Love Comes From The Spirit

Today, for some odd reason I remembered a conversation which I had with one of my philosophy professors, many years ago. Even after I left the university, he remained a mentor for me. I tormented him with questions (in my opinion, although he never showed any signs of distress) and he always had the patience to talk to me and guide me through troubled times. I will forever be grateful to him for that and I am happy I had the chance to thank him.

The story I remembered was from when he was in Switzerland with his wife. He told me how they were visiting a certain town and at one point he noticed that his wife was no longer with him. After hours of looking, searching and waiting, he still could not find her. So, he told me that he went to the police station to report her missing. He was indeed troubled.

At the police station, the officer who met him stated that he needed to file a “missing persons report”. Questions were asked about her name, age and description of how she looked and what she was wearing at the time that she had gone missing.

He told me that all went good until the part about telling the police officer what she looked like and what she was wearing. I can still see the expression on his face … one of confusion and dismay. He told me that he realized that he did not know all those details. He said that he never cared to actually pay attention to exactly what she was wearing or how she looked.

He said something along the lines that he loved his wife and she was his partner, a part of him. They were united in Spirit, as One and appearances he overlooked. The connection between them two was completely beyond looks. He loved her as a Spirit, a Being.

As a kid in my early twenties I did not really get what he was saying. I saw his honesty and love for his wife simply in his eyes but I could not understand how he could ignore looks … Now, many years have past and I am happy to say that I fully understand what he meant.

I do not indulge in how one looks too much – looks can indeed be deceiving and I have a lot of fun with that myself. Knowing that some people create whole ideas and assumptions just by looking at someone, I often change how I am perceived by changing the way I look or I manifest myself. I play along sometimes and then, I change and change again … sometimes like a chameleon. Perhaps one day, everyone will understand that changing the colour of my skin (as one example) means nothing in relation to who I am or what I am.

And thus with Love, we cannot base it on what appears to be. We have to feel the Love though our Spirit, when it connects with other Spirits. In this way, I can feel love for the standing people (trees), all our animal cousins, the ones who crawl and the ones who fly. In Spirit, I can connect with anyone – anyone who’s Spirit is awakened – and through that connection, Love is understood.

I wish everyone well. May Wakan Tanka guide us all!


Note: My photo, Florida, United States, 2011


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

I cannot add much - it's a beautiful story and it is a beautiful picture - suits the story perfectly well. The overall impression is so romantic, yet, if we are to notice all the details about that plant we will see all the extra details that we tend to omit in our artificial creations in pursuit of perfection and beauty. Yet, nothing can outperform nature in its perfection.

Not noticing what one wears is normal for people who live together for a while. And there is a category of people who are not that keen on details anyway.

I notice details, then I forget. We remember emotions, not what someone said, but how we felt about it. Our interpretations.

To lose one's spouse is probably another sign of inattentiveness, but it does not say that there was not enough love. That is why we have to live together - as a society - as families - to compensate for each other's shortcomings, don't we?


osa agbonlahor 4 years ago

It's absolutely lovely, but I have one question: you changed the color of your skin?


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Ericdierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Bravo, A hub I will read for more than a week. How can it be so simple, to Love, yet so hard?


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings Kallini,

I think You are right and great observation: we may forget details but we remember feelings. And yes, I always find it helpful when we can compensate for each other's shortcomings. Everyone needs help once in a while, in my opinion.

Thank You for the visit. : )


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

I am happy You enjoyed the read as well Mrs. Agbonlahor.

Regarding the changing of the skin colour, I don't have to do much except expose myself to the sun. The change is quite significant and it happens rather quick: from white to a dark brown. So, depending on what colour I am (haha - that sounds funny but it is true), many people think I am either from Europe or Latin America. It was great when I traveled to Cuba and the Dominican Republic. I could blend-in on the streets and lose the "tourist" persona (which can be annoying at times, in my opinion).

Well, I hope that explains the dillema. Nothing too sinister. : )

All the best!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

"How can it be so simple, to Love, yet so hard?" - That's a good question Mr. Dierker! Haha ... I am really not sure. Good question!

Thank You for your kind words, I am happy You enjoyed the read.

All the best!


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Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

This is a beautiful story but I have to tell you if I didn't remember what my husband was wearing I would have lost him every time we went out.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Haha!! That is pretty funny Mrs. Lynnley.

I guess everyone has their own ways of keeping track of their partners.

Thank You for the time to read and leave a comment. Cheers!


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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico

...beautifully put. Love needs no words, either, your love for the "standing people' and other creatures is felt by them and returned by some way which we don't fully understand. In the same way danger can be sensed in ways other than our five senses. Many times I have extended a finger to a spider, fly or wasp and they knew immediately I meant them no harm and allowed me to touch them. I have had butterflies dance all around me in Mexico just be moving my hands like a butterfly's wing fluttering. Our civilisation is a game of blind man's bluff and a terrible sadness.

Go well my gentle friend

Bob


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

The story of the butterflies in Mexico is beautiful, Mr. Diogenes. I honestly do think we can connect with any other being, if we have Love.

