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Hospice Volunteer: My Experience

Updated on October 23, 2018
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Karen Hellier is a freelance writer and eBay entrepreneur. She lives happily in the mountains of North Georgia with her husband and her dog.

Walkers in the May 1, 2011 warm up at the Hike for Hospice in Cabbagetown, Toronto ON Canada
Walkers in the May 1, 2011 warm up at the Hike for Hospice in Cabbagetown, Toronto ON Canada | Source


When I was younger, my grandmother was diagnosed with colon cancer. She lived with it for eight years before ultimately dying of cancer at the age of 72. During those years, I watched my mom take her to the doctor and hospital over and over again. I saw her recuperate from surgery more than once. I was sad that I could not go in and visit her because, in those days, you couldn't visit under a certain age. I saw how tired my mom was going to Massachusetts from our home state of Connecticut to help care for her. I read a lot about death and dying, and found the works of Dr.

I read a lot about death and dying, and found the works of Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Ross. She was one of the first people to pay attention to the needs of the terminally ill, and their desire to die in their homes with family nearby rather than in a hospital. She was instrumental in starting the Hospice movement. Hospice enables terminally ill patients, with under six months to live, to stay in their homes while teams of doctors, nurses, health caregivers, and volunteers come to them in their homes to offer medical, spiritual and emotional care.There are some actual inpatient Hospices, the first being started by Dr. Cicely Saunders in 1967 in London, England, called, "St. Christopher's."

The very first inpatient Hospice in the United States was founded in 1974 in Branford, Connecticut. The majority of Hospice programs allow patients to live in their homes, with staff coming to them. Not only do they provide this for the patients, but are also available to the family members who need a break from the daily care that comes with caring for a terminally ill family member. There are some ways to help as a Hospice volunteer.

4 Ways to Volunteer For Hospice:

1) Home Visitor: going directly into the home of the terminally ill person to care for them directly through a myriad of activities such as reading to them, staying with them while their family members work or go to dinner, or to a movie, etc. just to get an emotional break. I might be cooking easy meals, or sitting with small children. Or just holding someone's hand and watching TV with them as I had done with my grandmother.

2) Bereavement Counselor: The Bereavement counselor was assigned to a family after the family member had died. I was responsible for phone contact or in-person visit at least once a month for the following year. Mail was encouraged in the form of cards. It was to let the people know that someone still cared.

3) Fund Raiser: This would include working on ways to raise money in the community for the program. Every Hospice has different fundraising events and your job could involve anything from getting sponsors for a golf tournament to asking businesses to donate supplies or prizes for a walk-a-thon.

4) Office Help: This is what it seemed...answering phones, typing reports, and labels for envelopes, etc.

In my local area of Connecticut, there are some Hospice programs. When I was ready to volunteer for the Hospice program, I was working full time and decided just to join my local Hospice program that was run out of a local agency, and gave patient care in homes through a staff of doctors, nurses, a minister, and volunteers. I was excited about this because it had been a dream of mine since my grandmother was sick. I made a phone call and met with the volunteer coordinator in the Fall of 1989. I filled out an application, and we spoke for awhile. She interviewed me on what my experiences had been with the dying. I told her about my grandmother and my interest in Hospice. I had taken a course on death and dying in college. She then asked what type of volunteering I had hoped to do. I told her I was interested in volunteering directly with patients, and perhaps doing some fundraising. I had said the magic words: fundraising. This woman gave her heart and soul to the Hospice program as the volunteer coordinator. It was her heart and soul, and you could just tell by talking to her. She became very excited when I mentioned fundraising. She told me she had hoped they could someday find someone to be the chairman of a Hospice Walkathon. I can still remember myself saying those four little words, "I can do that" that I was to live to regret! What followed was a whirlwind of excitement within the agency. Everyone was excited that there was going to be a walkathon to raise funds.

Planning the Hospice Walk-a-thon

Before I knew it, I had a very daunting job laid in my lap. I knew absolutely nothing about organizing a walk-a-thon, but I was to learn very quickly. Fortunately, I had an acquaintance at the time who had just finished organizing a walk-a-thon for another non-profit agency. I called her, and she was very willing to help me. I learned quickly that this was a huge undertaking involving recruiting a volunteer committee, contact with the local police department, planning a route, getting a permit, asking local businesses for donations for prizes, etc. I did all this while working full-time in a demanding job as a social worker with neglected and abused kids. I would come home every night, emotionally drained from my job, and listened to 10 - 15 messages on my answering machine that required return calls. At that time, there were no cell phones, so answering machines had to do the trick.

I must say that my committee was top notch and without them, the walk-a-thon would not have happened. We only had about five months to plan this as they wanted to have it in April. The first step was to set a monetary goal to reach. I chose $10,000 as the goal as that sounded reasonable for the first time out. Then I learned that we had to have a kick-off party, and I would have to speak. This was one of the hardest things for me to do because I didn't like to speak in front of people. But I was very committed to this cause, so I got up in front of 50 people and gave a speech that is a blur to me now, but I do remember my knees shaking. The kick-off was a great idea because it got everyone psyched to make this event a success. I had some great committee members who went out combing the community for any types of donations, from prizes for the walkers to napkins, to hot dogs, soda, chips, to fruit and water to be given out at checkpoints, etc. We were even able to get 100 t-shirts donated with a saying on it for the first 100 walkers to register.

