Death of a cat - a haunting farewell.
Any animal lover will know that dread moment. The moment you realise your pet is going to die, the moment you know there will be no reprieve. Despite the common response from people who have never shared their homes with pets that 'it's only an animal' the grief is felt as much as if you were losing a human, sometimes more.
The first signs of illness.
The first sign that there was anything wrong with our red tabby cat, Spotty, was when she snatched a mouthful of food, yowled and ran away from her food bowl to hide. A trip to the vet uncovered bad teeth which we had extracted.
Over the following two years the problems kept returning until one day the vet diagnosed cancer. Spotty was still only about 12 or 13 years old and as I was used to my cats living until they were almost 20 the news was a bitter blow.
Cancer in a cat.
Despite doing all we could there was no recovering from such a death sentence, the cancer was in her lower jaw and was inoperable. The thought of parting with her was devastating to us and we decided to let her enjoy life for as long as she could as long as she was not in pain.
I wanted her to be able to die peacefully in her own home. The trauma of the final visit to the vet's surgery was something I really didn't want to put her through.
With the aid of painkilling medication she continued to seem to enjoy her life ... and even her food for a while but eventually she stopped eating and began to sleep much more. Anyone who doesn't know cats will tell you that cats seem to sleep all the time anyway and it certainly true that they do sleep a lot.
But many cats have made some effort to adapt to the human daily cycle and Spotty did spend a lot of 'awake' time with us, supervising and checking that we were doing things right. It told us a lot when this no longer happened.
Avoiding euthanasia.
At that time I had some weird notion that it was better for an animal to die a 'natural' death rather than be humanely 'put down'. It was all part of some crazy 'New Age' belief system that had got hold of my mind at the time but it seemed to fit whilst she was in no apparent pain. She just slept her time away and I expected her to pass quietly in her sleep but I had severely underestimated her indomitable spirit.
As the weeks passed she began to sleep more and more and I carried her up and down stairs when I went to bed so she could sleep on the floor at my side of the bed and I could check on her. Often waking in the night I would put out my hand to touch her and find her body cold with no discernible heartbeat but, miraculously, the next morning she would still be there groggily looking up at me with loving eyes.
I took to just sitting, nursing her on my lap for long periods and putting her in warm spots of the house, upstairs on the landing usually as it was warmed by heating pipes under the floorboards. She was very weak now and I thought she would not attempt to come downstairs. On sunny days I took her outside to listen to the birds calling. She lay in my arms like a baby looking up at me, blinking with love and purring like mad, apparently pleased to be outside in the sunshine with me.
Leaving to die in peace?
One day when I came back from the shops she was gone and panic set in. I could hardly believe that she had had the strength to go downstairs and climb through the cat flap but asking around my neighbours it seems she had done just that and they had seen her making for the fields. I had heard of cats disappearing off into the countryside to die but selfishly I could not bear for that to happen to Spotty and I knew I had to find her.
I slipped through the five bar gate that lead to the river bank calling for her and after a while I saw a little ginger speck weaving its slow, painful way towards me from a distant hedgerow. Slowly she got nearer until there was only a barbed wire fence between us. She sat down, bedraggled and exhausted, on the other side of it, as if unable to see a way through.
I climbed over and picked her up and she melted into my arms with what seemed to be a sigh of relief. I will never know whether or not she had tried to leave to die in peace or whether she just wanted one last check of her personal domain.
Giving in to convention.
Eventually I knew I would have to have her put to sleep. She still did not seem to be in pain but she was not eating and seemed to be staying alive only because I loved her so much. It felt wrong. So I took her to the vet and held her as she was injected and that felt wrong too.
I carried her poor wasted little body home and buried her in the garden just below the kitchen window and of course, in spite of our grief, we continued with our usual workaday lives.
Spotty says 'thank you' ...
It must have been two or three days after Spotty's death, when I was at work at the natural health centre that I ran with my partners, that I received the message.
Our centre had become very successful since we had first started it and we offered a wide range of therapies as well as working there ourselves. We rented out our rooms to a great many different therapists, one of whom was a no-nonsense, down-to-earth Yorkshire lady called Mavis, who gave Reiki, a hands-on Japanese healing system.
Reiki has a very spiritual element to it and strange things often happen when doing a healing. As a Reiki Master myself I can attest to this. Messages can often appear to be 'channelled' whilst working in the quietness of a Reiki treatment and this often happened to Mavis in particular.
I was sitting in our reception room taking bookings for treatments when she came hurrying up to me after working with a client. She said she had had a 'funny' sort of message that she did not understand whilst giving the treatment and the message appeared to have no meaning for the client with whom she had been working.
In her inner mind she had heard the words "Spotty says 'Thank you'" accompanied by the image of a cat. She did not understand what she was telling me as I had not told anyone about Spotty's death. In fact Mavis did not even know I had had a cat.
Strangely she had not even been told to give the message to me specifically, something just prompted her to mention it when she joined me in reception and despite the bizarre nature of its delivery I instantly understood the message and it meant a lot to me then in the newness of my grief.
Looking back now I cannot remember feeling 'spooked' by what seemed to be a message from the after life and from a cat at that, I simply accepted it for what it felt like, an attempt to comfort me. The message still has the power to comfort even now, whenever I remember the timid, gentle and extraordinarily loving cat called Spotty who once shared my home and my heart.
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Another story of cats in the afterlife ...
Many 'otherworldly' things have happened to me over the years. For another one concerning cats see my post The Spirit World of Cats.
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When I was young, I had a cat named Goldie. I loved that cat more than anything, but while I was away at camp, my grandfather let her out and she was hit by a car. I took her death so hard that my mother told me I could never own a cat again...and I never have... but I have never forgotten my beautiful Goldie. I am so sorry for your loss.
