10 Ways to Stop Being the Drama Queen at Work!
Could It Be You?
First you have to ask yourself if you might be a drama queen at work. It's okay to admit it. There's no better time than the present for you to evolve and become the best employee you can be! This is a chance for you to come to terms with the fact that you are a drama queen in the privacy of your own space. If there are characteristics I have missed, I welcome any comments and suggestions. I will definitely consider adding them to this list. In the meantime, a happier work atmosphere starts now!
Let's Get To Work!
- First things first, always remember that when you arrive at work, your problems don't clock in with you. No one should know about your personal life or your problems. The break-room and your desk are not appropriate places to discuss issues that make most of the people you work with uncomfortable. Keep in mind that the more personal things people know about you, the more they will judge your character. Maintain a strict sense of integrity at all times. Eventually you will be glad that you did.
- Don't cry at work. No matter what you have to do, don't allow yourself to cry. If you find that you are crying at work then you have some issues that need to be worked out immediately. Emotions have an IQ of zero. When you are crying, you lose the capacity to think logically, discuss rationally and make a sound argument. Stay calm, maintain control and suck it up! The next time you feel your eyes start to water up, clear your throat as though you are coughing. It's physically impossible for you to cry. It works beautifully.
- When you come to work, you should actually work. It's not Facebook time, HubPages time, texting time or talk to your boyfriend on your cell phone time. Be a productive employee. The surest and fastest way to irritate your fellow employees is to be the least productive member of the team.
- Mind your own business! Don't spend any part of your day worrying about what everyone else isn't getting done in comparison to the mountain of work in your "out-box". Concentrate on your own performance and stay focused. If your supervisor is competent, then you will be aptly rewarded for your diligence and hard work. You should however, keep track of the major milestones in your career; big projects, large deals you've closed, big clients you've brought in. Keep this information together (not at work) so you can have a list of achievements handy when you ask for your next raise.
- Don't be a stamp collector. If you have a problem with someone at work, speak with them privately. Get it off your chest and out in the open regardless of how menial or massive the issue may be. If you allow things to build up over time it may cause unnecessary tension that can effect everyone. When the discussion takes place, don't be confrontational even if you are furious. The first thing you need to do in any conversation is gather facts. Ask questions in a calm, controlled manner. The instant you lose control, the emotions flood and tears or yelling are eminent. Neither of which are appropriate in a work setting. Always maintain control. It's one of your most powerful assets.
- When you are helping a customer, don't over-share. In fact, don't share at all unless you are sharing a VERY brief, happy comment. Keep things professional at all times. Remember that you are representing the company when you interact with customers so be the best representative you can be.
- Do you recall the times when your parents told you that friends and business, money, and management don't mix? They were absolutely correct. You don't go to work to make friends. You go to work to work. When you cross the line between co-worker/boss/friend, you run into a murky gray area that is tricky to maneuver because the boundaries tend to become hazy. The problem is that when these types of relationships begin they seem fun, happy and even ideal. The employee may start to feel that they are entitled to special privileges such as being allowed to arrive 10-15 minutes late since she and the manager partied together last weekend. When the manager reprimands her, as she should, the friendship is damaged or even broken. I've been at many executive board meetings (yes, executive) where women were literally screaming at each other, crying hysterically, cussing and on one particular occasion we had to split two board members because they were literally seconds away from a physical fight. It was absolutely ridiculous behavior for executive board members. All because there was confusion about the bound
- Don't talk behind another person's back. If you constantly talk about people behind their back, everyone will eventually come to know that you are not the type of person to be trusted. Again, people will start avoiding you and won't want to interact with you. Relationships are totally based on reciprocity and trust is typically very high on the need scale. To belittle is to be little.
- Lastly, don't make a habit of running to the boss or owner with covert information about your fellow employees, their lack of dedication to the company and your list of current accolades. It only illustrates that you've been wasting company time spying on your co-workers when you should be working. If someone you know is stealing from the company, that's entirely different and should be reported immediately even if it's the manager you have recently become BFF's with. You don't come to work to make friends, you come to work to work.
Final thought: Just because you may have exhibited one or all of these behaviors doesn't make you a bad person. Be cognizant that you need to be a healthier teammate/co-worker. Think about what you can do for yourself, for the team and for the company. Give the best customer service you can possibly give. Be the best teammate you can be. Keep this list handy and as you start to evolve and change your "work life" highlight each behavior as you go. You can do it! Once you master staying in control you will be able to stand back and watch other people who cannot maintain a logical and calm frame of mind. Having the ability to recognize your previous behaviors is very empowering. It's quite a journey but it's worth it. Good Luck!