ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

5 Easy Ways to Build Your Confidence

Updated on May 2, 2018
InspiringWriter profile image

As a published author and playwrite now based in China Ava blogs across various platforms.

Sure, you can
Sure, you can | Source

You Are Able

We're all born with confidence.

For example, little children don't ask for permission to explore, use their legs, speak, sing or dance, they just do it.

And, they do it confidently, naturally, like they know they'll enjoy it and probably even be good at it.

This is why I think that confidence is already and always within us.

As we get older, life can have a way of subduing it, but that just means we may have to dig a little deeper to bring it back to the surface.


1) Look in the mirror.

Take a real, long, good and proper look.

Let your eyes see who you really are and let your mind remember how you really are which is all of the following;

  • bright
  • intelligent
  • astute
  • responsible
  • witty
  • resourceful
  • tenacious
  • good looking.

As you look in the mirror try any of these words on for size and add more of your own. Keep them positive.

Let the mirror reflect your inner confidence and potential.

2) Phone a friend, ask the audience, fifty-fifty?

Find a friend, preferably one who thinks you're great and ask them to name three positive things about you.

What will they talk about?

  • Your sense of humour?
  • Your caring nature?
  • Your empathy with those less fortunate?
  • Your analytical skills?
  • Your modesty?
  • Your tenacity?
  • Your manners?
  • Your generosity?

Accept whatever they say with good grace, don't deny it, just say thanks and enjoy.

3) Do something different today

Find a way to stretch yourself mentally, physically or emotionally.

It doesn't have to be painful or embarrassing or particularly large or amazing but it should definitely be something that pushes you forward in some way.

Make it an experience that you'll want to talk about and build on.

It doesn't have to be expensive, keep it cheap and cheerful.

It doesn't have to be done somewhere far way, sometimes the best experiences are found close to home.

Keep it simple because that way it'll be easier to begin.

4) Help someone else.

Sometimes the best confidence boost comes from seeing someone else do well and knowing that you've been a part of that.

Who can you assist and how can you help them?

  • Are you a natural organiser?
  • Can you pack a suitcase to fit in everything but the kitchen sink?
  • Can you tease and pull a lock of hair into exquisite elegance?
  • How about spending an hour with an older person and reminiscing about the good old days?
  • Are you a natural with kids?
  • Can you bake a pie for someone who'd really appreciate it?
  • How about passing on your skills in tutoring or playing an instrument to the younger generation.
  • Can you give blood?
  • Could you volunteer at a soup kitchen once a month?

Put someone else first and see how it makes you feel.

5) Act As If

Many successful people have said that they faked it till they made it.

Pretend to be confident and capable and after a while you will be.

Be subtle though, no-one likes a show-off.

Go about your business with a calm, quiet assurance that you can and you will achieve your goals.

See, I told you it was all within. Five easy and do-able ways to build your confidence.

Pick one now and give it a try.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • InspiringWriter profile imageAUTHOR

      Ava Ming 

      4 years ago from Shenzhen, China

      Hi B. Leekley , an interesting thought from TED talks. They have some great some stuff on there. Thanks for stopping by again (-:

    • B. Leekley profile image

      Brian Leekley 

      4 years ago from Bainbridge Island, Washington, USA

      Good suggestions.

      The TED Talk "The Surprising Secret of Speaking with Confidence" advises boosting confidence with diaphragm breathing and by thinking a positive thought on the inbreath.

    • NickSimpson profile image


      7 years ago from Jacksonville, Illinois

      Everybody needs a little confidence boost from time to time. I think that you have a great hub here and I hope that it gets read by many people so it can help as many as possible.


    • InspiringWriter profile imageAUTHOR

      Ava Ming 

      7 years ago from Shenzhen, China

      I totally agree. Thanks for taking the time to comment.

    • Deep Metaphysical profile image

      Deep Biswas 

      7 years ago from India

      Confidence is the decisive factor in every aspect of life. One must confident to pass an interview and also to propose for marriage. Useful hub, thank you INSPIRINGWRITER.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
    ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)