Beautiful message. There are some souls -- four legged included -- that we connect with on such a level that I believe messages from beyond are truly possible. What a remarkable story of love and friendship you have here, and so nicely told. You did the right thing for Spotty.
Your story reminds me fondly of my Speedy. She was a "recovering feral" tortie cat -- always very finicky about how people touched her and when since she had been a wild kitten born in a graveyard. I nursed her and her littermakes through a terrible upper respiratory infection that nearly claimed Speedy's eye, giving her iv fluids and meds and gently force feeding her as a 14 week old kitten. I spent over $1000 on feline opthamologist consults and surgery for her trying to save the eye (it should've just come out). Then when I later came down with optic neuritis, an incredibly painful eye condition associated with MS that made me go blind in one eye for a few weeks, Speedy would crawl up in my bed by my side and comfort me. In my darkest day she would not leave, bless her heart. She ended up having an illness that required me out of utter empathy and love to euthanize her. She is buried under a tree and I can see her from my bedroom window.
Maybe she knows Spotty.
Dear Angie ,
Even though it's a little while ago now, I'm sorry to hear of Spotty's passing. Time has little meaning in these instances.
In my garden I have a rose patch of all the old English scented roses. It is here the cremated ashes of all our cats are buried when they pass on. I like to think that their ashes are absorbed by the rose bushes and become a living being again. As silly as it may sound I can have quite long chats with them all as I tell them all the family news.
Kind regards Peter
Voted up,awesome and beautiful.
I was always hoping that my hamster Toffee would contact me like that after she died, and I even sent her some messages, like "I'm sorry I couldn't save you", and "I hope you're happy now, and at peace" I loved her so much, and I think she died a day or two before I noticed, because rigor mortis had set in when I noticed. Would you mind if I wrote a poem called: "Spotty says thank you"? I would love to, but I don't want to offend anyone.
Sorry for your loss, I love my cat and I am not looking forward to that day. One thing I do know is that when a pet passes they are all on running on the Rainbow Bridge (Rainbow Bridge Poem.) Great Hub. Voted Up!
Tyler
Oh no, this is very sad but then again you know that the cat is now resting in peace. Our first cat "Oreo" was obese that eventually lead to some other complications like kidney problem and so on. Poor cat was always in pain and we could feel it too when he cries as if he's asking us to just let him go.
One day, I came home Oreo was gone and in remembering him, it prompted me to hub about him too. That's actually my latest, if you'd like to see.
Thanks for this hub. It's a good read, sad but great story. Voting up and across except for funny and will definitely share.
P.S. The message from Spotty~"Thank You" made me cry.
It brought tears to my eyes reading this. Your Spotty is the spitting image of my cat Kneste who died many years ago. We had to make the decision to have him put to sleep when his kidneys started failing and he was in obvious distress. So I know exactly how you feel.
Hi Angie- I like you am not known for being emotional, but when I had to take one of my elderly cats to be put to sleep, I cried on the way there, all through the procedure, on the way home and off and on for several days. Reading your lovely but sad essay I cried again.
And yet as much as it wounds us when they leave, we still fall in love with them. Thank you for sharing with us.
Theresa
Hi Angie,
I realize this is a sad story but it really is a great story, great writing. It touched me deeply. Thank you for sharing Spotty with us. I truly believe the special thank you message you received was a beautiful gift! I must now go cuddle with my feline girls Peanut and Punkin! Hugs to you,
Sharyn
I've been through this sad scenario more than once; I always say 'never again', but cats are so irresistible, aren't they? A very moving hub.
Cats can be very loving animals. God Bless You.
I just lost my cat of five years.. I feel so bad beause the night before we argued over a steak.. ( i know that bobby dont like it) but for some strange reason he wanted it. His legs was giving out but i thought maybe it was the eye infection again and old age. So I reorderded his eye drops. Im hurting soo much right now.. When will this stop hurting so much... I cant talk to anybody because they dont get it.. thanks for listening your article touched me and enabled me to understand that pets "get us"
What a stunning (in more ways than one) reply to my comment, Angie.
"The highest praise a Yorkshire farmer gives about a deceased wife is that she 'were a good worker'. Often everyone thinks he is coping with bereavement until he hangs himself in the barn."
It gave me a frisson of emotion, as did your well measured hub. I have thought about it, off and on, since reading it.
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Aw I loved this. I recently lost an old friend and familiar myself. He had been with me for a long time and had shared the births of my children and a few moves to new places. He was my heart and this story was so moving. They are like family and it hurts to lose them, especially when so many happy memories are also attached to them. I also put my kitty in the garden - he loved it there and would sun himself there frequently when we let him out. Thanks for the beautiful and reassuring hub. I have no doubt your kitty sent you a message as I believe our Sam has as well.
What a truly comforting end to a sad story...you know that Spotty lives on, somewhere. :)
Thanks Angie.
It was a he. Everyone loved him.
Angie, I am sitting here with tears pouring down my face. This story was so controlled, but so intimate, and somehow, so reassuring.
But hell, woman, where do you get the idea that "...and coming from Yorkshire I'm not known for my sentimentality."?
Beautiful hub (doesn't seem to be the right word for this outpouring) and marked up and appreciated so much.
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Hi Angie :)
I keep trying to post, but am having computer problems.
Suffice to say, we have been through this, very recently, and it is very sad. Our lovely little cat was only two.
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Angie, great article about Spotty, she sounded like a right little character so you must have had lots of lovely memories once the rawness eased a bit. Nice that you got the message too. Take care.
Angie...Sorry, no words, just thoughts
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