On Deception, Out of Necessity

I have been thinking about the concept of deception for quite a little while now. I chase Truth for the most part and thus, deceptions are always an issue of concern for me. Yet, as the saying goes: “I can accept things not only as True but I can also accept things as Necessary”.

The questions regarding deception (“Why deceive? Is it good or useful?”), arouse when I was watching a documentary about social experiments. I understood that in many cases, in order to perform a social experiment, there may be a need for the subject to be deceived for the experiment to work. Even though I am not fond of the idea of deception, in this case I do think that deception can be and should be used because it is necessary.

Further thinking about whether I myself deceive, I realized that the avatars I use for my social websites which I am a member of, are indeed deceptions. The White Wolf is not who I am. The First Nations flag I attached to my Face-book profile also does not define who I am. These are only some parts which make-up the manifestation of this Being.

With that in mind, even if I post a photograph of the body I inhabit, that would still not describe who I am, or explain what I am. Appearances are indeed deceiving. I try not to indulge into how things look or appear because our perception falls pray to deception in many ways.

If we just rely on our perception and judge too soon, we may indeed be deceiving ourselves. Deceiving oneself is not necessary in my opinion but perhaps deceiving others or otherness may sometimes be needed. Many people deceive. Hunters deceive. Actors deceive. Illusionists deceive. Sorcerers deceive. Parents playing Santa Claus deceive. Perhaps we all deceive, one way or another … Life itself is deceitful, out of necessity.


Note: My photograph, Ontario, Canada, 2006

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cclitgirl 4 years ago from Western NC

Indeed, I always have to admire a person that seeks truth and quests to defy and deter deception. I love the idea of the labyrinth to meditate upon and help me seek Truth. Thanks for sharing. :)


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Ericdierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Very good article. I fully accept that deceipt is sometimes necessitated. For me the battle is always about the ends justifying the means. When, Why and How. I almost always end up questioning: Who died and made me God? All that machination is just so much brain gymnastics, because the bottom line is that sometimes deceipt is necessary, but in every instance I must accept and bear the consequence, good or bad.


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

I think the definition of truth is a deceit as well. Is an opinion true? Or does it depend on perception? Is perception true? Or does it depend on the framework?

I think people who have mastered the Art of Lying (manipulation, social navigation) are always far ahead of those who did not (like me).

And you know this saying "words are given us so that we can conceal our thoughts".

I am, however, trying to minimize the times when I lie or I am aware of my own lies to myself (call it integrity). Somehow I feel that most of the time people lie out of cowardice, not necessity.

But what do I know?


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rmichaelf 4 years ago from North Central West Virginia, where the green grass grows...

For a moment, I thought of the Mark Twain quote, " I would rather be the guy that bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the guy who sold it."

Conscious deceit is one issue (for me) and your essay really addresses and highlights that issue, but what of the notion that deceit lies at the heart of self-perception? Or from the effects of traumatic repressed memories that one may never become aware of?

Are those two examples different than what your taking about?

Good read, thanks,

michael


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Hello Cclitgirl,

I love the imagery of Life's labyrinth, which just came-up in my mind when I read your comment.

Thank You for visiting! : )


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings Mr. ErickDierker,

I think I agree with You about the end justifying the means. It better! (lol)

Brain gymnastics for sure. I have been thinking about this topic for several months now, on and off and even after I finished writing this piece last night, I still was not sure if it would be posted on the web. I do not mind sharing thoughts though and I appreciate discussing them with other people.

Thank You for taking the time to read and comment.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

"I think people who have mastered the Art of Lying (manipulation, social navigation) are always far ahead of those who did not (like me)." - Interesting comment, Kallini. I personally do not categorize "manipulation" as "lying". Manipulation for me, is something closer to adapting. One can adapt to his/her environment but one can also adapt his or her environment to himself/herself, by manipulating it. I am not sure if I made much sense here ... even the manipulating of the environment happens by adapting oneself. I think I am getting into the brain gymnastics Mr. EricDierker was talking about.

I never heard the saying that: "words are given us so that we can conceal our thoughts". I think I like it though! Haha!!

Thank You for your insightful comment. You do know some things! : )

Cheers!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

"what of the notion that deceit lies at the heart of self-perception?" - I think You are indeed right, Mr. Michael. Hence, I wrote that: "Life itself is deceitful". This is a very general statement but it does include the idea that self-perception is itself deceitful.

"Or from the effects of traumatic repressed memories that one may never become aware of?" - I do not know much about this topic and I am inclined to say that there is hardly any relation between traumatic events and forgotten traumatic memories or traumatic repressed memories as You called them. There were times in my life I wished to forget some things but no luck. Haha!!

I do not think the examples You have given are any different because ultimately, I think all deception is directly related to perception.

