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Top tips for a confident body language

Updated on June 12, 2011

Top tips to a more confident you!

We all keep sitting, gesturing and reacting to different situations in different ways. Each of us has what is called body language that often speaks a lot more than words do. It is easy to find out when a person is not at ease, is restless or upset by the facial expressions, gestures they make, the way they sit, stand or communicate. Here is how you can put your best face forward using the right kind of body language.

Observe: We all have certain people we idolize or adore. They seem so confident and full of energy, always sitting, saying and doing the right things. Notice what is it about them that draws you in and learn to include those gestures, postures and mannerisms into your own way of interacting with people.

Be aware, be relaxed: this might sound like a conflicting statement. Being conscious of yourself yet being relaxed. It is not something that is complicated though, if you just pay some attention to it. Know how you look, speak and react to situations. Spend some time in front of a mirror or even just look at your own pictures or videos. Always know how you are looking when you do something and yet do it with a slow grace that will add oodles to your oomph quotient.

Don't cross your arms/ legs: this is the cardinal rule for when you want to appear at ease and make the other person feel more welcome to talk to you. Crossing your arms and legs is a sign of defensiveness.

Lean in just a little bit: When you want to appear attentive or wish to pay heed to someone's conversation some more, draw in to listen and put them at ease. Remember not to invade their personal space while doing this, unless you are out on a date and are moving into a more comfortable/intimate position.

Sit up straight and have eye contact: People are always more comfortable with someone who looks them in the eye and talks. Its a sign of confidence and also a sign that you are paying attention to what they are saying. Not slouching is also a good thing to do, when you want to be paying close attention and wish to exude confidence.

Don't fidget and use your hands confidently: When you keep fidgeting and touching your face or hair every now and then, you are conveying, discomfort and restlessness. Keep your hands on your knees, or place them on the handle of your chair or on the table. Be at ease, this is the first step to effective communication.

Mouth movements: The way you hold your lips and also how your brows look when talking also conveys quite a lot to the viewer. Make sure that you smile to reassure the people you are speaking to. In addition, if you purse your lips, you might be thinking of something, but it may look like you are upset or holding back an angry retort. Speak confidently and make sure your face doesn't convey the wrong signals.

All these tips will help you present a more confident, suave and smart picture to others you meet. Ensure that you cultivate these habits and pay a little attention to how you talk and interact with people.You will be well on your way to becoming a more confident and successful person.


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    • soniafernandez profile image

      soniafernandez 6 years ago from Bangalore

      Hi Dusty Thank you for your comment!

      Loi Renee, I meant that in more of a don't get all defensive and shut yourself out manner, thanks for noting that, it is rather awkward, so Iv worked on that:)

      Courtney, thank you for your interest!!:)

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      Courtney L J 6 years ago

      I completely believe in the idea of mimicking those who you admire. This has affected me in many ways. A very useful hub. Thank you!

    • Loi-Renee profile image

      Loi-Renee 6 years ago from Jamaica

      I don't think its normal or very comforable to sit with your hands o your knees palms up. Besides that I think its really good. Keep it up.

    • Dusty Farrell profile image

      Dusty Farrell 6 years ago

      Very good. Thanks.