never asked you to stop being a woman. Please, please, don’t ask me to stop being a man - please!” I said, “Lord, this reminds me of the gentleness of Your Holy Spirit when He corrects me, and how I still feel loved, even when He reveals my mistakes.” The Lord responded, “Exactly!”
Then came the scene where Adrian is in a coma and Rocky is crying over her bed. I heard the Holy Spirit say, “This is how your Father grieves when sin creeps into your life or you stray away from Him. He’s always there waiting for you to wake up, cheering you on, encouraging you, speaking His Word, and telling you to keep listening. And, when you finally wake up (realize), the first thing you notice is the joy of the Lord welcoming you back.”
After Rocky's long vigil, Adrian finally wakes up, and Rocky tells her, if she wants him to call off the fight with Apollo Creed, he will. Remember what she said? She tells him there’s only one thing she wants him to do - WIN! Unity, at last, and Rocky is propelled to a place where he knows his dream will come true. Then I heard my Father say, “Child, see how happy I am when your thoughts become agreeable to My Will, and how I will cause your plans to be established and succeed - you will win the prize!” (Phil. 3:14; 1 Cor. 9:24; Prov. 16:3) I said, “Yes, I do see, Father. Thank You.”
The fight scenes were next. By this time, God had opened my eyes so widely that the fight became a vivid illustration of what I would have faced, both here, and eternally, had I not received Christ as Lord and Savior, and, subsequently, fallen in love with Him. Did you catch that word, subsequently? That means I made the commitment first, and then came the love affair. The enemy wants you to believe it must be the other way around. In other words, he wants you to believe that if you don’t feel love for Jesus, then you cannot ask Him into your heart. That’s a lie! Don’t let him fool you. Finally, Rocky wins the prize. This tells me how sweet it can be here as well as in Heaven.
Men, I asked you to hang in there to the end. I hope you did. This is a powerful illustration of how to love your wife as Christ loved the church. We (the church) are one with Him and we need more than a casual acquaintance with our Savior. We need acts of tenderness, love, encouragement, and patience. He protects, provides, and heals in manifested ways that prove His love. Likewise, you are one with your wife and she needs to see you performing similar acts of love for her. It isn’t just something “nice” you do, husband. To her, it’s as vital as the air she breathes, and without it, she withers and dies. It's called depression. Ladies, your performance is equally as important but that will have to be for another time.
I struggled with the title of this article. At first, I wanted to title it, "A Peak Into the Secret Place", because that’s exactly what it is; a modified excerpt from my prayer journal and intimate time with my Father. He will give me thoughts in the form of a conversation with Him. That explains the quotation marks. It’s one of the many blessings He’s given me as I have chased Him over the years.
If you are a seeker, or a believer who received Christ as Savior but you haven't grown in Him, I urge you to step out in faith. There is so much more to life with Christ than salvation. Yes, you are saved, but you are missing out on the abundant life Jesus promises in the Word. Reach out to Him. He's waiting to hear from you. You can trust His promises because He cannot lie. (1 Timothy 6:19; Ephesians 2:10; Matthew 24:45-51; 25:14-30; Deut, 31:6; Hebrews 6:18)
My final comment is for the men. This illustration is focused on the women, but God is just as capable in meeting the needs of a man. Don’t let the enemy confuse you with his lies. He will try and tell you this is just for women and you don’t need all that sappy stuff. Listen, He is your Friend (John 15:15). You can go to Him with whatever needs and concerns you have, and He will communicate perfectly with you. He made you. He knows exactly what to say and how to say it, tailor-made, just for you. He knows you better than you know yourself. (Psalm 139:1-6) Trust Him! Run after Him! He wants to be caught, and He will reveal amazing things, like a Secret Place. You have just had a peak into mine, and I pray you will find yours.
To God be all the glory!
P. S. I find it quite interesting that Sylvester Stallone (the writer and star of the Rocky movies) began 2014 as a new believer. Indeed, to God be all the glory!