Thank You very much for your lovely comment. Cheers! : )


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Daughter Of Maat 4 years ago from Rural Central Florida

Indeed, I totally understand what you're prof was saying. If I had to describe what my husband looked like, I'd be hard-pressed to tell you. Ask me to describe him, on the other hand and you'll get an ear full. I can't even remember what shirt he had on when he left for work this am, although I know he had on tan pants lol... What does that tell you? ;)

Beautifully written and thought provoking as always Mr. Happy.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings Daughter of Maat,

I think it took me a much longer time to understand what my professor was saying because I have not had many partners in my life. I started practicing abstinence and celibacy in my early twenties ...

Glad I finally got it though LOL

Thank You for taking the time to read and leave a comment.

Cheers!


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Daughter Of Maat 4 years ago from Rural Central Florida

I am one of the very lucky few who has found this type of love with only my second partner. I'm ever so greatful for that. I'm quite blessed. :D


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Ericdierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Sometimes I get a peaceful easy feeling. I have much to think about from these wonderful writings and enlightenment.

I really do not care how it turns out, I just love people talkin bout Love.


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forall 4 years ago

You said it all. Great hub! I hope we all learn to love and respect the others' spirits rather than their appearances.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

It does sound like You have been blessed with a great partner, Daughter of Maat. I do get extra happy when I see relationships which are strong and based on Love!

I wish You all the very best! : )


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

"I really do not care how it turns out, I just love people talkin bout Love" - Those are some beautiful words Mr. Dierker - thank You so much for stopping by again.

Have a wonderful week-end!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You for taking the time to read and comment as well, Mrs. Forall. You summarized my entire piece of writing quite well, in my opinion by saying: " I hope we all learn to love and respect the others' spirits rather than their appearances." I do think that if we approach Life in this manner, we can create a more harmonious and joyfull experience for Us All.

Many thanks and all the best! : )


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yoginijoy 4 years ago from Mid-Atlantic, USA

I love this hub about love! It reminds me of a story I heard about a young child who was in a waiting room at the doctor's office when an elderly couple arrived. The woman was almost bald with long, stringy hair and she was in a wheelchair. Yet her husband treated her with so much love, taking care to push the chair carefully and placing her feet just right when he had parked the chair in the corner. Later, when the child is leaving he looks up into his dad's face and says, that lady is loved so much that she is just like the Velveteen Rabbit--all her hair has been loved off!

Voting up, awesome and beautiful!!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

I love the story You shared Yoginijoy! Price-less. Thank You for sharing it and thank You for the visit to my hub. I am happy You enjoyed the read. : )

All the best!


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

White Wolf - A very different and lovely story. It has occasioned an interesting and meaningful array of responses. When we are young we are inclined to focus almost exclusively on appearance. As we grow older, assuming we also mature emotionally, appearance recedes into the background and character and spirit become much more important. Your professor's story illustrates that beautifully.

My favorite response was from yoginijoy who mentioned The Velveteen Rabbit. Someone gave me the book when I was about ten and I fell in love with the story. over the years, I have probably bought 15 copies to give away. I still have a copy on my shelf.

My mother told me about a soft stuffed animal that I nearly loved to death (like the Velveteen Rabbit) when I was about four. Every now and then it would need to be washed and she would hang it out on the clothesline to dry. If I happened to see it out there, I would go stand under the clothesline crying for my "chick-chick."

Mother said it was a tattered and ratty looking animal, but to me it was comfort and love. (We moved a thousand miles when I was three and that probably had something to do with my bonding with chick-chick.

Wonderful photograph and very good Hub. Theresa


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings Mrs. Theresa,

Your comment reminded me about my teddy bear ... I think my sister's kids inherited it. Not sure why because the poor thing was quite shabby looking. Nonetheless, I liked that teddy bear!

I have never seen the Velveteen Rabbit book - I will keep an eye for it the next time I enter a book store.

Wish You a great week ahead!

All the best.


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rmichaelf 4 years ago from North Central West Virginia, where the green grass grows...

What a great hub! And what great comments from such enlightened people! I have nothing to add really, it would be repetitious and seem lackluster for it is all about love and Spirit and that underlying force which connects all of us to each other and makes us One.

I just remembered, a friend, in some conversation not too long ago, asked me what sense I would rather lose, seeing or hearing. Without hesitation I replied "Hearing." When asked why, I couldn't come up with a reason, but after reading your post and its comments I can now. :-) Sight, other than the beauty of this earth's nature and environment, is pretty unused by me... (It's why I probably get lost easy...)

Thanks for a an awsome reminder and read.


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Storytellersrus 4 years ago from Stepping past clutter

Ok, Mr. Happy, I truly love the message of this hub.

But what happened? Did he find her? How? Where?

Do tell!!!

Voted up and awesome.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Good to see You passing-by, Mr. Michael. And I am quite happy that You enjoyed the read! : )

Cheers!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Mrs. Storyteller,

I forgot to mention that the story of my philosophy professor ended on a good note that time. Him and his wife, did find each other later in the evening at the hotel. This was a time before the invasion of cell-phones (lol) so, it did take a little longer to find each other than one would expect nowadays.

