What I Would Say To My Ex

What would I say to my ex? When I saw today’s 30 in 30 topic, I almost decided not to write today. What could I write that would be printable? But it made me think. And think.

What I would say to my ex might be unexpected. I was not the happiest person in the world when I left him. But I guess if I was happy I wouldn’t have left him!

I would say “Thank you!”

Thank you for making me a stronger person. I started our marriage shy and quiet and didn’t know what I wanted out of life. Through our marriage I became more outgoing, learned how to give my opinion, went back to school and found my dream job.

I have two beautiful daughters who gave me an awesome grandson and beautiful granddaughter, with another grandbaby on the way soon. Throughout the years, I had many great times with my daughters – long drives through country roads, movies on most weekends and fun out at my mom’s house. I had a great relationship with both of my daughters because of those long drives. Together we learned how to have fun without spending much money. The dollar movies were a lifesaver for us! If you had been a better father, I wouldn’t have had a chance to be that close to my daughters.

I went back to school, while running a day care and working at the library at school and working as a paraprofessional at a couple of different school. All of this gave me the experience I needed to follow through with school to become a teacher – a profession I had wanted all of my life. If you had kept your jobs, we wouldn’t have been on state assistance and I never would have been able to pay for school.

Thank you for treating me the way you did. I learned not to take guff from anyone. I became stronger. It gave me a chance to learn how to deal with difficult people. Sometimes as a teacher of children with special needs I work with parents who don’t want to accept the diagnosis of their child. With you, I learned how not to treat people. I learned to treat people the way I wanted to be treated, and not like a piece of dirt with no feelings.

I want to say thank you for being the way you were. You showed me what I really wanted in a man. You made it possible for me to leave you and to find the wonderful man I am now married to. Because I married him, I gained two more wonderful kids, a son and a daughter. I got to have another wonderful grandson and another wonderful grandbaby on the way.

So, thank you for being you. Without you being the way you were and treating me the way you treated me, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I wouldn’t have the wonderful family I have today. I wouldn’t have my wonderful grandbabies and my wonderful job.

It took a while, but I finally have the life I always wanted. Thanks to you.