If Men Wear Dresses, Will Women Become Extinct?
Much of the panic women experience when men start to wear their styles of clothing comes from a fear of being obsolete, unneeded and unprotected. For all of feminism's bluster, most women still choose partners who are capable of protecting them when they are vulnerable. For instance, they want men who won't hide behind them when danger is present. (Guy who once hid behind me when faced with a German Shepherd, I'm looking at you, you pathetic specimen of humanity.)
Was I being sexist just then? I don't think so. Even if one was entirely egalitarian in one's approach to life, it would still be bad form for one partner to try and use the other as a human meat shield.
This may not be politically correct, but I am not overly interested in political correctness. What I am interested in is reality, and I have to admit that even I prefer men who demonstrate 'traditional' male cues of strength and protectiveness. On a visceral level, my mind makes those decisions for me, releasing feel good happy brain drugs when my partner behaves in certain ways.
When understanding how women feel about men who wear women's clothes, we must look at the part of the female mind that is primal. The part that still lives in the trees, grunts approval at alpha males and grooms them for lice. No matter how refined a woman may be, this part of her mind is still active, so active in fact that many women live their lives as utter slaves to it.
A woman looking for a man who will fight off intruders, kill saber tooth tigers and help her care for her young is not going to be overly thrilled by a man who knows more about doing her nails than she does. On a very basic level it can make her feel as if a man is not a good mate and this can lead to loss of attraction towards the man wearing the woman's clothing and then separation or divorce.
Does this mean that men who wear women's clothes are doomed to lives of singlehood? No. There are plenty of married men who wear women's clothing. The brilliant thing about the primitive brain is that it can easily be fooled. It's possible to be mascline whilst wearing so called 'women's' clothes, and it is possible to embrace the masculine and the feminine at different times, thus sating the woman's urge to find a strong and dependable mate.
As I have mentioned before, there are two types of men who wear women's clothing. The first type, who identify as being wholly masculine will have no trouble when it comes to finding mates. A skirt can look as masculine on a guy as a pair of pants if it is worn with the right attitude. Men who wear women's clothing because they feel feminine have a harder row to hoe, as they say in the old country. They may find that they need to 'balance' out their feminine and masculine sides so that their partners do not feel bereft of the testosterone enhanced man they were first attracted to.
I find that the most common complaint that women have when it comes to men wearing women's clothing is that the men doing so become more interested in the clothing than they are in the woman. This is a relationship killer, and it is something that men who wear women's clothing need to be quite careful about.
Will women become extinct if men wear dresses? It is unlikely given the nature of our biology, but the possibility of women feeling as if they are unwanted and undesired if men pay too much attention to feminine attire is an omnipresent threat which can only be fended off with plenty of loving attention and compliments.
A book by Hope Alexander for men who wear women's clothing and the women who love them.
This light hearted, non threatening guide to men wearing women's clothing is designed to tickle the fancy of men who wear women's clothing and to provide a resource for the special people in their lives who may not entirely understand the phenomenon.
17 action packed pages along with charming illustrations guaranteed to soften even the most granite of exteriors.
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