Thank You for taking the time to read and comment.

All the best! : )


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skye2day 4 years ago from Rocky Mountains

Mr Happy Bless You. I read a comment of yours and it was simple and kind. I decided to stop in for a read. I am grateful I landed here. This is a lovely story. God devised love between man and wife to be one union. It is so sad today if one is unhappy rather then work it out it is OK to walk out. Truly this couple have a connection from above to share a love so precious. Love your writing. Thanks. Great to meet you. I have joined your rank of fans. Hugs to you Mr Happy.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

I am happy You enjoyed the read, Mrs. Sky2day! Thank You for taking the time to read and comment.

Cheers!


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vrbmft 4 years ago from Yucaipa, California

Wow! I "love" the description and the discussion of "how" we can love beyond the physical appearance. It describes my own experience of love, and I have a difficult time explaining the experience especially now to someone I love so dearly. She thinks I'm just being kind. She is always referring to her fat ass, which is not fat, and speaks unkindly of other parts of her body which I think are just wonderful, but for her not. Of course, I can't say "my love for you is beyond your fat ass" becuz then she says, "so, my ass IS fat!!" And it really and truly is NOT! And around and around we go. So I will suggest she read this.

There are times I experience myself as absolutely handsome and stunning and other times I experience myself as near ugly! Interesting! And it seems to correspond to when I am truly loving myself in the deepest sense of that expression, love myself. There is a song I thought at first was just very very hokey, but I have grown to "love" it. "I Love Myself Just The Way I Am." You can google it on You Tube.

Thanks for sharing so much of yourself not only in the hub, but in your comments as well.

Glad I found you on this wonderful wheel of hubs.

Vern

Namaste


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

I did a search on Youtube for the song and I got many different answers and none really had that exact specific title. If I knew the artists name, that would certainly clarify things.

I am happy to have met You also. You have quite the humor, which can be easily seen in your writing.

Thank You for stopping-by and leaving a comment.

Cheers!


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Spirit Whisperer 4 years ago from Isle of Man

I was touched by the way you expressed your appreciation for your professor and hope you also appreciate how he too must have appreciated you. The story spoke to me on many levels and I appreciate how you have used it to get across your message of love and how we are all connected. There is one thing that I still do not fully understand and that is if he was present for his wife how could he not also remember her physical attributes. If nothing else I am sure he must have paid more attention when he found her again! :)

BTW I could not the video as it says it is blocked on copyright grounds. Thank you for sharing.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You for taking the time to read and comment, Mr. Spirit Whisperer.

Indeed the video was not working, so I took it down. It was not of strict necessity. Thank You for letting me know about it not functioning as it should.

Cheers!


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vrbmft 4 years ago from Yucaipa, California

Hey, Mr. Happy, check out this link to song, "I Love Myself...."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKTa9KzsZqk

Enjoy.

Vern


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Great song, Mr. Vern!

I did enjoy it (and save it on my Youtube list) - thank You for sharing it.

Cheers!


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vrbmft 4 years ago from Yucaipa, California

Glad you enjoyed it. I have a much peppier version by a group that is no longer, and I will have to download it sometime to my computer and send it to you. But I like this version as well.

Vern


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Quirinus 4 years ago from Sitting on the Rug

It’s quite amazing to have landed on your hub, when I’ve had the plan of reading a certain book in the back of my mind for quite some time now: “The Little Prince”, which says “What is essential is invisible to the eye.”

In addition, someone commented about all of us being one. I do believe that in Spirit we are One. When we recognize or perceive the Spirit within ourselves or the other, we feel love.

Thanks for the _Love_ly hub and for spreading the Love around by providing all of us the opportunity to share about Love!


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Ericdierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Just came back to visit and to say hi! I read(ok paraphrase) your hubs to my little son and he likes them. That is pretty cool. Better than some old scary fairytale - happy ones.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings Mr. Quirinus,

Indeed what I have been trying to say in different manners and at different times, is that we are All One. It is the Law of One - the only Law I really pay attention to. This is difficult for many people to understand because the Spirit has moved so far away from itself that it literally forgot about itself and got lost. Many are lost, that is evident just by looking around ... the time is near though; many are awakening. That is encouraging.

Thank You for the visit and for taking the time to comment.

All the best.

May Wakan Tanka walk with You.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Cheers Mr. Eric Dierker!

I first read your comment yesterday and though: "Wow ..." .

I guess this has been a bit of a problem for me for many years: I have no clue on the overall identity of those who are reading what I write. With that in mind, I have had some articles which I had rated as "R" but I have taken them off - I really do not want kids reading certain things I know ... it's a fine line regarding the freedom of information when it comes to kids.

I am happy You were able to paraphrase things because I honestly do not aim my writing for any specific age group. Thus, I can understand if I were putting kids to sleep with what I have to say.

Well, thank You very much!

May Light always shine your path. : )


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HattieMattieMae 4 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

hmm...I love this one too! :)


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Many thanks for stopping by here too, HattieMattieMae.

Cheers!

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