The Day of the Walk-a-thon

The day of the walk-a-thon dawned, and I had hardly slept the night before. I was so excited, but also happy to have the event be a success and get back to my everyday life, which although busy was much calmer than this. I was disappointed that as the chairman of the walk, I was not able to participate in the walk. I was too busy driving around to all the different check stops and checking on the walkers making sure everyone was doing alright. At the end of the day, we had over 200 walkers, everyone was excited and happy, and not only did we raise $10,000, but went $12,000 over, and the first annual Hospice Walk in Southeastern Connecticut raised $22,000! I would like to take the credit for that, but the credit actually goes to the volunteers, and family members of Hospice patients who believe so strongly in the work of Hospice, and how much Hospice helped their dying family members that they went way above and beyond the call of duty to make this walk-a-thon a success.

Although this walk-a-thon was a lot of work to organize and put on, when all was said and done, it was much more successful than I could ever have imagined. I was tired at the end but was grateful I had had the opportunity to be part of raising money for such a wonderful program.

After the walk-a-thon excitement died down, I was asked to be the organizer for the following year as well. I felt as though I had bit off more than I could chew. I gave it a lot of thought but declined the offer because I wanted to concentrate on starting a family and didn't want to be under that much stress if pregnant. ( It's a good thing I decided that because by the date of the second annual Hospice Walk-a-thon, I was 71/2 months pregnant with my son...but I did walk in it.)

My Second Hospice Volunteer Experience: Bereavement Volunteer

Instead of working on fundraising, I decided to try the bereavement end of the volunteer experience. I didn't think I could emotionally handle being around the dying patients while being pregnant because I was so emotional already while pregnant. So, I volunteered with two women whose husbands had recently died. It was a sad experience but one that I am very glad I had. Most of the visits I had with them were spent listening to stories about their husbands and how much they missed them. One thing I learned from that experience is that approximately one month after a family member dies, almost all support falls away. People assume that the spouse that is left behind will be fine now because it's been a month, and they should be able to be okay at that point. What happens throughout the first year after the death is that every month there will be new anniversaries to mourn. There may have been a family reunion in the summer, a vacation that the couple went on in September, a fall event they went on in October, Thanksgiving, the whole Christmas season, etc. And every time the spouse remembers what they were doing with their husband or wife one year ago on that day, or during that week, there is a fresh wash of pain that they have to deal with. It's hard when the support has dropped off. I was happy to be there to help these two lovely women with those memories. And although this was over twenty years ago, I have always remembered what I learned in my Hospice bereavement training and use it when people I know have had loved ones who have died. People seem to appreciate being asked about how they are doing after that first month. And often I find they want to talk about that loved one to keep his/her memory alive!

Since I have had children ( I had twin girls three years after my son) I have not done any volunteer work with Hospice. But my children are almost grown, and it is a personal goal to go back once they are independent. The Hospice program is a wonderful program for the terminally ill and their families, and I highly recommend it to anyone looking for a meaningful volunteer experience.


Update:

My father died of stage 4 lung cancer on June 7th, 2018. After two weeks in the hospital with double pneumonia, his dying wish was to spend his last days at home. We were able to bring him home with help from Hospice and he was so happy to be home he was grinning from ear to ear. The cat curled up with him on his hospital bed that we had set up in the living room, and as he talked sweetly to her, my heart swelled. For the next few days, Hospice was available to us 24/7 and a nurse came to see him daily. The reassurance she gave us as caregivers was priceless.

When I was a Hospice volunteer, I never imagined that I would one day be dealing with the organization on the other end of the spectrum, but I appreciate all of the wonderful work Hospice does even more now.

If you are ever in a situation where you need Hopsice for someone in your family, I highly recommend it without hesitation.




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    • Karen Hellier profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Hellier 

      6 years ago from Georgia

      Sophisticatedcowgirl,

      Wow, that's great that you know most of the Hospice volunteers. I think the biggest heroes at Hospice are the ones in the trenches doing all the person to person work with the dying ( the volunteers, doctors, nurses and clergy). I was on the outskirts of all that, but it takes many parts to make a whole. Thanks for your comment.

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      sophisticatedcowgirl 

      6 years ago

      I have had several friends that have had Hospice in their home for long periods of time. Some take vitals, some clean, read, run errands, and pray with them. In our small community we know most of the hospice volunteers personally and their contribution to the community spurs on others to help others.

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      Sondra Rochelle 

      6 years ago from USA

      "Life is a circle without a beginning and nobody knows where it really ends"

    • Karen Hellier profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Hellier 

      6 years ago from Georgia

      Thanks jpcmc and teaches12345. It was a great experience, and I am glad I did it because of my grandmother who died of cancer when I was 20. Timetraveller2...so sorry about your husband but glad for your current happiness.

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      Sondra Rochelle 

      6 years ago from USA

      Karen: This is some story! I'm glad you wrote it because I have always been curious as to how Hospice works. My former husband died of Cancer when I was only 43, but his illness and death happened so fast that Hospice was not even a thought for me at the time. Sure would have been nice to have it available though...it was not easy. Beautiful hub.

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      JP Carlos 

      6 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

      You have a kind heart. The world needs more people like you.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      6 years ago

      You are a kind person with such a big heart for helping others. Hospice is a blessing to so many families and will continue to be a real support for many to come. I was touched by your stories and how families cope with the death of a loved one. I imagine it is hard to face celebrations and holidays after they are gone. Thanks for sharing. Voted up!

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