If Men Wear Dresses, Will Women Become Extinct?

Much of the panic women experience when men start to wear their styles of clothing comes from a fear of being obsolete, unneeded and unprotected. For all of feminism's bluster, most women still choose partners who are capable of protecting them when they are vulnerable. For instance, they want men who won't hide behind them when danger is present. (Guy who once hid behind me when faced with a German Shepherd, I'm looking at you, you pathetic specimen of humanity.)

Was I being sexist just then? I don't think so. Even if one was entirely egalitarian in one's approach to life, it would still be bad form for one partner to try and use the other as a human meat shield.

This may not be politically correct, but I am not overly interested in political correctness. What I am interested in is reality, and I have to admit that even I prefer men who demonstrate 'traditional' male cues of strength and protectiveness. On a visceral level, my mind makes those decisions for me, releasing feel good happy brain drugs when my partner behaves in certain ways.

When understanding how women feel about men who wear women's clothes, we must look at the part of the female mind that is primal. The part that still lives in the trees, grunts approval at alpha males and grooms them for lice. No matter how refined a woman may be, this part of her mind is still active, so active in fact that many women live their lives as utter slaves to it.

A woman looking for a man who will fight off intruders, kill saber tooth tigers and help her care for her young is not going to be overly thrilled by a man who knows more about doing her nails than she does. On a very basic level it can make her feel as if a man is not a good mate and this can lead to loss of attraction towards the man wearing the woman's clothing and then separation or divorce.

Does this mean that men who wear women's clothes are doomed to lives of singlehood? No. There are plenty of married men who wear women's clothing. The brilliant thing about the primitive brain is that it can easily be fooled. It's possible to be mascline whilst wearing so called 'women's' clothes, and it is possible to embrace the masculine and the feminine at different times, thus sating the woman's urge to find a strong and dependable mate.

As I have mentioned before, there are two types of men who wear women's clothing. The first type, who identify as being wholly masculine will have no trouble when it comes to finding mates. A skirt can look as masculine on a guy as a pair of pants if it is worn with the right attitude. Men who wear women's clothing because they feel feminine have a harder row to hoe, as they say in the old country. They may find that they need to 'balance' out their feminine and masculine sides so that their partners do not feel bereft of the testosterone enhanced man they were first attracted to.

I find that the most common complaint that women have when it comes to men wearing women's clothing is that the men doing so become more interested in the clothing than they are in the woman. This is a relationship killer, and it is something that men who wear women's clothing need to be quite careful about.

Will women become extinct if men wear dresses? It is unlikely given the nature of our biology, but the possibility of women feeling as if they are unwanted and undesired if men pay too much attention to feminine attire is an omnipresent threat which can only be fended off with plenty of loving attention and compliments.

Steve Wears A Dress

A book by Hope Alexander for men who wear women's clothing and the women who love them.

This light hearted, non threatening guide to men wearing women's clothing is designed to tickle the fancy of men who wear women's clothing and to provide a resource for the special people in their lives who may not entirely understand the phenomenon.

17 action packed pages along with charming illustrations guaranteed to soften even the most granite of exteriors.

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pauls_boat 7 years ago

hi hope i have spoken to many men who wear womens clothing and their wives/partners and none of them think that they are any less of a man for the clothing they wear.

it takes a real man to go out in a skirt some one who can defend himself from the verbal and some times none verbal abuse.


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Manly Man 7 years ago

As long as there are plenty of manly men women will never become extinct. Where I come from cross dressing men wouldn't dare to appear in public. It's possible that some are wearing bras and silk panties. However, a fast growing number of metrosexuals is of concern to us manly men and feminine women. Metrosexuals exhibit an unmanly concern for their appearance and can be spotted by their dainty, pointy-toed footwear, carefully coiffed hair, and their carefully selected color ensembles. A sure sign is that their socks always match! Metrosexuality is also manifested in trends in food and drink--more veggies and non-alcoholic smoothies and fewer barbecued ribs washed down by shots and beers. Metrosexuals can also be blamed for the growing numbers of women barbers or hair stylists who can be found in what once were proper barber shops, secure bastions of masculinity. This unfortunate tonsorial trend has not only affected men's hair styles and colors but, even worse, it has completely eliminated the barber shop reading material preferred by manly men--Playboy, Penthouse, etc., formerly in abundant supply in proper barber shops.

What's a manly man to do?!

[Hope, any chance of sending me two or three pairs of pink silk panties in a plain brown wrapper?]


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Manly Man 7 years ago

While shoe shopping I noticed the shoe runner (man responsible for finding shoes in the stockroom and bringing them to the salesfloor) had his eyebrows arched. Initially it made me think I needed to set up an appt at the salon but then I started to wonder....has this become the norm?

Are men becoming more into grooming habits normally associated with women?

Do you think that society has made popular the manicured male that is slighly prepubescent?


anonymous 6 years ago

It's not sexist for a woman to be attracted to strong and independent men, as long as men are also attracted to strong and independent women, which they are. However, men have also absorbed cultural ideas that men should be the strong ones, so if a man encounters a woman who comes across as being tougher than he is, he feels insecure about himself, despite also becoming more attracted to her. He then feels like she may be out of his league.


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OpinionDuck 6 years ago

The lack of comments confirms my feelings.


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Ghost Whisper 77 6 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

ummmmmm no man who wears cuter dresses than me...got to pass..thanks! ;)


Seth 6 years ago

Um, did men become extinct when women started wearing pants??


John 6 years ago

The idea of what is male of female attire is not only subject to fashion but also the opinion of the masses, combined with marketing. A stong minded person does not become a stong minded persosn due to the clothing worn, but due to his (her) total being. If men were manly in the Roman era whilst wearing skirts why would such be no longer the case. If heels could be worn by men during the flower power period, why no longer?

A famous strong minded woman: Jeanne D'Arc, in most pictures she is wearing skirts. Isn't the pope wearing a sort of gown most of the time? Is he therefor no longer a man?

When looking at pictures of men wearing skirts etc. there are persons whom you would consider as providing a total female picture, others remain themselfes, it is a queastion of how arte pieces of clothing combined.

Didn't menkins start of with the unisex figleave?

It is all between the ears.


6 years ago

i wish i were born a girl.

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