I am not yet exactly sure why deception was needed from the moment of creation but I am still hunting for knowledge. Answers do come. I have some ideas ...

Thank You for the conversation. I am always grateful for such opportunities through which I can share food for thought with others.

All the best!


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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Mr. Happy, I wanted to support Mr. ErickDierker's comment -

forgetting or suppressing memories is called motivated forgetting. The memories from your own experiences you might refer to might be of a different kind - we tend to have much sharper picture if the event was accompanied by an emotional outburst - fear, anger... joy. It must be very strong and even then we remember more how the event made us feel rather than every detail of it.

But you have to know that our memory is an excellent storage device and rather crappy retrieval device - it gives us back only some info and the rest we reconstruct. It is a creative reconstruction and as any "construction" = "concoction" - it is hardly only truth and nothing but the truth. Everything that is incomplete is not the truth at all.

That is why there is an expression "Lies like an eye witness". Eye witnesses really believe that they saw or heard or whatever, but more often than not - their knowledge is nothing more than creative reconstruction of reality.


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Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

Here at Hp I think it is expected. We have an art we are selling, whatever it is and many times, personalities. Who can it hurt? Many truths I think can come out when we can hide behind a screen. Sometimes it is hatred but many times it is beauty and the good thing is we can choose the actors of our choice.


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

"Lies like an eye witness" - I never heard this saying either, Kallini. I know the one which says: "You lie like a newspaper." I am not talking about You. Haha!!

Memory is tricky indeed. Some of us are better with it than others.

"Everything that is incomplete is not the truth at all" - And I suppose that is why we are here: to complete ourselves. "Life Plays": http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7IQMMj0x34w&feature...

Cheers!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

"Many truths I think can come out when we can hide behind a screen." - Deception may indeed be necessary, Mrs. Jackie! Your comment just made me think of King Lear's Fool. He could say what he wanted to say because he was "the Fool". His costume allowed him to say anything ... sort of like the White Wolf. Haha!!

Much to think about. : )

Thank You for taking the time to read and comment.

All the best!


Daphne Shadows 4 years ago

Deception and Perception go hand in hand in my opinion. How we perceive one another shouldn't be taken solely from a photo, or a quote. Or any one part of us. Unless someone knows you, they don't know you. And only if they know you will that make any sense.

The white wolf is part of you. First Nations' flag is part of you. It is up to everyone that comes across you and your pictures, words, etc, to perceive what they will. Sadly, they'll normally be wrong.

I love that you can own this knowledge and share it. Thanks. :)


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You for your comment, Daphne Shadows.

I especially like the part about how: "The white wolf is part of you. First Nations' flag is part of you. It is up to everyone that comes across you and your pictures, words, etc, to perceive what they will. Sadly, they'll normally be wrong." - Indeed, often times people perceive a few details and then, make-up their minds (on any given topic). As You well said: "they'll normally be wrong" because perception is deceitful in its nature. Everything is constantly changing too, which only makes matter even more complicated.

Thank You for the input and the visit!

All the best.


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Spirit Whisperer 4 years ago from Isle of Man

The Law of Chaos is based on the principle that no two people will perceive anything in this world in exactly the same way. So when you say that you chase truth I am wondering whose truth it is that you chase. Since perception is the best that any of us can do we make judgments about ourselves and others based on the meaning we make up in our own heads. This would imply that all deception is ultimately self deception and I question then why it would ever be of necessity to one who believes in the law of ONE!

Thank you for another thought provoking read and the quality of the comments you received attests to the quality of your hub!


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Mr. Happy 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

A treat of a comment, Mr. Spirit Whisperer.

Truth is only only true from a certain perspective: http://hubpages.com/education/Truth-is-only-true-f...

Thus, I chase truths from different perspectives. That is what I think is really fun too! Doors of perceptions ... love them. : )

"I question then why it would ever be of necessity to one who believes in the law of ONE!" - Because of the Will of the Source to manifest Itself, for Life to take form. Experiences need to be relational.

These are just ideas but that is all there is anyway, like you said: "Since perception is the best that any of us can do we make judgments" ... we perceive, we play, we deceive, we learn, we live. It's experience and everything in experience is fine with me and necessary.

I am not sure if we could see ourselves if we do not step away from ourselves by deceiving ourselves.

Thank You for the visit and the insightful comment, Mr. Spirit Whisperer.

Cheers! : )


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Spirit Whisperer 2 years ago from Isle of Man

Opinion upon which all perception is based is in itself a deception. Well said !


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You Mr. Spirit Whisperer. : )

I owe much to You since, You often provide(d) the platform for me to say what I say, or anything for that matter.

All the very best!


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Spirit Whisperer 2 years ago from Isle of Man

You owe me nothing. It has and continues to be my pleasure to be of any service to such a selfless person as yourself. I am lucky to know you my friend.

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